Blackbeat

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  1. On 25/01/2023 at 3:53 PM, John Paul said:

    You will be sorry. I will be gone.

    I will not be sorry as I don't know you at all personally, but my future condolences as I also deal with such thoughts, but I don't allow those thoughts (currently) to seduce me into such a foolish action you cannot take back, find other solutions that are valid in your personal own life. Don't go through with it become another statistic..


  2. On 18/02/2023 at 6:59 AM, Shawn Philips said:

    AI is an infinite creativity tool. As your imagination, or when you dream, you can also imagine your favourite celebrity doing nasty things, and what?

    If we keep with this morality debates we will have in the future the thought-police that will put us in prison just by imagining things... that's crazy and Orwellian.

    Very true, 1984 Vibes


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    On 23/02/2023 at 8:45 PM, ZenAlex said:

    Yeah I visit from time to time. I don't spend that long writing annotated research essays calling out forum owners for being toxic.

    Leo is not a doctor or a psychologist. He has no duty of care towards any of you. 

    Just like with Teal Swan or any guru, take the teachings, and then don't get too attached to the teacher.

    I respect Leo and his work, but I don't idolize him.

    Good mentality.


  4. 2 hours ago, Gesundheit2 said:

    I have found that the best way to minimize conflict with controlling people is to never answer them directly no matter what. It's like when you're not supposed to look at a snake directly in the eyes (not sure about that though). Generally, that can be done through distraction by telling seemingly relevant stories in order to maneuver around the original topic and make it seem like you're answering without really giving an answer. 

    For example:

    • Why do you wear the damned glasses all the time?
    • Well, I was actually thinking of buying new shades, maybe they look better. Or what about contact lenses? What do you think?

    Notice that no clear answer was given to the original question, and now the topic has slightly changed and is dissolving. Do that a couple more times and you will find yourself and her talking about something else entirely.

    • Why do you wear so much damned black?
    • Really?! I didn't notice that! I guess I'll have to make some adjustments to my closet.

    The important thing here is to let her have being right and not fight over that. Do not argue or try to prove your point. You already know it's true to you, so what's the point of her agreement?

    This distraction technique is a skill, and it gets better with time and practice. I'm not an expert myself, but I know a couple people who never run out of red herrings. I learned a little from them.

    what if she see's thru that?