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I've never heard of him, I don't have any opinion on what he does with his money/don't care.

@mememe Let me put it this way - I got an education at an alternative high school for kids who were going through rough times and this school did not teach history in great detail. So if, for instance, I had said something not understanding the entire history behind it, it would make more sense to me to hear in a polite way how I am wrong, where, why and what I can do to change it - how was what I said taboo? That's the thing, is when we get into taboo topics like this, but where someone is uneducated on the subject like Whoopi was, and even me, I don't know too much about history - then an open discussion and history lesson would be the best way to go about eliciting change in another person. I think we need to look at each of these cases as individual instances. So, for instance, I think Joe Rogan is in the wrong, because the taboo of that word is well known; he must have known that you can't use that word - but for Whoopi, it does seem to me like a genuine mistake. So like, this discussion here, I knew that they had murdered Romani, disabled and mentally ill, but I didn't know about the others, so if I had said something ignorant, I would want to know where and why, for sure, because I would hate having to be on the wrong side of a taboo subject and not know anything about it and then do or say something that hurts other people. And I think most people, sans overt racists, do prefer to know what's going on when it comes to this stuff and don't wish to harm other groups of people. We just have to open up the dialogue for these situations and under a non-emotional, teaching, factual manner for people who are ignorant, but aren't trying to ... fuck shit up for others. But in situations, like Joe's, where he should know better, then I think calling people like that out is fine. There are some things, culturally, that you don't do, like use that word. We are taught this at a young age. For Whoopi, I think of all the times I have been wrong and would have preferred to learn a better way just by being told and instructed on how to get there. It can literally feel like, there is a link missing when I say something that is interpreted as wrong or is just plain out wrong. I would never try to be wrong and know about it and continue with it. All people just need to be educated to the same level, good discussion can open up worlds for people. I've been looking at this thread and a few others here, and on a social level I feel very interested in the viewpoints of different people - if open discussion was possible, both parties could go very deep in understanding. The only thing that holds it back is defensiveness of both parties. I imagine things like this are more like... you would need to read a lot to really get a good understanding of what is going on. It makes me sad my school didn't have more to offer in the way of learning history. I think on this forum in the future people should try to steer conversations like that towards serious dialogue, so that those of us who are interested in understanding more on these topics can ask questions and learn, without there being fights. Because I know I will step on some landmines on my own journey, and I need to know where they are so I don't detonate them, but a few are going to go off, just like with anyone learning anything that's part of the process. If there is insane emotionality, then it shuts down communication.

I don't like that kind of stuff, either - it annoys me a lot, but I have found ways to reframe it. I had a friend who was really slutty and she did the same thing, and she used to be very average as a kid but grew up into a very beautiful girl - and was just way too flirty and what changed my opinion of her was when she told me that her dad had raped her as a kid. She just grew up learning that sexuality was a way to get certain things from abuse. Maybe this girl has learned that is the only way to get through in life is by using her beauty in that way, and it is actually quite sad because beauty not only fades, but she misses out on actual growth. If you are smarter and don't need to do that sort of thing to get good grades then you are already ahead and she is just some random, acting out her own problems. Since you know nothing about her, you can reframe how and why she is doing these things - try viewing it as a cry for attention, something that will inevitably backfire in the long run. Cheaters usually lose. You have to do the work to succeed.

I am kind of ignorant on topics like this... uhm, I saw her talking with Colbert and it seemed like she just didn't understand that the Jews are a race of people, that she wasn't denying anything or trying to cause a problem, just an ignorant mistake. If I had someone following me around trying to ruin me for every ignorant mistake I made, it would drive me nuts, and cause defensiveness and nothing would be learned - that's no way to correct a mistake, there has to be open dialogue about it. I feel that's the best way to remedy situations like this. I've been in the hot seat before and it's kind of confusing; it feels like doing something wrong accidentally in a different culture and not knowing fully "why", and then having to deal with other people's emotionality on top of it - so there isn't even an open dialogue to discuss "why" or "why not". You just kind of get forced a world view - even if it is correct, the person doesn't come to that conclusion on their own through dialogue, but through emotionality. That is what I feel is wrong with how people go about correcting others who are ignorant. You have to be willing to set aside emotionality and discuss it with the person as if they are learning a new language. Teach. You know? We all win that way. It's so obvious she just didn't fully know all the details and wasn't trying to cause harm.

@cle103 Honestly, I would try a song and image that resonates with you, rather than something I posted - it was just an example.

@Thestarguitarist14 What I mean is, it seems like an eclectic group of people - have you ever been on a genuinely racist forum? They're mostly white males, this place literally has people from all walks of life - there is less racism here.

I disagree, I don't see racism too often here. I have only seen it a handful of times. This place has people from all over the world.

Try giving Love to the world through meditation, just send that energy outwards instead of waiting to receive - give all of that Loving energy to your environment - surrender into how it feels - and practice, and then everything will change for the better. When you feel down, it is often that a person has forgotten how to do this. Try listening to a song you love and look at a beautiful image of the earth or something and send that Love outwards - as you practice this it also changed the neural pathways from feeling 'down' to feeling 'up'. Meditate! <3

I don't know, I don't usually have this problem, granted, I get about ten hours of sleep a night. I go to bed super early, like around 8 or 9 and I keep that routine, and my body just sleeps through the whole night until around 6 or 7 in the morning and I feel refreshed. I also use a floor mat and sleep on the floor. Maybe your body is telling you that it needs ten hours instead of 8?

If I could maintain this schedule for the rest of my life, I would be happy and healthy. Maintaining a routine is the hardest thing to do with mental illness, and so this is why the simple life is for me. Just a very scheduled, but also a lot of time free for creative expression, and not too much stimulation. I would take the weekends off, and one every other weekend to use on getting my weed in Seattle. I like to smoke a lot, but also space out maybe four days sober. My goals? None, just to keep writing, reading, drawing and over time learn more about myself. Try to reduce karma and resistance to doing things and fight off entropy as much as I possibly can. I'll make an extra space to do this in my journal here. I don't want some big, grand life, and I don't want to "be" anyone, I just want to live life where I can "Be" as much as possible, doing what feels the most satisfying. Writing. Which I am not great at, but it grows me the most. I don't have to worry about so many things normal people do, and I can just sit and do what I like, and design for myself a day that feels the most in tune with my needs and this is a huge blessing that not many people get. I choose to live the life of a pot-smoking, coffee drinking crazy writer that sometimes draws, who is stage green and lives in a cute little home on a street with an awesome name. I need so little, and have so much and I am so blessed, because I just can't handle the world. It's just too much for me. I am a homebody, for sure. I love that everything I need to survive is right here. I can just write, and introspect, and grow in the way that is best for me. I already feel my mental state improving quite a lot. I don't know what I would do if I did not have this house. It feels like, I can be a turtle and live in my shell forever and be happy, and safe and warm, well fed, comfortable, I have family and pets for company. Now there isn't this nagging, "Oh no girl, you're gunna die out there!" in the back of my mind all the time, that I would do and act in various ways to try and ward off. Eventually just looking at it in the face and finding death itself. I'm a shaman. So, I'm intuitive, right brained, very smart - but I have trouble with follow through. The world was packing on the problems, and I could not handle it. Now, there are no problems. I'm safe, secure... for as long as I live. I felt suicidal because I could not handle the fear every day. Now that fear is gone. This home has saved my life. Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude. I don't deserve it. I can just coast in life. The only thing that is bothersome is that I cannot be as creative, unless there is a fire under me. I am a mediocre creative. Most things I do are mediocre, and I don't care. I'll throw it out like it isn't, only because it's essential that I do, but on its quality, I just don't care - it is life or death in many ways, my soul will die if I can't write the demons out of me. Literally and figuratively. It is my karma just to have normal, peaceful days. I have lost the desire to have a relationship now that my needs are met, I see it as something that takes away from the precious time, I have to do what I enjoy - I don't feel the need or desire to add to some sort of union with a person and this is a very freeing revelation. I simply wish to find more ways that I can Be, so that I can write, explore who I am and die with an inner wisdom of who and what I am all about. It is very "me" centered, but I didn't grow up with this chance - I have it now, to find out who I am in a very real way - I don't want to be hindered in any way, shape or form by having to be responsible for another person. There's a change in the wind and we send our love to you... I get to forever pass as normal. <3 No need to freak out, it's all good...

@Julian gabriel Yes, actually, I have noticed that I am at my most creative when I feel there is no other choice but to learn a new way out of the situation and it happens on the fly, like I just observe it create itself and I would also like for it to have some new moves.

Dude, I totally get it. I live for the inspirational moment, too, when creativity is at it's highest and it feels like the art is just creating itself and all you are is a vessel for some divine process, where you spill your guts out in some way and how it reflects back to you, and what it means and just totally! You're a true artist! That's the process.

@PurpleTree @Breakingthewall Someone with pathological narcissism. I had an ex with one, it took me ten years to figure out that he had this, I thought it was me with the problems, so I've gotten paranoid about it in the past - but have actually forgiven him and let it go and do not worry about "narcs" anymore. A lot of people worry about this type of person, but they are actually not that common at all... They have "two selves" and push you away, so you do not know their "true self" and it becomes abusive, and they never admit fault. Even if their true self is loveable, they have no clue and will abuse you, so you don't see it - it is often a young, abused child, oddly enough. My ex would show this on drugs/"meth" - that his childhood abuse stunted him = and I related to this as a codependent with my own childhood issues. Knowing him jettisoned my learning about myself and actually saved me in the long run, so I can't help but love him dearly for it... but from far, far away, lol. They are "great" for learning lessons. The closer you get to insanity that they give you, that people like that bring, the shear stress of it all - the more you will work on yourself, so you never meet another one again. It becomes a paranoia for a lot of people for quite a while because of this, until they get somewhere safe, or learn strategies to avoid them. Luckily for me, I simply won't have to deal with another person like that again. We can attract them through need, and with all of my needs met, while I work on myself - I don't feel like anyone has to meet needs, or visa-versa, I can just simply be and heal. And during that, I feel as though I see people clearly - and this person does not trigger old wounds from being abused. She does not, not even a little bit remind me of my ex-boyfriend, who was so creepy... so mean... such a covert bully. No one understood why I was with that person, so I write this saying it 'is' just looks on this woman's behalf, that people are triggered by her for some reason she gets this exact response on this forum, I have seen it two times before and it is because of her beauty, I can assure you that is the underlying reason, there is legitimately nothing wrong with this person as a teacher.

@Breakingthewall Okay, let me put it this way - I used to say rude things about her because I was insecure, and then let that go, and can just listen to what she is saying, as a person with a message. I am also the type of person who is very paranoid about narcs, and who generally can get over-triggered sometimes, and literally nothing about her as a person is bothersome at all, and for some reason because she is so pretty she gets 'exactly' this kind of controversy. This has happened with her more than once and it always boils down to looks. So in a way, her looks are hindering what she is trying to tell other people, if they view her in this light. We need more people talking about self love, not less, it is so important in order to grow, to see one's self accurately, so even if she isn't perfect - which we should love this, too - she is teaching things that people need to know. She is not wasting her beauty on shallow things. She's awesome, down to earth, works with the land. She is just a vision of what so many of us want or would like to be - and this is what causes the controversy, much like Teal Swan's beauty. I used to have the same problem with her, too, and then got over it and the message she gave was almost always helpful at the right time. Anna is just a girl people find so attractive, they don't know what to do. But tbh, her message is solid.

@Breakingthewall I didn't write that. I don't get narc vibes at all.

@PurpleTree So if he knows this, then what is annoying about her message, I don't get it.

Are you serious? Self-love creates awakening experiences for SURE. There is so much dysfunction that can happen to a person who doesn't view themselves in positive regard. It creates a huge amount of the problems in this world. Self-love, even "human" self-love, is so essential. I have mobilized myself towards amazing insights by accepting and loving myself as a person. It's key. Much of my neurosis went away through self-love. It is still a work in progress, but the amount of growth that happened through acceptance of the human self was a work of art. A blossoming. A humbling. We need as many people out there as we can get preaching self-love. It is one of the main ways towards awakening. My creativity has come through, I feel free when I can accept myself and when that happens, it allows free association to happen easier, which is how I get to having insights that eventually kill the ego and lead towards an awakening experience. Self-love is not just a small step, it is the whole point. There's nothing annoying about a message like that unless you have a bias somewhere. It will wake people up. Self-love is huge. It's amazing. It's influential. It is divine. It is the path towards loving others for who they are. So much suffering in the world is caused by people hating themselves. I used to hate myself, I would sit in agony, because it felt so wrong to hate myself, but the world trained this in me because I was different. So when I accepted myself, I didn't... fight. Reality. I am smart person. And I am a good person. I am just flawed. But normally so. And this is okay. I am okay. I deserve to be loved, and I should offer Love. Idk dude, it just doesn't mesh well - self-love goes so deep. It is so pivotal. For so many. It makes you treat the world better, yourself, it could be the elixir towards world peace. You can't unify anything without Love towards the human self.

Sure, try it. It is good for directing masculine energy through discipline. Think of it that way, and you can use it spiritually. Are there benefits to joining in your country? My ex said he wished he joined because he had a friend who went in a wimp and came out of the experience as a fully integrated man. He found himself through the forces. Some people get a calling for this sort of life; so don't let other people tell you the calling is wrong. Just be sure you are educated on what it entails, if you have to go to war. How do you feel about that? What are your values? And so forth. Integrity. You can learn this through bootcamp. I was in ROTC in high school and loved it, it was a branch of the airforce. I learned a lot.

I'm a chick, I'm okay with her, nothing really gives me any red flags or anything like that. I feel like I can pick up on that stuff better than guys can and she seems totally fine. She come across as smart, sweet and enjoys what she is talking about. She just happens to be pretty, which could be why she gets more controversy. Don't judge people for how they look, just listen to what they say. You can even put on the captions and read those instead of looking if you want to be sure she is authentic. Then all you get is just the "word" itself - message, without any projection onto the person. I do this a lot with teachers to see who is authentic and who isn't. Really, give it a shot, just listen to her as a person and let go of her being attractive and you might see that you have a bias. And that's okay, too. I get biases sometimes, it happens - or triggers, you know?