Gianna

Oh so funny! I just re-listened to Leo’s episode on Authority as it popped up as a suggestion (ironically I’ve been needing a lesson on authority, hehe). It was super helpful. I’ll give this one a listen too!

Maybe don't tell her that you are going to do it so she remains open/receptive.

You can say, "You are passionate about living" right as she is orgasming.

Oh wow, you and I created a thread at the exact same time. Maybe check out what I posted and then use the technique to target her suicidal beliefs. It's worth a shot!

hehehe. That's why tiktok/memes are so amazing; they really communicate some of the most vague but common feelings we all go through! Yay! I'm glad that resonates and helps a bit. And yeah, I feel that too (about it looking hateful and blaming). It's hard because our greatest strength (perspective-checking, big-picture thinking) can also be our greatest weakness. What if other people can't even go that far in their mind and they just see you as trying to better yourself and that's it? What if– from their perspective– they can't imagine you being hateful and blaming because they simply don't see you like that, as that. Maybe other's aren't so ill-intentioned as we think. Or, maybe they see us better than we see ourselves. Hopefully these are the case! Idk. I struggle with this as well! So you're not alone!! Hehe. <3

Do you want to know the fastest way to wake yourself up in your next life? Because, you know, some people come into this life with no fucking choice but to wake up to the truth. These are the people who come into a reality where people abuse them and then tell them it's because they love them. How fucking gaslighting is that? It's so confusing and painful that you'll spend your entire life looking for what's true. You'll be neurotic for it. And so you'll look hard enough and deep enough that you'll eventually find it. And what you find slaps you across the face. You don't know whether to laugh or cry. Whether to hate yourself or love yourself. But you do know one thing– the greatest love is pain. The greatest pain is love.

@soos_mite_ah Yeah it reminds me of that one, "heyyy, hey, how ya'll doing?" meme/tiktok. haha. Super freaking awkward and feels shameful. But you're not alone in this experience. I feel like the best way around it is to be completely honest/straightforward and communicate what you're doing so you don't feel like you have to hide from anything. Maybe say something like, "I need to focus on/build myself until I'm strong enough to even be of real help to anyone." Or, "I know I can be doing 10x more if I were to just focus on myself for awhile." Or, "I don't want to hold resentment for not choosing myself and living out the life I have dreamt of for myself." Something like that to where you're not blaming anyone but just having goals for yourself that are coming from a place of love. I try to think about it like this, "Do you really want to put an alcoholic in a bar?" haha. Because that's essentially what we are doing when we are expecting ourself to transcend whatever is in our household while stilling being absorbed in it. Thoughts, feelings, and emotions are extremely toxic when you're surrounded by them. You have to pull yourself out, rehabilitate yourself, and then you can re-introduce yourself back in when you have the clarity and perspective to (1) see the unhealthy dynamics and (2) differentiate yourself from them and hold that separation instead of getting lost in it. Because that way, you can choose, "Do I want to hold on to that pattern/thought/emotion/pain-point, or do I want to let it go?" When you stay in the home and you're surrounded by it almost as if you are drowning in water, it's not really a choice at that point– you're being flooded.

"God's not fucking around. If God wants to imagine itself as a psychopath, he'll be a psychopath full fucking bore. He'll be a psychopath to the death and then after he dies he'll realize, 'oh yeah I was just pretending to be a psychopath.'" Hahahaha.

How can people want from you when you have nothing to give? When you are so depleted your entire body shows it and yet they still show up to drain you. You can be living in a shack with a cardboard sign across the front door that says, "I have nothing to give." And yet, they will stop by wondering what they can get. You see why I say they are stupid? The worst people are the ones that show up with something to give you. Because they think, "If I give, then I can get." You see why I say they are selfish? As if you wanted anything in the first place. As if you had something to give in return. All you want is to be left alone but they can't hear this. That would be absurd. Where would they go with their abuse? You can be so explicit as to put up a sign that says "don't knock," and yet they will knock. You see? People only see what they want to see and only hear their own desires. It doesn't matter how verbal, literal, direct, or aggressive you get. Some people can't understand what they don't want to understand. How can I get you to hear me? I guess the only way to stop an abuser is to find the abuser in yourself. Why else would you be creating this reality? It's tricky because if you believe someone who has abused you, in that exact moment you have abused yourself. Now you're in a reality where people abuse you because you abuse yourself. All because you believe one little thought that says you deserve it. Now it's done. You're in a disgusting cycle created by your own doing. It's way easier to start these things than end them, isn't it? It's not just your mind you have to figure out, it's every cell, organ, emotion, and thought you've ever lived with. So what do you do? I can give them everything I don't have. Maybe I can give them all of my hair that has fallen out. I'll tie it in a little bow and they can wear it around their neck. They can take it with them and feel like I'm always there. Maybe this way they'll stop feeling so alone. I guess that's the second thing we have in common after desperation. I feel alone because they can't hear me and they feel alone because I close the door on them. I'm desperate for them to leave and they're desperate to stay. What a beautiful contrast except it's not a contrast at all. It's just one thought. Repeated, over and over and over again until you finally decide to wake up. What a painful way to go.

The more you learn the less you know.

Nice! This is everything. Thanks for sharing!

Try to hold space for both simultaneously. This will yield non-attachment as you cannot be one or the other when you are both.

hahahha. very creative. i love it.

"We shape our tools, and then our tools shape us" -Marshall McLuhan. The ego is consciousness's tool. Once you transcend the ego, you use it as a tool for conscious creation, for diversity of experience, for expansion. We are the junction of ego and eternity. We can use the ego as a living embodiment of god if we have the bravery and integrity to do so.

Great insight!

Because rehabilitating yourself separate from your family is necessary for you to have an authentic relationship with them. You are Grace. So you have to see the necessity of it in order for it to not inflict pain. If you see the necessity of it, grace will uplift any suffering. Try to see how the damage would actually help them to have the perception to heal it. For example, some parents avoid their own growth by focusing on their children. If the children leave, they are forced to grow. It might be painful, but the very process of it is what will give them perception. Any burden that lives in your mind would only be created by yourself. You choose the art that you wish to paint in your life by choosing your perspective. Big-picture perspective is how you paint the most gorgeous art.

Maybe look into SEO

Not only is it growing in popularity but people look to do this kind of stuff for health, wellness, for fun even. They want to be marketed it. They follow it, they love it, it can be a lifestyle for some people. This is why I say it's not going to be hard to market, it's niche. It's not like you're trying to market shoes or something general and accessible anywhere. It's specific, you have an expertise, you have value, people are going to want it. All you have to do is find the right audience which is simple. I don't believe your business is going to need some highly technical plan/strategy. Of course those things are good but, idk. It does sound like you'll be learning some pretty cool things with this guy. But, there's other things you'll need to spend money on and learn. For instance, is he going to be teaching you web analytics and tracking? Remarketing strategies? Google search? YouTube? Sales Navigator with LinkedIn? For 8 grand I would want to know all of that, even email! Haha. Like allll the stuff for 8K, not just Facebook and funnels. You're going to want an omnichannel approach. If you want to email me the PDF I can check it out for you and let you know what I think. Wait, also. Is he building your course? Or just teaching you how to market it? Because if he's building your course that would be different, obviously.

Sorry I didn't mean to be so aggressive and come off like an asshole but the marketing industry is flooded with scumbags and I don't like the idea of someone taking advantage of your LP. Like you said, Yoga, breathwork, meditation, Qigong. These markets are not difficult to market. And I don't know why you are saying 8K isn't a lot of money, it IS a lot of money. Again, don't assume ROI. But once you learn this stuff you'll see how simple it can be and then you'll understand why 8K is so ridiculous.

Also, be super super careful of assuming ROI. But you got this!! Wishing you the best of luck

No no I wasn't saying Qigong is simple, I was saying marketing it would be simple– it's a very niche market. So I don't believe you need to spend 8 grand on some highly technical plan to get clients for your course. Not at all. Again, I was saying marketing it would be simple and you could get away with half of that price somewhere else. But it sounds like you feel very confident on this online course guru so go for it! You'll definitely learn a lot, but be mindful of the amount of information you are expecting yourself to learn in one month. Is it 8K for one month of consulting? If so, be prepared to buy another month.

@Thought Art Okay, thanks so much for elaborating! Yin yang theory is very intriguing. I think studying it would go a super long way.

Find a way to make yourself deeply curious of others.

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I know it's hard to let go of something that was once so magical. But now you know how to prolong that state of magic. Learn from your experiences and look forward to greater ones. You got this!!! <3 Be proud of your awareness.