tolo

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  1. No it wasn’t about how others would see me. My problem was that I was feeling lonely without having a partner in the past. I felt helpless and totally alone. But now on the other hand I don’t really need anyone anymore to feel complete. I can stay alone and enjoy myself but in the past I couldn’t. Staying alone was always a bad feeling for me. I consider myself as open for something new, but my future partner must be on the same "understanding" level as I am or even further than me. I have had dates with "stage red and blue" people, but it didn’t go well because of the different world views we had.
  2. How do you know that the user is a lady?
  3. The thing is that i have learned to filter guys. Sex alone is not a reason to reject a men of course, but thats not what I mean. ?But I am talking out of experience. Men that want sex ONLY are mostly married, have at least one girlfriend, or not into relationships in that moment. And I can tell that out of experience. I am sure that many women know this kind of "dick pic" sending guys online? The guy that sends a pic of his dick, even before saying "hi" or his name. And surely some women feel attracted to this kind of guy, which is totally okay, but I am not which is also totally okay. And most of the men approaching me, are exactly this type of guys, just in real life and not ever messenger. I hope now it’s more clear what I meant. And cultures are different all around the world, as you surely know. Here where I currently live the "macho-culture" is quite common, and also very accepted by the females here. And yes me as a human, I do have a type, and thats just not my type, i was raised in another country and other culture1. I could give everyone a chance that tries to approach me, but that would be a waste of time and that’s why we learn to create to filter people, exactly what you talked about. I mean a lot of those guys that want sex with me are even over 55! The oldest one was 67. They have families and grandchildren!! What to try there??? But to be honest, my problem is not the age, its the attitude, i am not attracted to this kind of attitude. I am not so naive anymore as I was when I was younger, to think that everyone is compatible with each-other. People have different ideas, personalities, backgrounds, and opinions, and not everyone is a good fit. And of course I was approached by different kind of guys also, but the majority of my experiences was very similar here in this country.
  4. Meditation can help you with this issue unless you suffer from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).
  5. Hi there I am going to fulfill my dream and open an animal shelter in Athens/ Greece. Except of helping animals, we want to create a sustainable home and a garden where we can grow our own veggies and fruits and live as sustainable as possible. The place will be in the outskirt of Athens in Greece. If anyone is interested to be part of our project, just contact me
  6. I have been in some relationships in the past, just because of the fear of not having someone. But now I am actually quite happy as a single and i feel comfortable being single. The pressure, of having someone, was always my motivation to find a new partner, but now I don’t feel this pressure anymore. And my friend brought up that I might have developed commitment Issues because of my past relationships. But I don’t want to be in a relationship anymore just to be with someone, I’m done with that.
  7. For real, they only wanted sex, nothing more.
  8. I totally relate, because I was also in many relationships that didn’t fulfill me just to give "this guy a chance, since he tries so hard". But those relationships ended bad, and I don’t want to make the same mistake again. But I also don’t want to be too "picky"... But what you say makes totally sense. Thank you, i needed that
  9. So do you think we have commitement issues? ?
  10. Ok to be more clear, most people approach me to have sex only, not because they want to know me better. And I´m not into that anymore... And I am going on dates, I do give people a chance, but didn’t work out till now. I was raised in a stage orange/green (spiral dynamics) country, and currently I Live in a stage red/blue country. Most of the people I meet here have different interests and priorities than I have, and I do not want to force myself to change my life just to make it work. I don’t believe in "the one", but I believe that two must be a good fit, to be happy with each other and they should have the same interests. Or am I totally wrong here, and I should maybe more acceptable? Being single isn’t that bad too tho ?
  11. Hi leo, i would like to hear more about "the mind of god", and the substance of reality/consciousness. I know you have made many videos about it, but maybe you could even go deeper?
  12. Haha no I did not know about your Journal, but i will read it. I am actually a very fearless person, I mean I am not scared of accidents, or getting lost myself, airplanes... I have a "nothing can happen to me" mentality. But my achilles heel is my family. Subconsciously I have the fear of being a disappointment to them (I actually know that I am a disappointment for my parents, because they are not able to understand my way of living). So I believe that my dream is connected to this fear with my family, because in the dreams i am always in my old hometown (where my family still lives in), and I need to get back home here in Athens. But something always happens and i don’t make it...
  13. Yes everything is imagined by god, but the question is why does the imagined time pass by faster in our imagined reality.
  14. I agree to that, but when my father was in my age, his time perception was different than mine right now. He told me that in my age time was passing quite slower, and nowadays time flies by super fast. We have the totally same time perception today, even if he’s almost 70 and I am 26. My theory is, that time seems to pass faster because of all the technological advancements. We are all super occupied nowadays. We have so much entertainment than never before...
  15. Basically in my dreams i always have to catch my flight, but something always happens, and I miss the flight. The dram is always different, sometimes I am in the airport, sometimes on the way to the airport. When I am in the airport, I always get lost and can´t find the gate. Im running up and down, asking people for the way but I never make it to the gate, or if I make it, the gate is closed. In some dreams i loose my animals in the airport and so forth. (I rescue animals in real life) When I am on the way to the airport, I always confuse the time of the flight and when I realized it, the stress begins and I try to make it fast to the airport, but different things happens; I get lost on the way, accidents happen and so forth. Sometimes the dream turned into a lucid dream and during the dream I managed to calm myself down, knowing that it was only a dream. Something similar has really happened to me, about 5 years ago. I missed my flight 2 times and my family was really upset with me and they stressed me a lot. But the recurring dreams started 2 years ago.. 5 years ago, I moved abroad against the will of my family, and I thought it’s connected to that maybe?
  16. I only have this problem, if I am lost in my thoughts and don’t listen. Did you try to work on your concentration skills?
  17. When you write "when you die" do you mean the human, or the whole game? As god is everything, doesn’t it mean, that death is just an illusion? When one dies, the play still continues, or am i wrong here? You say "will probably rest for some eternal" can you explain me this? I thought that there is only one "player" and the player is god, so if one person dies, his human awareness dissolves, but consciousness doesn’t die, does it? Could you explain me "rest for some eternal time and then play some new games." more in detail please?
  18. Many people never change their spiral dynamics stage. I know "red people" living in an "orange country" but staying red till the end of their human life. Is it connected with the stage of the society in which we are living in? But if so, then why some people even reach a further stage, than the society they live in?
  19. How do you mean this? What do you mean exactly with adapting the environment?
  20. So what is the purpose of a human life then? Is it better to "actualize" your individual self and go higher in the spiral or should we better adapt the behavior of our environment and fit in the community?
  21. Hi! Ouch to loose 2000 hurts but learn from the experience and don't make the same mistake again. And just try to understand the whole situation and accept the lost. Can you change it? No you cant. Being angry or feeling guilty doesn't bring your money back neither it helps your friend. And about the thief. No one was born thief but life makes some to thieves, liars..... Try to go inside the mind of the guy, who stole you. What made him to do that? Why can he just steal money from someone? Even google it if you don't find the answers by your own. Try to understand his action instead of hating him. Understanding will bring you love but by hating him you just hurt yourself and not him.