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How I Lost 65 Pounds in 5 Months https://youtu.be/pYVjxSopKzw Struggle with obesity since childhood: Leo was overweight since third grade, leading to numerous limiting beliefs about his weight. He believed his weight was genetic, and despite various attempts at dieting and exercise, his weight remained a constant issue. Impact on confidence and self-image: Being overweight caused Leo to struggle with self-confidence, specifically around his appearance. This affected his social interactions and his ability to form intimate relationships. Inspiration leading to weight loss: Leo recalls an interaction with a girl in his college class. From this interaction, he began visualizing himself being in shape, confident, and in a potential relationship with her. Although initially a fantasy, this visualization sparked a surge of motivation and self-belief. Combating limiting beliefs and taking action: Leo was able to overcome his limiting beliefs about his weight being out of his control, and his resulting self-confidence issues. With newfound motivation, he began to visualize himself as fit and determined to make changes to achieve this image. Power of visualization and self-belief: Leo describes the powerful experience of his weight loss journey starting with visualization. His subconscious mind absorbed the visualization of him being fit, and he woke up with a strong sense of motivation and confidence. This profound experience ignited a self-belief that he could achieve his fitness goals. Adopting new habits for weight loss: In order to achieve his goals, Leo made a resolution to go to the gym five times a week. He also decided to cut out junk food from his diet, focusing on reducing caloric intake and cutting out food types that were contributing to his weight gain. Mental strength in resisting food cravings: Leo talks about the importance of mental strength and willpower in resisting the temptation of junk food. He emphasizes that satisfaction from achieving goals and seeing results far outweighs the temporary pleasure from eating junk food. Mindset towards food and willpower: Leo changed his mindset towards food—from indulgence to seeing it as necessary for survival. He built his mental strength to resist food cravings, and found satisfaction in his willpower and the results he was achieving. Approach to fitness and weight loss: Leo focused on long-term commitments and changes, choosing not to count calories but to focus on his feelings of hunger and fullness as an eating guide. He also began working out, starting off slow and not caring about how he looked at the gym. Ending the habit of overeating: Leo worked to overcome his habit of overeating by intentionally leaving small portions of his meals uneaten. He aimed to eat until he was moderately full but not stuffed, challenging his belief that wasting food was bad. Rapid weight loss: Leo lost 65 pounds in five months by committing to a structured approach to fitness and creating a calorie deficit through reduced food intake. He saw consistent weight loss which surprised others around him. Reactions from others to weight loss: Despite achieving his weight loss goals, Leo faced negative reactions from those around him, who were shocked at his drastic transformation and believed he was too skinny. Making changes in your life may upset others: Leo discusses the common occurrence of jealousy or resentment from others when one makes drastic positive changes in their life. They may feel threatened by your progress or inadequate due to their lack of similar changes. Permanent mindset and lifestyle changes: Leo emphasizes the importance of motivation and willpower in making big changes. His weight loss transformation involved permanent shifts in his beliefs and mindsets about weight, nutrition, and exercise. Focus shifted to overall health and wellness: Leo initially focused on weight loss, but his focus eventually shifted towards overall health. He began prioritizing his performance at work and in bed, realizing the potential for a healthier and longer life. His diet also evolved significantly, cutting out carbs, sugars, desserts, bread, and other unhealthy food options. Commitment to a New Lifestyle: Leo set himself two resolutions. He committed to going to the gym five days a week for the rest of his life, acknowledging that staying fit for the long-term would require consistent gym time. He viewed the gym as his means to control his weight, overcoming his prior belief that it was impractical for him. Cutting Out Junk Food: Leo decided to cut unhealthy foods out of his diet, intending to stop overeating. He gave up sodas, transitioning to iced tea with sugar substitutes. He quit eating sweets and desserts and even emptied his kitchen of all food to avoid temptation to snack. Starting Point: Leo admitted to having limited understanding of fitness, nutrition, and weight loss strategies. He initially focused on cutting calorie intake and avoiding overeating, rather than restricting specific types of food. Seeking Knowledge: Leo researched for guidance on weight loss and found an informative article about food cravings. The article emphasized the mental game of resisting cravings and established a thought process that helped Leo make lasting changes in his approach to weight loss and nutrition. Maintaining Change: Leo pointed out the importance of lasting change over quick fixes. The mental shifts in his attitudes and beliefs about weight loss, fitness, and nutrition were critical for his success. Not only did the changes lead to weight loss but they also allowed him to maintain his weight loss for eight years with relative ease. Resistance to Food Cravings: Responding to an audience question about resisting junk food cravings, Leo stressed the importance of mental strength and willpower in rejecting these temptations. He suggested prioritizing the long-term satisfaction of a fit body over short-lived pleasure of eating junk food. For Leo, his fitness goal and the results he achieved were more important than yielding to cravings. Leo's Resilience Against Cravings: Leo highlights that giving in to food cravings hinders maintaining a healthy body. He asserts that no food tastes as good as the satisfaction of having a fit body and achieving fitness goals. Leo boldly shares that he does not give into cravings or consume junk food. He suggests this is not about physical ability, but about mental strength and prioritizing goals over temporary satisfaction. He positions eating as a necessity and a means of achieving fitness, not a hobby or something to be indulged in for pleasure. Influence of IntenseWorkout.com article: Leo appreciates an article from intenseworkout.com that challenged him and set his mindset for weight loss. The confrontational nature of the article inspired him and sparked his motivation. Its core message was about having the mental strengths and willpower to achieve goals. Crucial Decision Point - The Klondike Bar: Leo had a defining moment when he fiercely resisted the temptation to eat a Klondike bar. Battling this craving was compared to overcoming an addiction. Succumbing to this desire could jeopardize his commitment to fitness and give way to other temptations. However, he resisted successfully, thereby setting a precedent for his willpower and the journey becoming easier from that point. Initial Workout Routine: Leo started going to the gym five times a week following a mixed routine of weightlifting and cardio workouts. He started slowly, with less intensity, not caring about how he looked and just focused on improving his physical fitness. Long-Term Commitment to Lifestyle Shift: Leo emphasizes his weight loss goal as a long-term commitment rather than a short-term diet routine. He didn't count calories and relied on his feelings of hunger and fullness to guide his intake. He also decided to challenge his habit of overeating by leaving small portions of food uneaten. His goal was to maintain a consistent exercise schedule and eating habits, making it a total shift in his lifestyle rather than a temporary change. Using the feeling of hunger to manage eating habits: Leo shares how he abandoned calorie counting or strict dietary rules in favor of using his internal feelings of hunger and fullness to guide his eating habits. Starting to leave food on the plate: He began by ensuring he left a small amount of food on his plate, breaking his habit of always finishing everything. This began with leaving one fry, and gradually escalated to larger portions of food being left uneaten. Breaking limiting beliefs around wasting food and hunger: He had to come to terms with the false beliefs that wasting food was bad and that hunger was an intolerable feeling. By leaving food on his plate and purposefully maintaining mild feelings of hunger, he was able to challenge these previously held notions. Adjustment to portion sizes and accepting slight hunger: Leo noted that restaurant portions are often too large, and he had been overeating as a result. By leaving food on his plate, he got used to feeling less stuffed and accepted a degree of lingering hunger. Purposefully remaining hungry to create a calorie deficit: On top of his gym activities, Leo worked on creating a calorie deficit by purposefully maintaining a state of mild hunger. This sometimes involved skipping meals or replacing large meals with lighter options. Loss of 65 pounds in five months: Combining his gym workouts and conscious under-eating, Leo managed to lose about 2-3 pounds every week for five months, resulting in a total loss of 65 pounds. This rapid and drastic change in his physical appearance attracted numerous comments from his friends, parents and family. The unexpected reactions from friends and family: Leo's extreme weight loss elicited reactions that were not only of shock and disbelief but also expressions of worry that he was too thin. This negative feedback made him realize how his environment and the eating habits ingrained during his upbringing contributed to his weight gain. Changing Dietary Habits: Leo Gura realized that he and his family used to have unhealthy eating habits, consuming large amounts of food and placing no value on moderation or healthy eating. Impact of Personal Improvement on Relationships: When a person makes drastic improvements, like losing weight, it can cause insecurity or resentment among friends and family members who have not made similar changes. This can sometimes lead to them holding the person back from making these changes, possibly due to their own ego or fear of change in relationship dynamics. Resisting the Influence of Others: Those who want to make significant changes in their lives may sometimes have to adjust their relationships or find new friends who support their goals, dealing with phenomena likened to crabs in a bucket where one trying to escape gets pulled back in. The Power of Willpower and Motivation: In Leo's weight loss story, a key learning was the role of willpower and motivation. Initially, much willpower was required to make the changes, but over time, his mindsets and habits shifted, meaning less willpower was needed to maintain healthy habits. If he misses gym sessions, his body naturally urges him to exercise again. Ongoing Commitment to Health: Leo now sees going to the gym and maintaining a healthy diet as a lifelong commitment rather than a short-term goal. His tastes have evolved over time, and he has adopted more health-conscious diets such as the paleo diet while reducing sugar and carbs intake. Expanded Goals for Fitness: Fitness goals evolved from simply looking good to improving energy, performance in various areas of life and long-term health. A proper understanding of weightlifting techniques and other aspects of physical fitness also became important as part of his wellness journey. Muffliato

The Most Interesting Problem in Philosophy and Science https://youtu.be/JL3tHS7v334 Importance of Phenomenology in Personal Development: Leo Gura discusses the significance of phenomenology, the study of first-person experiences, in personal development. Through phenomenology, people examine their own thoughts and experiences from within to identify consistent patterns. This inward focus contrasts with traditional science and psychology, which observe and analyze from the outside. Concept of Qualia: The concept of qualia, subjective properties of conscious experiences, such as colors and sounds, is explored. These qualities are uniquely personal and can't be explained fully using traditional scientific models. Acknowledging the reality and significance of qualia presents a unique challenge to science. Potential Downsides of Reductionism in Neuroscience: The current approach in mainstream science often boils down mental phenomena to neurological activity in the brain. However, despite advancements in neuroscience, aspects such as the subjective quality of experiences, such as the sensation of red, cannot be found or explained solely through examining brain activities. Self-Observation in Personal Development: Gura suggests that the first step towards effective personal development is active self-observation. Understanding our own experiences from a first-person perspective can lead to meaningful insights and personal growth. Molyneux’s Problem and Perception Study: Gura introduces the Molyneux's problem, a philosophical thought experiment about vision and touch correlation. A 2003 study found that those who gained vision after being born blind had difficulty distinguishing shapes based on sight alone, suggesting that the sense of vision and touch may be uncoupled. This supports the idea that our reality is constructed based on our experiences and perceptions. Exploring the Nuanced Interplay of Our Senses: This discussion leads to further examination of how our different senses interact and how our perceptions may shape our reality. It emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and exploring the complexities of our personal experiences in the quest for self-improvement. Subjective Perception and Projection of Reality: Explaining that much of our understanding of reality is us projecting our beliefs and experiences onto it. It urges us to question what aspects of our perception and understanding of reality are simply habits of thought or interpretation. Reverse Spectrum Problem: This philosophical concept asks how we can be sure that two observers perceive qualia – in this case, color – in the same way. The speaker posits the idea that my perception of red could be your perception of blue, but we both call it red due to agreeing on the label. It underscores the subjective nature of our experiences, which are only accessible to the individual experiencing them. Self Observation in Self-Development: Leo posits that self-observation and self-understanding form the foundation of self-development. He brings to the fore that we often deceive ourselves about how well we truly understand ourselves, while the truth gets surfaced as we progress in personal growth. Understanding Our Construction of Reality: Elaborates on the concept that our subjective experiences and reactions significantly influence our perception of reality, making us feel like we're living in a reality of our own making. When we start to realize this, we unlock the possibilities of taking better control of our thoughts, emotions, and reactions. Developing Inner Awareness for Effective Self-Development: Stresses on developing a robust understanding of the internal forces that drive us. In the context of achieving personal goals, understanding our struggles, successes, subjective experiences, and desires is critical. Introduction to Peter Spencekey and Georgi Gurdjieff: Leo mentions Peter Spencekey and Georgi Gurdjieff, who studied personal growth and wrote "The Psychology of Man's Possible Evolution". The book outlines what it takes to evolve as a human being and dealing with underlying challenges. Self Development as a Lifelong Practice: Asserting that self-development requires long-term commitment and is not just about quick fixes or isolated behavioral changes. Urges us to explore personal development as a way to deeply transform ourselves. The Long-term Commitment to Self Mastery: Leo Gura emphasizes that self mastery requires a long-term commitment to understand oneself better and gain control over oneself. This idea draws from theories proposed by Spence Key in “Psychology of Man’s Possible Evolution”. The Illusion of Power and Control: According to Gura, humans often believe they possess certain qualities and powers that they don't really have. This false self-perception leads to self-deception, which can hinder personal growth and self-development. Human as a 'Complex Machine': Gura compares humans to complex machines, suggesting that humans often overlook the need to study and understand themselves, despite their intricate nature. This lack of self-understanding leads to issues in changing behaviors, as many of our behaviors run on 'autopilot' — a result of unexamined unconscious patterns and routines. The Role of Self-Observation: Gura stresses the importance of self-observation in exposing unconscious patterns and behaviors. He suggests that stopping throughout the day to observe one's thoughts can provide insight into automatic behaviors, which is extraordinarily beneficial when attempting to make behavioral changes. Limited Powers of Willpower and Consciousness: Despite knowing our habits and routines, Gura points out that we often find it challenging to change them due to the limitations of our willpower and consciousness. This problem is compounded by the fact that we often operate in a low consciousness mode or on autopilot. Required Strategy for Effective Personal Change: Instead of relying solely on willpower, Gura proposes a more creative approach to change. He encourages outsmarting our own biology and thinking patterns, emphasizing the need for continuous observation and understanding of our own behaviors, feelings and thoughts. The Daily Practice of Monitoring Thoughts: Leo suggests a practical exercise for this: pausing a few times each day to monitor one's thoughts. This practice aims to raise awareness of the types of thoughts one predominantly has and the frequency of negative or unproductive mental states. Significance of Working on Negative Thoughts: By identifying and targeting these negative or unproductive thoughts, Gura suggests, significant progress can be made towards personal growth and development. Obliviate

Inner Game of Career Development https://youtu.be/mltXbRgFlOo Importance of Inner Game in Career Development: Leo Gura offers a detailed discussion about the importance of inner game in career development, especially for those passionate about long-term skill-based careers. He focuses on his personal experiences in the video game design industry, pointing out how certain internal challenges negatively impacted his career. Challenges Faced in Developing Design Skills: Leo spent a decade developing his design skills, incorporating fields such as writing, art, programming, marketing, and business acumen. However, he faced inner-game challenges that hindered his career trajectory and his ability to build a strong portfolio and rich experience. Concept of Career Capital: Leo introduces the concept of 'career capital', a combination of experience, skills, and knowledge that can offer more value to employers or customers. According to Leo, his career hurdles were mainly due to a lack of self-awareness and self-development. Impact of Unrealistic Expectations and Lack of Focus: Leo identifies impatience, unrealistic expectations, and a lack of focus as key issues that affected his career development. His desire for rapid career advancement and recognition, coupled with a lack of long-term focus, negatively impacted his success. Role of Focus for Long-term Success: Leo emphasizes the importance of focus for long-term success, warning that frequently jumping from one opportunity to another can prevent building the necessary experience and capital. A shift in career track or new business idea should be considered very carefully and treated as a long-term commitment. Specialization vs. Generalization: Leo raises the issue of whether spreading one's energy across various areas is better than focusing on a particular skill set. He suggests that as society becomes more complex, specialization becomes increasingly valued. Insight Gained from Self-Development: Leo reflects that knowing self-help and career development earlier in his career would have helped him effectively navigate his challenges. He suggests that understanding and managing one's inner game could eliminate blocks, improve relationships, and increase efficiency and sustainability. Problem of lack of focus and inconsistent dedication: Leo Gura emphasizes the importance of consistent dedication and focus in a career or business. He identifies that constant shifting between opportunities or 'dabbling' prevents the attainment of valuable core skills, leading to decreased success. He recommends investing time judiciously to develop these core skills which provide the most value in specific niches, as the key to achieving success. Feeling of inadequacy causing self-doubt and overworking: Leo Gura recounts his personal experience of feeling inadequate when surrounded by top-notch professionals, leading to self-doubt. He explains that this feeling of inadequacy can lead to compensating measures like overworking, undertaking more projects, or even starting a business, which may negatively impact one's focus and career progression. Instead, he suggests recognizing one's professional growth and demonstrating patience with oneself to prevent these issues. Challenge of managing multiple focuses and steering towards specialization: Leo Gura highlights the pitfalls of managing multiple functions like art, programming, marketing, and finance when operating a business or working on a project. He poses the question of whether spreading focus across various areas is the best long-term investment of one's time. However, he also accentuates the increasing societal value of specialization, suggesting that mastery in a specific skill set may offer more advantages in terms of employment or providing high-value service. Value of working on 'inner game' for successful career progression: Leo Gura believes improving the 'inner game' would have allowed him to sustain career progression more effectively and maintain peace in his job role. He elaborates that increased self-awareness and self-development could lead to the removal of inner blocks hindering performance, such as persistent problems with coworkers, self-confidence issues, or focus challenges. Incorporating sustainability and efficiency leads to long-term investment in one's career, eventually leading to a powerful position in an industry. Expelliarmus

Get Coached https://youtu.be/ZS3sOfs5jBY Untapped Potential and Life Purpose: Leo explores the concept of untapped potential, acknowledging how individuals can feel lost or sidetracked by societal or personal circumstantial pressures. He addresses the importance of finding one's purpose, not just discovering it but also maintaining focus and developing techniques to remain on track. He notes that internal limitations, not external factors like lack of money or opportunities, often prevent individuals from unlocking their full potential. Challenging Existing Mindsets: Leo challenges conventional mindsets that hinder potential, arguing that resourcefulness and strategic thinking are the keys to success. He states that the difference between those living fulfilling lives and those who aren't is their approach to problem-solving and their ability to take action. Aiming for Significant improvements: Leo expresses his enthusiasm to work with people interested in making significant (5x, 10x, or even 100x) improvements in their lives rather than just a 20% increase. Success for individuals could mean financial achievement, meeting fitness goals, an increased sense of fulfillment, or awareness and connection with the world. Coaching Benefits and Expectations: Clients can expect several benefits from coaching including clarity about their life purpose, strategies to move forward, improved resourcefulness and motivation, discovery of hidden potential, increased courage to pursue dreams, and enhanced time management and creativity. Clients can also anticipate accountability for their actions and support in maintaining the balance in all aspects of their life such as work, family, health, and personal development. Aligning Inner and Outer Game: Leo discusses the necessity of aligning one's 'inner game' (mindsets and attitudes) and 'outer game' (actions and behaviors). He assists clients in developing long-range plans and holding them accountable for their actions, emphasizing that coaching provides quick personal growth and self-mastery, hence creating a more fulfilling life. Inner game and fulfillment: Leo stresses that true fulfillment comes from your inner game, not from external successes such as financial success, reaching fitness goals or attaining material possessions. Even after achieving all of these, one can still feel unfulfilled without the right mindset. Excitement and purpose: Leo identifies the main feeling associated with a strong inner game as excitement - a sense of energy and aliveness that comes from knowing that you're on purpose, making a big impact, confident, and able to manifest your dreams into reality. Aligning and clarifying life goals: The coaching process involves clarifying your purpose, wants, and dislikes, as well as identifying strengths and weaknesses. Leo asserts that many people haven't taken the time to consciously think about these things, but doing so can make decisions easier and increase motivation and engagement. Feeling successful and accomplished: Leo aims to help clients feel successful and accomplished not only by achieving their goals, but also by putting them on the right track towards their long-term ambitions. This process is not a quick fix or magic pill, but it can instill feelings of excitement, success, and confidence immediately. Motivation and optimism: Coaching sessions with Leo are designed to inspire and motivate clients, leaving them feeling excited, optimistic, and positive about their future. If you aren't feeling positive about your future, Leo believes that something needs to change. Handling challenges and maintaining focus: Leo highlights the importance of being equipped to handle life's inevitable challenges, and of maintaining a focused, high-level mindset that enables you to execute actions and feel proud of your accomplishments. Starting coaching with Leo: Those interested in coaching can avail of a free, no-strings-attached 50-minute coaching session. Leo emphasizes that his focus is on providing value, not upselling and that he aims to work with individuals who are excited about unlocking their full potential and making significant transformations in their lives. Limited availability and free resources: Due to limited availability, Leo encourages anyone interested in coaching to reach out soon. He also pointed out free resources available on his website actualise.org, where he shares his experiences and provides advice on creating an extraordinary life. Expecto Patronum

Be Different to Be Successful https://youtu.be/mlIYVsuIofs Being Iconoclastic for Success: Leo Gura discusses in the video the value of being iconoclastic, which is going against conformity and rebelling against societal norms to achieve success. Based on his personal experience, Gura explains how he deliberately chose education and hard study, contrary to his peers, because he wanted to be different. This choice led him to value education and achieve success academically. The Downfall of Conformity: Conformity, according to Gura, often leads to mediocrity, especially in the business world. Businesses that follow popular trends tend to face intense competition and reduced profits. Iconoclastic businesses, on the other hand, carve their own niche, avoid market crashes and bubbles, and can acquire better profits. The Importance of Originality and Uniqueness: Iconoclasm also promotes originality and uniqueness, benefiting individuals seeking non-mediocre lives. Just like Gura, one must strive to do things differently to achieve different results from the majority, who often have unfulfilling lives. Avoiding Mainstream Pitfalls: Mainstream society, according to Gura, has common problems like laziness and a desire for quick rewards, which generate mediocrity. He uses examples such as lottery wins and get-rich-quick schemes to illustrate people's attraction to easy success, which often leads to disappointment in the longer run. Making Informed Choices: Finally, Gura warns that being different for the sake of it can lead to failure. Proper judgment is required when deciding to go against the grain, where one needs to evaluate if the contrarian approach provides value. Hence, achieving balance between following mainstream practices and creating one's unique path is vital. Appealing to mainstream desire: The video discusses mainstream society and the desire for easy wins with minimal effort, such as schemes claiming to provide easy money from home. This can backfire due to the oversimplification of complex processes. Laziness is discussed as a significant problem in mainstream society. The impact of convenience on health: Leo Gura talks about the impact of convenience on health. As it becomes easy to get food and other necessary resources, it may lead to abuse and neglect of health. For instance, the easy availability of junk food has contributed to obesity due to its high energy content and low nutritional value. Herd mentality and lack of originality: Leo admits that herd mentality and social conformity can hinder innovation and creativity. He argues that conforming too much can make it difficult to stand out, which is increasingly required in service-based jobs. He points out that originality and innovation are valuable in the marketplace. Unsustainability of groupthink in investments: Leo highlights how following the herd in investing can make certain ideas untenable. Group think could lead to unsustainable situations such as stock market crashes or the collapse of pyramid schemes. Disadvantages of oversaturation in markets: If too many players enter a market, it can become oversaturated which can result in diminishing returns for businesses even after they work hard. The importance of being original and idiosyncratic: Leo Gura asserts the importance of originality and idiosyncrasy in forming a unique personality. He shares his personal experiences and reflections on how he matured to appreciate people's quirks and unique mannerisms that he initially deemed as weird. Embracing and expressing quirks: Expressing personal quirks is seen as an essential part of self-expression and authenticity. Leo suggests that suppressing these original aspects can lead to a homogenized and unsatisfying life. There is an acknowledgment of the need for balance to avoid being labeled derogatorily. The value of standing out: Authenticity and "being oneself" can be polarizing but more rewarding as it attracts genuine connection and appreciation from people who understand and appreciate the real you. Balancing uniqueness and conformity: Leo suggests that individuality is important, but a balance between conforming and standing out is necessary. People should not worry too much about being universally liked and instead focus on expressing their true selves. This helps in building a magnetic and distinct personality, attracting those who appreciate the real you. Expression of individuality: Leo argues that peculiar behaviors or 'mannerisms' are what make a person unique and shouldn't be suppressed as they are reflective of one's personality. This means even if not all quirks are attractive, they contribute to making a person interesting and stand out from the crowd. However, he cautions about standing out in a negative or extreme way and stresses maintaining an overall balance. Drawbacks of conformity: Leo highlights that, though conformity sometimes leads to collective success, it can also precipitate massive failures in situations like stock market crashes and economic bubbles. When too many people flock to the same investment, resource exhaustion leads to the collapse of industries, bringing about detrimental consequences on a large scale. Constructive conformity: While emphasizing the dangers of herd mentality, Leo also acknowledges its advantages. For instance, the societal expectation to pursue education, trending technological advancements like the adoption of internet and PCs, can be beneficial when followed. Thus, collective tendencies can sometimes lead to personal or societal progress. Ideal Strategy for Success: Leo suggests the key to success lies in an individual's capacity to balance conformity and independence. To avoid blending in with the crowd, one should not disregard social trends or groupthink entirely but rather use them as indicators of opportunities while retaining their uniqueness. By adopting this approach, individuals can chart their own path to success. Muffliato

Why Life Coaching Works https://youtu.be/8cbtMhHpLC8 The Value of Life Coaching: Life coaching uses a method of inquiry, not providing advice but stimulating self-reflection through critical questioning. This is fundamentally distinct from consulting, mentoring, and therapy. Difference from Consulting and Mentoring: Whereas a consultant or a mentor would provide direct advice based on their own experience or expertise, a coach, instead, facilitates critical self-reflection and problem-solving in the client using thought-provoking questions. Contrast to Therapy: In comparison to therapy, which focuses on individuals with severe mental health issues, coaching aims to help functional individuals achieve optimal performance and growth. Value Generation: The value of coaching lies in its ability to stimulate deep thinking and self-reflection in the individual, disrupting ordinary patterns and revealing hidden mental barriers. The individual client possesses the solutions, and the coach's role is to guide them in discovering these. Coaching's Wide Application: Life coaching applies to various aspects of life, including personal development, business, relationships, habit change, etc., by facilitating a shift in perspective. Coaching's Efficiency: The effectiveness of coaching is dependent on various factors including the issues at hand and the aptitude of the coach. However, even a single session can sometimes have profound effects. Impact of Belief Systems: A key role of the coach is to help the client break free of limiting belief systems and thinking patterns. By providing an external perspective, the coach helps break the cycle of being stuck in one's own story and beliefs. Overcoming Resistance: Coaching is an effective tool in overcoming resistance to change and fostering a more progressive and open mindset. Rather than attributing a problem to being unchangeable or beyond one's control, coaching empowers the individual to see the situation from a different angle and discover alternate solutions. Coaching involves conscious and rigorous introspection: Many people aren't deliberate about setting their goals or specifying what they want and don't want, leading to assumptions in their thinking. Coaching helps bring these unconscious assumptions to light, enabling individuals to become more aware of their limiting beliefs and effect desired change. Importance of refraining from giving advice as a coach: As a coach, the speaker learned that addressing client’s inner issues, beliefs and experiences is more effective than offering direct advice. Everyone's challenges and perceived limitations are unique due their individual experiences and thought processes. Understanding the individual resistance to change: The speaker provides an example of an overweight individual avoiding the gym. If the person views the gym as a place of embarrassment, traditional advice like “go to the gym to lose weight" might not work. Understanding the specific thought and resistance behind the behavior is critical in identifying the true obstacles and tailoring an effective solution. Addressing the personal obstacle with personalized solution: Once the true obstacle has been identified, coaching tailors the solution to the client's specific needs. In the above example, if the gym represents time taken away from family, the coach could help the individual explore ways of combining gym time with family time, challenging the assumption that they are mutually exclusive. Coaching as a complementary tool to other self-help resources: Despite the value of other self-help resources like books, lectures, and seminars, coaching offers a personalized approach to self-development. It focuses on unraveling unique blocks and helping clients work through their distinct issues. Coaching and Personal Problems: Coaching helps in addressing personal issues and hang-ups which generic advice might overlook, especially when the problems are persistent and hard-achieved on one's own or with the help of self-help materials. Coaching and Individual Tailoring: Coaching provides a very individual-centric approach as it deals with specific inner issues particular to an individual, something few other services can accomplish. Coaching and Effective Questioning: Coaches often use thought-provoking questions making an individual think differently or in a direction they've not thought before. These questions can pause the person and make them contemplate, leading to revelations and breakthroughs. Broadening Thinking Horizons Through Coaching: Coaching facilitates the exploration of diverse decision and thought patterns, hence leading to different conclusions and directions. This helps the individual to break free from a limited automatic mode and become more conscious, aware, and deliberate. Coaching as Part of a Larger Puzzle: Coaching should be viewed as just one piece of the overall development process, not a complete solution. It aids in dealing with inner blocks and encourages new ways of thinking without necessarily providing specific advice. Coaching Independent of Field Expertise: Coaches don't need to be experts in specific fields as many blocks are more general and are related to psychological and human aspects, not the specific details of a business or field. Coaching and Business View: Coaching can be beneficial in altering the way one thinks about their business, even if they don't perceive it as a problem. A coach can help with motivation and unblock internal hindrances without specializing in the specifics of the business. Coaching and External Knowledge: Although coaching assumes that individuals have all the answers within themselves, it doesn't discount the importance of external knowledge, feedback, and advice. It is about providing real value rather than intellectual indulgence. Legilimens

How to Invest In Yourself https://youtu.be/C1QYF5WYzCo Importance of long-term investment mindset: Leo advises against short-term investment mindset which often leads to dabbling and jumping from one thing to another, while having a long-term investment mindset is beneficial for lasting success in various aspects of life, including career, personal growth, fitness, and relationships. Investment in career through built-up skills: Using career as an example, Leo elucidates that investing in one's career by continuously improving and leveraging valuable skills grants more career success and satisfaction. He implies that the key to becoming wealthy and successful lies in building and expanding one's knowledge and skills that are valuable to others. Emphasis on Skill Development: Leo emphasizes that time should be spent on improving one's skills and gathering experience germane to one's work. This not only makes an individual a valuable asset to others in the long run but also is the most sustainable path to becoming rich and successful. The concept of 'inner game' or soft skills: Beyond specific technical skills, Leo highlights the importance of working on 'inner game' or 'soft skills' including people skills, wit, humor, business acumen, and political savvy, which he argues might be even more crucial for success. Creativity and Originality: Leo discusses the significance of creativity and originality, particularly for artists. He suggests acknowledging and addressing any blocks or challenges that might be holding you back and exploring new ways to enhance and connect with your inherent creative abilities. Problems with short-term gains: Leo warns about the pitfalls of focusing on short-term gains versus long-term ones. He encourages viewers to weigh the pros and cons of each and underscores that focusing on long-term investment could potentially harvest bigger success and financial rewards. The Value of Brain-building: Leo argues that becoming wealthy and successful comes from 'building your brain', i.e., accumulating knowledge and skills that are valuable to others. With the growing demand for service and information provision in modern society, he highlights the escalating need for skill development. Enhancing Creativity and Overcoming Blocks: Leo speaks about the necessity of structuring one's life around creativity for more creative thinking throughout the day. He emphasizes the importance of resolving limiting beliefs or blocks that may prevent individuals, especially artists, from achieving success. This task may involve identifying challenges and breaking down the action plan into digestible steps. Building Confidence and Expressing Creativity: According to Leo, gaining confidence in expressive creativity involves concrete steps such as producing unconventional art, seeking feedback, mentally preparing oneself to step outside their comfort zone, and continually expanding this realm of comfort. This strategy, he notes, can apply to various aspects of life beyond art, such as weight loss, business, personal development, and relationship goals. Behavioral Change versus Underlying Issue Resolution: Leo makes a distinction between behavioral change and addressing underlying issues. He suggests that changes in behavior might not provide sustainable results unless the deeper problems are resolved. In this context, he emphasizes the critical aspect of one's thinking and perspective towards activities and contributions to overall success. Long-Term Investment Case Study in Marketing: Leo provides a personal example of how a long-term investment mindset played out during his stint as an internet marketer, specifically in the SEO field. He analogizes backlinks to value like diamonds, understanding that each link could bring significant revenue as it collectively contributes towards ranking the website high on search engines. Emotional Stability and Its Long-Term Impact: Leo advocates self-investment through activities that bolster emotional stability, specifying the long-term benefits such endeavors can bring about. There are immediate and indirect impacts on various areas of life, like work, relationships, and personal development. The resulting improvements—better work communication, lesser fights in relationships, deeper connections, increased focus, and resilience—though intangible, are invaluable in Leo's perspective. Future Discussions on Outer and Inner Game: As the video concludes, he indicates his intention to delve into the subjects of 'outer' and 'inner' game in future discussions, highlighting how coaching can aid these development areas. Polyjuice Potion

Mastery Part 1 https://youtu.be/_874QVgwvEk Practicing Public Speaking: Leo is working on becoming more comfortable with public speaking and producing video content. He discusses the necessity of practice when mastering a new skill, such as speaking on camera or self-development topics. Concept of Mastery: Leo introduces the core theme of the video, mastery, referencing the book "Mastery" by George Leonard. He highlights how the current culture is obsessed with immediate results and gratification, as opposed to investing effort into long-term mastery. Lack of Mastery in Culture: The video emphasizes that there is a lack of appreciation and understanding of mastery in American culture, unlike other cultures that value the time and effort invested in mastering skills, such as traditional professions in Japan. Understanding the Process of Mastery: Leo describes Leonard's concept of the learning curve involved in mastery, explaining it as an exponential growth curve filled with plateaus. He outlines the usual mistake of expecting a linear progression of skill development, leading to discouragement and quitting on reaching plateaus. Commitment and Love for Process: Leo suggests that to truly master a skill, it is crucial to accept and understand the commitment it requires, and to develop a fondness for the steady grind and day-to-day practice. This involves embracing the plateaus, where most of the time is spent, as opposed to desiring constant progress or gratification. Avoiding the Dabbling Trap: Leo warns about the trap of 'dabbling', where individuals begin learning a new skill, but give up at the first sign of plateau, underestimating the dedicated time and effort genuine mastery requires. Effective mastery involves recognizing the commitment needed and cultivating a love for the process, rather than seeking quick results. Mastering Skills and Enjoying the Grind: Understanding and embracing the repetitive nature of practice is crucial for mastering a skill. If the repetition of a task feels grindy and monotonous, mastery will never be achieved. Successful mastery involves loving and appreciating the fundamentals of a skill and repeating them consistently. Setting Realistic Expectations: Before undertaking a new project or skill, setting expectations is essential. Knowing precisely what one aims for and accepting the cost, or level of commitment and effort, required to achieve it forms the foundation of mastery. Importance of Loving the Practice: Cultivating a love for the process and daily practice is necessary because the majority of the time spent towards mastering a skill is in repeated practice. If the process feels like a chore and isn't enjoyable, it becomes more likely for one to quit. Understanding and Repeating the Fundamentals: Fundamental aspects of a skill make a significant contribution to the end result, thus highlighting the importance of mastering the basics of any field. Amid a culture that desires quick fixes, the importance of practicing fundamentals repeatedly is often overlooked. Recognizing Nuances and Capturing subtleties: Repeating a skill exposes one to subtle nuances and distinctions that aren't apparent to the casual observer. These subtle improvements get hardwired into the brain, transitioning the skill from conscious understanding to unconscious mastery, and thereby refining performance. Treating Failures as Learning Experiences: Failing multiple times is a crucial part of mastering a skill. Instead of striving for perfection from the onset, one should embrace a humble and learning mindset that treats every failure as a learning experience and opportunity to refine and improve performance. Humility and Accepting Imperfection: Mastery isn't about achieving perfection; it requires humility, a willingness to learn, and understanding that it's okay to look foolish initially. Striving for perfection from the get-go leads to unrealistic expectations and ultimately, failure. Instead, loving the process, practicing consistently, and not being afraid to make mistakes is the key to achieving mastery. Riddikulus

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A Christmas Prayer Forgive those Soulless Ghouls They know not what they do

A mothers eyes

The density of a cow

Leah look (click) Ta Da!

Dearest father, in life's shadowed play, I've glimpsed nights where the lost do stray. Ladies of dusk, their allure, a frost, Crowned not in gold, but in white lines lost. These streets whisper tales, both harsh and sublime, Echoing the dance of vice and time. Yet amidst this waltz, my dues are paid, In life's ledger, my mark firmly laid. Now, the hour chimes, it's about time, I reign in my kingdom, in my prime. With warmest regards, this course I stick, Your son, the master, through thin and thick.

Little big brother There's a little Cain on you no matter how Abel you are You were a child there and, You became an adult slowly there

The schadenfreude is strong with this one.

The dark side of the fig

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'Liebe geht durch den Magen" is a beautiful sentiment. I found some grains of truth to this in this podcast. You could use chatgpt to summarize the transcript and get to the point.

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