I am fortunate I've never been addicted to success.  I had my head in the philosophy books too much for that.  So I had the opposite problem, kind of an eschewing of success, a pooh-poohing of success.  And that caused a lot of suffering in my life and for my business.  I think there's a balance.  Do your business, but try to keep it as green as possible.  Chasing success was something I was never able to do, although there were moments in my life where I really wanted to.  Those all backfired on me.  Ego ultimately backfires.  Business isn't inherently bad though, as long as you keep your priorities straight and your head screwed on tight.  Business is a way of sharing your gifts with the world.  I have a little business myself which could use a couple heaps of love and care.  We forget that our businesses are like organisms, like systems, which need the right kinds of care to survive, let alone flourish.

No, it's the opposite. It's an escape from spiritual practice.
The mind is extremely crafty. It's sole job is to keep you a hamster in a wheel.
It may appear arrogant, but I'm just explaining a deep dynamic of how the egoic mind works. It's nothing personal.
A proper move in relation to living life and being a good human being. This is not a subjective thing. If he did what I'm saying, he himself would come back in 10 years and tell you, "OMG!!!!! I was so wrong that way I used to live. My life has been saved."
It's sorta like you find a mental patient hitting his head against the wall and you tell him, "Hey, it would be better if you stopped doing that." And he responds, "What?!! How dare you tell me what will and won't make me happy! Do you really claim to know what will make me most happy in his life? You're so arrogant!"
With a bit of awareness, it's not a giant leap to realize that hitting one's head against the wall cannot lead to happiness, no matter how well its done. This is not a matter of personal style or values. It's just a feature of being human. Humans don't like getting their heads beat in.
Success has zero to do with happiness. Success is about ego-perpetuation. Success is specifically designed to NEVER make you happy. Because that's counter to what is necessary for the ego's survival. The ego wants you in constant action without fulfillment. Because fulfillment means the end of action under that paradigm.
Look behind all the sophistication, and you'll see that Elon Musk is just a hamster in a wheel chasing an imaginary piece of cheese. A chimp in outer space is still a chimp.
I don't say that to be mean to Musk. He's a decent guy trying to do the best he can. And he's certainly better than 90% of businessmen out there. But I say it because there's a deep lesson here that you guys are still failing to grasp: the ego utterly dominates all your motivations and desires. So much so that you're having a hard time seeing it. It has corrupted you through and through.
This has nothing to do with me chasing enlightenment. Or trying to preach enlightenment at people. I just understand success. It's EXTREMELY addictive. There's really very little difference between a heroin addict and a businessman, other than how our culture frames it. Except businessmen are actually 1000x more dangerous and harmful to society than heroin addicts.
Start to mindfully observe how every day you're being a hamster in a wheel. You will be SHOCKED at what you find. Don't be surprised if a few days of such careful observation sends you into a depression. That's about appropriate.
Success is like food. Some degree of it is necessary for survival. But you can eat consciously, or your can eat unconsciously the way 99% of people do.

@Edvard You cannot escape the consciousness problem. Going to Mars will not solve anything. All your consciousness problems will come with you. If humanity cannot make on this planet, it certainly won't make it on Mars.
I'm not saying he has to become an enlightenment teacher. But he would benefit from becoming enlightened himself. That would give him a proper sense of priorities and recontextualize all his technological striving. It would also make him happy.
What is the point of changing the whole world if you cannot be happy? Sacrificing one's own happiness is NOT a solution. It's ignorance. If even a billionaire cannot be happy and pursue consciousness, what hope does that give the rest of the world? It says we're all screwed. Given his power, he could have a massive impact on the world's collective consciousness if he first became conscious himself.
All this just goes to show the depth of the consciousness problem. It's VERY deep.

A) You cannot accept something you're not conscious of. His "sacrifice" is out of ignorance.
B) He would be able to help humanity more if he first made himself consciousness of what consciousness is.
C) What humanity needs most is not more technology, but consciousness! We have enough technology to all live happily forever. What we lack is the consciousness necessary to do so. Technology without consciousness is the greatest existential threat to humanity. So he may very well end up killing us all. That's what happens when you put the cart before the horse.
I don't want to sound like I'm criticizing him or that he's a bad guy. He's not a bad guy. He's doing the best he knows. He's just not conscious of the bigger picture and how he's robbing himself of joy.
Jesus wasn't kidding when he said: "It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God." That's the case here. When you have 15 billion dollars, it's extremely hard to give up that kind of power. You become its slave.

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[] DPT: The Other God Molecule
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I def know she wasn't looking to end it.

As soon as I told her the truth she got so offended that was the end.
The truth was a dagger to her heart.

My girlfriend once asked me that.
I skillfully dodged the question with a distracting joke.
But then I went to sleep that night and didn't feel right for dodging the truth.
So next morning I called her and told her her butt was fat.
That was the end of that relationship.
The cost of truth.

When I say « real mathematics » what I mean is the good way of doing math to me. The effective way. The productive way. The way of doing math where you are actually doing real work rather than just superficially jumping hoops when everything deep has already been prepared for you. 
It would requires to come back to the very basis of maths. Having a very good theoretical foundation and then building your reasoning on a solid ground where you actually understand everything that’s happening. Understanding the demonstration of the theorems and tools you are using is very useful. You can spend days on that while your classmates will laugh at you saying that they just use the theorem and it is working and that you are just wasting time. The problem though is that when confronted with an exercise that requires you to visualise with precision. They ll be completely lost whereas people who did the real work will have a chance to see and solve the problem. 
 
But in most universities you’ll never have or very rarely have such exercices. It’s like maths is finding you way in the Amazon forest and maths taught in school are more likely to be a fake artificial forest where every interesting skills that are requires in the amazon forest are no longer useful and now you just need to learn that when you see this you should turn left and when you see that you should jump…
(ps: I might be a little hard though. maybe in the top top universities, something close to the real work can be done)
 
 

I used to be bad at math in high school, but then there was a girl in my class I had a crush on, who was a straight A student and was always competing with others, especially in math. I decided to impress her and started putting effort into math and soon became an A student as well. I ended up dating her and after our little romance, my interest in math dropped down, which led me to have an epiphany that my grades were precisely proportional to my level of motivation. So I learned that I really wasn't bad at math, but I just had never had proper force motivating me before. 
Chances are that you are suffering from lack of motivaton, or the feeling of powerelessness. If it's the latter, then it's good to remember that in the end it's actually a really small area of math you need to handle in those tests; usually it's just statistics. It's a small area but challenging enough to require effort and input. It might seem overwhelming, but once you get on track, it starts making sense surprisingly much. If you can't put in the effort, then it might not be a bad idea to check  your motives one more time.
I know people who applied to psychology. One guy I know got in the secound time he applied, another one applied at least 4 times, not sure if he ever got in. What seperates those two people is the fact that the guy who got in worked his ass out and attended a math course that was designed for the test, whereas the other guy didn't. And guess what, the guy who got in was bad at math.
 

I was bad at math too. It was my weakest area.
You can just buckle down and grind through it. It won't matter once you get a real job. No one cares about your math.
But only you can decide whether quitting is right for you. Don't outsource your executive decisions to others. That's a bad habit.

Well, in that case you are not ready for marriage, I would say. You need to get the fucking out of your system, burn through that karma.

This is where training and growing some balls comes in.
The reason women get horny for guys is because they crave leadership. When you fail to lead you make her vagina dry. Nothing is more pathetic than a man who cannot claim his vagina.
What is the contradiction? One turns into the other.

Read again what I wrote.
"Grossly inexperienced with women"!
If you don't escalate it IS because you are too afraid of rejection and also you are disconnected from your own sexual desire for her.
If you listened to your sexual desire you would escalate rather than doubt yourself.

@Leo Gura this Forum saved my life so many times throughout the years!!
Just saw that I've created my account in 2017, in other words 7 years listening to Leo and participating in the community, so much happened in my life because of that, I did the Life Purpose course and found out I wanted to record videos about personal development and psychedelics, but when I finished the course I was a little confused because Leo said to be careful not to mistake his life purpose with our own, so I let it marinate.
It took me a while to actually get things out of the paper (mind), I remember at that time when I did the LP course I had bought a professional camera and light equipment to start recording, those were not been used for three years and I decided to sell. Then in 2020, I started recording videos with my phone and that is how I still do, because what is important is what I am saying and the people I'm helping not the quality of the video. I beat resistance daily, I always think this video is so silly why am I going to post (those are the videos with the most feedback). So if you are insure of things in your life my answer is, take the first step. 
Reid Hoffman said — “If you are not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you've launched too late.” 
I developed a thick skin lol at that time when I finished the LP course even tho I had  all the equipment I lacked the confidence, which just came with experience, fail again and fail better, I finally stopped playing small and put myself out there and let me tell you, what a riiiide!
It's been such a blissful journey, I could not create this vision if it wasn't for Leo, and his harsh approach lol it really shook me off. I receive so many messages of people that follow my content being grateful for the insights. It's so beautiful and I could not imagine living such a fulfilling life. Leo helped me to build my vision, I am beyond grateful. 
I recently started interviewing English speakers (my channel is for my public back in Brazil) and would like to share with you all. 
I remember watching the spiral dynamics video and being in complete awe, and thinking wow people in Brazil would love to know about this, and I recently recorded a series on Spiral Dynamics for my channel, it's really a dream coming true. I am learning while also teaching. So excited for what is to come!
Thank you for this beautiful community, Justin for being my trip sitter and friend when I explored 5MeO DMT. Thank  you Seronotinlove guy for the words of wisdom (not sure if he is still active), for Jose (also not sure if he is still active, he brought so much humor to my journey. Thank you for my best friend Isis who I also met here in the forum (she is also brazilian). Thank you Erik for sending me a message and start the whole idea for the this video @flowboy, we went so deep, such a beautiful convo. Thank you for all the people I met here throughout the years. Love you all!!
 

If the woman leads him on and makes it seems like sex will be happening, and then pulls the rug out from other him -- then yes, she's also behaving in a hurtful and asshole manner. Some girls do that and it is infuriating. Not because they owe sex, but just because of the way things are lead on.
Ghosting someone after sex is very cold. It's obvious this hurts people. At the very least you could say something like, "Hey, I had a great time with you last night but I don't feel you are the right one for me long-term and I don't want to waste your time leading you on. Sorry."

This sounds good in theory but in practice there are strong expectations with these things.
From the guy's POV, just some simple easy sex is all win-win. But that's not how it is from most girls' POV.
Obviously in the OP's case he felt he won and she felt she lost. It was not a win-win for her as you imagine.
When deep intimacy is built, especially using spiritual lingo and techniques, and then converted into a ONS, this can be very hurtful. It leads the other person on.

Yeah, that is a classic newbie problem. You gotta train yourself to talk your mouth off about yourself. Be totally self-absorbed. Become a chatterbox. Don't hold any thoughts back. Talk about your opinions, desires, hates, plans, feelings, etc.
Talk about the smallest, dumbest things like how you were flossing your teeth today.
You can practice at home in front of a camera. Record yourself explaining how you ate breakfast today and how you felt about it. Make it sound interesting. You gotta turn ordinary life into stories.
STOP BEING LOGICAL in your conversations with girls! That is crucial. Untrain your logicalness.
A good trick is, rather than asking questions, make observations and statements. So instead of asking, "What do you do for work?" or "Where are you from?", you make random or informed guesses like, "You seem like a California girl" or "You seem like you work in marketing."
It makes no difference if your guess was right or wrong.
You can even make the dumbest observations such as: "Hey, did you know you're sitting next to a palm tree? Did you bother to think about it's feelings? What if it hates when you sit so close next to it? What if you smell like a skunk to the palm tree? Why are you so inconsiderate? "
This kinda stuff is gold, but you gotta train yourself to be this stupid.

Once you approach 1000s of girls, you will know why they reject you without having to ask. You'll know better than they do. Until then, you'll be scratching your head a lot, wondering WHY? WHY? WHY?!!!
If you ask girls for attraction advice, they will more often than not mislead you.
It's not the girl's job to do your job for you. It's like you're a lion asking a gazelle how to hunt it. It's not in the gazelle's self-interest to tell you. The whole point of this process is for her to screen you for honest signals of worthiness. This is a serious matter. She's not gonna risk fucking you if you're weak. And she certainly doesn't want to logically analyze the matter with you.

Although it may not be the most attractive thing women would choose if they voted, having amazing charisma is by FAR the most effective attribute for getting laid, and/or getting a relationship. It's the only thing you can have by itself while lacking all others that will guarantee you success. You can be a hot wealthy actor with a lot of status but if you have absolute shit charisma you are going to struggle with women, except for the ones that want to use you for money.
Charisma is basically a cheat code. Forget just getting women, that's small fish. If life is a video game, then charisma is the most overpowered stat you could have maxed out. You can manipulate, convince, and charm your way into and around almost any situation you encounter. Most people don't actually give a shit about substance or evidence, they just want to feel good - and a charismatic motherfucker can do that.
If you want to know how powerful it is check out the story of Frank Abagnale. His life demonstrates this perfectly. He was a con artist who cheated his way into becoming a doctor and a pilot lmao. There is a great movie made after it too called "Catch Me If You Can" with Leonardo DiCaprio.
I used to have zero charisma and was probably borderline autistic growing up in most social situations, then in my early 20's I worked a lot on it and although I'm not that charismatic compared to most people the results and success in my life have gone exponential from that one change.

? your wish is my command, 2 wishes left, choose them well. ?
In the comment the women part was left at the bottom of each paragraph. 
These fantasies run deep in our unconscious, are almost impossible to transcend and their fulfillment is the prerequisite for any romantic interest in a member of the opposite sex. We’re going to refer to them collectively as the Primary Fantasy. All other qualities that lovers typically seek in a partner are secondary to the Primary Fantasy and usually gender-neutral. 
Primary Fantasy: Men are conditioned to be physically attracted to young (or at least, younger), vital, and healthy-looking females with smooth skin, shiny hair, well aligned complete white teeth, symmetric facial and body features, wide hips, small waists (ideally with an 0.7 hip-to-waist ratio),65 sparkling eyes, and full breasts, which are all indicators for fertility and the ability to bear healthy children.66
Secondary Fantasy: Shared values, interests, lifestyle choices, temperaments, plans and dreams for the future, and compatible needs around time spent together, money, and sex.
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Unfortunately attraction is primitive. The secondary fantasy becomes more important as men mature and reach higher levels in sexual stage (stage 4+), spiritual stage and anima/animus stage developments. They are more likely to seek woman based on secondary fantasy compatibilities. 
Couples with similar lifestyle choices, interests, intelligences, and passions, who are at the same level of their consciousness, spiritual, sexual, and anima/animus complex development, with opposite feminine/masculine polarities and complementary personality types experience the most fulfilling long-term partnerships. These compatibilities allow them to enjoy their sexual attraction and synergy, and to resolve conflicts by the same means until they grow apart in their developmental lines or lose their opposite sexual polarities. Partners with minor differences in their horizontal stage development may be able to get along and support each other in their growth, while couples with larger discrepancies will experience conflicts that are irresolvable once the initial hormonal rush that impaired their rational perception and made them look at each other through rose-colored glasses wears off, and the day-to-day reality of life sinks in.
 

The parameters that define male success in the eyes of females significantly increase in complexity with each level of her consciousness development, while the definition of sexiness that makes females attractive to males (a healthy body, sexual availability/radiance, and support of his vision) is consistent throughout human evolution, across cultures, and within vertical stage development of men.295
In the archaic beige stage of consciousness development (1% of U.S. adult population), male success is defined by day-to-day survival skills. In females, a healthy sexy body that indicates fertility and sexual availability are seen as attractive.
In the superstitious purple stage (10%), male success is defined by the ability to adapt to their immediate natural environment, cleverly exploit its resources, appease threatening ghosts or spirits through perceived magical powers, and loyalty to their family clan, band, or gang. In females, a healthy sexy body that indicates fertility, sexual availability, and healthy instincts are seen as attractive.
In the egocentric red stage (20%), male success is measured by their level of independence, confidence, aggressiveness, potency, creativity, and ability to cleverly exploit others for their own immediate gain. In females, a flashy sexy body, a high “fuck ability” factor, and respect for his needs/attitude are seen as attractive.
In the conformist blue stage (40%), male success is measured by their level of reliability, job security, and devotion to family, religion, and country (the conservative, consistent, law-abiding husband). In females, a healthy sexy body, sexual willingness, elegance, and devotion to him are seen as attractive.
In the rational orange stage (25%), male success is defined by their levels of income,296 future earning potentials,297 overall net worth, displays of status symbols (e.g., Rolex watch, luxury car, designer clothes, penthouse apartment, or mansion—and lately some pseudo-environmental consciousness, for example driving a hybrid or electric car, or installing solar panels), social status, advanced degrees and titles, professional achievements, international travel experience, ambition, cleverness, wit, generosity, and physical fitness (the winner). In females, a healthy sexy body, being “sex-positive,” physical fitness, classiness, and support of his mission are seen as attractive.
In the pluralistic green stage (10%), male success is evaluated by the amount of available time, level of passive income, accumulated wealth, altruism,298 emotional availability, environmental awareness, natural health consciousness, worldliness, and sensitivity (the affluent, kind, semiretired activist, philanthropist, healer, teacher, artist, etc.). In females, a naturally beautiful, healthy, sexually radiant body, and support for his vision are seen as attractive.
In the Integral teal and transpersonal turquoise stages (4%), male success is defined by increasing wisdom, ability to integrate all the healthy qualities from the previous stages (survival skills, natural instincts, power/creativity, devotion, financial success/status, and sensitivity), and embodiment of higher state-stages of spiritual realizations and ego transcendence. In females, a healthy sexy body, sexual shine, skills as a tantric lover, and ability to meet him as an opposite and equal at the level of all seven chakras in kind and degree are seen as attractive.

I used to have a massive habit tracker of 10-15 things to do everyday and I was quite rigorous with it. Now that doesn’t resonate so much anymore and I let go completely of any kind of to-do list for a while. Yet I still like to have an oversight of the things that are good for me. But just writing them down as a list didn’t seem very appealing either… So I’ve carried this idea of an inspiring to do list with me for weeks… I knew there was something forming in my head but I could never quite grasp it. Yesterday I was so relaxed and it suddenly just clicked. In a matter of 2 minutes this was on paper. Intuition just never lets me down 

I love how it has this kind of aliveness to it… Probably because it contains all fibonacci numbers Very pleased!

@Princess Arabia values are not attractive, A girl who is into self development and a girl who is not are equal. Attraction is a very primitive thing it does not depend on higher order brain function. A mature Person is going to suppress lower order brain function to consult their values and higher thinking to make an informed relationship decision, but that is not what they are attracted to at the primal level.
A woman who is confident and in a leadership position and says what they want, basically more masculine is not attractive traits to men. It’s actually repulsive unless the man is feminine and wants a leader.
A girl strong into her feminine side displaying chaos and fun is 10x more attractive than any woman who has all her shit together.
Young girls operate more under their lower order brain function and it takes them decades to learn to consult higher order brain function to make informed relationship decisions.
The mistake women make when trying to teach men how to get laid is the focus entirely on their higher order ideals that don’t represent how there lower order attraction system works because most women cannot see how their own attraction system operates.
Because higher order ideals are in conflict with lower order impulses Creating a rejection and the ego Blindspot.

Cause they do. It's not a moral judgment, just an empirical observation.
I've seen what kind of guys get laid the most.