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I have been the victim of this behaviour and have also acted this way, but I didn't really know that I was - I would do what you can to leave. If you can't then ignore. When I run into a passive aggressive person, I ignore the behaviour completely and keep it out of my thought bubble as much as possible as well. I might write it out and then never give it another thought again. Passive aggressive people can really be annoying; my mum is kind of; I would avoid as much as possible - ummm - it's like, they can't be direct. I had a dude try that to me at work once, too and I just straight up told the boss that he was spreading lies because I rejected him, and they understood.

I loved all the responses in this thread and learned a lot; you guys are really smart - we have right now a good group of people on actualized. This is a good forum to learn from if you are trying to play catch up in understanding more about the world.. I thought that, too, I think it's better to make little parks on rooftops instead.

@Leo Gura I've had an experience of this before. Cool, this was a helpful comment. Sometimes I question my experiences, I don't want to get into the trap that I often fall in of assumption, among others as well. So I try to keep an open mind. But I definitely remember quite a few times where I have had this happen to me, and I would probably word it in the same way, if I could. Infinity 'is' aware.

I agree. I feel it isn't so much the religion or culture itself, but how the individual interprets it. And some people use it to cause harm. I heard a story once of a Muslim farmer who took in a wounded American soldier because the Quran said something along the lines of treating all men as your brother - something similar to that. He chose to view the religion in his own way and focused on the positives and they stayed friends even after the soldier was deployed, the guy saved his life. From what I understand, you have to read the books as though you are bringing them into awareness/existence itself. As though the Word itself is what makes it so. And that is what gives them power; is the correct interpretation. Because I have some mystical experiences to fall back on, I can, just like the farmer - interpret, as far as I am able to, the Truth in these books and so I get a lot more out of them than someone who has never had an awakening before. I feel as though the people who use it to cause harm, do it because they feel the world would be better if it had a completely unified world view. And that's actually true, but I think that unified world view is actually going to be a hodge podge of the best things, the things we have created as a species that showcases Truth in all sorts of ways. From ancient books, to artwork, writing, music, architecture, ect. Why do you think Islam is more prone to hatred? I have very little experience with the religion other than the people I have met and they have all been nice and peaceful. Same with Christians.

I have the problem of occasional social stupidity. I work on it, though, I'm smart enough to see it.

I don't think you can. You can only speak what's true to you and if it resonates with another person, great, and if not that is also okay, too. It is fun to practice this, though - I love when I can inspire some sort of sense of awareness in another person. I think the best way to do this is to share music. I hear God in music much of the time and would love to share that "aha" sensation with others when listening to a good song.

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@Someone here Yeah, that sounds pretty accurate to me tbh. I don't blame religion, because it is doing its best from the time period it was made to explain Truth - which, if people were able to understand it easily enough, there would be a lot more enlightened people out there. I have been meaning to buy the Quran in English, and got through some of the Bible and the Bible actually helped me when I was going through psychosis, I would open up a new page each day to read and it made so much sense. It is literally a book to ground lost souls in, if used properly. The way I took it is that the imagination creates what is all around us, and people can become unhinged and these books offer a grounding reality that all can agree on to grow from. Humans need stories, our cultures are built off of them. I realized as I was reading the Bible that I was bringing the Word into existence, and so I stopped reading because I was not ready to bring something like that into being. It is happening Now - what these books point towards, and always was happening Now - for whoever reads them and Knows they are bringing the Word into Being, and when you Know this - you tend to take the Word in these books more seriously. It is an individual process, for people to discover these books.

I don't know...? I'm more left-leaning, and I support both Christianity and Islam - I think religion has a lot to offer - I have had awakenings and can see what all religions point towards and have a soft spot for all religions.

Do you feel moved by beauty? I use this technique: I look at something beautiful and just stare at it until I feel at peace, and then I offer gratitude for being able to see such things - there are perfections within nature that, for a glimmer of a second, move beyond the ordinary into the extraordinary and these are the moments you want to look out for, to say, "aha...!" and to appreciate that moment as much as possible. Beauty can allow us to do this. Offer something beautiful in return - in the moment, give up your heart and soul to it. God made this for you, your whole life is for you! Feel into it, into your breath, breathe deep and with a purpose. (Find a song or image that speaks to you more than anything in the world and use that.) Now that you have your Love; collect it, and then send it out towards your fellow man. Directing your life that way creates a positive feedback loop that will spill out into your own life. "Don't think about all those things you fear, just be glad to be here."

@Meta-Man I feel this is correct.

Leave, heal, then forgive.

Something unexplainable, that's in between the pages, that feels good in the soul and on the eyes or in the ears, something that unifies the senses; Truth, illumination, ect.

@OBEler Good idea!

I've experienced bubbles from an NDE. I think there's bubbles.

All female vocals.

I would try a daily schedule that takes care of yourself. Don't worry about self love, just focus on self 'care' - and the rest will take care of itself. I've been doing a daily schedule and feel somewhat more self Love. Add things that take care of your body, mind, emotions/feelings and make you feel happy. Do these things every day, as much as you can - and it is okay to get off schedule when practicing, the important thing is just to do those things. Self Love is about what you do for yourself. It isn't just sitting around feeling love for the ego or even the spiritual self, it is about small actions that tell your body/soul that you Love yourself. Words don't mean much without action. Try for a week creating a self-love schedule for you and practice it - make it light, open, and small steps that will lead to big goals slowly, but surely - and remember to enjoy the process - this is why there are no 'actual' goals in this schedule, it will lead towards goals, but the focus is on love and not that - it's just to create action that moves in a self positive direction - that's how positive manifestation works, too - if you can add a feeling of Will and Faith when doing your routine. This is the key to literal magic as well, as Loving and accepting yourself allows you to access more of yourself, and puts you back in your own power. This sort of loving is also grounding in the body, which is something a person who has trauma needs quite a lot. I find working out has been helping me stay in my body, I am starting with just 30 minutes a day and weekends off to let the muscles rest. Try dancing as well. Dance the way a woman with strength brings a new world into existence - a very present intuitive dance - this is also grounding, and can grow your "Will". This is needed just like Love is. You must shine, but also hold yourself high in the sky and so must be strong.

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No, but it probably would help. General life experience is best, though, and a life you can show others that lets them know that you follow your own advice is good. If I were a customer, I might go to the person with a degree in something related to their work over someone who did not have the degree.

Mary Mueller Shutan is pretty good, I love her books - very helpful.

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I have some notes and a tedtalk on how to change habits in my journal here, maybe this will help? It goes in depth on how to slowly change bad habits to good ones - something I am working on. Try to get back up and try again, it's okay to fail every once in a while as long as you keep trying. Just wipe off the dirt, carry on and keep at it. Tomorrow is a new day!

@Husseinisdoingfine Who watched gore here, this is a peace loving community!

The brain needs to be activated, try working out for 30 mins to an hour every day, and this will help regrow areas of the brain that feel pleasure. You get endorphins from working out, which feel good, it is productive, you'll get a hot bod, and it literally scientifically has been proven to fix areas of the brain damaged by depression and mental illness - exercise is the single best thing you can do if you are feeling depressed and it takes not much time out of the day, you just gotta be willing to do it. I have been working out for only a week, and taking weekends off to rest and I can already feel myself feeling more motivated, happier, and stronger in body and spirit. Try it - light to start with and then increase. I was nearly catatonic on a couch for a few years, and with meds and working out, I can feel those new connections being formed in the brain, and I feel myself having an easier time doing other things, it's like working out gets rid of resistance in a bunch of other areas of life.