@Leo Gura this Forum saved my life so many times throughout the years!!
Just saw that I've created my account in 2017, in other words 7 years listening to Leo and participating in the community, so much happened in my life because of that, I did the Life Purpose course and found out I wanted to record videos about personal development and psychedelics, but when I finished the course I was a little confused because Leo said to be careful not to mistake his life purpose with our own, so I let it marinate.
It took me a while to actually get things out of the paper (mind), I remember at that time when I did the LP course I had bought a professional camera and light equipment to start recording, those were not been used for three years and I decided to sell. Then in 2020, I started recording videos with my phone and that is how I still do, because what is important is what I am saying and the people I'm helping not the quality of the video. I beat resistance daily, I always think this video is so silly why am I going to post (those are the videos with the most feedback). So if you are insure of things in your life my answer is, take the first step. 
Reid Hoffman said — “If you are not embarrassed by the first version of your product, you've launched too late.” 
I developed a thick skin lol at that time when I finished the LP course even tho I had  all the equipment I lacked the confidence, which just came with experience, fail again and fail better, I finally stopped playing small and put myself out there and let me tell you, what a riiiide!
It's been such a blissful journey, I could not create this vision if it wasn't for Leo, and his harsh approach lol it really shook me off. I receive so many messages of people that follow my content being grateful for the insights. It's so beautiful and I could not imagine living such a fulfilling life. Leo helped me to build my vision, I am beyond grateful. 
I recently started interviewing English speakers (my channel is for my public back in Brazil) and would like to share with you all. 
I remember watching the spiral dynamics video and being in complete awe, and thinking wow people in Brazil would love to know about this, and I recently recorded a series on Spiral Dynamics for my channel, it's really a dream coming true. I am learning while also teaching. So excited for what is to come!
Thank you for this beautiful community, Justin for being my trip sitter and friend when I explored 5MeO DMT. Thank  you Seronotinlove guy for the words of wisdom (not sure if he is still active), for Jose (also not sure if he is still active, he brought so much humor to my journey. Thank you for my best friend Isis who I also met here in the forum (she is also brazilian). Thank you Erik for sending me a message and start the whole idea for the this video @flowboy, we went so deep, such a beautiful convo. Thank you for all the people I met here throughout the years. Love you all!!
 

If the woman leads him on and makes it seems like sex will be happening, and then pulls the rug out from other him -- then yes, she's also behaving in a hurtful and asshole manner. Some girls do that and it is infuriating. Not because they owe sex, but just because of the way things are lead on.
Ghosting someone after sex is very cold. It's obvious this hurts people. At the very least you could say something like, "Hey, I had a great time with you last night but I don't feel you are the right one for me long-term and I don't want to waste your time leading you on. Sorry."

This sounds good in theory but in practice there are strong expectations with these things.
From the guy's POV, just some simple easy sex is all win-win. But that's not how it is from most girls' POV.
Obviously in the OP's case he felt he won and she felt she lost. It was not a win-win for her as you imagine.
When deep intimacy is built, especially using spiritual lingo and techniques, and then converted into a ONS, this can be very hurtful. It leads the other person on.

Yeah, that is a classic newbie problem. You gotta train yourself to talk your mouth off about yourself. Be totally self-absorbed. Become a chatterbox. Don't hold any thoughts back. Talk about your opinions, desires, hates, plans, feelings, etc.
Talk about the smallest, dumbest things like how you were flossing your teeth today.
You can practice at home in front of a camera. Record yourself explaining how you ate breakfast today and how you felt about it. Make it sound interesting. You gotta turn ordinary life into stories.
STOP BEING LOGICAL in your conversations with girls! That is crucial. Untrain your logicalness.
A good trick is, rather than asking questions, make observations and statements. So instead of asking, "What do you do for work?" or "Where are you from?", you make random or informed guesses like, "You seem like a California girl" or "You seem like you work in marketing."
It makes no difference if your guess was right or wrong.
You can even make the dumbest observations such as: "Hey, did you know you're sitting next to a palm tree? Did you bother to think about it's feelings? What if it hates when you sit so close next to it? What if you smell like a skunk to the palm tree? Why are you so inconsiderate? "
This kinda stuff is gold, but you gotta train yourself to be this stupid.

Once you approach 1000s of girls, you will know why they reject you without having to ask. You'll know better than they do. Until then, you'll be scratching your head a lot, wondering WHY? WHY? WHY?!!!
If you ask girls for attraction advice, they will more often than not mislead you.
It's not the girl's job to do your job for you. It's like you're a lion asking a gazelle how to hunt it. It's not in the gazelle's self-interest to tell you. The whole point of this process is for her to screen you for honest signals of worthiness. This is a serious matter. She's not gonna risk fucking you if you're weak. And she certainly doesn't want to logically analyze the matter with you.

Although it may not be the most attractive thing women would choose if they voted, having amazing charisma is by FAR the most effective attribute for getting laid, and/or getting a relationship. It's the only thing you can have by itself while lacking all others that will guarantee you success. You can be a hot wealthy actor with a lot of status but if you have absolute shit charisma you are going to struggle with women, except for the ones that want to use you for money.
Charisma is basically a cheat code. Forget just getting women, that's small fish. If life is a video game, then charisma is the most overpowered stat you could have maxed out. You can manipulate, convince, and charm your way into and around almost any situation you encounter. Most people don't actually give a shit about substance or evidence, they just want to feel good - and a charismatic motherfucker can do that.
If you want to know how powerful it is check out the story of Frank Abagnale. His life demonstrates this perfectly. He was a con artist who cheated his way into becoming a doctor and a pilot lmao. There is a great movie made after it too called "Catch Me If You Can" with Leonardo DiCaprio.
I used to have zero charisma and was probably borderline autistic growing up in most social situations, then in my early 20's I worked a lot on it and although I'm not that charismatic compared to most people the results and success in my life have gone exponential from that one change.

? your wish is my command, 2 wishes left, choose them well. ?
In the comment the women part was left at the bottom of each paragraph. 
These fantasies run deep in our unconscious, are almost impossible to transcend and their fulfillment is the prerequisite for any romantic interest in a member of the opposite sex. We’re going to refer to them collectively as the Primary Fantasy. All other qualities that lovers typically seek in a partner are secondary to the Primary Fantasy and usually gender-neutral. 
Primary Fantasy: Men are conditioned to be physically attracted to young (or at least, younger), vital, and healthy-looking females with smooth skin, shiny hair, well aligned complete white teeth, symmetric facial and body features, wide hips, small waists (ideally with an 0.7 hip-to-waist ratio),65 sparkling eyes, and full breasts, which are all indicators for fertility and the ability to bear healthy children.66
Secondary Fantasy: Shared values, interests, lifestyle choices, temperaments, plans and dreams for the future, and compatible needs around time spent together, money, and sex.
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Unfortunately attraction is primitive. The secondary fantasy becomes more important as men mature and reach higher levels in sexual stage (stage 4+), spiritual stage and anima/animus stage developments. They are more likely to seek woman based on secondary fantasy compatibilities. 
Couples with similar lifestyle choices, interests, intelligences, and passions, who are at the same level of their consciousness, spiritual, sexual, and anima/animus complex development, with opposite feminine/masculine polarities and complementary personality types experience the most fulfilling long-term partnerships. These compatibilities allow them to enjoy their sexual attraction and synergy, and to resolve conflicts by the same means until they grow apart in their developmental lines or lose their opposite sexual polarities. Partners with minor differences in their horizontal stage development may be able to get along and support each other in their growth, while couples with larger discrepancies will experience conflicts that are irresolvable once the initial hormonal rush that impaired their rational perception and made them look at each other through rose-colored glasses wears off, and the day-to-day reality of life sinks in.
 

The parameters that define male success in the eyes of females significantly increase in complexity with each level of her consciousness development, while the definition of sexiness that makes females attractive to males (a healthy body, sexual availability/radiance, and support of his vision) is consistent throughout human evolution, across cultures, and within vertical stage development of men.295
In the archaic beige stage of consciousness development (1% of U.S. adult population), male success is defined by day-to-day survival skills. In females, a healthy sexy body that indicates fertility and sexual availability are seen as attractive.
In the superstitious purple stage (10%), male success is defined by the ability to adapt to their immediate natural environment, cleverly exploit its resources, appease threatening ghosts or spirits through perceived magical powers, and loyalty to their family clan, band, or gang. In females, a healthy sexy body that indicates fertility, sexual availability, and healthy instincts are seen as attractive.
In the egocentric red stage (20%), male success is measured by their level of independence, confidence, aggressiveness, potency, creativity, and ability to cleverly exploit others for their own immediate gain. In females, a flashy sexy body, a high “fuck ability” factor, and respect for his needs/attitude are seen as attractive.
In the conformist blue stage (40%), male success is measured by their level of reliability, job security, and devotion to family, religion, and country (the conservative, consistent, law-abiding husband). In females, a healthy sexy body, sexual willingness, elegance, and devotion to him are seen as attractive.
In the rational orange stage (25%), male success is defined by their levels of income,296 future earning potentials,297 overall net worth, displays of status symbols (e.g., Rolex watch, luxury car, designer clothes, penthouse apartment, or mansion—and lately some pseudo-environmental consciousness, for example driving a hybrid or electric car, or installing solar panels), social status, advanced degrees and titles, professional achievements, international travel experience, ambition, cleverness, wit, generosity, and physical fitness (the winner). In females, a healthy sexy body, being “sex-positive,” physical fitness, classiness, and support of his mission are seen as attractive.
In the pluralistic green stage (10%), male success is evaluated by the amount of available time, level of passive income, accumulated wealth, altruism,298 emotional availability, environmental awareness, natural health consciousness, worldliness, and sensitivity (the affluent, kind, semiretired activist, philanthropist, healer, teacher, artist, etc.). In females, a naturally beautiful, healthy, sexually radiant body, and support for his vision are seen as attractive.
In the Integral teal and transpersonal turquoise stages (4%), male success is defined by increasing wisdom, ability to integrate all the healthy qualities from the previous stages (survival skills, natural instincts, power/creativity, devotion, financial success/status, and sensitivity), and embodiment of higher state-stages of spiritual realizations and ego transcendence. In females, a healthy sexy body, sexual shine, skills as a tantric lover, and ability to meet him as an opposite and equal at the level of all seven chakras in kind and degree are seen as attractive.

I used to have a massive habit tracker of 10-15 things to do everyday and I was quite rigorous with it. Now that doesn’t resonate so much anymore and I let go completely of any kind of to-do list for a while. Yet I still like to have an oversight of the things that are good for me. But just writing them down as a list didn’t seem very appealing either… So I’ve carried this idea of an inspiring to do list with me for weeks… I knew there was something forming in my head but I could never quite grasp it. Yesterday I was so relaxed and it suddenly just clicked. In a matter of 2 minutes this was on paper. Intuition just never lets me down 

I love how it has this kind of aliveness to it… Probably because it contains all fibonacci numbers Very pleased!

@Princess Arabia values are not attractive, A girl who is into self development and a girl who is not are equal. Attraction is a very primitive thing it does not depend on higher order brain function. A mature Person is going to suppress lower order brain function to consult their values and higher thinking to make an informed relationship decision, but that is not what they are attracted to at the primal level.
A woman who is confident and in a leadership position and says what they want, basically more masculine is not attractive traits to men. It’s actually repulsive unless the man is feminine and wants a leader.
A girl strong into her feminine side displaying chaos and fun is 10x more attractive than any woman who has all her shit together.
Young girls operate more under their lower order brain function and it takes them decades to learn to consult higher order brain function to make informed relationship decisions.
The mistake women make when trying to teach men how to get laid is the focus entirely on their higher order ideals that don’t represent how there lower order attraction system works because most women cannot see how their own attraction system operates.
Because higher order ideals are in conflict with lower order impulses Creating a rejection and the ego Blindspot.

Cause they do. It's not a moral judgment, just an empirical observation.
I've seen what kind of guys get laid the most.

You guys, this is F*CKING PRICELESS advice on business / money psychology. It’s crazy we have this info at our fingertips. 
 
(Owen is also f*cking hilarious and a master of authentic expression 😂) 
 
 

@Wisebaxter Whats the significance of this?
From my understanding it just says:
Action must be part a series of actions that lead to goal Action must respond to your environment  Actions have to relevant and not random  I don't understand the last part  
 
Could you explain this further please, I don't seem to grasp it. 

@Antor8188 You just have to be so focused on your own life that you don't care what any random girl does. It does not matter.
Homeless guys can have good game. Often the guys with the best game and who are most attractive are psychopaths and degenerates. Girls love that stuff. Shouldn't bother you since most people do stupid things.

A minimum effective dose of exercise to garner the most results would be something as basic as the following:
2x a week full body resistance training / weights.  30-45 min
2x a week cardio (any kind) at low-medium intensity for 30 minutes. Heart rate should be high enough to be breathing heavily but not so high you can barely hold a conversation or speak. If unfit - a brisk walk will achieve this, if fit - a light jog with or without incline, if very fit - jogging with at a incline will achieve this.
1x a week do 15-20 minutes of High intensity interval training (HIIT). You want at least a total of 10 minutes in the high intensity zone giving it your all or almost your all. You can make up that 10 minutes in multiple ways. Do 1 min on (give your all) 1min off (resting, or slow movement) done 10 times. Or 3 min on (medium high intensity giving it almost your all) 2-3 min off (rest, slow movement) done 3-4 times. You can make HIIT low impact on joints by doing it on a airbike/elliptical machine.
1x a week stretch/yoga for 20 minutes.
That's 2.5 hours of your time a week to give to amping up the only vessel you have to experience this life in. Not a waste of time at all.

Going to the gym is like building your retirement fund, but instead of money you're building your "health fund" from which you'll be able to withdraw 
Because higher proportion of muscle mass is associated with higher quality of health in men and women past the age of 50+ 
At some point you'll start losing that muscle mass, it is pretty much inevitable, and by that time, the more you have, the longer you'll remain healthy, compared to someone who had little muscle mass to begin with and hos body is in severe catabolic state which is basically an onset of disease. It will also protect your testosterone levels from rapid drop and that'll have positive effects on your brain, heart and your 🍆 being able to work propely
There's more to it for sure like mental health, detoxification, benefit for your digestion etc
Secondly it builds up your discipline, teaches you self control, helps you appreciate slow progress and the concept of hard work to achieve a tangible result compared to wanting quick results for no work like investing into some shady scheme.
But any reason where the gym is done to impress someone or get a girl or, only to lose weight for a wedding or something like that is completely stupid
 

My suggestion isn't very popular as people like to and are used to consuming conventional products and will buy any and everything out there in pretty little boxes and packages. Perfumes are toxic, colognes are toxic and body sprays are toxic. 
Essential oils is the way to go, unless one of the above mentioned is made using non-toxic ingredients of which I don't know of any.
As far as deodorants, there are a few out there with no aluminum, parabens or ethylene oxide and are OK but I still don't even bother. My way of cleaning my underarms is very simple. I use baking soda/lemon/lime/or acv. Just mix with water and wipe or wash off. For scent I use essential oils.
Bentonite Clay. This is the kicker. This clay detoxes the armpits. It's a natural way to clean the armpits and remove smells for longer periods of time and can be used to make a homemade deodorant. You can also just mix with a little water, apply and rinse. Make sure to get the food-grade since the body absorbs it.
You might not care about these, but I'm a naturalist and don't use too many conventional products;  thought I'd share incase you're interested.

A woman will smell any ounce of fear in you and run away. All fear is easily seen in your eyes and will transfer onto her.
You don't solve this issue by thinking your way out of it. You solve it by facing your fear until it kills you. Throw yourself into difficult social situations until you become completelt desensitized to it and are able to fully relax and enjoy yourself without giving a fuck about anyone.
You can def solve this, but it will be emotionally brutal. You must throw yourself into the challenge and be persistent as a motherfucker. Trust the process. Only worry about taking action. Never doubt the process. Eventually you will be so comfortable in social spaces people will think you are supernatural.
Don't worry about faking your calm. Be anxious. It's natural in the beginning. That will go away as you gain experience.

Rubbish as usual. Niceness, charm, kindness, emotional intelligence have nothing to do with attraction. Women themselves basically admit this today. It's men like yourself trying to convince yourself the opposite because the truth of female attraction is too uncomfortable to face. You wrote a whole lot of nothing. Thieves, abusers, violent men have zero issues attracting all kinds of women. If you are attractive enough or high status enough women can justify anything you do. All these standards only apply to unattractive men who women barely tolerate at best.

Simple solution, you just ask a girl if she's single within the first 2 mins of talking to her. Done.
DO NOT try to sneak your way into a girls pants over a course of days and weeks. Make it clear what you want.
Also, DO NOT invest energy into a girl unless she's going on dates with you. Stop trying to build a connection with a girl over text or online. It's BS. If she's not agreeing to dates then screw off. Waste of time.
If a girl is interested in you, you don't need to make any effort to butter her up. You just invite her on a date and she eagerly agrees. If she makes excuses that means she isn't attracted to you and it will never happen.
STOP CHASING WOMEN. Just invite them out and if they don't come out, drop her.

@Peo If you had zero lines and you saw a cute girl, what would you say to her?

People have different goals when it comes to dating.
Whatever makes you satisfied.
The methods of game don't tell you what your goals should be. That's on you.

1) Not only approaching but all kinds of social interaction and dealing with women, dating, physical escalation, foreplay, sex, and relationships, inner game, confidence, humor, verbal skills, reading social situations, emotional intelligence, masculinity, and more.
2) Success in the field of dating and dealing with women. Other areas of success require other kinds of practice.

I disagree.
When you combine unmet sexual needs and immaturity in an echochamber with no mature leadership, you get toxicity.
I've been in those circles, I know how those guys think. It's hard to understand it without going in it.
I didn't go into pickup because of shame or any kind of shadow stuff. I went in it because I needed a practical way to get a girlfriend and there wasn't really any other way. All the mainstream dating advice is weak garbage and doesn't produce results. Guys who want results want a hardcore approach. But that hardcore approach is then ruthlessly pragmatic and transactional. Like a business. It's not much different than if you wanted to make a bunch of money quickly. That requires a cutthroat attitude. So that's what pickup becomes.
Incels and MGTOW communities are built around victim mentality and bitterness towards women. Guys who won't or can't take action slide into Incel and blackpill community. MGTOW is more about divorced guys who have been hurt.

@AlterEgo I logged in just to say that I have never agreed with something so much in my life.
You need to speak to 1000s of women, move to big cities, blah blah, it is not true, not at this level. 1000s of women is absurd haha. You must have serious developmental issues if you need to speak to 1000s of women to get laid.
The guys around me that get laid frequently NEVER studied game, they are decent looking guys but more importantly they are authentic. I guess they grew up in healthy families, little to no shame and guilt, no limiting beliefs around sex and women and certainly no issues with rejection.
The problem with most guys is that they are deeply wounded, full of shame, guilt, limiting beliefs, sexual dysfunction. This is healed through therapy, spiritual work, etc... the techniques that you learn from learning game can be learned in a three months, not five fucking years or talking to 10 trillion women.
The hard work is fixing how society, your parents, schools, religions all fucked you up. If you do that, the rest of it is easy. Yes it is easy, talking to women gets easy once you are totally secure within yourself. YES, EASY!
DAVID TIAN is the best for this, he explains this amazingly.
If you are deeply hurt, full of shame and so on, you can still go and learn game but good luck with the kind of women you attract (because you are just  a broken little boy so good luck with all the broken little girls), and if you really think getting a nice feeling in your dick is going to solve these serious issues, well again good luck with that.
Focus on healing your wounds, ridding yourself of toxic shame, toxic guilt, fear of rejection etc..., this cannot be done to perfection but if you do it seriously the whole women business will become a lot easier.
You can see how pervasive this shit is in the red pill community, those guys are completely twisted. There are healthier ways to live life.
BTW this looks, status, fame stuff is still important for sure, but don't make a big deal out of it, too much times is wasted thinking about this, just get to work I guess