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@LastThursday I’ll create a fictional character Mike who loves birds. Die hard fan. Loves all of them. But for some reason he thinks that they SHOULD always fly in flocks of six. So he’s upset most of the time because it hardly ever happens. Is it birds fault or is it Mike’s?

@LastThursday I guess I’m questioning culture also in that case and all that comes with it. I’m aware how words work, I also see that they influence people differently. So there’s no need to pretend that it’s possible to carve something as abstract as word in a stone. I have lived in three different societies 21, 6 and 15 years and thought myself five languages so there has been 20 + years of observing cultural norms etc. That is my conclusion. Yours is different and that’s fine. There’s no attack, as I said. No need for one. I have very deep respect for women. At the same time life is not serious. Why not tease someone with rock hard opinions. No I’m not racist. Was though when I was a teen. It was a learned behavior because of growing up in a backwards society. Can one overreact if there are no emotions involved?

@LastThursday Everything is simple. Your mind has a capability to make it complicated. Word is neutral. Unless you let the culture to connect a certain “weight “ to it. I’m also sure Jennjenn is intelligent. That’s beside the point. One can be intelligent but can still prefer the reality to be in a certain way. And it hardly ever is. That’s a clue. The feeling of getting insulted is happening “inside the person” . That’s also a clue. It’s inner work that is needed. What if there’s a person who protests at every word. Should the whole vocabulary get reworked or could the protester sit down and wonder: What is causing this reaction? What’s triggering me? Is my perception warped? My intention is NOT to insult. So there’s no attack here. Have you seen some 60 year old women light up when called girls? I have. They smile, adjust their hair etc. No problems. Edit: The line between acceptable and no no words is arbitrary.

Leo’s video “ Understanding meaning, purpose and value”

@LastThursday Sure. But... She doesn’t know if I’m using the word girl to measure her maturity. Well, in a way I am, because if she gets upset about something simple like that, she’s most likely not my type. Meaning her ability to control her emotions is low and it will cause instability in a relationship. Also, if she starts assuming too much, another red flag. I’m constantly questioning the role of words and their power. And I am choosing them probably more carefully than others do. Great tools to analyze and play with reality. In the end they are just concepts. The reason why Jennjenn reacted is that she sees the word as demeaning. But the word is neutral. The reaction is in her. It’s learned behavior. The child that sees a polar bear at the zoo has most likely different feeling than a person that lives on Svalbard and lost half of the family in polar bear attack.

@LastThursday The whole thing sounds like a screw that is tightened till it snapped. Sounds like some are trying to carve something in stone. I understand what You are saying but I personally will never obey these kind of cultural norms. In fact if I ever have a discussion with a female who gets offended by the word girl, she becomes instantly my science project. I will dig as deep as it’s necessary to find out where the trauma is or why it’s offensive to them.

@LastThursday What about rest of the world?? Should I ask someone’s birthday right after “ Hi” and hold my breath so that they will not be offended by that question?

@Spence94 Definite joy for a person loving mindfucks. I’m currently in my third?

Why name “things”..

@asifarahim We should not trust anyone’s opinions blindly. In the end it’s you who decided.

Sounds like a pseudo problem.. Who’s offended? Why? ?

Eating meat seems very unnecessary. Really hope we grow out of it. “Norwegian decent” + “slender frame” in Your post made me listen to A-ha? @Flowerfaeiry

I have a similar feeling and besides that I feel how relaxed the body is just when I wake up. And if I observe carefully it’s possible to feel how it tenses up somewhat in ca 10 seconds. Trying to override that part currently ☺️

Scam, I’ve been in a similar situation. When they talk it sounds so convincing and like an hour later I came out of it. Was almost like hypnotized or something. Don’t fall for it.

@tatsumaru It’s like You collected the opinions in my head about this subject and wrote it here?

@modmyth Theoretically You got it right. I’ve been physics professor many times. But my students kept failing so often that self doubt creeped in. I mean who wants to be bad at their job? Although depressed professor could be one option ?

@Topspin715 Welcome?☺️

@freejoy I’m not buying it. Comparing, measuring, judging has ego written all over it. Just mind games.

@Uchral Just out of curiosity, what’s Your description of reality?

Am I really the only one who’s having trouble believing his measuring technique ??

Well, some girls like to listen. Try something relatively soft first and see where it takes you..

Let’s look at this testing method first. If it would be reliable we would use it it in courts with 100% right conviction rates, find all missing people, know answer to basically every question... It’s absurd...

I’ve done the same thing with the mirror. After awhile you are not sure anymore who is it that is staring back. Love it.

@integral Did you just put all Intp’s in one pot?

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