Miguel1

Why don't you go out to the nightlife to meet girls instead? Sounds like a huge hassle to get a career just to meet girls. And just overall your work and life purpose should not be optimized to get girls... Also, there is the whole wisdom of not shitting you where you eat.

1. Dating coaches can only do so much. Most of the change must come from you. 2. For you to even be open-minded for dating coaches, you would have to do some quite painful acceptances of your own short-comings. It is much easier to keep blaming and complaining to get the cheap dopamine 3. A lot of dating coaches either teach unhealthy stuff and / or are untrustworthy.

This whole thing would require me to dive much deeper into contemplation, which I don't have time for now. But where my first intuition and thoughts are: there are lots of manipulative people out there. They would sneak their way into all sorts of abusive stuff. Also, this whole system rewards the majority of guys who are way too weak and low in character development to deserve something like this. Sex is an exchange of value. It is a matter of survival. We shouldnt go rewarding all these incels, black pillers and red pillers for their behaviour. Finally, frankly I dont think that the majority of girls (especially on the top half in quality) would even be attracted to majority of the guys so this wouldn't even work. Probably would shove into these guys' face even more as to how unwanted they are - which can lead to all sorts of resentment, hatred, rebellions and violence.

I would say that they are more on the introverted, shy, and closed-off side, compared to the rest of the world. But the good thing is that so are the guys here so there is not much competition at all. You need to generally carry the conversation more in the beginning (compared to the rest of the world) but after that, things are much easier due to the fact that there is not much competition. But they are really beautiful girls, white-skinned blondes everywhere. Where are you from and how are the girls there? And welcome to the community!

Sit with the pain, cry it out. Feel it. Then let it move through your body and out of your body. It's good to know that it's just an imbalanced chemical reaction and will eventually balance out if you just allow it and won't make it worse. And give yourself time. It may take weeks, may take months. And once you feel ready, definitely start taking action in going out and meeting new women to remind yourself that there are amazing women out there for you in abundance!

''If only the top 20% of men are attractive to women, what are the 80% doing?'' Making excuses not to develop the skill required of course.

This is not a black or white thing. You can definitely interrupt. But it has to be calibrated and mostly done in a subtle way.

You can definitely have sex with a new person, that is utterly shallow. I've had plenty of those sex and frankly, they bore me to death nowadays. --- Free sex is not a good thing in my opinion in the big picture - at least not in the age we live in. It would be abused way too much by fucked up people.

Lol. Go look at our spirituality subforum. There are levels, layers & facets of awakening. What gets you here won't get you there. Half or more of the members here used to disagree with Leo's current teachings of his highest spirituality. I dont know if it's as bad nowadays. But anyways, don't go lecturing and teaching people when you are socializing with them. Goddamit.

Good! Keep us updated. How did the party go?

Why the hell would anyone even think that attacking someones ego is going to get them friendly responses??

The biggest lie of the ego is using all this crap and rationalizations to not go out there and do the hard work.

Part of becoming good at this is taking care of your base finances first. Don't put the cart before the horse.

Good post overall. Freedom that is responsible - this is the key. There is also freedom that is irresponsible - and this is not good.

No. Intimacy requires a deep connection. You cannot have a deep connection if you don't deepen it. And if you are having sex and orgies with 10s of people at a time, how do you deepen a connection?

The best thing you can do is move to a bigger city. There is no way to learn this if you don't even have people to approach in the first place.

Yes, definitely. That being said, I do channel a lot of my horniness into my life purpose. When I am in phases where I am more lost with my purpose, I tent to be hornier than when I am deeply focused on my purpose. Other than that, I'm definitely more horny when I am in a healthy mindspace vs when I used to be in a much heavier place many years ago.

BE nice. Definitely be nice to women. No one ever talked against that. But make sure it comes from abundance and options, instead of a desperate strategy to get into their pants.

Since you realized that you are God, why do you even need to cling to life? Because it's an enjoyable journey. Enjoy the ride. You say ''I also noticed that the true reason why I start a relationship is my desire to hide from life's challenges in companionship and sex.'' Learning how to be an attractive and charismatic man IS life's challenge as a man. Approaching girls is not just for getting sex. It is mainly to learn how to be a MAN. Be careful of making this a one step deeper / layer of an excuse to face life's challenges.

Terrible idea. If you take this idea to its extreme, it would be like going up to a girl and immediately asking ''do you wanna fuck?'' If you do this to 1000 girls, perhaps 1 will agree, most of them will either look at you fucking weird or straight up tell you to get the fuck off their face.

To clarify, in Finland you can go to a lot of nightclubs at 18. I'm aware that in the USA, you can't at such a young age.

Amazing! Keep going. Trust me, once you hit the 500-1000 range, it will become like eating a piece of cake - especially when you approach an attractive girl that you connect with! Easy and Delicious! At my peak, I was approaching at least 100 girls a week. Went out like 5-7 times + during the day. Didn't have a single worry about my finances back when I was younger lol.

I learned game when I was 17 due to being very jealous in my first relationship. Around the same time I started reading about Osho extensively to the point his teachings were almost the only thing I could talk about to anyone. Broke up at 18, had massive heart break. And I wasn’t fully loved by my mom in my childhood. This combination got me to crave female intimacy more than anything. And so, with the craving + what Osho taught me about courage and no-ego, at 19 I probably had my first 1000 approaches. Big grown up men these days cries about approaching 10 girls.

Fine, but that’s because I have good social skills. Nonetheless, don’t try to get the easy way out and really just approach the girls.

What comment are you referring to? If you are referring to the comments I made to SeaMonster… Are you kidding me? I would go even harder than that to my younger self. Much harder.