Gabith

The notion of Destiny/fate is valid because the unexpected does not exist, it is a projection of the ego/thinker on Reality. This is what it looks like when I try to demonstrate it through language: Everything that happens, happens. And therefore what happened was planned because it happened. What makes us believe that the unexpected exists is that we expect a situation to happen in such a way and as soon as something does not please us, surprises us, in short what we did not expect. We want to believe that it was unexpected or "that it should not have happened like that". Example: If I speak with a person and I try to show him by the language that the unexpected does not exist. I will have a hard time convincing them because they may not take the time to do the necessary introspection or simply not want to open up to the possibility that the unexpected is just a belief. So I can use a situation to push the reflection; I can say "look, I'm going to show you something that is planned" and then I try to kiss him. The person will react, either he will kiss me or he will push me away. It doesn't matter, it's what they do that is planned. If she kisses me it was planned and if she pushes me away, that was planned too. After her reaction, I can tell her "That was planned." Why? Because that's what happened. And the funny thing is that if she pushes me away and I was waiting for her to kiss me, my ego / "I" wouldn't like that because I don't like rejection and I wanted her to kiss me for example. And it's precisely after that that I would have easily believed that this situation was unexpected. But no matter if I like her or not, everything that happened, is happening and will happen in my life and in the lives of "others" WAS / IS / WILL BE planned. Because it is the only thing that exists, an unforeseen event has never existed and cannot exist, it is simply our imagination, a projection of a belief / thought that we emit on Reality. Examples of other similar projections: chance, coincidence, phrases like "it should not have happened like that". This implies that we don't really have control over our life, we live our life as a spectator. And having integrated this, we can easily decide to choose our emotional reaction and our interpretations on everything that will happen to us. This means that being afraid/frustrated or feeling other negative emotions serves no purpose except to lower our morale, since everything that happens must happen, it is inevitable. So since it is totally inevitable and expected, let's learn to love everything about Reality, love everything that comes our way and life will be much easier. I thought about it from many angles with an open mind to see if it was right the way it was, but once I integrated it, it seemed so simple and logical. And now I'm wondering how it's possible that I was fooled into believing that the unexpected existed / could exist. And why do we all take it for granted? Why did we invent this strange concept and how did we manage to believe in it so easily? And why is it so difficult to question this belief? And once it is done, we realize how much a belief / a collective thought can become "reality" because what we believe very strongly to the point of not considering it as a belief anymore, a questioning is almost impossible because it will seem absurd or useless. And so we see Reality subjectively according to the thoughts we project on it. The thoughts in which we believe very strongly become our reality because we interpret everything through "our bubble of meanings and thoughts". After this realization, regretting an event that happened / getting into negative emotions and resisting what seems like pure madness or sado-masochism. Why continue to do this when everything is planned and therefore inevitable? Everything that has to happen happens. There is no other possibility, it is enough to observe what is. Denying or wishing for something else than what has been/is is just fantasy. A form of collective unconscious madness. If we realize this questioning in its depth, to the point of integrating it, we naturally decide to adapt our emotional reactions and learn to love everything that comes our way. This is the most natural change to adopt since we all want to be happy.

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The last video was a mind-opening for me I take notes and I'll do my best everyday

@flowboy Thank you I will do this!

@Zeroguy I love YOU

Hey, what did you do to attain and maintain this state ? I know it's possible because I've never been so happy in my life for the past months and I keep my happiness even toward "negative people" because I can see from "above" and I'm not letting their negativity impact me because I know what they're talking about is not important, they're deluded and they're just complaining about Reality... I'm also more loving but I know I can go further ! I still have insecurities and a lack of confidence in myself. So if you can have good advice which worked for you, I'm all open. I do the positive affirmations that you told me to do last week (I'm confident and authentic towards women / I love myself)

Hey friends, what do you think of this scene ?

thank you

I was watching this video of behind the scene of Harry Potter, and suddenly I I thought I would love so much to live through every actor, director, cameraman etc... and see everything from how Harry Potter was created. I was really happy to think that finally I would see it all since I am "God". But I was quickly disappointed when I thought: "damn I'm going to forget" so when I live through Emma Watson or another person that participated in the movies, I couldn't be as happy and enjoy every moment of the existence since I will have forgotten that I'm God and that I live through everybody. I will be stuck in their mind with all their beliefs. And I wondered if I have ever lived through them? Or if I will live in another moment through them? Is everything happening simultaneously for eternity? Like a movie repeating itself? Does this also mean that my whole life is already mapped out and I can't do anything to change it (I have no free will)? I live my life as if I were watching a movie and I have no power to change it?

No lyrics, this song brings tears to my eyes almost each time I listen to it. I had "deep states" will listening to this song. Again this morning, I was doing the dishes and while I was listening to it, I was watching the reflection of the light on a stove and I cried of seeing so much beauty and feeling that it exist... I'm a huge fan of music and this is the song that touches me the most emotionally

hey yes I know ^^ I ask this question because I made a street interview where I was asking people "what question would you ask God, if he existed ?" For the ending of the video I want to make a little text with 5 to 10 words pointing to "God" with "Enjoy the dream" or something like that.

@Lucas-fgm Amsterdam, HERE I COME !

@ll Ontology ll A list ? I try to prioritize on feeling more love toward myself and others I think it's my main goal If I make a list I would be lost in the content because it would look like this: - Gaining confidence, being authentic and non-needy - Meeting with a lot of people - Creating a social circle with "hippies" and people more interested in spirituality, which is hard to find where I live - Being more and more positive and inspiring people by making them happier

Thank you. Why should I stop thanking people ? I like being grateful, it sounds important to me to show appreciation and gratittude

@flowboy "Your goodbye message is needy and reactive too. Don't send one. Even spending the energy to do that, shows that you are way too invested in someone way too early." Oh yes.. you're right. But it felt right to me to send her this message because I'm needy right now and If I forced myself to not send anything, I would maybe feel bad about myself ? Yes you know more than me ... I see that I was deluded now...

@flowboy Finally you're right for the fact that I didn't wait long enough. Next time I will wait a little bit before sending the first message and I will wait 3-4 days before saying goodbye if I have no response. It showed her that I'm needy and I am needy...

You must right. I consider myself being happy. Majority of time I listen to music, I go out doing my street interviews, I go out with my friends, I'm medidating, I'm trying to feel more love and I see the beauty in almost everything, I love to talk with random people, I'm beginning to feel love for them when I look in their eyes or listen what they have to say... I'm really happy but I'm making progress and I've a lot of work to do ! If I had a "life path" it would be being more loving, feeling love, being grateful and seeing the positive instead of negative. I want my life to be based on Love. Do you have suggestions ?

I didn't hope that she would answer me after the last message, I just wanted to say that to her because I knew she would not respond, why would she wait 2-3 days before answering ? It make no sense. And yes maybe I'm wrong, she would have answered after more than 2 - 3 days but I would think "she's doing it on purpose" and I don't like that, I don't want a manipulative woman Well in our actual society, texting is mainly for conversation...

I've read in "attract women through honesty" that after an interaction with a girl, it's a good idea to just send a short message like "It was a pleasure to meet you" and let her answer. If she doesn't answer she's not interested anymore and if she answer she will tell something like "yeah me too" and then we can invite her out. Mark Manson who did his book know this shit ! The girl that I met yesterday was into me because when we said goodbye she wanted to see me again, she told me "if you want I can go with you in the park another time" or "let's do something" the way she said that showed me that she really wanted to see me again. But she changed her mind afterwards I don't know why but she must have her good reasons ^^ I don't think I fucked up anything and the last message I sent her is a good way to say "goodbye" I like to wish her the best instead to ignore her like she's doing for me, I really want her to be happy, I'm authentic to myself. I'm happy that I send her this positive message and now I don't think about her anymore. I know you try to help me and some of your messages helps me but I think you're making assumptions too quickly sometimes

She didn't answered at all, my first message was "Hey [her name] it was great to meet you" An hour ago I sent her this: "It's not Gabi the great anymore (reference to the Great Gatsby, my name is Gabi), it's Casper the ghost XD. More seriously, I put myself in your shoes and I think that at the time you wanted to meet again because you seemed sincere and in the meantime, you had to change your mind for x reasons. I just wanted to wish you the best and that you are happy because we all deserve it!" It will be my last message, I move on

It's not about her, she didn't hurt me. I was hurting myself (yesterday) after a little bit of introspection, I felt better and today I feel GREAT, I will do my best to stop creating negative emotions when I'm ghosted or rejected and I will improve myself to attract a good girlfriend in my life. I understans totally womens, she didn't feel it afterwards and it's totally okay, she don't owe me anything ! I will not force myself if a girl doesn't feels right for me or if I sense something "wrong" even if our interaction was great and she seemed into me, it doesn't means anything, she can change her minds, girls don't think like we do.

Thank you for all your responses it helped me

It would be interesting if the girl in question could read this topic and know how you feel and WHY you did her "evil" shit

Yes I know I can attract girls even if I'm needy, when I had my first girlfriend, I was so timid, inscure, needy, skinny, and I didn't know any shit about spirituality. And I had one of the most beautiful girl in my life for two years. I didn't know it was possible because I didn't believe in me but I still ended in a relationship with her and she was in love. I had a couple of girlfriends after that but only toxic relationship because I ended up with girls that didn't had much in common with me (due to my neediness). So yes I'm very aware that I can attract some girls even if I'm needy but she didn't answered so I guess she changed her mind. And it's okay. I think she felt somehow afterwards that I was a little bit needy or that something was "wrong", girls are very sensitive for this, it's like they have a 6th sense and it's funny because she talked with me about her sensitivity. I will work to be less needy because I want to be authentic. I don't "try" to be different because I know that I'm already very different and the more I'm authentic, the more I express myself

Hey thank you . Now I feel good, I did a bit of introspection yesterday before going to sleep, now I've realized that it is no big deal at all. That it will still happen to me often. That it's just an indicator to me that I have (a lot) ofwork to become non-needy. That I get attached too quickly because of this. A random girl that I've talked to for 2 hours and a few things in common... It's nothing at all I don't have to get so attached! At least I'm proud of myself because I was quite confortable with myself, I was expressive, I smiled without feeling ankward, I was more authentic than before and felt good almost during the whole interaction. And no I never said Leo was perfect, far from it, he is smart and I like his content a lot but I don't compare myself to him or want to be him, I love being me. It's just that I resonate with what he told me about "not getting involved with a girl until you've slept with her". And like a fool, I thought I was going to be fine after reading and writing his advice in my wallet and that would be easy but the reality showed me that I didn't know how to do it because I didn't integrate it in me and I'm still needy.