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  1. Posted · Edited by Miguel1

    1 hour ago, LordFall said:

    If you know yourself and you're satisfied with the results it gets you then more power to you.

    I would definitely recommend most men to have an active presence on social media. It can help your business and career goals as well. Overall it gives you massive leverage for the time it takes to learn how to use it effectively.

    Yep. The career aspect is also key.

    I mostly create, I don’t consume much. And if I do, it is mostly to get inspiration and to study content creation and the algorithm.

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    30 minutes ago, Valach said:

    I am glad you enjoy that. Have you ever tried ecstatic dance? I am going to my first ever next friday and was curious what your opinion, as a dancer, is.

    It’s lovely! You should do it. Ecstatic dance is a bit boring for someone who has danced for 2 decades but the idea is beautiful:

    Just let go and let music take you over!

    It’s more about healing.

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    9 minutes ago, Valach said:

    Not to be condescending, but at this point of my development, my ideal partner (if I even was seeking one) would probably not be active on social media, so creating IG for that does not really align with my goals and values (but again, I don't have any in the dating rn so who knows what is to come).

    It might be useful for your "normie" PUA, no doubt as longs as you do not sacrifice your authenticity and health for it.

    Fair point.

    But there are def some really high quality girls who check social media once in a while.

    Your standard of never being on social media is too strict I believe, even thought I understand where you’re coming from.

    I also have extremely high standards as of today.

  7. Posted · Edited by Miguel1

    Theater and art shows. And especially musicals!

    I love these so much as they are the biggest passions of mine alongside spirituality and psychological developmental work.

    I spend hundreds of euros each month on these,

    Not only do I get so much enjoyment from them, they work as a self-love practice / alone time (don’t always need to be around people, especially misaligned like club people), I get inspired for my own art, I get to network and connect with like-minded people to work together with — and I get to meet people I align with to date!

    I can’t believe I have not done this more actively earlier.

    A lot of conformity and group-think in this field too though.

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    6 minutes ago, Valach said:

    The advantage of a phone number is that you can call the woman. That will give her way more emotional experience and connection than seeing your stories and whatnot. Especially great if you are looking for long-term so you can screen.

    Not true. You can also call on IG, also video.

    + if you properly build your IG, it will be a ton of social proof and emotional stuff for the girl(s).

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    This one is very interestingly abstract. It is an English track so everyone can understand (just a few words in the music), but the melody!

    Someone commented that ”it is a slow start but once it goes, it goes hard!”

    Another one commented: ”Reminds me of my own on-off relationship. Getting closer, going away, desperation, love..”

    In the caption, my dance partner said that the closest thing this makes him feel is abstract love. ”it is so emotionless, yet the only word that makes this feeling feel right is love”

    https://www.instagram.com/reel/DdgV09WsIyl/?stkn=bjFpbmsxaW4xbGxr

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    56 minutes ago, LordFall said:

    I definitely don't delete pictures but blocking for months afterwards to recenter myself is usually my move. I'm glad I still have the pictures and memories from my ex of 5 years ago. We shared a special time and although it's not productive for us to be in contact life with her is still some of the best memories I've had in life so far. 

    Yes, I agree with this.

    Perhaps a few pictures of special moments, but definitely not a whole album.

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    22 minutes ago, Monster Energy said:

    If there’s no reason to stay in contact, I’d block and delete. Not out of spite, just because keeping the door open makes moving on harder. Out of sight, out of mind. Keep a few pictures if they mean something, but I wouldn’t keep an entire archive of someone I’m trying to move on from.

     

    Yes it works as a clarification tool. You clarify for your subconscious that they are no longer.

    This is not necessary for many relationships, but for some it is. The more intimate and the harder it is to let go, the more likely you need to use such tools.

  20. Posted · Edited by Miguel1

    I know these techniques are not really shared for me, who has exhausted game out of their system extensively, but honestly at this point all these techniques exhaust me (the more powerful it is, the more exhausting).

    What type of people do you really attract with these techniques?

    What do you do once you’ve ”gotten” them? Will you keep abusing techniques forever?

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    10 minutes ago, Valach said:

    @Miguel1 I also struggle with getting over breakups and letting people go. But that is because I have abandonment trauma so breakup triggers all the old wounds.

    Personally I do delete stuff common photos and remove/block their socials so I do not see them and get reminded of them. The nervous system needs to get used to not seeing the person anymore. Blocking the phone number does not do much for me as there is no photo there so the brain does not get triggered by seeing the number. 

    I just answered the phone part to Leo.

    Otherwise I am with you.

    Keep in mind that it has been a while since we broke up, and everything that needs to be said and discussed, has been done. There is no reason to contact each other again.

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    23 minutes ago, Leo Gura said:

    My brain also struggles to let go. That's why I don't block. But I don't need to nuke people from my phone to get over them.

    Framing it as nuking sounds kinda reductive and negative.

    I want to make it as easy for my subconscious brain to let go as possible. As you don’t want to keep junk food in your cabinet, when trying to stop eating them.

    Blocking makes it impossible for them to contact you, which would be bad for your subconscious brain. And deleting makes it impossible for you to contact them, especially during low moments.