Lucasxp64

I have a patological psychological relationship which can be called Limerence (Liberant Object), which amplifies because the game I had done so far ended up being women that live very far. I had stopped doing it, but the last girl in specific that I had to let go due to ber bipolarity got stuck in my head as a strong Limerant Object. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence Here is an analysis of a recent one: > # Limerence is to love -- to masturbation is to sex > ## It might feel like the real thing, but it's not. 1. **You have a terrible fear of reality intruding upon your fantasy world**. 2. **You go through significant periods of being more and less limerent, and you don't know why**. 3. **You feel whole and lovable and complete in your own limerent fantasies in a way that you don't in your everyday life**. 4. **You prefer reflecting on the interactions you've had with your limerent object more than you enjoy actually having them in real time**. 5. **Your romantic fixation on a particular person is serving as a replacement for your genuine needs for intimacy, vulnerability, and true connection with other people**.

I think it was worsened 100x because I went cold turkey on trying to find somebody to go "monk mode" into my personal development/financial development, but this Limerant Object kept pounding on my head. As I learned more about this last chick because I began talking back to her this month of april, those delusions about her all went down hill. As I gave her comfort and acceptance to say anything to me, eventually she opened up to me she would have NEVER would have monogamous with me (As much as her words would say otherwise), and she would have cheated, because she is looking for experiences with many guys but she likes to experience it through a romantic quasi-monogamous lens, and she said she couldn't open up about that early on because she would get low quality people, etc. This whole thing with her revealed this massive shadow I have, which I began exploring closer, which is my addiction to falling in love with someone (Limerant Object), in this kind of delusional dark way.

Hahaha. That's right. The rest was about simply not fucking it up.

WARNING: THIS IS SATIRE! Seriously, how long this sort of shit will take to happen in the US where killings of protesters (to suppress free speech) will happen? I wonder historically, comparing with Nazi Germany would be a good idea (the breakdown of the government into a dictatorship), perhaps some other country's history.

I'm VERY concerned that this won't be satire anymore sooner than what we think. This isn't even just satire at this point, this is why I got it into the news section of the forum not on the fun/off-topic.

From: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mood_swing "Graphical comparison of mood swings, compared with bipolar disorder and cyclothymia":

I was thinking about this. Why the heck WASN'T I using those advanced spiritual insights to journal and visualize and create my matras that I can repeat over and over again to keep remind myself not to get lost in ways to see things that causes me, or has potential to cause immense psychological suffering. For example, when it comes to dating and relationships. What is the big fucking deal if I got cheated on? Why do I cling to that so much. And then, it originates all of those idiot behaviors that makes you behave clingy to a girl, making HER and YOU feel like SHIT by doubting her all the time. Why at this point not be like: "Oh well, I guess she was my monogamous girlfriend, but I think she is more like a fuck buddy" if some crap happens. My point is, your INITIAL EXPECTATIONS in EVERY SITUATION encodes emotionally in you powerful emotions, and those will keep getting triggered and calcified in your emotional brain and keep fucking up with your happiness. BE AHEAD OF IT, handle your expectations before it fucks you up. This isn't just about that, this is just an example. Another example is being a guy that has no girlfriend at all. How much undue suffering do we go by? Or all the suffering from doing approaches, being stuck in our heads, etc. Or making decisions in life, being in this CONSTANT dark cloud where every decision you try to make is always tainted by all of this emotional pressure coming from all sides. What if you just dropped that by framing from an enlightenment perspective? And you from that point on really take it seriously, really began talking to yourself like concepts of non-duality are actually the real deal, to stop hugging so tight on to your present moment emotional interest. Look around and see all those feelings, these people, those emotions, sights, sounds. They will be ALL GONE in your deathbed, and would you have wanted to waste your life suffering so much for no reason, because you take the present moment way too seriously, you let it get over your head and control you. Slow down. Look it from above, look at it from the detachment of a 10-year perspective. What if you had the chance to go back in time and redo all of this decade? This is your chance. See every moment as already gone before it even begins, and don't let it get under your skin. Don't build and fuel views of things that are clearly going to let you down eventually. We should go out there and live life, but inside, you're protected by BEING INTENTFUL that be against letting your mind dwell on suffering. Because for I, personally. I don't want to be an 80-year-old and seeing all of the life I wasted by suffering so much due to wrong expectations, due to ignorance that leads to suffering when expectations are not met, when we are away from the objects of our desire. Do not go so deep into desire unmindfully, always at every moment see pleasurable things by what they are, and that you will crave them, and you want to be free from the inevitable downfall. So that you can live fully and not be afraid of the suffering it will cause you to having those things removed from you. AND this must be done through daily practices in which you keep remembering yourself of those correct views. I think THIS is the kind of enlightenment most people seek. Where they can be finally able to see clearly every moment, and frame it in a way that doesn't echo further their suffering, over and over again, same karma, same shit repeating itself. You're like all of those other beings in existence, suffering over and over again crying over due to your wrong expectations and view of what reality actually is... Because you don't take it seriously to see it like that, you don't put in the time and effort everyday. You take more seriously getting pussy, or getting more money than this. Not that those things shouldn't be pursued... The key here is you must think about this about THE PLEASURABLE STUFF, and things are good fine in your life, and when things are also going terribly wrong for you or just neutral. --- AI generated thoughts from my insights above, using my GPT/SYSTEM PROMPT

There is also that book: "Antifragile" My Question over the book: What about for a personal routine? How can I make my daily routine anti-fragile in relationship to me always delivering on my daily key results/metrics of my main focus domain in life for a specific period. Answer:

Those family disputes are so energy draining. My mother literally tells me she wants to kill me with a knife, and I can't speak of what she truly is out loud when I do sometimes: A vengeful old person full of inner built up hate. Fortunately I know she isn't so deranged, she only ever once pointed a knife at me which I neutralized immediately. But be careful with crazy family members, if it gets too heated get the heck away temporarily, go take a walk.

She feels to me the female version of Rupert Spira. Nice soothing southern american accent.

I just talk away for hours like talking to a friend in private audios, then I dump the last week or so of audios it to an AI like notebookLM and ask it questions. I use Syncthing on my phone to Sync to my computer, so it's easier to dump it there. I talk to myself in those recordings, extremely unstructured rambles, I try to dump as many of my insights as possible. Sometimes I pick my phone at random during the day and I speak away my insights, my worries, concerns, solutions to my problems, etc. So I can always pick it up later by asking this AI about what I spoke about.

I think this can also even be a workflow for creating things. Most of the times my best ideas and insights comes from being in the flow of talking four several minutes, a lot of it will be pure repetitive ramble where you end up saying the same thing but slightly differently, but then at some point, it just clicks. The key point here, is that it just FEELS DIFFERENT TO TALK, than to write. Doing journaling by writing feels more dry, when I speak I'm able to be much more emotional and there is a certain energy. It also makes me feel better, I pretty much do that even when I'm feeling alone and I don't wanna dump to somebody all of my quirky specific problems, I just speak into the mic, or I make long pauses of several minutes to think deeply, with no pressure to respond to somebody at the other end, or getting my train of thought disrupted by some real time voice AI or a person on the other end. (just regular audio, none of that tap-to-talk bullshit specific AI interfaces will use, that makes me feel anxious).

Applied Intelligence is definitely the most important for success, pretty obvious.

Types of intelligence by Serge Faguet (He is a very goal-oriented entrepreneur, so he sought to improve those types in himself):

It's so funny to see the philosopher's conclusions to be basically a mirror of their personal lives. Like, Jordan Peterson is a good example. He is a guy with so much of that pent-up moralistic rage energy. And it translates so well with the ideas he is most enamorated about. Gabor Maté is right about him.

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I think high quality men and women is definitely a murky terminology, that brings the halo effect into it, or the opposite of halo effect. And people get all mentally confused. But I think in general the regular talk you can do that is politically correct of good men and woman is ETHICS/MORAL (How ethically Good are they as a person, a citizen, a father figure, a figure in their community, etc.). It doesn't include attractiveness, attractiveness or lack of it is generally politically incorrect to talk about. --- Like, I had some neurosis some time ago, and I had this weird thought experiment: Some girl that I loved, FELT TO ME, too attractive for me (I was having some low self-esteem thoughts), and thought that I had to tell her she was too beautiful for a guy like me... But what would she do? She was in love with me. Would she just introduce me to one of her less attractive friends? 😂 "Hey darling... So I know you love me, but you're too high value for a low value (average looking and broke) guy like me. I think I need to be with a lower value, less attractive woman instead. Maybe you introduce me to an ugly friend of yours, or maybe I wait until you gain a lot of weight or until you're old as heck" If I told this to her, this would be basically suicide of the relationship LMAO. It is so politically incorrect in so many ways, yet it is somehow too true in some ways. But at the same time, it is absolutely against my personal interests, it's an absolutely bomb of self-destruction that does nothing good. Or maybe I can do the opposite, if she said she was too pretty for me, I could say: Don't worry, I will wait for the inevitable decay of your beauty, and my inevitable gain in status and success so we can met each other half-way. --- There is a book on conscious relationships (Integral Relationships), and it has written the PRIMARY and SECONDARY fantasies men and woman have, and correlated to their spiral dynamics level. The primary is the obvious stuff This user had posted it before: ---- When it comes to the epistemology in general when it comes to dealing with humans, and stuff we are very biased about: We really don't know precisely people, people can be very random. Religion tried many times to describe what they are and what we are supposed to do, and how supposedly we would be happy this or that way, or political ideology, or internet "gurus". We try to sell to each other ideas of certainty, and meanwhile there are the ones that are all so very full of their certainty (The "Pervert" philosophically speaking) and we have "Hysteria" (Doubt)

Women that are more shallow they tend to want guys that are good at signaling status (ostentatiousness), meanwhile women that are more educated I noticed they tend to look a little deeper to read through their bullshit, even dig if they can afford that stupid car they own or they are deep into debt into for that crap. I mean, that different people will analyze status of others in different ways. Some of it is much more obvious and primal, like display of images.

By fakery I meant actual fakery. There are people that are actually wealthy and their instagram is shit. And people that are broke as heck but spent half a year's salary on the latest iPhone, or their instagram shows outtings but it's mostly staged and they don't even go that often. It is not trustworthy to the extent of a official bank statement backed legally, there are degrees to which it can be faked. But obviously, certain types of faking by themselves already signal resources to fake it to begin with. Like giving a diamond ring, even if you had to sell your used car to buy it. What doesn't matter to me are SIGNALS of status as a trustworthiness metric, from the point of view I don't take it as actual certain proof, not actual competence, unless that competence is the signaling itself. Actual competence can't be faked. This could be that people are looking for signaling of status itself, as the competence they look in a partner. Does she want to appear like she dates a guy that knows how to signal status? Is the signaling a competence? Of course signaling is a type of competence. I appreciate good images, great copywriting. Would I think I'm buying a course from a guy that is actually wealthy by simply looking at his rented house and cars? I wanna know the actual companies he built, this is how I can trust he is competent or not. It's because it's unrealiable. When I look at a hot woman she can't fake it. When I look at an instagram of some dude, that car could be rented, the clothing and jewelry actually cheap knock offs. But of course, some good well-fitted clothing always will look good. That is honest. But the fakery lies in the context behind it.

THIS. I feel like I'd fucking explode with high self-esteem. I had a girl that was a 8/10 in looks into me (I also had sexted with some others for briefer moments), but lived too far away for me to met. There is some type of woman I like, I get absolutely bonkers for, she was just that type. She could feel it, I was being so fucking creative and witty and funny with everything I was telling her, my tone of voice was deeper... It just did flow. Which doesn't happen when she isn't my type, or she doesn't show affection back. That was online. I wish I could bottle up that feeling and keep tapping into it at will. If I could be in that state with every interaction I got into. I felt like I was high on some sort of drug of how high motivation I had become, the rush of serotonin. If I had actually met her and we did the stuff we sexted about, I feel like I'd have literally become a new person. All of my little low self esteem personal stories would be all erased. Sometimes I try to brainwash myself into thinking: "What if I have had her already and just forgot?" So I can get that feeling again. It doesn't work, I can't trick my brain into seeing signals of high status that aren't there. Like if I had actually 10M USD in my bank account (or easily liquidable assets), and I knew it, I'd literally do stuff and behave in ways I wouldn't otherwise just by the knowledge of it. (This would be great copywriting for Leo Gura's new course on subconscious reprogramming): Feel like you have 100M in your bank account and had the most attractive and loving partner you could imagine, without actually having them. I believe this what I described is the Winner Effect (a term in biology and psychology describing how experiencing success, even in small ways, can lead to a heightened likelihood of future victories). --- If I can keep tapping on that, oh gosh, so sweet. I don't ever want to get used to beautiful woman.

The thing is that woman/people in general will respond to "honest" signals of wealth and status because their brains are wired for that. The societal stuff you mention, yeah, I mean... It is societal to recognize a expensive car, expensive clothing, high-status places, etc. But what matters it gets back to their limbic system and fires up the little spark in their cute brains. ("He is worthy of not being ghosted! Such a cutie! Oh gosh, look he even reads books and is into spirituality like I'm") I'm not stupid to fall for that shit, but my limbic brain still sees some dude in an expensive car as superior to me socially (But then, I won't get in debt for that.), emotionally we are just like the monkeys in the experiments, that will pay with their bananas to see pictures of the hot female monkeys and the photos of the competitors so they can watch out for the competition. And it is really fucked up, I agree. That we are so emotionally dumb like that. Now with AI Generated images, idk, this social media fakery will collapse, everyone will have high quality instagrams once it becomes indistinguable from reality those status signaling through digital images.

Btw, the low quality vs high quality stuff is basically already defined by Sexual Market Value. And I know, there is a philosophical point behind "Good" vs "Bad" (Same thing for low value vs high value) as in (Good is morally good peasant, and Bad is the morally bad but mighty war lord. Or... The opposite subversion of the words: Bad is the poor peasant that is unskilful and lacks power, Good is the war lord that is mighty with the sword and his conquest, even if unethical). You're getting tripped up on the semantics our society uses for bullshitting itself, and of course, it is a very serious problem. But relationships are about shallow survival mostly. But within that, I can have a girlfriend that finds me hot and attractive enough to discuss about this kind of stuff, as long as she is happy enough with me. This guy here has the best most well equilibrated view on it, he isn't doing it out of the bias of a pick-up artist trying to get laid: His book "The value of others" is amazing.