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I think we should see this stuff like some bar filled in her head, Todd V uses "Attraction" and "Comfort". Each woman will have a different threshold mix of both of them she needs to feels for doing different things with you. A lot of behaviours like giving a phone number often is like a reflex, it barely takes attraction or comfort. Some women probably have such low self-control and they are so conditioned by men around them, that just going through the "compliance ladder" is enough, because they feel just enough attraction and comfort from you automatically, and would give in as a reflex, and then regret it. That's why, if you go up intimacy too fast without building enough comfort and attraction, there are high chances of it backfiring, and they see it in their minds just as a one-night-stand regrettable moment, even if they comply and appear like they are liking it. That's where more "boyfriend" vibes would go in for extra comfort. But too much BF vibes without enough attraction or too fast pacing gives nice-guy vibes.

They always do it much faster, because those chicks are always moving to some dude, they can't be still on their own by themselves for too long. I end up just going into hermit mode after some emotional turmoil to process it. But recently, I've also recognized looking for connection after a break up can be also good, if done in a comfy way, but that can become another form of being stuck in a comfort zone.

I guess with all of this info here, you basically should stack them. If she pushes you off for a in-person date, and she keeps still wanting to talk to you, you might still take that shot to keep bonding, to keep warming her up. But if that's done too much it risks overcooking the chick and wasting your time. No Good. I like to roast them a bit, much tastier, so in person we are basically already going for a make out. Some women are like that, because most of the game I did was texting/phone calls/audio messages, that's where I know where to warm them up well. Even as far as cumming with each other on the phone. It's pretty lovely when it goes well. When they get nice and comfy on the phone. They can be even lying on bed before sleep talking to you late night before they feel comfy going for a date, at that point she might even be the one asking for seeing you when it happens. But this stuff.... It's probabilistic, it's not some science. It's artistry. 💝

Social romantic/sexual stuff is really my kryptonate, it leads my mind into a terrible state like nothing else. Pushing out of my comfort zone when it comes to dating is crushing to me. Specially when that pushes you away from other things you enjoy. When it happens for me when my mind is focused on dating stuff, and it starts going badly, due to the emotional intensity, it derails my flow for everything else in my life, and it takes me at least 2 weeks time, up to 6 months when it was really bad.

Don't bother with her line of reasoning, don't get caught IN the conversation, operate outside of it through the vibes. It's just something she said on that moment, in her mood in that week. But let me tell you about what she said, she pretty much is giving a reference to being that kind of person that has low social energy in general or bipolar-ish with intense highs and lows, giving some kind of impulsive traits that you saw as red flags. Frankly, next message shouldn't even be text. Should be a flirty audio message to break off of that frame, and lead it into something interesting that will reveal more information about her to you and you work further with that + following it a text-message with the context of the audio just in case she doesn't hear it. I'd prefer sending it in the morning just after you woke up to get an even deeper and relaxed vocal tone and casual vibes. "I just woke up, and I was thinking..." The ideal is to move it into an audio call for bonding, and get it super engaging, if she doesn't wanna show up in person. Probably good to show empathy, what she said is ripe material to ask her about what kinds of things makes her feel like that, mention that you're also that kind of person that doesn't really feel like talking to someone new when you're having a bad day, and show having emotional and social awareness, not just flirting mindlessly, which is good, but she might be a little more demanding, you wanna find the right mix there. Personally for me, I ended up fucking up plenty of chats due to flirting too much too fast, and it doesn't show more of my personality, or I'm not really being that engaging. But with just basic flirting skills that's enough to land a hot girlfriend eventually by running the numbers. You also wanna keep some momentum and not break it. This idea of not showing too much attention is bullshit, there is just the right amount, the ideal would be to make her feel so hooked in the conversation, that not desiring a chat in person during lunch time would seem like she's shooting herself in the feet, specially even during her bad days. Like you mention, about how sometimes we might isolate ourselves and only make matters worst, whatever, come up with some story or insight about as if you were here, matching her vibes, and giving her "insights" through your own insights about yourself (doesn't have to be your real stuff). That shows a side that might make her compelled to open up. At the same time you sprinkle "me and you" frame there with it. There is sort of some balance there, you sort of get more permission to keep flirting the more you equilibrate that with some engagement value.

I'd bet it's actually not their fluids. it's just regular cat piss... 😡

Breeding ground for crazy new age madness. Like quantum law of attraction BS, or people putting actual radioactive materials in new age wearables, or being anti-electromagnetic spectrum "5G makes gives me hashes".

I did none of it properly for my whole life. I'm 27. It's definably possible to put yourself in some weird mental position that not satisfying your thirst for the feminine will fuck up with your self-esteem and mental health and will drain your energy that, ironically, you would use to "focus at your finances". I let status quo waste years and THOUSANDS of hours of lost opportunity for sticking with some shitty long-distance relationships because of some low self-esteem leading me to commit and let some bipolar women drain my mental energy and self-esteem slowly. I had sex only once, despite spending hundreds of hours chatting with some long-distance chicks. (worst part isn't the time itself, but it becoming a steady source of random distraction in your life) Definitely you MUST know how to recharge your energy without nobody, as long as the condition of you not freaking out is met. Otherwise, you will end up doing dating in shitty unconscious ways like if some woman happens to appear in your life, because you lost the mental skill of doing dating at your own pace, you might end up putting up with her energy drain... Or not having what you want will drain you regardless. It's damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. Regardless, we need to address the craving somehow, transcend it whatever if you're a monk-like being. It's all a matter of management of emotional energy, the time required for dating isn't even that great if you lock-in in a good dating routine that works for you. Imagine how much time we spend a hermit, actually not even growing, just there in some dark corner gooning or doing some other random high-dopamine crap as a counter-reaction of the crippling anxiety of just starting some important inner or outer work. Each of us require different levels of different kinds of stimulation, only you will know what kind of balance works for you. Some of us are so fucked that even if they landed a 10/10 wholesome wife-for-life or had an entire harem, they couldn't fill the void inside of them and some hard-drug overdose would be their fate. Their brains are absolutely wrecked. But on the other end of the spectrum we have monk-like people that would live in a literal cave just fine, and they actually thrive in that solitude, because they wired their brain to get MORE PLEASURE from just attention itself to some meditation object. In general, the more energizing things you got in your life that makes you stimulated at the right measure, the less you will freak out about not having some specific kind. That's why people with nice wholesome connections with friends and family will not become drug junkies. The opposite of addiction is connection. --- Personally, I crave really hard having a wholesome monogamous relationship with a pretty-enough girl. That is built into my psyche so hard, I can't escape from it. It's fucking suffering at times when it surfaces to my mind, and turns into a low-self-esteem filled gooning period. If I had money and I did throw out of the window the idea of a relationship, it would turn into chasing women for sex disregarding my other emotional needs. ---

This has more value than what you bought. Don't do what they say. Do what they do. Here is the summary:

Bro your money is probably a goner. But I hope so badly that someday there will be an international lawsuit against that scammy mf so everybody that wants a refund will have a refund by having his entire assets locked out. But he has good lawyers (Duh, of course with your money), not sure it will ever happen.

Bro. I looked up on Google "Why is Dan Koe so serious?" and your post had showed up on the first page of Google (I'm an active member on this forum). I didn't seen Dan Koe making not EVEN A SINGLE JOKE. I can't stand his presentation style he's condescending as heck, I just dumped his content into an AI and answered a few questions about his content. He's pretty much just saying: Build a personal brand, build brand equity, and one way to build brand equity is through making engaging content out of whatever you are doing. Duh. Same obvious stuff. In this case what is Dan Koe doing? He's being the Dan Koe brand. He has no content, he will keep farming this style until it bleeds. Just look at his thumbnails (If he was an emoji this guy is: "😠🙄" "Urr durr u bad you will get fucked by the AI EVOLUTION, BUILD BRAND EQUITY INSTEAD"), at his presentation style, the way he talks, his facial expression... He is replicating everything to the T of his most viewed/liked ideas, he has become a slave to the algorithm, and he sells it at some kind of life purpose liberation of the self. It's not. It's just money farming on his core content, and frankly, I think he does it well. Personally, recently to keep things simple, I like to look at business from a neutral lens, and not mix up too much to my analysis my own personal Life Purpose inclinations.

😎 "I'm not taking off my glasses -- 'cos they are famous -- everyone likes 'em" 😎

Prompt: Trace the historical/cultural context of the siddartha buddha, I want to know how he was influenced as much as he created his own school of thought he wasn't in a vacuum. I want you to go as far back as possible to even before invention of writing AI model: Gemini 2.5 Pro The original book/ideas at the time of the buddha that lead to proper understanding of consciousness and the self that the buddha had used as a tool for his new school of thought/religion/doctrine. I found the "Isa-Upanishad" specially important. Avaliable for free at https://www.gutenberg.org/cache/epub/3283/pg3283.txt Prompt: Early history of the exploration of consciousness in general, that lead towards that understanding that Isha Upanishad had. Where those ideas came from? " A finite object, like a table or a tree, can be defined; but God, who is infinite and unbounded, cannot be expressed by finite language." How did roman-greek philosophers see atman and brahman concepts? Did herodotus talk about it? Why does it seem like those concepts didn't penetrate well into abrahamic religions? It seems like the major west-east religion divide.

Instead of the UN saying "inequality is embedded in the international financial architecture," they should say "inequality is by design, orchestrated by the wealthy nations to exploit the poor nations." Keep it plain and truthful. https://www.linkedin.com/posts/ungeneva_debt-development-globalgoals-activity-7086381471703150592-ZZoM/ https://medium.com/@kimsalim99/global-inequality-in-the-international-financial-architecture-0883d1f1fbbd

That's it. That's the gospel right there. Measured persistence.

This is the core of what Leo said here. We are presented over and over again during our dating/relationship/sex life with the option to act towards getting sex and companionship at all costs, or we act facing our values and the well being of the other. What happens when: - She says she wants a baby someday, but I don't intend to do so. And I lie about it? - She says she wants a committed relationship. But she isn't attractive enough, and I know I'd jump boat given a better option - When she is physically attractive as heck, she is sexually and romantically compatible with me. But, a bipolar toxic emotionally attached promiscuous polygamous slut (by her own words), but she lied to me about wanting a committed relationship, meanwhile she made me feel bad about trying to understand her true intentions early on, since I was trying to play it to see if she had polygamous or monogamous intent. - When she is somewhat attractive, but it was mostly a lie because every photo I saw from her came through some filter. And she is a Christian dogmatic bipolar highly opinionated person that would be on a weekly basis creating turmoil and making me feel lesser as a person, but she would help me with money, give me some resemblance of companionship and sexual validation online. - When I'm doubtful if lying to them about my income and social status will or won't improve my odds of having sex and companionship when I'm desperately dry? - When I have monogamous intents, but all I have are phone/chat contacts, and I tell I have monogamous intent to multiple women meanwhile I'm sexually explicit with multiple of these women online. - When I have monogamous intent, but none of them are yet quite what I want. But I know I can't tell them: "I have monogamous intents in my life, but you're simply not hot. I'm sorry, but we can keep the companionship and the sex that I like, until I find someone hot enough." - And what if, I had polygamous intent, but I feel off-put by women that are promiscuous, and I'm unilaterally breaking the terms, but when I'm with them, I'll act like the most loving monogamous romantic boyfriend, but with multiple women, until I start basically seeing less of the women I like less, and keep the ones I actually want the most. Maybe until I'm concerned of losing them due to arising suspicion and I'm forced to make a choice between equally great women? - What if... She is all I ever wanted, but I might have become locked-in into chasing better and better, even though I might want to stop with this ethical pain and the ups and downs and drama of new people? https://www.actualized.org/insights/actualized-quotes-264

@Emerald I have limited cold approach experience. I got a few numbers, but they led nowhere (married, ghosted, etc). I see it as practice. Right now, in-person approach is too energetically tiring and I worry about proper framing. My hermit lifestyle caused an emotional blockage I need to rewire, even though I know how to build rapport. My strategy is to greet strangers first, then work up to attractive women. I need a lifestyle where I live hassle-free (logistically, pleasing environment to me) to a lot of women with good state, probably not just commuting. Online game feels like prospecting clients; I lack the mental bandwidth and am done with it, it had its role in my life as my only social and romantic/sexual outlet. My close rate from app to WhatsApp is ~5% and drops steeply for high-SMV women, Out of 500 opens in that app (but requires enormous energy to keep up with all the conversations, highly distracting, high effort, energy vampire), I only got a couple of women I wanted highly interested on me (but they live all over my continentally-sized country. Think NYC to LA kind of distance). But funny enough. With some women in LITERALLY WITHIN A COUPLE OF MINUTES of chatting we are already almost sexting. For some others, it doesn't matter how much effort I put, it's a lost case. I'm concerned that SOCIAL GAME will not give me the abundance I crave. My it will give me some social life. And I also prefer 1-to-1 interactions, I don't wanna put up too much with those dynamics. If social game happens for me, it will be because of some 1:1 friendship that I was pursuing. But right now I can't distract myself with that, and I don't have money not even for a bus ticket. Some contacts were "catfishing" (Profile pic was too good, other photos reveals more). Using my own enhanced photo skyrocketed my high quality interaction rates (for profile pic, but I show my real photos to then later). But my results are probably beyond average. Most women told me the other dudes in that platform are all weird and boring. I spent dozens of hours optimizing my copywriting, A/B testing different conversation flows to keep their attention. In person I don't have such optimized skills, but it's also my lack of having more opens so I'd get more women that would be a better match and have things flow smoothly. I also have REVIEWS FROM OTHER WOMEN ON MY PROFILE SAYING NICE STUFF ABOUT ME. My Instagram, on the other hand, is a barren land. When I close Instagram after they liked me in the app, they suspect of me being fake. One of them thought I was rich and probably fucked a lot of woman, and that my Instagram profile was a lie by being "low profile", even after saying I was broke and lonely (This was a lapse in my game, I should have shut the fuck up about that too early). She blocked my WhatsApp after I made a joke about wanting breast milk (Another lapse in game, because I didn't give a fuck, I have abundance for women living a fucking thousand mile away) I suspect my in-person success would depend on energy and context.

I just don't have that. I think I can't emotionally let go of the contacts I have and the closeness we have, they all give nice energy. But at the same time, they are all long-distance. At least two of them are girlfriend material to me. But the truth is, I know I won't and I shouldn't go met any of them, by the time I have the money for it, I'd be able to go out dating in my own city. That's what I got now. It ended up being for emotional and sexual validation. And they love it too, I don't think that keeps them from talking with other dudes. Only local women that liked me recently were obese, or trans women (no vagina), or too old.

I did fall in love before many times, but it was out of scarcity. I got more logical after I began seeing the realities out there, getting my disney love fantasy bubble burst. I'm a very emotional. I'm a Satisficer, I know exactly what I want, I want daily sex and someone I can fall in love and not question it every week, it's painful otherwise. A 7/10 (not sure others may call it a 6 perhaps. Very relative). A nice face (Almond shaped eyes, positive canthal tilt), regular breasts and ass and frame, but not too fat or extremely skinny. A nice feminine voice/demeanor (I listen a lot to ASMR). I already get turned on for women like that, and I find them aesthetically pleasing to look at and marvel at their beauty. Not looking exclusively for less demographically common phenotypes: Such blue eyes and blonde, huge breasts with small frame, artificially raised high profile breasts (bolt on tits), high cheekbones, dimples, huge hips and super thin waist, or long legs, etc.

Exactly. The girl that fucked with my head most recently was like that. It just happened that her personality was more ambiguous, she had a mix of romantic desire to feel comfortable to be sexual with someone, but also in her head she had extreme fantasies and intent for extreme promiscuity. I learned all the little dirty secrets of her mind, because I literally made her cum harder saying them to her after I learned she was such a slut like that. And she told me: "I'm so fucked, you know every little dirty secret about me like nobody else knows." She would keep filling up my mind with all kinds of polygamous ideas that didn't make me feel comfortable. She didn't want "don't ask, don't tell." She actually got turned on by me speaking about other women and had fantasies of me having other women alongside her. But she also wanted me to see her with other guys. The whole thing just devolved into this, I felt being used for the sexual energy. The romantic part of myself was completely shut down about her at this point, there was just some small resemblance of it remaining because she also liked it a bit. Like the whole thing of being called "my love" by somebody like that and answering to her on the same tone, and I'd end up lying to myself about my emotions. Too much cognitive dissonance. All for what? For the sake of sex.

The issue is merely one of abundance. Polygamy is acceptable but not ideal for me, ideally I want monogamy with the right girl. It's only acceptable polygamy to me due to the lack of options, I'm off-put emotionally by the idea of getting emotionally invested with somebody polygamous. I had some a terrible experience with one of them, she was deceitful to me and I could feel her manipulating and gaslighting me into believing being monogamous. Then, we open up to each other to truth. It was making me feel sick in my stomach that I felt she wasn't being truthful. And from there it just devolved into debauchery, the kinds of conversations and absurd stuff she would tell me.

I realized the girls that felt attracted to me didn't give a shit about my income. It went as far as simply just being able to handle the logistics. That was it. I even had one chick recently lending me some money out of friendship. Funny enough, she was the kind that didn't have much time to chat, but was the quickest to help me out when I mentioned I was going through some shit.

That's the major ethical issue. I was feeling sick to myself this year at some point when I had some conversation with those girls online about it. But because it's online, and therefore is not even an implied relationship possible, I try to keep drama to the minimum, but there is one in specific that isn't quite my standard but I like the connection for what it is, but she keeps mentioning her long term goals of having a kid and she is starting to build that mental fantasy, like even showed a child and joked about me sending my sperm in a tube through mail LOL. It's just so grey this stuff. But I'm imaging if I had this stuff where I'm seeing someone like her in person with this personality, I think I'll end up at first just taking the ambiguity route of saying (which is true to my feelings): "I don't think I want to marry and have kids because it's specially difficult to find somebody to trust and raise children with. It's not like it's outside the realm of possibilities for me, I like the idea though. I want to be in a committed relationship." But in all seriousness. It feels like a major risk. Marriage is already a further attachment therefore leading to having something that could bog me down in my finances/spiritual/life purpose and make it harder to break up if thinks don't go well, and children is that on steroids. Kids are inadmissible unless I already achieved all of that stability in my life and I feel inclined someday to do that beyond my other projects. There is a part of myself that wants to impregnate a woman that is just right for me, I find it somehow irresistible the idea if my life was all in-check. But I might out grow from that idea, it comes from this monogamous loving part that hasn't burned yet through that karma of having that kind of loving relationship. Like I tell them, it's more likely I'll go meditate on a cave someday than cheat on them. Specially the better they are to me, the more they ascend my mind and I feel less of the need.

I had learned a lot this year. One of those girls there that I felt the most intense about I was suffering intensely for months after I stopped talking to her and I went after just isolation for that time period, I did a lot of journaling. Then I began talking back to her and all my suspicion about her was right, but at the same time we had suck a massive sexual chemistry for each other, we did phone sex several times and I had made her have multiple orgasms, and we both knew in person it would have been awesome. Unfortunately due to distance and my current circumstances it can't happen, and I had to stop the calls and the texting completely because it was taking a toll on my psychological well-being the polyamorous aspect of it that she wanted to be sharing about her sexual experiences she was having and she wanted to hear mine, which I'm having right now none of. She is extremely hot, I'd fuck her even if I was a billionaire. But it was a nice experience to grow psychologically and get out of scarcity mindset that I can't attract hot women. But also to understand how much emotional projecting I was doing that lead to my own suffering. I literally had one night I had a Buddhist version of the dark nights of the soul when I couldn't sleep all night and I had to visualize an infinity of beings through time suffering over and over again due to ignorance. Hours later I told her a softer version of my suffering (I just couldn't sleep, it was probably the cold weather), and we just had some sexting and I went for a walk, it was a nice warm day outside. With this chick, I was keeping my tongue to myself as much as possible despite her BS, I think she found it hot that I was demonstrating such emotional stability, but inside she was making me miserable, I felt like she was an energy vampire emotionally. It was hard to let go because of inner ego game. I went back to the platform where I got her from, and back to back to back I had attracted more women that are basically equally as far as she was. It sort went back and forth with some drama with her, but also the intense sexual attraction we felt for each other was addicting to both of us. She actually felt super attracted to me even after several months of not talking. She said she had an intense lust to fuck me specifically despite her options. My game for finding local women online is absolutely garbage, but to find and attract within my whole country I already mastered that and I frankly burned through that karma already, of attracting all of these women all over the country that I can't met, and it just removed my insecurities. But, I'm still in my zone of comfort, I need to get my shit together financially (go from completely financially broke) to solve the logistical issues. --- I guess it's the crazy-hot matrix. She was an 8 at east in hot, which means she had to be at least a 9 crazy hahahahah. 😂😂😂😂