Miguel1

I’m cleaning my photo albums and I found me at the most devil phase of my life, by far: Miguel, at 24 years old, 2019. Full speed in fuckboy phase. This guy gave no single fuck about anybody’s feelings, and used anything to feed his selfish ego, including spirituality. My stereotype was all about the Dark Triad. It fits well with my dark looks, and it got girls going crazy. All that being said, I truly havent aged at all. What the actual fuck. I think I look even younger nowdays because my facial expressions are more empathetic and bubbly in general.

Scandinavian countries are the best places to live if you want the most developed and least corrupted. But also, they are awful places if you want to make a ton of money and become rich, simply because they tax you very high (to keep the collective healthy), and the laws and regulations protection customers are very solid. You ain't gonna do dirty business as easily here as in the US. After my first heartbreak, I just googled and started studying. First I bumped into a blog called Shark or something like that. In that blog, someone in the comments actually mentioned Osho, and from there on there was no looking back. I was like 16-17 at this point. And oh, I am reminded. When I was 14-15 I did watch some of Owen's seminar already because his videos were pushed to me on YT. I found them interesting but I wasn't ready to go balls deep into self-help at that point yet. As for my results, funny thing is that I got so corrupted, I wasn't even happy with the results I got, and thought I could get even better results, which is true. But is ridiculous, how it never ends, once the ego gets going.

- Sex with random girls is extremely unsatisfying, compared to what you get in a loving relationship with mutual attraction. - Relationship is much better time spent: way more quality time, and is actually a long-term investment that potentially lead somewhere. I hate drifting, going nowhere, and wasting time. It is not how ENFJs work, we are very future orientated and structured. - Partnership, companionship, deep friendship. Satisfy your social and intimacy needs, and you dont have to run around with monkeys to do that. - Healthy family dynamic with children, if you want that. Surely there are more.

What the hell is min maxing? I don’t enjoy online dating because it is extra shallow. Meeting new women is not that exciting for me nowadays but if I am to do it, then real life for sure. I can screen her for her energy and character much faster that way. Also, no catfishing.

Dedicating your life to it for 1-3 years

Inspired by this thread, I’m gonna start a stripping career. I already know how to twerk

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Yes, of course not in every possible way but in general. The flip side to that house point is that it is far easier for them to make ton of money online vs when we were kiddos.

But yeah, it’s clear to me that pick up has not much of a place in my life anymore. And also, needless to say but I’m handling my latest break up in a 10x more healthier way than the break up before this one, even tho this one was 10x deeper and more intense. I’m proud of myself for that much growth to be able to handle it with so much more maturity. —- The heavy pickup phase also helped me to truly learn to value the pros of a serious, loving monogamous relationship.

Definitely.

Yes, as human beings, we need to master being humans first before transcending higher. But the level I took chasing sex was toxic and dysfunctional. No need for that extreme. It was fueled with lots of unresolved pain, selfishness, ego and ambirion. I hurt so many people in that process and would never cause others such pain ever again. And thank you! Feel free to reach out and ask anything related to socializing and dating.

I am not sure if it affected me negatively per se, but my standards rose maybe a bit too much to the unrealistic level. I know I can get almost any girl (looks wise) so I expecte my partner to be really good looking and cant be satisfied with normal looking girls. The issue with very good looking girls is that most of them are more often than not spoiled, and haven't had to do the in-depth inner and psychological work, which is even more important to me in my partner than her looks. Other than that, not really. I stand shitty behavior way less, which can be a bad thing in a serious relationship, as there are low moments, inevitably. ----- If I didn't go through that phase, I dont think I would have been able to develop deeper relationships because 1. I would be in scarcity and 2. there would be parts of me yearning for that phase. But I am wired differently, I am naturally very ambitious and won't settle for less. I would say it was necessary step, but it didn't have to be in such excess. 1/3 of that would have been plenty, had I just faced myself earlier. I am not sure what else could have taught me that lesson. I also dont know if I would change anything, as clearly I needed it all to be where I am right now. I would have told myself to face myself and my inner demons, and the pain of the breakup way earlier than I did -- but it is a different story if the me back then would have listened to that. That being said, practically speaking if I could summon myself back in time and meet my younger self physically, I would give him a big fucking hug, filled with so much warmth and love. That kid really just needed love and safety. He was and have always been full of love and all he wanted to do was spread that love to others, but that side of him was always taken advantage of due to his naivety and youth, that he got so broken, and had to develop extremely thick coping and defense mechanisms. I would give him deep unconditional love and make him feel extremely valued and safe.

Good Job on handling the situation. After studying human bullshit and unconsciousness, and also my own, seriously, for years -- I am not surprised at all at this behavior. In fact, it is to be expected. Most people truly are just animals. Unconscious survival automatons.

The youngsters are more spoiled than any generation before. There lies the biggest root issue.

Way to hijack a thread. Sorrey OP!