Nemra

I think this fight about what is feminine or masculine and who is or should be this or that is stupid because people have different interpretations, although they can be similar or be exactly the same in what they mean, and some people build an identity around ideas of what those things "are" without self-awareness, regardless of their experience, and gladly try to impose their views on other people, and the problem won't be solved by projecting and generalizing. Know, experience, and understand first and foremost, especially yourself.

People who paint an evil picture of you when they actively misunderstand you and then act as if they have taught you something.

What can I say. I hate it here. I'm as hypocritical as they come.

@Princess Arabia Good for you. Not everyone is like you and has luck like you. Please don't assume that if you survived there, you could survive elsewhere by default. Anyway, I wish you the best.

@Princess Arabia then why aren't you living there, if I may ask?

@Princess Arabia lol. No. You won't survive there, as you are right now with your views. I'll stop, as I digress. No hate towards pick-up. ✌️

I still sense her strong aversion to non-scientific stuff. There's something iffy about physicists that I still don't get.

@Princess Arabia Travel outside the US or a less developed country. Most men (from priests to family members to gangs, especially gangs) will have degrading and toxic views about women. Even women sometimes agree with those views. Of course there are.

Couldn't agree more. They tend to be violent and have stupid and toxic views about women.

And spiritual people Also, scientists, especially when talking about quantum mechanics, double-slit experiment, etc.

Dramas that people create for themselves, especially when pretending that they don't like them.

@Dodo maybe you aren't the hunter type?

Yeah. It's radical, counter-intuitive, and hard because you are just accepting that you can physically harm someone or the opposite.

@StarStruck I wanted to say that it's relative and groups can shame others, which doesn't mean you have to accept it. People feel ashamed and automatically think it's showing them that they are doing something wrong that they have been told about. They don't self-reflect, which can help uncover the truth of that situation, where a strong sense of community becomes an obstacle.

Is a strong sense of community inherently a "good" thing? Other societies have the shame problem, which can be, imo, more unhealthy or toxic.

I value the suffering that I am not or don't seem to be in control of because it gives me the opportunity to creatively solve and/or understand it, as I know that no one can do it for me, even if others have an impact on it. I don't value the suffering that makes me think that life is only about suffering, which still has value for first-timers. When you go through it, it seems that it's a state that you can't change and that you don't like. But really, you haven't accepted the suffering and aren't really trying to solve it, but you are pretending that you do. The solution would be to accept it and move on.

Maybe they are becoming honest with themselves. Why do you believe that a man should only be masculine?

@Schizophonia Isn't that woman wanting you to be "masculine"?

@Emerald Idk, what's really like in the US, but when I talk to men and women, I see that men tend to have unconscious shame or opposition around being or acting "feminine". If they don't live up to some "masculine" fantasy, they'll fail as men without really knowing themselves.

@Karmadhi Every day, the Azerbaijani army starts fire from every corner they can and gaslights the world that we are doing it. It's crazy. After the 2021 war, they took Karabagh in 2023 forcefully with no mercy.

@eTorro Maybe the title should have been "people nowadays want or have the power to have a more conscious relationship" or "being brainwashed with family values backfires". That YouTuber is the perfect target for toxic men.

Well, it makes the problem even worse. Other less developed countries that are in conflict with Israel or outraged by the war will deepen their hate towards gays. Conservatives in those countries will love this, and it'll help them preach that the "west" will corrupt their youth and that having a democracy is just a tool to control them and make them unmoral like those "westerners". It'll make them, especially the fanatics, preach more about how they are being controlled by the Freemasons, Illuminati, and Jews.

@Yimpa I wish I had a friend who was open-minded like you.

@Yimpa why? 🤔

@MellowEd People create a body part for a robot. Why?