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Yes, of course. But the manner in which you do it should not be so emotionally cold, like discarding an old car. Which is how you were describing it. I don't know where you're getting this "crumbs" thing from. It's not really apparent from OPs post. It's like you're assuming OP is some low value loser who is stuck with this girl because he doesn't have other options. Which I don't think is the case at all.

This almost sounds sociopathic. You can't just discard someone you've been with and loved for 4 years like this. Even if it's the right thing to do, you should do your absolute best to consider your partners feelings when breaking up. Not just discard them like an old car

Like dating apps?

Bro wtf lol

At first I did think it was just an innocent but incredibly dumb mistake. But the confidence and conviction he does this with is pretty convincing. It doesn’t look like a “I’m throwing my heart out to the crowd” gesture like I’ve seen people suggest. Even though he says those words, the action itself is not really congruent with them.

The best nightlife I found in that part of the world was in Thailand, Vietnam, and Cambodia. Though Bali is pretty good too. The nightlife is not the best I've ever seen. Like, it's alright, but nothing extraordinary. And not as cheap as you might expect. Generally the best parts of Bali for partying are Canggu, Seminyak and Uluwatu. If you have time, I'd say go to Gili T (a small island nearby) since it's essentially a really fun party island. Anyway, here are some good recommendations for bars and clubs in Bali: Motel Mexicola – A restaurant that turns into a half decent club at like 9ish Old Mans – Cool place, they do a really big beer pong tournament weekly and it's a pretty good party every night X bar – Next door to Old Mans, pretty standard bar/club. Luigis Hot Pizza – Pizza restaurant most days, but on certain weeknight (Monday IIRC) they have a massive party La Favela – Also supposed to be a good club, although I never went Sand Bar – Place in Canggu that's open the latest, so lots of people usually end their night there Finns Beach Club – best place I went to by FAR, but it shuts at 12 or some shit. There's a pretty good techno club next door open much later, but I don't remember the name) Savaya – High class club. Pretty big entry fee and it's expensive to buy drinks, but worth going to once just to experience it

Learn how units of alcohol work, and how many you can handle in a certain time frame. It's a good way to judge how much you've had to drink. A typical drink from a bar has 1 to 2.5 units of alcohol in it. The vodka coke your friend pours you at a house party probably has around 3-4. Most people who drink occasionally start to feel something after around 2-3 units of alcohol. If it's your first time, 1-2 is probably enough to feel pretty tipsy.

Being playfully disagreeable can be attractive. But if you seem like you take yourself too seriously and you're disagreeable, you'll mostly just repel people.

Alcohol, in moderation, can be a useful social tool. I learned 'how' to relax and have fun by getting wasted, and now I can reach that state without alcohol. Living life with a stick up your ass like I did for my teen years isn't much fun. Looking back, the amazing experiences I’ve had while drinking feel worth it, even if they theoretically cost years off my life (though I doubt I've drank enough to actually cause that). Your body can handle it in your early twenties, but problems arise if you keep it up as you get older.

As the saying goes, don't stick your dick in crazy haha

I have a great story about something similar which happened to a lady I met in a hostel in Bangkok. Bit long, but here goes... She was at least mildly schizophrenic, which was a shame. She seemed totally normal at first, and then she kept talking about how she'd dated someone in Hollywood so she 'knew how that world worked'. I didn't pry at first, she was very pretty and it seemed believable. Eventually I got curious enough and asked. And she told me she had dated Brad Pitt. Lol. Then she kept talking about how she had the 'best pussy', and that made 'Angelina and all the other bitches and sluts' jealous. Then she said that something had come between her and Brad and so they had to break up. I thought that was the end of it, but no. Next day she started telling me that Elon Musk was messaging her. He was coming to meet her in Bangkok, but he got detained in the airport and all of his assets were frozen. At this point I thought she must have realised it was a scam, but no. Elon Musk needed $600 to get out of detainment in a New York airport to get on a flight to come and see her. I tried to convince her not to send the money, but low and behold, she did. Then the flight got delayed. Funny that. And she got angry and started telling me about how amazing her pussy was again. And how he was missing out. At this point I assumed she was trying to flirt with me in some weird way because she kept repeating that phrase 'best pussy', and talking about 'wanting to make him jealous tonight'. She just kept ranting on and on and on, she started talking about how the US government were after her because of her Instagram posts exposing conspiracies. How she'd been MK Ultra'd. And then she'd randomly throw in absurd sexual comments every few minutes. I was flying home the next day so I really needed to sleep, but she would not stop talking even if I didn't reply. Eventually I pretended to be asleep, and she just kept talking. For hours. Until like 2am, even though I was literally lying there with my eyes shut saying nothing. Finally, she decided that in order to make Elon Musk jealous, she was going to go out to a rooftop bar in Bangkok and have a great night by herself. She put on a red dress that looks like something you'd expect a movie star to wear on the red carpet. Then she left the room, and on her way out just said "I love you so so much baby" to me, shut the door, and I never saw her again. She's probably the most schizophrenic person I've ever met in real life. But she was also extremely switched on when we talked about spirituality, and she was a nice lady. I feel sorry for her being taken advantage of by these scammers. It shows you just how little morality they have.

You give off slightly needy/clingy vibes. Thinking that someone you've never met, who you've spent less than a month talking to, is your dream girl is kind of silly.

Sure, but ultimately you are still going to need to be the one who approaches first in most cases. I've been approached by girls a handful of times while out, and it's nice when it happens but it's not something worth relying on for most guys.

Lol, these women don't need to come up to you. Guys come up to them. Regarding older women, guys will approach older women less. Plus, as people get older they typically get more self-assured and confident. A combination of these things mean they'll start doing the approaching themselves a bit more.

A gold digger, by definition, is "a person who forms a relationship with another purely to extract money from them." It's clear that a dynamic like that is unhealthy—especially when you're referring to people as 'targets' to manipulate. You don't need an insider's perspective to see that. If anything, when your survival depends on extracting money from random rich guys then you're likely to be more biased than an outsider. And yea, lots of men will pursue women like targets, looking solely for sex. And they'll do almost anything to achieve it. I've met a lot of men like this and they lie and manipulate to get a woman home, finish inside her in 3 minutes, and then buy them an Uber home. These guys are exploitative and scummy too. In one scenario, someone is treated as an ATM; in the other, they're treated like a sex object. These probably aren't behaviours that anyone should be trying to defend or justify.