Miguel1

Nobody is justifying to you. Very weird that it even crosses your mind. We are having a Mature conversation. Gosh.

I sense a lot of macho strenght here. Forced strenght can only go so far. True strenght is to admit to yourself your own limits.

For people saying that blocking signals immaturity. Please consider that caring about looking immature or not to your ex, is even more immature.

I just answered the phone part to Leo. Otherwise I am with you. Keep in mind that it has been a while since we broke up, and everything that needs to be said and discussed, has been done. There is no reason to contact each other again.

Framing it as nuking sounds kinda reductive and negative. I want to make it as easy for my subconscious brain to let go as possible. As you don’t want to keep junk food in your cabinet, when trying to stop eating them. Blocking makes it impossible for them to contact you, which would be bad for your subconscious brain. And deleting makes it impossible for you to contact them, especially during low moments.

Our brains work very differently, I am almost the complete opposite to you. I wear my heart on my sleeve, especially when it comes to relationships. When something so intimate and important ends, even if it ends on a mutual agreement and in a healthy and respectful manner, my brain struggles to let go.

@Natasha Tori Maru Thank you Natasha ❤️ I think it was Teal Swan who said that losing a friendship or a relationship is worst that losing them to death, because your brain can understand death, It is much harder for it to understand how someone can be the closest person for you for so many years and the suddenly turn into nothing, even though they are still very much alive.

@bazera Most painful break up by far. Yet it happened in the most loving and healthy way. I have never had a relationship end in such a way, quite the opposite. And it was very healing actually. The break up was a mutual agreement. We both discussed throughouly whether there is future or not. Read my previous comment, all the hard and adult conversations have been had, there are no avoidance left. The only thing left is to strongly and clearly signal for my brain that they are no longer here.

Yes. I have been contemplating whether this is immature and childhish or not. All the adult conversations have been had, so it’s not about running away from them. Proper closure has been had. The only left is that it was the most intimate relationship, by far. And my mind keeps wanting to catch up once in a while. Even the blocking and deleting was discussed openly and lovingly with the ex. It’s a relationship that I invested way too much into emotionally and energically, and so I think I need more harsh measures to signal to my brain that ”they are dead, they are really gone, do not think of them and think about talking to them anymore”. - - - - - @Leo Gura Perhaps more like throwing away all alcohol or cigarette when you want to get over addiction. @Natasha Tori Maru I think I am similar to your friends here. You introverts (and wise ) have it easier. @Joseph Maynor That’s the idea here.

Thanks everyone for the answers. The reason you block, delete and get rid of old stuff is to signal to your brain that it is OVER. Do not even think of getting back, on any level.

This young lady was speaking some real facts. But more importantly, I highly respect her courage to stand up and speak. Most people are too much of a wimp and a sheep to do shit. https://www.instagram.com/reel/DdW02xriMYN/?stkn=ejhmMDB5ZmNpM3d0

Best way to pass shit tests is to just find it funny

It’s also very clear how you are so actively using Todd’s technique of misinterpreting things thrown at you. It’s cute at first but then just becomes a defense mechanism to actually have real conversations and growth. Pretty much every feedback I have given you, you amusingly use the same technique. It gets old real fast. I hope you don’t use the same technique again on this respond, otherwise it just becomes obnoxious.

Now I know why you are so hard into that whole materialist game. All that suppressed anger needs to go somewhere. I used to struggle with the same and to some extent, I still do.

I always find it funny when you ”talk from experience”, when you virtually have no results.

A lot of things you say are good but this is just false, and shows you have no experience picking up girls as a guy. Getting so many in a row is a clear sign that it’s a you problem.

It comes down to finding a relatively conscious partner, as I’ve always said. Very hard tho.

China needs their own people to stand up. But humanity is too fucking unconscious that we will end up killing ourselves.

You don’t need to be the biggest dick in the world otherwise you will just attract the worst insecure and mentally broke girls. But you gotta demonstrate more confidence. What you are doing now is overreacting, like insecure people do when someone calls them weak.

They are not attracted to you. You don’t demonstrate strenght and confidence.

Olaf got his results when he was younger. He used to be really good looking, like Justin Bieber. And for the girls in their youth, that is like maximim attraction. Now olaf lost his hair and aged like 20 years in 5. I don’t know even know how that’s possible.

It’s time for you to focus less on quantity and focus more on quality. At this point, approaching 40 sets and not even getting once to a point of number closing is awful.

@Yimpa Much love Yimpa! Your love and positivity makes me happy 🥰

@Spiral Thank you for the comment and wisdom. I think I figured out the lonely part quite well actually. The way I am fixing it is that I am just deep on my life purpose, which itself is very fulfilling, but involves a lot of people not only in the art spaces, but also in the healing spaces - as my purpose is to combine dance art + dance therapy & healing + inner growth. So even tho most people I interact with are not super conscious, but they are conscious enough! And I get to do such fulfilling work with them, touching people deeply, transforming them, inspiring them. And this is just the start. I am building something that will compound in the decades to come. Such a fulfilling life atm, wow. Even tho it is getting pitch black, cold and wet here. My godness I get emotional thinking of the beauty that I will create for humanity. - - - - - The loneliness from me was due to breaking up a year ago and building friendships with completely wrong people (club people). I let that shit go in the summer and started building a much more aligned social circle, as was recommended here by others. This thread was started a while back and I am in a much more aligned place right now. Thank you everyone.

Can we have an in-depth discussion about this? In my personal life, I have been fluctuating between these two. I grew up being programmed for monogamous. But at my peak PUA and hippie phase, I was all for polyamory as it fit my narrative and goals. Then studying Leo from 2020 onwards, I came to realize that polyamory for many is just spiritual by-passing, as it was for me too. Now at this point, I am back to being for monogamy but there are people like Teal that makes strong arguments for polyamory. I would love me a hard core ”die on this mountain” partner to develop a monogamous relationship with, like how Naftali Moses promotes. Yet my experience with girls + the arguments people like Teal makes, makes me contemplate polyamory again too. But obviously this time from a place of maturity, as teal puts it. What do you guys think? What are you more for? What are the pros and cons? What are some less obvious reason for and against?