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But all of this depends on the context.

But is there really a balance of power?

You can justify your behavior by saying that you are providing and protecting.

Masculinity, like femininity, can be toxic. That's why men, who mostly identify themselves as masculine, can be toxic. Women being against men being toxic is not toxic, which can become toxic if they are wrong about the person. That is why I said don't care if women say that you're being toxic, if you are not.

@mr_engineer Also, no one here is defending women blindly. They do it because a lot of men believe they are superior because they have power, whether it is given to them naturally or by humans. So, those men are basically being against women.

@mr_engineer The thing is, you believe men aren't toxic at all, or if they are being called as such, then women are exaggerating. I mean, yes, women can exaggerate it. That's why I said to see it as a defense mechanism, because sometimes they can be wrong about it. Women are against men who are toxic. Of course, there can be women who hate men, but there'll be fewer than men who hate women (I don't think those two groups would entirely hate each other). Men still have power, at least physical power, which they can abuse and certainly do.

@mr_engineer Do you agree to ban the real toxic behavior of men? I know those words can be thrown at you, even if you're not being toxic (maybe you are, I don't know). But see them as a defense mechanism. You're not the only man who exists. Banning them might help you feel good, but it'll be hurtful to women as they will lose power to speak against men, who are really toxic, and there are a lot of them.

Those words aren't used only as slurs, and even if they are, they are not equal to the N-word. I know that those words can be hurtful. But you don't have to care about it, as it's easy to misunderstand others while processing emotions, regardless of whether they are right or wrong about you. The real solution is knowing your place, whether others are being mean, compassionate, right, or wrong.

@James123 What you're saying doesn't negate the fact that you could be wrong about the things you speak about. The thing is, if someone tells you that you're wrong or that there's more to realize, you will reply that what they are saying is an illusion. But, interestingly, you would do the same. What I'm suggesting is that there may be more things going on at a deeper level. Respectfully, I won't continue this conversation because our approaches are different and/or we are simply misunderstanding each other, even though we know/believe that the other is misled.

@James123 So you are satisfying yourself. Why though? You are stating things that are different from knowledge, I see. Why does understanding something have to come from the ego? Why should I trust you with that? You clearly understand that knowledge is an illusion and know that what you're saying is true and not true, which I understand. But there has to be something beyond ego because you are aware that it's an illusion. If we are satisfying our egos, then why should I trust any word of yours if ego is an illusion?

@James123 How did you make sense of what I wrote? It did change a lot. If it won't change anything, then why are we even communicating?

@James123 How do you know? Without knowing it, you can't use it and communicate with me. So you know that they are sentences, and you're asking me how I know them. I'm simply telling you we can't communicate what's unknowable. Yet we can, just by making it knowable. So every time we do it, we sell each other some knowledge, whether it is true or not. I know they aren't sentences, but they are also. Also, If I told you that there is a thing that is different than knowledge, whether it is an illusion or not, what would you say to me? Would you regard it as knowledge, which, as you stated, is an illusion?

@James123 Well, what I said was that without knowledge you wouldn't be able to communicate that with me, and that the I, or knowledge, being the biggest illusion might not be the end. After all, you are a human. (I'm not saying that knowledge isn't an illusion)

Then, like everyone else, you're selling illusions to me, whether you had an experience of the absolute or not. Don't you see that it allows you to go even deeper than what you already realized?

Imo, the ones that are not or are less constructed by humans, if those even exist, and that know the difference between the relative and the absolute, and they don't use each of them, especially the "absolute", to justify their crude biases or their willful ignorance. I think the important thing that guarantees its closeness to the absolute or truth is what is done to go beyond themselves (things that humans will never be able to control) and not to reiterate themselves by reading some scriptures, regardless of whether they are true or false, and viewing their interpretation of reality as an absolute or truth. And I don't know if those qualify as being religions. Maybe super- or meta-religion, or just spirituality with less groupthink or brainwashing.

English is a contextual language, which I think makes it easier to understand or be aware of relativism and to have a flexible mind. That is why, in my opinion—and this may offend some—evolved languages like English are superior to others, especially non- or less-evolved ones. However relativistic languages are, they create your reality in different ways.

@StarStruck Are the companies in the USA mentioning the gross salary for a job on their website or some other website?

@meta_male 👏😄

@StarStruck 8-11k is the gross salary?

@Princess Arabia So, I guess what men get wrong is that when they talk to one or a few women of nearly the same type, they generalize women from those experiences. So either they have to change themselves or they should find other women if it's assumed that they mostly know what's attractive to them. I'm not saying they have to continue to be the same way (a creep), but they could find someone who'll accept that behavior. I think there have to be some behaviors that most women find creepy. But also, why should men change themselves to something else that's not natural for them? That could also be said for women. I think authenticity, self-honesty, and open-mindedness matter here.

@Princess Arabia Do all of them have those feelings about the same behavior? I guess it has to be different, even a little bit.

@Princess Arabia One time I was just walking where people don't often walk, and I saw a homeless man with a knife pointing nearly at me. I had one of the most uneasy feelings of my entire life. The weather was perfect for that; it was in the autumn. But I walked past him as if nothing were there, and he was still looking at me. 😁 Does it describe the feeling that women get when they find men creepy?

Doesn't that make men sometimes creepy? Aren't women perceiving that as a potential danger?

@Emotionalmosquito So what if they call you a creep? Just back off, regardless of them being wrong. Maybe they don't like you, and they are being mean or defensive. Maybe you're a real creep; if so, then accept that and find creepy women. Like men, women are also BSers. Please build your "theories" about women based on your experience with self-reflection. One time I directly looked into a girl's eyes longer than it's usually expected as I was walking in the street to test what happened, and she started to blush hard in a good way as I was walking towards her. But it's dangerous; I don't recommend it, as not everyone on the street will like it. 😁