Miguel1

You need to practice just being a troll and a retard to balance your seriousness. In an ideal place, you are fun and loose, yet express sexual tension. Now you are too serious, and the bad type of serious where there is no sexual tension, rather compensation.

You need independence from your family. Second of all, what is your biggest passion? What gives you the most meaning and fulfillment? Making a career out of that online might be the solution for the rest of your problems.

I might miss some context with Valach and LordFall, but I don’t see an issue with girls you don’t find attractive to practice your social skills, as long as you don’t lead them on. There is no need to hurt anyone while practicing your skills. You can always make friends with them. And if you wanna practice your attraction generating skills with not attractive girls, then just come up with an excuse later that doesnt hurt them: ”I really enjoyed your company but I want to be honest with you, upon thinking further, right now I am seeing a girl with whom things are getting a bit too serious for me to see other girls and feel good about myself”. You are never going to be perfectly 100% ethical and selfless in this world. Just you existing will cause other forms to disappear.

Now try getting that response in your neighbourhood, then it gets a bit more tricky

I think there was some clear and strong red flags in Zenterus’ story early on. For some reason he didn’t take them seriously enough to call it quits. It could have been something human like deep empathy, or perhaps as you said, emotional investment. Personally I would have planned and prepared for my exit, the moment I found out she has a court case due to not paying what she owes and being disowned by her parents. And I would have probablly found these out earlier already, as I screen quite hard nowadays in the beginning.

Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable with us brother. We are here for you. I just hope she doesn’t falsely accuse you of rape etc. That can really fuck your life up real good. - - - - - I avoid these crazy girls by screening them quite hard in the beginning. I have developed a very strong sense for detecting bullshit, not only by being with so many girls, but more importantly, by doing this work we do here on actualized seriously. I have ”lost” a ton of girls simply because my screening mechanism is so strong. I notice my eye contact can be very intense and suspicious sometimes. This is not really losing them though, more like saving myself from a ton of trouble, wasted time and energy. I also tend to go for the more naturally beautiful neighbour girl, than the hottest types. I find them to be way less of a headache, and way more enjoyable company, in general. - - - - - You make a lot of great points, and communicate well, despite your current mental state. I commend you for that. As there is toxic masculinity, there is also toxic femininity, which I believe is what you are talking about in your point about femininity. My question for you tho: Could you have find out about her crazy life earlier, and ditch her before things got so bad? For example, the moment you found out that her parents disowned her and so on? But man, what a story to completely fuck both of us up, since we are in a very similar position with these girls and dating. I crave intimacy with girls, yet I have to drop them like flies all the time because of some weird shit that almost every girl seems to have. Even forgetting higher connection to Spirituality and Truth, most young attractive girls seem to miss basic stuff like communication skills, empathy, or basic level integrity and emotional intelligence — and most importantly, emotional regulation skills.

You gotta man up, take the responsibility and call it quits brother

In this case, it’s not that she wasn’t enjoying herself, she out of nowhere decided to flake on your good time together.

What are you talking about, and what does it have to do with what I said?

Omg guys. She wants to have a moment with her love, sharing an ice cream. What in the world is so hard to understand their disappointment? It’s like I hype you to go watch your favourite sports team’s match, then when we arrive, I’m like: ”Nahh, actuallt I don’t want to watch, but I’ll be here close to you, focused on my phone”.

Oh brother, there is no fucking way I can ever be satisfied with some random hook up sex with a club girl, when I have experienced the deepest, most sacred love-making. Around the age 25. This was when I was done with my ”peak” pickup year, having sex with so many girls I lost count halfway into the year. At this age, I first experienced a smaller form of true safe intimacy and love-making. After that, there was no going back to pure pick up artristy just to maximize the quantity of sex. If I didn’t get lucky and bump into some really beautiful souls, I might still be chasing sex mindlessly. It’s hard to explain true intimacy (body, mind, soul) to someone, when they haven’t experienced it. I see that issue on this forum often. Your text was well said.

You lost me brother. How does looking her deep in the eye and talking about building castles have anything to do with intellectual intimacy? It’s the opposite. It would be fatansy intimacy, which is what I am ”forced” to do with most girls.

Sorry but this is one of the most autistic questions I’ve seen in a long time

No. Cold approaching is a lot of fun, and should be done from that mental space. Cold calling is just repetitive and boring. B2B cold calling is somewhat more enjoyable.

I don’t think you are actually debating deep philosophical and existential topics with girls brother.