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Once you're put in the situation it'll become a habit soon enough and shouldn't take up too much of your day if you do a little bit of every day You want to make this stuff a habit in the first place because it all stems from self-love- e.g preparing healthy and nutritious food often to energize yourself and having a clean home to live in all gives you the foundation to carry on with your life purpose or whatever for the rest of the day

Beautiful!! So talented jheeze

I do love the taste of coffee, rarely have it though. Daily 100mg caffeine tablet + 200mg L-theanine tablet is amazing for me as a student, it means getting the benefits of caffeine without the anxiety and I don't feel withdrawal symptoms on days off! I also don't feel the need to have more and never have more than 100mg in one day

In the past when I had severe depression - it wasn't a chemical or phsyiological thing but one based mostly on mindset and negative thought cycles on top of past psychological trauma and Leo's videos on emotional mastery and that kind of thing really helped me. From the little I gather from your post it seems more about the physiological/chemicals driving it than the negative thoughts, but I could be wrong and perhaps there is an underlying mindset you aren't aware of. (Though it sounds like you've maybe tried to work on your mindset which may not be the main issue anyway, and you don't seem to have a very negative victim complex...) I know a guy who had depression for about a year and the main cause was low testosterone and he has now fully recovered and is on TRT, so that's something you could look into it.

Whilst I agree somewhat, also not repressing the anxiety in the moment and truly feeling it will allow it to dissipate -requires some practice. Having extreme chronic anxiety won't just go away from taking action, as it could become a natural response to things that shouldn't even be inducing anxiety in the first place lol Edit: I guess an anxious thought is different to having ongoing anxiety though

This. Doing self help "unconsciously" is not the one

Ayyy I was inspired by that guy and the vid he mentioned too and I've been doing a full on dopamine detox for around 21 days now, it's been sooo beneficial combined with the idea of "mini habits" (this video inspired me for anyone interested) Also for me personally, daydreaming and getting lost in my thoughts randomly during the day (mental masturbation tbh) is something that I've been trying to minimize too by bringing myself back to reality and truly just chilling in the present moment sometimes

@flowboy I am being "judgmental" but I never meant he was trying to deceive his partner. I mean in theory a lot of guys would love to have access to multiple women. Probably due to having an ability to separate sex and feelings much better than women can, who are more likely to catch feelings after each sexual encounter due to the release of oxytocin for e.g. In practicality, guys with this desire/fantasy can still be faithful, as OP probably is. (You probably perceived my reply in a wrong tone, wasn't meant to sound bitter- you seem personally offended). Anyway, agree with your great alternatives for OP- extreme sports like skiing, amazing to trigger the flow response too. In regards to getting flustered, probably a combination of both inner work (if it's an insecurity issue perhaps?) and overall social skills improvement, alongside with your other high stake pursuit should put you in a better position to talk to a hot girl better if it so happened.

LMAO Guessing he'd only be for a HALF open relationship, typical guy who wants to have his cake and eat it too

Maybe just develop skills to become a confident and charming guy regardless of whether it's a pretty girl or an old man, same kinda skills of being under pressure could be formed if you're trying to charm any stranger right? Otherwise, selectively picking on girls- as an "important skill" comes across a bit strange if you really believe your girlfriend is someone you want to build a future with.

This. Thank you!!

Thx Nice! Not sure if this is against the guidelines but a UK actualizers meetup would be good (if allowed)

Love this wholesome post Not only is this is a retreat for us to "pause" the business of society as we know it, it's giving our planet a well-deserved break- lockdowns causing pollution to clear up in cities, water clearing up, animals coming out to roam etc

Beautiful posts! Perhaps you could come with some skits for youtube, maybe even making them based on your life experiences

Nice vids! But it's more prevention than treatment/cure, as is the same case with vaccines and Ik it's so fascinating how complex and intricate the systems in our bodies are

The lyricism/piano/visuals...he had the chance to perform any of his more well-known songs but used it as an opportunity to make a statement- which ofc was bound to face backlash lol

Black mirror! Or some of the older episodes, such as "White Christmas"

The idea was amazing!! If advertised on your YouTube channel, the events would definitely be oversubscribed IMO. Please come England! London/Manchester/Leeds/Birmingham, any of those would be great.

Maybe you need to have your "hoe phase" or just a few experiences to get it out of your system, perhaps to make you even realize fully that all you're getting from being promiscuous is short term gratification which isn't fulfilling you on a deeper level. Stop being greedy and wanting both at the same time unless you would actually consider an "open relationship". Maybe if you're lucky your wife will be open to threesomes in the future to "spice things up" (don't hold onto that idea). On a side note, I'm just curious as I've come across many men with this similar mindset before, would you really cheat on someone you love and is a perfect partner for you in almost all ways (and no major issues in the relationship) for some animalistic lower pleasure sex and NOT feel too guilty/regretful about it? (genuine question)

You could implement daily habits, such as writing down 3 things you're grateful for and reading out loud daily affirmations, such as "I love myself wholly, exactly as I am in this present moment", "I am changing for the better, I am growing", "I am superior to negative thoughts and low actions" or whatever fits for you. Also, meditating every day and practicing mindfulness will help for sure. So sometimes you can respond to negative thoughts/worries with mindfulness, but other times with positive encouraging thoughts about yourself or grattitude for the situation you're in/the world around you. It's just about practicing looking for the good in all situations, and soon it will be more natural and effortless for you to do so.

meditation (helped me get over ADD anyway)

Check out the stronglifts 5x5 programme, it's very effective and simple- it focuses on a few compound exercises for each workout and I've seen decent results from it! I use the app for it too which is a good way to track your workouts and it has videos on how to do each exercise, but you should regularly get someone experienced (gym staff or a friend) to check if you're doing them right just in case. https://stronglifts.com/5x5/

It really isn't, in some places most girls would prefer non white men (even white girls do this) as their preference, depends somewhat on where you live though. Even then, a woman might have a physical "preference" but personality/confidence/connection is superior to that!

Name: M Age: 21 Gender: Female Location: England Occupation: Mechanical engineering student Marital Status: In a relationship Kids: No Hobbies: meditation, nature, philosophy, theology, psychology, biology, physics, creative writing, powerlifting, drawing, painting, makeup, cooking I first got into personal development as a stubborn 15/16 year old who was going through depression and other issues and was searching YouTube for help to become a more positive person and along with many other channels I came across a few of Leo Gura's videos that helped me. A few years later I believe, I came back to watch a few of his videos which compelled me to start meditating, which was one of the best decisions of my life. Things I've overcome: -ADD -social difficulties mostly resulting from the ADD -severe depression and anxiety as a teenager -major procrastination habits -extreme smartphone/social media addiction -impatience and poor relationship with family members -lack of emotional intelligence -lack of confidence and being physically unattractive Things I'm working on now: -doing well at uni (mostly to improve my self-discipline and its intrinsic reward) -improve even more socially -work on some minor emotional issues -express my creativity to form ideas for my future innovations and business plans -stay consistent with foundational daily habits that I will carry for the rest of my life -read a lot more self-help books -delve into the enlightenment and spiritual side of things -improve my fitness and eating habits

ENFJ-T protagonist apparently However, it depicts me to be a lot more social than I tend to be, perhaps because I am better at socializing with people i don't know at all than acquaintances. A lot of the other stuff is accurate but I also have characteristics from the other types too Tbh I'm not treating as it being v reliable but I may use it as a tool to help me develop characteristics from different personalities to be the person I want to be/to achieve my goals.