Miguel1

I do recharge when I socialize but the caveat is that the more I mature, the less I need it for recharging. ENFJ’s dominant function is extraverted feeling and second introverted intuition. The more I mature, the more introverted intuition becomes dominant. Getting in touch with that side of me has always felt like ’going back home’. It is the side of me where my depth arises. Otherwise I am just a shallow, charismatic, witty guy. Now to answer your question: I get energy from coming into a room and brightening the whole environment. Probably my looks (but also presence, the way I carry myself) affects a lot how others’ energy changes when I enter their presence, and their shift in energy affects my behaviour, which then further affects their energy and then my behaviour.. so basically me lifting everyone’s mood makes me energized.. Top that with my wittyness, ability to tease and flirt (or not) and it’s a lot of fun. But I do notice that after the initial stage of superficial level socializing (all fun and games), my introverted intuition does come out and then I crave to connect with the person deeper. If it only stays at the superficial level, I quickly lose the recharging. The issue is, most people are not capable of, nor interested in deeper connection. At least in typical places I meet people. Logistics are everything. I’ve come to notice that I am much more in social mood in the beginning of the day when I’m fresh and well rested. During evenings and especially nights, I really crave depth and intimacy.. and feel much more into melancholicness. —— Don’t have time to read through and fix the text now.

Yes, I am ENFJ. 8w3 Ennegram. I’ll answer you and @bazera in my next comment as I cant quote both of you on phone.

This is why I’ve learned to value and try to focus more on finding introverted girls to date. Extroverts are wild monkeys.

Story of my life. Like.. everything here, how do you describe me so well When I hang out with my friends, I literally have to tell them: ”Don’t let me talk or I will go on forever!”

Do you know how to sing? For some reason when I imagine you singing, it sounds a bit like.. a small but fierce dinosaur singing.. Maybe it’s the kangaroos..

Don’t kid yourself, this can go on Infinitely

I commend you for acknowledging that in him, and behaving like a proper leader. The old you would have a bit more trouble with that.

This is the equilevant of me in my personal life viewing weed as more dangerous than heroin, literally, because I know with 100% certainty I will not touch heroin. Weed I will very likely touch at some point. But we all know heroin is way more dangerous than weed, as a chemical.

Gettings leads is the hardest part. If you have no leads, you have no business.

This episode is intense. Have to take multiple breaks to contemplate and soak in.

In your own words: ”to actualize it”. I wonder what is ’mastering something’ then if not to actualized it and to do it really well.

That’s called mastering it.

Man, what a twist of fate. I laughted at this.

Oh boy, here we go! Perfect timing as it’s Sunday 12:30 pm, and its cleaning and cooking day for me.

Most dancing styles and genres actually. It just occured to me that I started developing my own style very early own because I hated to conform to any one style, I just didn’t call it conforming. You will not see my style of dancing anywhere else.

Yeah

We will see what your thoughts are when a 400 lbs with those qualities appears She needs to be attractive enough. But doesnt have to be more. For me, it’s about 8 ish.

@Zenterus You remind me of my younger self. I kept trying to find a perfect 10 to be my girlfriend. It was a nightmare compared to an 8.

@CARDOZZO is speaking pure, hard facts. Tens are totally not worth the trouble and the maintaining. Looks are not everything. Pick an 8, they are WAY more likely to have other things needed for a healthy relationship than a 10.

Here lies our biggest difference. Perhaps, going after these girls is the root reason for your insecurity, causing corruption in you. Or perhaps, your insecurity caused you to go after these girls. Usually they go hand in habd. These girls you are describing are used to being showered with lots of gifts and money. It’s hard to win that game unless you are very rich. Anyway, I’d pick a ”useful 8” with relatively developed character over Instagram girls, anytime of the year. An eight is much more likely to have character way more developed than an Instagram girl.

This one is so freaking beautiful. It’s completely different to all the genres I’ve shared so far. So melancholic, bittersweet. Makes me tear up.

Yes. All that aside, there is definitely value in good ol’ tough love, when done consciously, at the right times.

Yes, I’ve done this all my life. And consciously building an identity in your mind of someone who is going to be successful no matter what. But a lot of it probably comes down also to the fact that I am just naturally ambitious. Genes man.. lets not go there.

Ignorant people talking, don’t listen to nonsense.

Catching up with ya’ll. I relate to this one a lot. Sometimes when people behave very poorly / unconsciously, I find myself lashing out onto them in a tough love kind of way, then after calming down I feel wronged by my own behaviour.