Miguel1

Nobody is justifying to you. Very weird that it even crosses your mind. We are having a Mature conversation. Gosh.

I sense a lot of macho strenght here. Forced strenght can only go so far. True strenght is to admit to yourself your own limits.

For people saying that blocking signals immaturity. Please consider that caring about looking immature or not to your ex, is even more immature.

I just answered the phone part to Leo. Otherwise I am with you. Keep in mind that it has been a while since we broke up, and everything that needs to be said and discussed, has been done. There is no reason to contact each other again.

Framing it as nuking sounds kinda reductive and negative. I want to make it as easy for my subconscious brain to let go as possible. As you don’t want to keep junk food in your cabinet, when trying to stop eating them. Blocking makes it impossible for them to contact you, which would be bad for your subconscious brain. And deleting makes it impossible for you to contact them, especially during low moments.

Our brains work very differently, I am almost the complete opposite to you. I wear my heart on my sleeve, especially when it comes to relationships. When something so intimate and important ends, even if it ends on a mutual agreement and in a healthy and respectful manner, my brain struggles to let go.

@Natasha Tori Maru Thank you Natasha ❤️ I think it was Teal Swan who said that losing a friendship or a relationship is worst that losing them to death, because your brain can understand death, It is much harder for it to understand how someone can be the closest person for you for so many years and the suddenly turn into nothing, even though they are still very much alive.

@bazera Most painful break up by far. Yet it happened in the most loving and healthy way. I have never had a relationship end in such a way, quite the opposite. And it was very healing actually. The break up was a mutual agreement. We both discussed throughouly whether there is future or not. Read my previous comment, all the hard and adult conversations have been had, there are no avoidance left. The only thing left is to strongly and clearly signal for my brain that they are no longer here.

Yes. I have been contemplating whether this is immature and childhish or not. All the adult conversations have been had, so it’s not about running away from them. Proper closure has been had. The only left is that it was the most intimate relationship, by far. And my mind keeps wanting to catch up once in a while. Even the blocking and deleting was discussed openly and lovingly with the ex. It’s a relationship that I invested way too much into emotionally and energically, and so I think I need more harsh measures to signal to my brain that ”they are dead, they are really gone, do not think of them and think about talking to them anymore”. - - - - - @Leo Gura Perhaps more like throwing away all alcohol or cigarette when you want to get over addiction. @Natasha Tori Maru I think I am similar to your friends here. You introverts (and wise ) have it easier. @Joseph Maynor That’s the idea here.

Thanks everyone for the answers. The reason you block, delete and get rid of old stuff is to signal to your brain that it is OVER. Do not even think of getting back, on any level.

If there is no need to keep contact (child, mutual company, unfinish shit), do you prefer to block and delete or not? Give me your reasons. For me, blocking and deleting gives me the necessary space to properly move on, even though it is hars as hell. What about most pictures? Do you delete most or all? Or at all? I prefer to delete most at least. Keep a few as memory. Probably should delete all to be honest.. would make moving on even easier. And to make sure there is no misunderstanding: The relationship I am talking about are ones where there’s deeply intimate attachment. Not some vague half-attached, half-assed relationships.

Best way to pass shit tests is to just find it funny

It’s also very clear how you are so actively using Todd’s technique of misinterpreting things thrown at you. It’s cute at first but then just becomes a defense mechanism to actually have real conversations and growth. Pretty much every feedback I have given you, you amusingly use the same technique. It gets old real fast. I hope you don’t use the same technique again on this respond, otherwise it just becomes obnoxious.

Now I know why you are so hard into that whole materialist game. All that suppressed anger needs to go somewhere. I used to struggle with the same and to some extent, I still do.

I always find it funny when you ”talk from experience”, when you virtually have no results.