Miguel1

It is true that most people are stuck in survival and doesn’t have the capacity and / or interest to actualize themselves and explore consciousness deeply. Most people are too immature to even have a basic thing like a healthy relationship. To truly have a sustainable, compatible relationship based on honesty, authenticity and truth, is very rare.

@Joseph Maynor @Inliytened1 it makes sense. I was with this partner for 5 years. It was the most intimate and intense relationship I’ve had, by far.

The funny thing is my personality type is ENFJ, which is the biggest social chameleon there is. My ennegram is 8w3 tho, and from there I get the cut through bullshit side.

The suffering for me has also neutralized a lot compared to 10 months ago when I broke up. But I would have thought it would have passed by now as I am quite happy single. It must be still here for the reasons I mentioned above. I was able to express myself much better in my relationship because she accepted me and didn’t judge me, and we had a special bond. Now I have to play the social games way more, but I hate that too and need to really stop it. But then there is not much intimacy at all in my life anymore, however shallow. There is clearly an internal, existential conflict within me.

Yeah, it’s a chemical inbalance in our brain. Need to process it and give it time for our brain to find balance and harmony again. Also why PUA is toxic in this regard. Pick up would say for you to numb it and go fuck 10 hotter girls to move on.

@Inliytened1 It started for me from break up too. But it’s been 10 months and I feel like I have moved on from it quite well. Maybe like now, it has shifted from break up + lack of human intimacy to purely but strongly lack of human intimacy. I have struggled with being a wage slave and not being able to fully express myself freely forever so I don’t think that’s the reason. If anything, at least I had quite a deep intimacy on physical, emotional, psychological and intellectual with my ex partner, but now I don’t even have that. And finally, I feel like on one hand I am so done with repressing my true self and just want to fully express myself via my art and making a proper career for myself - but at the same time I am aware that it will make it even Harder for me to get the intimacy I crave, as it is too threatening for normies. The caveat is that I am much more likely to find the person I truly aligned with and can have authentic intimacy with, it I fully express myself publicly. I will lose 99% of people in my life, but I will open the doors for the right people to enter my life. - - - - - Overall, I think for me it comes down to lack of proper intimacy (I don’t count random sex with random people intimacy), and the lack of ability to freely express myself (with the fear of its consequences). Same reason I cant be on this forum with my real name. But this all starts from the foundation that human consciousness is still so damn low. In many ways, we are still living deeply in the dark ages.

For me, if it’s a 15-20 min nap, no problems. But if it’s like 1-2h+ nap, then it hits

I like this very much. Not only the whole mindset is healthier than pick up lines, it is also beginner friendly approach, and safer approach in a classroom. Pickup requires a hardcore mindset (a lot of times to the point of toxicity), and an environment where you can lose face and have no consequences. Finally, to the OP, your first attempts will never be perfect. Maybe you will get lucky and it will work out, but most likely not - so don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

@Natasha Tori Maru @OBEler Very interesting you both mention suffering right after waking up. What the hell! I suffer from the same. For me, it doesn’t matter if it is morning or middle of the day. If I wake up from a long nap in the evening, the same flood of suffering is there. What is the quality of your guys’ suffering? For me, it is this existential hopelessness. It’s like the sleep is so peaceful, and I fall asleep fast, and get into deep sleep - but once I wake up, the whole unconsciousness, selfishness and survival of our human collectiveness hits me all at once. Like Natasha, it passes once I start my day. And this literally happens probably 9 out of 10 times I wake up. So weird. I can go to sleep at night fully at peace, but always wake up to some sort emotional wave of existential terror / crisis / hopelessness.

I am proud of how far we have come as a community. In the past, a conversation like this would have spiraled down to the seventh hell. There’s no way this would have borne fruit. Thanks everyone for growing together, and clearing this place up to be this clean. It will never be 100% clean but this is very good.

This is my current stand 100% as well. I straight up refuse to act lower conscious and gamey, even tho I lose so much sex and intimacy from it. The good thing is that the sex and intimacy I lose, is fairly superficial, and that I don’t waste my time on it, giving me more opportunities to meet real intimacy, based on honesty and authenticity. It is very rare tho. But it’s worth it.

@LordFall Yeah I found it interesting as well. I agree that Jeffy can be an off putting character, but I feel like he cuts straight to the chase, rather than does 3 hour rambling videos.

It’s the same struggle Emerald and Etheral Cat went through here, and probably many other female members. Also probably the reason they all left. Back then I was still too biased to see, and also not an active member yet to be commenting. But now, I rather not see the same mistake being repeated, especially as you are one of the higher quality posters here. It seems Leo has learned his lesson and was able to take the feedback properly based on his responses here. Much love.

That makes sense. I think there is a tendency to downplay our self-deceptions and biases towards sex because it is ”such a low function” compared to the serious work - but that’s precisely the danger. Thank you for your patience and compassion.

@Natasha Tori Maru Yes, hence I brought this up to give it integrity. If this community wasn’t about truth, then I wouldn’t care as it would be very male biased. But I hold us to a higher standard, because truth is one of our top values here.