Gianna

I equate dogma with closed-mindedness. But of course, it is much more than that. Dogma is a rigorous set of guidelines that– to whoever follows them– is deemed indisputable. Something that is dogmatic will not go outside of these predetermined boundaries/principles/guidelines. It does not consider opposing facts or values. It's basically confirmation bias. Obviously, this is extremely limiting– it prevents growth and expansion.

Sometimes people are afraid that if they let themselves be needy their neediness will grow and get out of control. Have you ever let yourself purge out your neediness? Or have you only ever resisted it? Or judged it? If you have only ever resisted your neediness I would suggest you let yourself meet all of your needs. If you need validation, comfort, understanding, attention, whatever it is.. let yourself be given those things by others. You may find that your neediness dissolves afterward.

You are not complaining, you are being honest and vulnerable. This is what the forum is for. I think now is the perfect time to slow down, stop pressuring yourself, and look back on the richest moments of your life– as if you were going to die. What moments make you grateful? What qualities have you witnessed in yourself that you appreciate? Here is a quote from V. Frankl's Man's Search: What reasons has he to envy a young person? For the possibilities that a young person has? The future which is in store for him? "No, thank you," he will think. "Instead of possibilities, I have realities. Not only the reality of work done and of love loved, but of sufferings bravely suffered. These sufferings are even the things of which I am most proud, though these are the things which cannot inspire envy."

I absolutely agree with this. Somatic therapy is a very safe bet.

That would be beautiful.

I'm not sure this would 100% prevent the invasion of Taiwan.

Yes. Comfort it like you would comfort a child. Yes but also.. the way out of shame is through it. So feel the shame just as you feel the anxiety– welcome it, comfort it, feel it entirely.

I just want to say that this forum is the best thing that could have ever happened in this life. I can't get over how incredibly lucky I feel to be a part of this community. I love each and every one of you!!! And Leo, you are so sexy for making this. ILY!

@Leo Gura Holy shit I needed this. Thanks Leo.

Our nature is Nothingness [or infinite potential as @toocrazytobecrazy would like to label it] But how does Nothingness understand itself when it is nothing? By projecting itself as everything reflecting back to itself as itself. Like a mirror. Our nature is Love [or intention as @toocrazytobecrazy would say] How can we love more?

Amazing. So beautiful. Beyond projection is the Truth. Love. Only we cannot recognize it, until we do.

Hehe

This is an assumption.

No, I love it! I love your unconditional open mind.

No. Seeking oneself is seeking Now. Not future. You are assuming that to seek is to seek a future self. For Awareness. For Love. Can you not see that everything is perfect and there is nothing to seek? Just BE. That's it. I get that we are intention and expansion is inevitable. But I am talking about BEING. Nothingness. We are a miracle, there is nothing to change. We ARE change. Stop seeking what you already are.

I see. Yes, we are intention. However, you can say that seeking (from a Buddhist perspective) prevents Being. To be is to simply be; without seeking. But you are saying that Being IS Seeking. And Seeking IS Being. Which I agree with. But again, to be is to simply be.

That's true. You're right. Okay then, absolute nothing. I'm confused on where intentions came in? Please explain if you wish

Hahaha, I'm dead. What happened to no relationship!? We're seeing some contemplation on it now guys. I love it. That's life! This thread is so much fun. I can't wait to follow the rest of your story.

You cannot seek what you already are. Well, you can. But it's like seeking to hold a pink highlighter when you are already holding one. Nothing implies everything. You can say there is no limit to what can be there (i.e. everything, infinity) or you can say there is nothing there. Same thing.

I am nothing so I show myself to you as everything I reflect myself back to you so you can finally see me, feel me, understand me I am you and you are me I will give you whatever you want Just love me, because I love you indefinitely

@toocrazytobecrazy Yes, exactly. Void, Nothingness, it's all the same. God. Maybe I should say, like the Nothingness inside of you then. But even saying nothing isn't really it. Even saying inside of you isn't really it. It's prior to all labeling. There's nothing better to seek. It's all there is.

We hate things we can't understand. Like poems. I used to fucking hate poems. It felt like middle English to me– I hear you, I follow, but what are you saying? What is the need for all of this poetic jargon? Well, I just wrote my first poem because I get it now. I get that some things can't be communicated. But they can be understood. I read once online that, "the truth is like poetry– and most people fucking hate poetry." I laughed. Because I get it. I see it. I feel it. I feel that we hate things we can't understand. But why can't we understand the Truth? Why would someone hate Truth? Maybe it's because they never really understood it. People love the truth in name but what happens when it doesn't serve you? It goes out the window that's what. When the shit hits the fan people fleet towards lies, falsehood, selfishness, and deceit because that's what serves them. It's all in the name of love really. Survival, I mean. Procreation. Love. Happiness. It's funny because you never really care about the Truth until you realize what it is. Then, you'll never stop caring about it. But how can you realize what the Truth is if you don't care enough about it in the first place? If you never face it? By fate I guess. Or just feel a little deeper [or a lot deeper], you'll get it.

Everything is slowly dwindling away and I don't feel anything. The only thing I feel is the feeling of not feeling anything. Where did all of my desires go? Desire is what pushes you through life. What will happen to me without it? Do I even care? I'm imagining an animal in the wild without any desires at all– for food, water, shelter, life. This animal would die. But it would never suffer. It doesn't desire death but it doesn't desire life. It is okay with everything so everything is okay. Maybe this is why I have been thinking about death so much lately. It has somehow made its way onto the same level as everything else– the level of 'okay'. This, that. It's all the same. There truly is nothing better or worse than anything else in life. Not unless you make it that way. Still, while one thing can mean something, everything means nothing. It's kind of magical. So what do you want to do with nothing? Oh wait, I can't find my desires.

My mind is blown.

@ivankiss Wow I love you. If you take away everything you are left with nothing. If you detach from everything, you feel nothing. When I reconnect with my feelings I wonder, are these really my feelings? My desires? Or are they adopted? In the ultimate sense, we are one. So I guess they are all my feelings and all my desires. I guess that is what has been bothering me lately. Thank you for probing me. I wouldn't have realized what is actually bothering me otherwise!