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@Cred Yes, that is good. There is a difference between being authentic and just being straight up an ass, who doesn’t consider anyone’s feelings, perspectives and respective journeys and the stages they are at. As the old wisdom goes: meet people where they are at. The nuance is to do this authentically. And finally, that is a very good insight: don’t say things here and in the way you say, if you wouldn’t do it in real life, especially to people you respect.

I dance mostly by myself, and even if I did go to dance classes with others, they would be normies just like anywhere else. There is a reason most people don’t do this work. It is lonely and you will lose touch with most people.

Of course there are other important roles a woman plays in your relationship, like being feminine and bringing playfulness, beauty, love, support and companionship. But I also value meaningful and interesting conversations with my partner and my best friend, and self-improvement is a big topic there. Also on just practical level, I would keep pushing myself to improve and it can be hard to let it slide if your partner just doesn’t care at all. But as @Valach asked for, what are you looking for?

@Cred What I am saying is the mutual conclusion we have of you in our private moderator discussion. We do not encourage arguments / attacks here. And especially not obnoxiousness. We are here to discuss in a civil and respectful way. Our standards here are much higher than in a typical streamers mind / community, when it comes to communication and in the way we treat each other. Please respect this.

@Cred I appreciate the insights you try to bring to the community. It is the way you bring them. In an obnoxious way. Show some humbleness, and we are much more likely to receive you.

That’s such a misalignment in values tho. I’ve had plenty of girlfriends and they always ended due to me out-growing them too much.

You have to seriously reduce the amount of diagnosing you do here on people that you do not know.

I need to find these yoga and spiritual people. Where the hell are they? Also, I said youthful. I’m still kinda young so I rarely find people in their 30s attractive. During my years in game, I got used to girls in their prime in their 20s. Perhaps yoga girls in their early 30s look better.

Interesting. I find his heavy focus on deconstruction Beautiful, and utterly Positive. It’s the reason I follow his work. But yes, some focus on positive construction here and there is nice to have, which he does have. But as Leo has pointed out many times, his work is not for everyone (read: fainted hearts). I’ve been in the community for years and I’ve seen people manage to always find things about his work to complain about.

I laughed too much at this

That’s why I don’t do dating My standards are so high, it’s virtually impossible to meet them in our current times. Attractive, youthful, yet psychologically mature and emotionally attuned? Haha.

Bro isn’t fucking around in this human reproduction game. He became fucking itself.

There’s plenty of people focusing their work around the positive stuff you are talking about, it’s in abundance everywhere. Nobody is really focusing on deconstruction, to the extent Leo is focusing. That’s why he does it.

I appreciate your perspective but I think it is simplistic and reductionist. Leo posts plenty of ”positive” content, he has a series on How To Fall In Love With Life, and at the end of the day, deconstructing falsehood itself is Good, Positive.

I play football (soccer) 3-4 times a week, and dance multiple hours a week. I couldnt agree more. Not only as a way to regulate my emotions and to stay healthty, but man it gives me so much joy.

I don’t know exactly what you were looking for with this thread, but to be honest, it is quite empty man.

@Butters Yes.

@Natasha Tori Maru I appreciate it. Yes, conscious dating is something we definitely need to work on more and properly create for humanity. It is a passionate topic of mine as well. To be honest, most people alive right now are too immature and unconscious to be seriously dating.

Such is the dilemma of us actualizers. Virtually no attractive girl is into self-developmental work, because they have never had to. Especially for us more on the younger side, we rarely find older women more attractive. Which makes it even rarer to find a match, because younger girls way less likely to have done any self-reflection and self-improvement work.

Lets meet up when I one day come there.

@nerdspeak Great, thanks for sharing! Which country you live in? I live in Finland.

I’d argue very low as well for someone truly attractive to have similar values to us here in the community. Especially as they have not had to develop themselves too much, precisely due to their looks. Especially when they are young, and mostly they are young. Also, I have been spoiled with really attractive girls due to years in game, so that makes it extra hard to settle with ”less attractive” girls.

@nerdspeak You make great points. I am getting quite tired of the general approach style as well, and I’m looking to niche down more and more. How do you do that, other than via apps? How would one go about niching down in real life? Clubs are probably mostly out of the question for people like us?

Until one day you go missing

Aka, majority of people