Elton

What's up guys thus is Elton from actualized.org. and in this blog post I want to show you how to use negative emotions to self actualize. First of all it is very necessary to identify emotions and be honest about it. I am not really sure if I can identify with emotions and be honest about it because of the on and off meditation and yoga work that i have been doing over the past years or if i could feel them even when I wasn't doing this work. Never the less now when I experience a negative emotion I will use it as an indicator that something is not right and needs to be changed. Just like in Leo's vedio on how to stop comparing yourself to others when you feel jealous about others and start comparing to them it means that you need to look at that aspect to change. in using negative emotions you see your result because of which you feel bad and think why do you feel like this. Was there anything better you could do to avoid this situation or create a different situation ? start working on it right away once you get the answer. I have also realised at least in the last 2 negative episodes of my life that I have a choice to feel in the negative way or let go but I choose to remain in the negative emotion. So this is what i will use as an Indicator that i need to change something and gain insights in my personal life. So my fellow actualizes: here is an assignment for you'll Let know about your specific negative emotions and I want to help you find the indicator in it to self actualize. Even napoleon Hill wrote something along these lines that every negative event has a seed of an equivalent opportunity in it.

@Optimized Life thanks for the advise.

Hey. This is Elton from actualized.org. Through this post I will perform an experiment to see if awareness alone is really cureitive. So I have discovered this really disturbing side of me of latly where I'm totally comparing myself to others and not only that but I wish Ill for the other person. I wish ill for my childhood friends who have higher paying jobs than me, I wish ill for my colleagues who get better prevelages than me, I dispise my old friends who have settled abroad, I dispise friends who have a better romantic life, I despise people living in better houses, I despise people being on a higher posts than me, I despise people having better experiences than me, who travel different places and enjoy life. I wish that they all don't get what they have ! My name should be the despiser ... I'm am aware of my buring heart at the moment as I right this post, yes my bum burns.. I am a jealousy cat. Be a creator Elton.. be a fucking creator, competition is useless. Wait a min I'm beating myself up here.. Awareness cure me ! Cure me awareness... cure me ! I want to like it when people are doing well specially my friends, but I can't...I can't... I fucking cannot... I want to genuenly feel happy about their success but I can't, I don't. ?

@SQAAD can you try going back tobher today or maybe tomorrow and tell her that hey I dispise you because you treated me in a disrespect way yesterday and I'm truly hurt about it I felt very sad and unacknowledged when you behaved the way you did with me yeaterday. Maybe something was wrong with her personal life and that's why she treated you like that?

So there was this girl whom I asked for sex out of the blues and then she completely rejected me and not only that she blocked me from her whats app. Over the months I felt really bad as I didn't like being the creepy guy who was blocked, that not how I intended to be remembered, even though she obviously intuted that I wanted to use her for sex. So I asked for forgiveness and then she also forgave me and unblocked me too. I think she is an hr and I am doing a project in employee engagement so I asked her for help, then I called her like 2 times in the morning and then she msged saying sorry I was sleeping, so I called her again in the afternoon and she was like i don't think its a good idea to talk and my fiance don't like it. I was really sad as I really just seeked her help for the project. Maybe the rush in the msges to help me out came out to be too needy. No body I guess likes needy guys not even guys. Any relationships require patience and clarity of mind before starting a communication. It is true that you can revoke your feelings at anytime but I realised that I choose to feel bad, feeling may be necessary and help teach you and make you more aware... For eg. This bad feeling made me aware of how we must talk to people not only to use them but qith clarity to establish a human connection.

@Magnanimous the content I the book is magical. It was written long back ago but visualisation and affirmation techniques in it will surely help you think rich. You don't become rich when you have a million dollars in your bank account. You become rich when you think like a rich man. Follow all the techniques in that book and you will definitely be rich.

@Max_V sure

@Razard86 wow, thank you for noticing me and reading my post

After a great fall into the lower self ofcource because of an emotional trigger, I could come back and do the balancing act. So far ot has been 9 good weeks and 12 bad weeks, the goal is to maintain only good weeks and no more bad weeks. This is because the bad weeks are off balance weeks and I need to maintain the balancing act always. Whatever goals I have been setting over the years i have not having a great success rate but in the following year it automatically happens, for example when I was struggling with smoking I would achieve a 23 percent success rate, but eventually I quit completely. Now its about maintaining balance its less than 50 percent so far l, but I want it to be more than 90 percent. I need to maintain balance always such that this becomes second nature.

@Natasha or @Carl-Richard or any moderators can you move this post to my journals section ?

Attention..why is that I need attention from people ? Why do j need acknowledgement from others ... self acceptance is what's needed.. self acceptance is indeed the mother of self actualization. Just became aware about how when I am not acknowledged by people on this forum after giving some great advise I feel bad... Well I acknowledge myself I am so aware of my neurosis I'm proud of myself. I love myself

@Unio women love me. woman are attracted to me.

@Preety_India there is book 5 languages of love... So there are these 5 languages of love Touch Time Gifts Words of affirmation Acts of service Which one of these you would like the most that is your love language

There are even apps that support dating like tinder, hinge etc almost all my friends find their dates from there .. Live in relationships are also accepted since quite some years now..

Felt sad to see this post.

It's not how you describe in Mumbai, Banglore, Goa and Guwahati for sure, I'm saying this from first hand experience. I didn't even learn pick up... just from few attraction vedios ofcourse most of it from actualized.org. See some vedios on trippadvice.com on YouTube maybe it will help you out. Cold approach works as good in India as in any other country. Girls in North East India like assam manipur mizoram are very Liberal and you can easily ask them out. Obviously because of security reasons girls have build walls around them but you got to subcommunicate to a woman that it is safe having sex with you... how would you do that ? Think about it ... it's your duty to open up a girl.. (no pun intended ) Learn more about attraction, masculinity and femininity.@Someone here I know that girls from undeveloped villages too like having sex without the promise of marriage.. you got to be honest but about what you want. Being authentic is also a great tip !

@Sano Morphing you pursuing your life purpose and acing it is the certification in itself !

Just had an insight about me being jealous about my friend having a girlfriend and all.. The root cause is not that I'm jealous.. it is that my friend doesn't spend time with me anymore as he is always with his girlfriend. So actually it's a loneliness issue.. hmmm interesting..

Even I don't get it, I didn't want it, and I don't want others also to have it. Maybe I'm jealous of the happiness the other will derive as I remain unhappy. I'm neurotic. I don't think there would be anyone more jealous than me. Maybe shinning a light of awareness on everytime I'm jealous cure me. Maybe this thread should be moved to the journal section so that I can update every jealous episode.

@no_name I don't really think that they are bad for you, I think 4 to 5 times a week is good, hiit maybe 20 min to 30 min is very good and effective but you must do proper warm ups and cool downs. Nutrition also very important along with a clean diet. If you are worried about any damages in the long run you can do yoga exercises or poses. Or you can combine everything and do whatever makes you happy. One day running, one day hiit, one day weight lifting, one day yoga, and one day cycling/swimming / walking. Do whatever you want :-)

@Chrisd after I posted it the emotions have become milder. There was another awareness today, I refused one deal by my company they wanted me to go to Germany for training but it comes with a clause I would have to sign a 3 year bond with the company so I refused it. Now one of my new colleague has accepted this deal, and I am jealous about that too even though I have already been to Germany twice..

@Preety_India @Preety_India thanks for the advise

@Waken ya self love may do the trick..

@How to be wise haha

@Leo Gura hey Leo why don't you miss a single opportunity to pass some comment about Trump ? ? This makes me very curious.