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If you're trying to stop judging, good luck. It's baked into all of us to judge and discern. The magic is not being attached to the judgements.

Your story is similar to mine, it played out pretty much the same. She was my wife, and we had more time invested. You've found some approval seeking behavior with other women. That's good, you can recognize and work with that. As for the 'getting over' part, time.

Disorganized/fearful avoidant. Go figure.

@Mz Hyde I picked up this book yesterday after reading this thread. I think it's solid gold. Thanks for the recommendation, even if it wasn't aimed at me ?

I'm not promoting, nor am I condoning getting a prostitute. Seems like it would be a very vicarious position to be in. I do promote the how to get laid series Leo put out. It will definitely get you to where you want to be. IHe isn't going to get to the love, intimacy, bonding parts until he quenches the lust part Maybe I'm just being too logical.

Why are people telling him not to get a prostitute? I believe if the prostitute knew his situation, she'd probably jazz the experience up a bit. My first was a random girl at a party, I never saw her again. I get that it's a low quality move, but if one is beating themselves up over being a virgin... it seems like a good place to start, burn some karma out, and open up resources in the mind. I realize he would be missing out on a huge slice of the pie, but I think he's more concerned about tasting said pie, not experiencing it to the fullest. That is, if it's legal in your little slice of the planet.

I'm in the midst of a relationship rupture. My girlfriend has taken on a masculine, mask if you will, that has made things overly wonky. Until recently she has been a feminine goddess, her energy was strong, pure, and engulfing. Sex was beyond amazing. Our energy has shifted, and now it feels kinda revolting to be around her. I attempted to escalate my own masculine energy, but that has resulted in regular dick measuring contest. She has gone full Bro-ski. Sex has completely ceased, all and anything related to sexual play has also ceased. I feel as though I've become her gay male girlfriend for a platonic tea party. She doesn't seem to have very much interest in flipping this energy, I should 'be thankful with what I've gotten and shut up'. I really don't know how to proceed, besides to walk away. I think I could use some insight, or I'm just venting about her balls dropping out. Thanks for reading!

I feel this got off topic. Thans for all your insite.

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ugh - i‘m out of this convo. @mememe

@SgtPepper we haven't gone out since the pandemic hit. She is petrified of it and I, in good faith, cannot compel anyone to go out in a global pandemic. I'm not so sure she has friends anymore. I have not seen nor heard anything about them in a really long time

@mememe your absolutely right in your points. Clearly I haven't been handling the situation in a positive manner. Do you have any suggestsuggestions? I've really gone out of my way to take some of her home duties. I bring her home her favorite treats, provide tons of backrubs and foot rubs, I let her vent her frustrations (mostly work related). I am by no means perfect, but I feel I have really been super cool. In fact I was 'The best boyfriend ever' a few hours before 'wasn't needed'

@kamwalker about 2 months

@Leo Gura we had that talk. I was informed I was self centered, paranoid, and delusional.

@Harlen Kelly I also feel that peticular writing is on the wall.

@mememe I don't dominate her, outside of the bedroom. She used to be quite the fan of it, when things were good. Probably TMI, but I picked up what was being put down.

@Jacob Morres Thank you for those, and thank you for looking for more for me. She has been rather abrasive as of late. I try not to let it get to me, for the most part.

@soos_mite_ah I don't expect her to be all feminine, all the time. I realize the balance. This latest 'spell' has been going on for a few months now. How long is too long? I tend to come up short in the effective communication department. The last I tried to talk about this, I was lashed at pretty hard for being self centered, delusional, and no longer needed. But thank you, I will take your advice to lean into my feminine a bit more, if I get the opportunity.

@Raze thank you. I will check them out

@something_else yes, Word for word.

@Leo Gura Thank you. She is stressed from her promotion from work. She's overly petrified by Covid and stresses out when she needs to leave the house for any reason. Every new news report brings waves of stress and fear. What can I even do with that?