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@lxlichael What does this mean? Can you elaborate?

@Osaid So simple, yet so profound.

@tessus So what do I do to this label? I miss my old self. The self I felt in touch with before health issues took over. I miss who I used to be. See, that’s in the past.

@tessus The present. I’m not really stuck in the past. I just miss my self, I miss my authentic self. But I don’t get much emotion from thinking about it when I should. It’s a blunted emotion. As for the future, all I hope is that I resolve my health issues and get my self back. I don’t know. Something I miss.

@Leo Gura How? Health problems feel so unjust and so unfair. How did you come to peace with it Leo? How do you see the perfection of it? Health problems are plaguing my life and stealing my life away from me. How do you come to peace with it?

I should be reading more books and researching more but instead I am passively consuming self improvement content on YouTube, without a clear aim or purpose. This is a clear distraction. How do I stop distracting myself and do the things that would be best for me to do? Things that would actually move the needle forward in my life?

@Godhead Thank you so much man. I appreciate your detailed post. Do you have any tips on setting deadlines? I am not sure how far into the future I should set a deadline in order to have just enough of a kick in the ass but not so much that I burn myself out.

@Jacobsrw What were your job prospects like after graduating with your psychology degree? And what did you graduate with?

I used to have burning desires for my goals, and I used to work my ass off every single day to bring them to fruition. It felt good working towards my goals and taking action. But ever since I got depression, I don’t care about anything anymore. I have so much apathy and abolition I can’t bring myself to do anything for long periods of time. As an example, when I went to the gym before depression, sure sometimes I had some resistance to initially going, but when I was there, I got a pump going and I felt the endorphin rush, and could smash out 90 minute workouts consistently 6 times a week. But now when I go to the gym, I can’t feel any endorphin rush at all. I try to push myself like I used to, but I get extremely exhausted after 20 minutes. Same goes for any other thing like deep work. I can’t get into the flow state anymore. I can’t work for hours like I used to. The main thing I miss is my burning desire. I used to have burning desires but I don’t have any desire anymore. I feel like I should care more but I don’t. I can’t feel emotions like I used to. How do I get my burning desire back?

I’ve read that book for the parts on life purpose. I like his analogy about peeling back layers of onions. The issue is that I don’t seem to care about purpose anymore like I used to. No. I don’t feel a sense of satisfaction in ‘anything’, let alone work/career. I don’t feel in touch with my inner core and my values that I used to have. I feel so apathetic and unlike my true self, so I don’t care about anything when I want to care. I don’t have any satisfying relationships. I’m not sure if the absence of them could be driving these feelings. How could I know? Terrible. My nutrition is as perfect as I can possibly make it, where I’ve cut out every single food that triggers my body. But I can’t control my sleep no matter how much I try, and I have gut health issues. I don’t know. How could I tell? I’ve considers taking a urine test for mold toxicity. Don’t know if it’s valid though. I think so. I go outside every day, even if it’s just for a walk. @Michael569

@StarStruck I don’t know man. I feel like I should be angry about certain things but I’m not. I can’t feel any emotions (including negative ones) anymore so that’s probably contributing to it. I think if I actually felt anger, jealousy, or cried for once, I would feel so relieved. Emotional numbness is more unpleasant than not feeling emotions at all. Can’t even force myself to feel sad or cry or feel angry about anything, when I technically should be sad or angry. I’ve been diagnosed with depression a while ago. I’ve seen psychologists and therapists and tried antidepressants but none of them really did much. A psychologist probably would’ve helped if my depression was mostly psychological but it’s only become more clear to me that the depression I’ve been experiencing feels much more physical than psychological. I’m not depressed ‘about’ anything, which would be a psychological depression. My main symptom is emotional numbness and anhedonia. No amount of CBT, or thinking differently, will noticeable change my ability to feel emotions. Yeah. I still go to the gym and exercise every day. I’ve tried many different diets and my symptoms reduce the most on keto, but it’s not a life changing difference. I still feel exhausted all the time. While I hope it is indeed temporary, it’s been almost 2 years I’ve been like this and I don’t know how much longer I can keep going on like this. @LastThursday

@Ulax I don’t understand what you mean by strong sense of self and a narrative of my life. Could you please elaborate? How would it negate my need for independence? While I don’t have a lot of thoughts that say that, I think this would be helpful for other things. Do you think it’d be helpful for OCD?

How can I integrate these teachings into resolving health problems? https://youtu.be/4OmMpYa7R_U Is the reason to why my health problems are still persisting a lack of self love?

@hyruga If I unconditionally love myself, how will I ever improve? Won’t I just sit around doing nothing? Or is it that if I unconditionally love myself, that means I know what’s best for me to do, and that improving myself is the most loving thing to do?

@How to be wise This is the most logical advice I’ve read on this thread so far. Thanks. Any tips on reading more?

@StarStruck What if I don’t feel stressed as a result of apathy?

@StarStruck This is a good question. Previously what motivated me was jealousy, but that doesn’t work anymore since I’m not jealous of anything anymore. I miss being jealous of things because even though it was a crude form of motivation, it was still a form of motivation nonetheless. I can’t find anything that makes me angry. I think I should be angry about my situation, I wish I was angry about my situation so that I was more motivated but I just can’t feel it. Fear of loss... interesting. What do I fear losing? Maybe I fear losing all my money. I don’t know how to translate that into motivation though. How do you unleash anger? I don’t think I’ve unleashed it before.

@StarStruck Before my health issues got so bad I was mostly at Stage Orange / Achiever. So I agree that competition is good for this stage, and it is what used to motivate me. But now my life has been focused on survival and resolving my health issues that I can’t even pinpoint what stage I’m currently at. I think I’ve regressed, so maybe I’ve been in Stage Beige a lot more. No... it’s not. Is it supposed to? I’m trying to force myself to care about it to hopefully spark something... but I just don’t. If this is true then I might as well just end this life. What’s the point of living if I can’t feel emotions? So, I choose to simply believe this isn’t true, and figure out a solution. My current frame is “If I don’t solve my health issues ASAP then I’m going to be stuck like this while life passes me by.” It makes me move, but I have to push myself logically. It doesn’t stir up any emotional charge. It’s more like “Hmm, I should be caring more about this. This is the logical move to do so I’ll do it anyway.” Yes I agree. That’s my current problem though, the things that used to be the most meaningful to me no longer interest me at all anymore, including every other activity there is.

@hyruga I’m pretty much certain it’s from my gut issues. They can cause depression since it’s like the second brain. I wasn’t depressed before my gut issues got so bad. I had lots of energy and could do whatever I wanted. Now I crash after doing basically any activity. @LastThursday That’s what I was doing when I was my self, minus the last part because I haven’t found like minded people in person yet. But when I suddenly became so fatigued that it was difficult to do daily tasks, it’s like my brain shut down and completely stopped caring about the things I used to be passionate about.

@Leo Gura You’re currently dealing with health problems. How would you integrate Self-Love into your battle with health problems?

@Raze Can you please give the general idea/summary of this? I won’t have time to watch it until tomorrow.

@Tristan12 Thanks. Your signature is fitting

Health issues being resolved. I think with good health, everything else will fall into place... it’s just a matter of time.

@gettoefl

@Danioover9000 Can you make the difference between knowing the negatives of masturbating and being aware of the negatives of masturbating explicit? What is the difference? What are NLP techniques? Where can I learn about them and where can I start?