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It probably has to do with your attachment style. I think you are a fearful avoidant. Take an attachment quiz and work on your psyche.

You can be motivated intrinsically ; reading and studying because you love it and you are passionate about it. Or you can motivate yourself externally by forcing yourself to get smart. You will probably get a mixed dose of external/internal motivation of you choose the path of erudition. You won’t regret getting smart.

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« How can I know what a word means ? » By reading it’s definition. Use a dictionary and search every word that is unknown to you.

Use the money from that job to fuel your more ethical life purpose. The consumption of alcohol isn’t going on a decline anytime soon. Or you can also decline the job if it bugs you that much. Ultimately the choice is yours.

Just wait until you get a girlfriend.

Why would a girl have phone sex if they're creeped out ?

Does what develop you ? Being famous ? Or playing video games ? Video games streaming (e.g. twitchers) was an example. Jesus. You read this as ''play video games to get laid''. That isn't what I meant. Women don't really care about where your fame comes from but they are highly attracted to it. You could be a rapper, an athlete wtv. It's social proof to them. Instagram works really really well for celebrities or micro-celebrities. If you are well-known within a niche or market and there are women in that space well it's going to attract them to you. Other than that, I don't see social media helping out too much with cold approach. If you are a normal dude, average in terms of looks, fame, lifestyle it won't do much and it will certainly not hook more women. The point i'm trying to get across is, your instagram doesn't matter, just put up a few nice pictures of you and other things and that's it. No need to make a study of it.

I'm thinking about trying meds for concentration, like adderall or something else. I just got back in school and I zone out too frequently during class. My eyes keep looking at the teacher and following them around but I get lost in my thoughts. I would like to have a laser like focus. Otherwise it's hard to truly exploit my cognitive faculties and succeed in the course. I've also had lifelong depression and suicidal ideation but i've always been opposed to being on medication before. I wanted to keep fighting and to stay natural. However, in my current context it seems like pills for concentration would be me a quick momentarily boost during my studies. I wanna hear about your advice or your experience with prescription (good and bad). Will I shoot myself in the foot if I start taking medication for concentration?

IG for males is really about being high status or a celebrity. You'll basically have an easier getting a hot girlfriend by being famous for playing video games than if you were doing rigorous cold approach.

Ask her if she likes coffee and give her a time, date and location for a meetup. Go on the date. Talk to her. Flirt with her and then ask her to come back with you to your place.

Imagine how easy it was to attract peasants to christianity during the dark age if you are willing to believe that black clothes attract negativity based on a youtube video.

This is an interesting observation and it's actually true; the ones that hook the hardest, flake the hardest. In general, when a girl is enthusiastic and tells me i'm handsome i'll expect her to ghost. Most PUA's will wrongfully posit that if a girl gave you her phone number and doesn't respond later it's because your approach was bad and that you haven't stimulated her emotions enough. Actually, it's because of something called Negative Behavior-State Untherering. Source : https://mikemehlman.net/2021/07/03/behavior-state-untethering-bsu/

Having female friends can be a great way to do social circle. The other value they can bring you is friendship lol.

this is partly true but the overwhelming majority of girls will put up some sort of resistance, it's not them playing games it's just something they do

It doesn't really matter as much as you think. As you approach more women you'll become forward and confidence will naturally arise.

My guess is that some girls would find it attractive, some would be indifferent to it and some would be outright disgusted by it. Thing is, no one would be able to give you a distribution in percentages of those 3 groups unless they did a rigorous social study. My speculation is that girls from less developed countries or from religious and conservative communities will especially be averse to your bisexuality and find it unattractive. Anyhow, i’m pretty sure you can still pull hot girls or get girlfriends while being bisexual, especially in this day and age.

Keep going. It sounds like you are well structured and getting ahead on your goals. My advice would be to schedule a day off or half a day off every 6 days to just do nothing. No pressure to advance any of your goal. Let your mind wander during that period, be as unproductive as you can be. Burning comes from always putting pressure on yourself, at all times. So to avoid burning off, turn off the flame.

Most people won't feel like restricting themselves from eating for longer periods of time ''easier''. However, they are health benefits that come with this discipline. Benefits shouldn't always come easy. But hey, do whatever is easy for you

What do you mean.

I'm wondering, would there be a setting in which it's possible for all or almost all humans on the globe to be rich at the same time ?

I've done fasting for 20 hours per day everyday for almost a year and half. At first it might feel hard but it can become really easy if you stick to it. It has tons of positive benefits, both mental (neurogenesis, mental clarity, increased discipline) and physical (weight loss, increased muscle mass, etc). You can read more about those online. Fasting is great if you are already doing things like strength training, healthy eating, reading, meditating, working on a business and so forth. If you are doing fasting you might watch YouTube videos and many of them advice you to drink black coffee during your fasting window : don't. Black coffee will really hurt your gut especially if you don't have any food in you. The only con I would say is that it can be tricky to come back to a normal eating schedule after that. But upon figuring out that you can eat a whatever moment, you might never need to recover your eating schedule.

You could seriously try patches. If quitting cold turkey is the problem then patches will be more appropriate for you. They often come with a kit that's designed to give you a slope in terms of the mg of nicotine you are getting and also a schedule. That way the withdrawals aren't too bad. I tried quitting caffeine cold turkey 5 times so I can't imagine what that will be like for you. Also, order the Allen Carr book, it will help you.

A good mindset to have is that she was going to reject you no matter what. Many times women aren’t in the psychological state to have a romantic relationship or sexual interaction but they’ll happily sit in a bar or go to a cafe with you. Maybe she just retrospectively chose that as a convenient pretext to reject you.

I’m your age and I hit on a girl that’s in her early thirties a few days ago. She told me she did not date people my age. I had taken a few rejections before and was in state so I confidently responded : « tonight you will. » Btw, just shorten your question to : How to own frame. Study that. It doesn’t matter if it’s liking older women, drinking alcohol, having pink nail polish or an interest in legos. Frame is frame.