Godishere

Over the past decade, I've always seen girls as a means to fullfil my selfish desires; whether that be sexually, emotionally, validation etc. After a massive awakening and realization, I have become aware I can no longer manipulate girls into sleeping with me. I would never be honest with my intentions and it was always just a way to get sex for me. I took and never gave. I would never be honest that it was just sex for me, and that I wouldn't even think of commiting to these girls but I would tell a white lie. In hindsight, I've become aware that this is very manipulative and all I'm doing is hurting myself(as I have become more conscious everything is me). I'm at a turning point in my life where I feel I'm exactly where I deserve to be(single and alone). I can be honest with girls that I just want something casual with them, but what is even the point. My question is this, how can I even seriously date someone now when I know all I'm doing is taking? it's all stemming from selfishness and survival. I want something from them. I know in my soul that isn't love. Love is giving without the need for attachment from anything or anyone.

@OneHandClap thanks man. That actually makes alot of sense. I guess we can't live from a state of Absolute consciousness all the time and we also have real survival needs and desires. I mean we can obviously agree that morality is completely relative, but who am I really harming with my behavior

Hey bro, interesting topic. Would you care to read the topic I just posted and tell me your opinion on the matter? Thanks man

Infinite intelligence is a relative term used to describe the experience of Absolute being. Infinite intelligence/stupidity is a duality of the relative mind. So there is confliction of relative/Absolute. So yeah, we can call it whatever we want

@Nahm ? ? say no more aye. Does God trust God? Ahhhh yeah you would hope so

Haha good point. I just thought I would tell my perspective on it and how it's affected my time here. It's been such a tricky one for me. Back and forth, back and forth. Trying to wrap my logical, measley human mind around it. It's bizarre(and understandable) why Leo hasn't done a video regarding the matter. It's definitely a touchy subject I guess. But so so critical and intertwined with God realization.

This is the only topic that needs to be spoken of in spiritual discussions. Yet I see it so rarely spoken of on here.. You are love. infinite selfless love. Forever

@Leo Gura so given this guy's example, trip setting and everything existing in God's mind. When happens when each individual parts ways, considering there is only one consciousness? Is each individual dream lived out by God, outside of time and space, and all connected together infinitely?

@Preety_India I'm just curious why you feel like that in the first place? Life is a wonderful thing, although self admittedly I haven't lived a difficult one compared to some..

I mean it's a genuine question. Anyone got a solid, concrete answer?

@Tim R ahh yes, this actually makes more sense ? of course, it's nothingness There is still something very peculiar about transitioning from relative to Absolute. @Nahm I guess a better question would be, why does a psychedelic disrupt the flow of consciousness? If it's just enhanced neurotransmitters in the imaginary brain .. that means I imagined the psychedelic and I imagined the psychedelic wearing off. So basically I have zero free will. But relatively speaking it feels like l have choices as a human? Like to take the imaginary psychedelic or to not, for example. So therefore God chooses when to reconnect with the Absolute?

If we consider insecurities a survival strategy, then I believe it's impossible to completely transcend the duality of insecurity/security(in human form). If you are willing and ready to die, then maybe. So potentially at the turquoise stage of development. Still, I'm sure if someone took you hostage and tortured/raped you for a few weeks you would be highly insecure.

@Someone here well your someone else here right? (Someone here)

@Rigel not the answer I was looking for, but probably the most accurate one I will get.

@molosku haha that's a good point. But at the same time, I am irrelevant.

True. At least it's a place where we can discuss the insights and how we can best apply it to our relative life. This is obviously not a place for the absolute because it's utterly pointless. All you can is laugh

Inspiring to read bro. After my enlightenment experiences I find joy where it always was and has been: here and now. I can remove myself from the situation and see the miracle within the smallest of things. Everything is divine. Namaste

@Breakingthewall ditto. Its compete liberation. There's nothing to do apart from enjoy the seasons of life. What's wrong with just being anyway.

@Someone here well speaking of non-duality. I can guarantee you one thing, your not awake. Just being honest. It sounds like you are lacking in ego maturity/stability of mind. These things can be genetic obviously; we are not all wired the same. For example, I find the oneness and solipsism of the universe beautiful and devine. I'm 30 now and to be honest I wouldn't of handled truth well a decade ago. I'm not sure how old you are but seriously consider working on other parts of life for a few years.

It's all survival tactics. The anxiety is there to protect your identity and ultimately your life. It's why most people are not happy; they don't understand it's not just a psychological issue, but a spiritual one. Surrender is the key. Being willing to accept any situation and outcome and it will lose its power. I have found for myself that it's not just detachment but acceptance of what is. What is = ideas appearing in consciousness. So real world practical advice: stop using crutches such as alcohol/ease up and cut down. Realize your true nature as reality itself and practice surrendering to what you are.

Isn't it funny, how we created this thing called the "internet", where we as humans believe we transmit messages in the form of a language to someone across the world. When really we are just talking to ourselves in universal mind. This is literally unbelievable. But when you contemplate it, it actually makes more logical sense! The idea of talking to someone via technology who's not "here" in actuality. It kinda makes you laugh. God is a funny mofo ?

@billiesimon true. Maybe I've become more conscious that I give myself credit. For me these realizations were just blindingly obvious. I never really had to force anything... Just some really good LSD, some contemplation/ self inquiry and it's instantaneous. I really don't understand why others don't see it.

Realizing you are constructing the entire universe is a good one lol

Who said they are conscious and not a figment of your own consciousness ?

I've had this. You have a lack of options and are focusing way too much on women. Seriously, just try meet some good people to hang around. Work on your fitness, career and friendships. It's so hard to detach; once you attach, but it is possible. You could detach right now if you really wanted too. Ultimately you have to surrender to the fact you could and probably will lose her. Surrender completely and utterly then accept it. You need more options and the ability to meet more options if one falls away. But the root problem is a spiritual thing IMO. You need some awakenings, then you will realize you don't need anyone ?