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You can reduce your sensitivity through simply managing it like any other desire. There is an element of a dopamine pull there, beyond just our natural inclination. Why some people say that when they did "no fap" it improves their whole lives? Did it change their bodies? Not so much, it's mostly their minds being hyper-fixated on it, and they are learning to manage it. Like any other source of pleasure. Some people simply have more addiction-prone minds due to a million different reasons, and they need special efforts to manage it. But only you and you only can ever know how much is too much. If that means going cold Turkey or putting up a fight against it as much as possible, but not beating yourself when you "fail". But certainly, if biologically their bodies simply can't enjoy due to bad hormones, then there isn't much for the mind to get fixated in terms of visceral sensations, but there will be left stories and beliefs around that you will have to deal. I'd get pretty depressed if I couldn't get excited for a beautiful woman, since I love them in some many other ways beyond just sex. But also, the idea of sex in my mind is tied somehow to my self-steam as a man, therefore, even beyond the pull or sexual desire there are other stories I built around wanting to have the desire. So we need to break down those different feelings, aversions, desires and stories and see what's really there. I say it in a pseudo-Buddhist way. Having the desire is something, doing anything about it is different. We can re-wire those triggers, we can analyze that chain of causation from desire to feeling overwhelmed by those desires. Most people are pretty okay at managing it. But we can only take it so far, because of the elements I just described, that desire just becomes an all-devouring demon that completely engulfs their minds. Work on understanding yourself deeper in general, into seeing clearly the sensorial information of your senses and what are your breaking points, and how your mind will operate differently at different times. I.e. People distracted with something useful will simply not have as much time to think about it, and less likely to create a cycle of generating craving with more craving, at some point, we just feel like we are actually more in control. Even to get horny at the right time takes self-understanding if we let our other emotions and distractions stray us away from getting in the mood, at being relaxed, and so on.

I have to agree, geomax sucks... But I see it more as an extension of logistics. Being able to move across a region that I like already, i.e.: moving across the country/region if I were a digital nomad already, etc. But yeah. I do hesitate, even if it's a 1% risk of complication. I'd be very conservative in cost-benefit ratio, it really got to be worth it. A lot of people can get really unrealistic expectations of what they will get. Even if I spend half a million in surgeries, due to the size of my skull and other features (my eyes are not deep inset), I'd look as good as Justin Bieber at best. I want to focus on understanding the structural challenges first and addressing those first, the harmonization is important. But I guess for me mostly some eye-lift, adding extra material for my jawline and checkbones, beyond my teeth and fixing my tongue-tie first. I'm not fat. I'm even slightly underweight. Most folks out there need to fucking lose weight, not some fucking implant, they don't even know what's underneath LOL. Also, a lot of people want to just do facial injections/fillings, MRI scans showed that stuff stays for much longer than expected in the body, and it accumulates and makes their face puffy. There are a lot of traps like that in plastic surgery. I just don't feel comfortable with my level of knowledge yet. But for dudes that are just outliers in bad genetics and tried everything under the sun with their charisma, and game. Some specific precedures might be life-changing. But that stuff needs to be well-studied and followed true with some great surgeons. Some surgeons out there will just do pretty much anything they ask... Instead, that person would have benefited more of some other less invasive procedure to harmonize them. Sometimes, one feature gets improved, and it makes everything else look worse, etc.

I'm average-looking, lower than average due to clothing, teeth (I need some braces) and bad grooming. I've been making that math in my head for a year now. Considering if the risks of a botched surgery would outweigh the benefits, just being realistic about my expectations. My health comes first, and I'll go to doctors with the highest rates of success. A bad surgery can cost, going from average to looking a monster to the point I can't even get hired. The worst negative would be catastrophic. I've been compiling info and weighing possibilities. But at the same time, I'm happy just the way I look with myself, and the only reason I'd do it is to improve dating life after I've maxed out soft improvements, and other improvements with no risk, but that might be costly: Geo-maxing, etc. I don't know my genetic potential yet. I didn't do yet serious changes to my lifestyle and develop game. I can only judge that I had girls back in school that I found to be my type being interested in me even though I had zero game and my style and grooming sucked. I can't judge properly my own looks without experience. Because I only care about my looks as far as it gets me health, wealth and women... Some people let this shit get over their heads, and it becomes an existential threat to them, and destroys with their inner-game. I know if I want high-quality women, I must offer at least absolutely relentless self-confidence on my looks. I'm seeding that on my mind already. But I'm realistic, only hundreds to thousands of approaches will lead me there, and learning to master it like I'd master a language: Thousands of hours of listening, thousands of hours of deliberate practice. But that's different, I'll need to be going out of my home, spending money at least on logistics, dates, hotels/private place. I just see that, with enough money and free time, I can get in a healthy relationship with an 8/10, and I have somewhat relaxed standards (age, BMI levels, etc). But, I cannot truly see it shortly in my time horizon, and I can definitely sometimes see my mind coming up with Machiavellian plans to counter-balance lack of time, money and skill... Specially, lack of patience.

I'd be concerned of Google indexing that image for a popular keyword relate to the forum and ranking it high.

You might be richer than I am right now, but I make 20 bucks passively every month. Check Mate 😉 😂😂😂 Poor people trying to out-brag each other 😂. I challenge you to be richer! Can we get to 1000 dollars net worth by the end of the year? 😂 Gotta think big, right. Damn, if I were only making at least 600 bucks passively per month I'd feel like bathing on cash and I could move out of my parents home... Hell, earning 100 monthly would already give me a dating life bus ticket, coffee dates and some clothing (if I save)... Although, I live in Brazil, so think like everything is roughly 5x cheaper than the usa. Self-care: I did buy a 10 dollar sunscreen a few months ago that I'm still using sometimes, but I think it began having some break-outs. Also, I fell down 4 months ago, and I had to spend all of my money and borrow more (that I'm still paying) to buy wound treatment creams. Make sure you don't get fucked like that and don't have any spare cash for basic treatement. I had infection and it would have gotten nasty if I didn't spend 30 bucks with the cream. Hold dearly to that cash you got and don't waste it on anything but emergency.

In actuality, you did "hard work" to find a niche and positioning yourself well in the market, in the sense that it somehow made you stand in some way away from the 9-5er or run-of-the-mill internet freelancer. But that's not scalable across an entire society. There is just so many people to use the same exact funnels, keywords and traffic sources before you start seeing your business going down, but by then, you already will already have enough skills to know how to replicate whatever you did, or build on another business model that puts you are an even higher position of leverage than them. It's a mix of brute-force work and building leverage. You got a lot of leverage, so at this point it doesn't need as much effort.

When I'm making a fake smile, it can twitch. It's like if I were controlling it consciously. But I don't think it's too weird on me at least, it's very imperceptible.

That's a classic one! Even from the times of Mystery, he mentions that one. Fundamental: When approaching a girl in a group, we can't just focus on her, we need a game to handle the entire group.

Don't bother. Just appear excited, it's just the basics of persuasion, that's necessary to live well among other people. You don't have to try to bring them in into your philosophy about something this trivial if it upsets them.

I agree with everyone here on the thread. Everyone is speaking some part of the truth. If anyone listens to Leo Gura long enough, it's obvious. I agree that people for a healthy long-term deep relationship is more actualized as a person in general, I respect it on women. I appreciate her as a person to keep close by, and sex feels like connecting with her as a person that she is, not merely just a visceral connection to her looks. My personal notes as a man wanting to improve his game, most of it are notes from Owen Cook's course, but I thought about breaking down each element into different types of love I need to bring in. BE IN LITERAL ABUNDANCE: It will avoid you to be screwed over. Because hot young beautiful woman are in abundance. They will destroy with you if you are highly invested and not in abundance, that's how you protect yourself. NO WOMAN IS AN EXECEPTION. SHE HAS TO KNOW YOU ARE 100% NOT KIDDING that you have ABUNDANCE, and that the moment she tries to screw you, YOU CAN LITERALLY FEEL 100% BODY, SOUL AND MIND moving to another girl just from where she came from. There are different types of love: # EROS: Physical beauty and sexuality. **Keep a fun light small talk conversation going so it distracts her logical mind, so it gives space for the emotional/sexual communication to happen. So that the important sexual sub-communication can happen** # LUDUS: Playful kind of love - **Self-qualification is beta male strategy. That's why provider strategy is unattractive to woman.** - **Flirtation. ATTRACT, DON'T SEDUCE.** - Disengage the logical mind. Free Associate, talk just for the sake of having fun in the moment. Speak with authority and high emotional energy even if you are talking non-sensical crap. - Ludus stimulation is just like sexual stimulation, creating tension is crucial to increase arousal levels of LUDUS. It's not inauthentic to force it a bit. - Playful, flirting validation, seeking, verbal playfulness - NEED FOR VALIDATION: "I'm a cool playful and amusing guy, and you want my validation", not so much a "Hunk of a man that you want to ravish and only a naked picture of my body would be enough for your selection of me". - Entertainment and excitement - Game of seduction, Gleefulness, Playful, Amusing, Teasing, Fun, non-commitment, non-monogamous. # STORGE - COMFORT & SAFETY - [[Assume Familiarity]] - [[Look At What A 'HUG' Did To This Woman In The Middle Of A Walmart!]] - Non-threatening, Familiar love, peace and physical safety. - Peaceful and slow, chill # PRAGMA - "I cheated on you because you could have never pulled me out from a club and fucked me, but you used your stability to manipulate me." - You want to do it through LUDUS & EROS because then she can never say you are tricking her with money, and she will know as A 100% SOLID FACT, you can pull women whenever the hell you want, just the same way you know she can do it. So it balances it out. - Practical and traditional, resources, money, gifts - Is a style of love that emphasizes the practical aspects of love. The pragmatic lover considers compatibility and the sensibility of their choice of partners. This lover will be concerned with goals in life, status, family reputation, attitudes about parenting, career issues and other practical concerns. # MANIA Mania is a style of love characterized by volatility, insecurity, and possessiveness. This lover gets highly upset during arguments or breakups, may have trouble sleeping when in love, and feels emotions very intensely. # AGAPE - Universal Love. Buddhist loving-kindness to all beings.

It seems to be like economical theory. Economic theorists are hooked on painting the "idealized actor", but DOING business is different.

Off-topic. By the way, anyone here from Porto Alegre region? I want to go out with a wingman eventually.

Olá! Brazilian as well. I have no idea. --- But here's a tech solution, if the issue is language. However, if you want to get a high-quality translation of his videos and translate, use Whisper for high quality automated transcription and then use Google Translate file upload. There must be some script to download everything and transcribe it. I don't know an easy way to do it, but it wouldn't be too hard for me to code it. https://github.com/openai/whisper --- But regardless, teachings like that are culturally universal.

Both. You need both to be grounded. You ALWAYS LIVE IN THE PRESENT, and the future works to guide where your present actions take you. Even in Buddhism, they don't tell that all you need is the present (properly taught Buddhism). You need a path to follow, it takes hard work and vision to even "live in the present" like a monk, much more than most people's weak and unclear vision of the future.

Both. You need both to be grounded. You ALWAYS LIVE IN THE PRESENT, and the future works to guide where your present actions take you. Even in Buddhism, they don't tell that all you need is the present (properly taught Buddhism). You need a path to follow, it takes hard work and vision to even "live in the present" like a monk, much more than most people's weak and unclear vision of the future (where they are "living in the present" but the wrong way). Be more specific with how you phrase it, and you will find the answer. What does it actually mean to hope for the future or live in the present?

You are wishing to do spiritual by-passing. It's better to achieve once we are more actualized, so you are more wholesome/full in your whole self-actualization. You can see the fabrications of your mind, of how it's holding you back. If you want to wish for something, wish for your spiritual insights to help you actualize fully, not to by-pass whatever bad situation you find yourself into right now. That's not a grounded spirituality, it doesn't fully acknowledge the importance/function of the fabrications you currently have, which are fabrications meant for survival and letting the ego thrive. When it comes to practical money-making things, online opportunities are actually the best opportunities today, it will all come down to your level of commitment, clear-mindedness and creating and executing on a daily schedule doing things that will get you paid. If you want enlightenment, it requires at least as much complexity as it would take to handle your personal work ethics and being able to level up financially. If you are anywhere that you have consistent access to the internet and a way of getting payments, you can earn money online. Here is the deal: Can you have a paypal account in your locality? Can you withdraw and use money from that paypal account? Or if paypal doesn't even exist in your country, you can get paid through crypto, even people in Syria if they try hard enough can. This is why Life Purpose is so important, this kind of logistical crap will get handled. You say that it will take a long time... You will reap the rewards along the way, actually. It's not as if it will take you 10 years to get results with ANYTHING. It's just that we hope so much that you will put in work, that we don't want you to putting in work, and then stopping and starting something new every 6 months, so that the results you get build up on top of each other more and more. Those results might be lag metrics (building a portfolio of a skill online, and amount of time you spend marketing yourself) or lead metrics (the actual earnings you are making, actually moving from some bad location, etc)

Amen, brothers and sisters!

As a man that is quite emotional, let me be as blatant as possible. If I were a billionaire, 10/10 in looks, and battle-tested my social and pick-up skills to world-class levels. If I kept anyone around, it would, might end up being in a type of polygynous relationship. Where I'd give my core women all the time and love they deserve, and she would share companionship with them, for my romantic and my bonding needs with females. But, also I'd from time to time whenever I feel like it, to hire a sugar baby from elite agencies. Yes, I'd keep the person around. But it would not be fully monogamous, per say. It's about what are my options. And how painfully she can "control me": Emotionally bonding, feeling bad if I lost her, etc. Monogamy would only come because she is so much better than any other women from that inner circle of women that I consider having as close as possible to me. Hell, it could be a woman is so absolutely amazing at making sex with me and absolutely lovely in her nurturing ways to me, that I would see adding an extra woman to that core a mental distraction from connecting with her deeper and deeper. But of course, sometimes I might feel bored, or the logistics suck: I'm travelling around the world and she is simply not around (she doesn't live at 30 minutes of distance to come to me), another women that I'll have sex with, and start bonding with me if she is able to display those nurturing qualities during sex. As a man, in practice, I think that it's just as difficult, I don't know. It depends on the options he has, the wealth, his self-control, his emotional needs, the logistics. Maybe I'd be so focused at my business/life purpose that just the women that aligns with all of my life purpose well, and keeps just becoming irreplaceable, and she doesn't feel cool with non-monogamy... It would be too painful emotionally to let her down. But also things change, and she would age, etc. I'd keep her around even after she has aged and isn't as attractive, but it wouldn't be monogamous if I'm that wealthy. That doesn't mean I'd give her as much of my time. --- That's if I were the billionaire 10/10. Myself right now: 5/10 looks, broke as fuck, no money for proper grooming and style, looking more like a 3/10 in the eyes of women - Although, in my schooling years I had 2 7/10s coming to me even looking broke like that, but most of them were 4-5/10s. I had no game back then. I was also actively blocking myself away from them. I would be okay with a girl that has just enough looks (6.5/10) and would be energetically a match to me as a nurturing female presence in my life, and she is at walking distance. LOL. Hell, she simply doesn't have to slow me down in my life purpose/wealth. I've seen multi-millionaires that kept the same girlfriend (7/10s) they had from before they turned ultrarich, and they kept them. But those dudes are grounded as heck, and they are the introverted type of people psychologically (like me), even if they develop high social skills. But also, to people in general, a 4/10 to some might look like a 7/10 to others. --- - DEFINITELY try to always be in your best doll up and clothing-wise style and add variety - the less attractive she is, the more she will need it. It's sexually exiting to me, it adds sexual variety to see her in different clothing, and I'd help her, even gift her clothing for my own sexual pleasure, if I have the resources. hehhe. - For me personally, SHE CAN compensate with her style and make up, it will improve HER that doesn't mean a 5/10 can doll up to an 8/10 to me if her face isn't my type, but she can work on her body as well on the gym and not be too fat. - Know how to create sexual tension push-and-pull, know how to be a tease. Probably sleeping at night at different beds would help it. Not seeing her naked all the time when not doing anything sexual (so that when I do, I wouldn't be as desensitized). - Know how to be present with me but not talk about topics that are will deviate my mind from my current specific technical and spiritual struggles, - Know how to give me space. If I'm high-quality, it means I'm focused as heck. And she is that nurturing energy I go to after I'm finished for the day/week, or I feel burned out. Help me stay focused, don't detract me from it.

Princess Arabia, I agree with you from a spiritual point of view. Not just woman, but any other object of desire. Each individual can produce their own internal sets of desires, that might be complementary or conflicting. But specifically when it comes to this chase towards hotter and hotter woman, for me personally, at this stage in life, I'm looking to merely get out of my cave and get experience towards at least approaching gorgeous woman that I thought were out of my league, or girls that are at my "level", which I kinda struggle to differentiate... This idea of hotter and hotter is very specific to each individual. If I found now a girl with a nice face that I can just stare at her all day long and not ever get tired of it, and she lives at walking distance and would let me join her place, that would be amazing for love-making, which, let's be frank, it requires a place to happen. It requires logistics, actually meting our bodies. So, when it comes to all of this struggle of acquiring mates, and how much effort and energy goes it into... Aiming for the best out of the best we would find personally acceptable is reasonable. But personally, I wouldn't go out of my way to break up with a 7/10 for an 8/10, I like the feeling of a committed relationship, emotionally. I'd feel bad letting her down, telling her I love her, to dump such a reasonably good girl that easily for no reason. But I was burned before with this. I know what happens. So, I have to always have an edge and consider the practicality, the reality, the messiness of dealing with fallible people. And, if I happen to have a higher value in society, her position with me might feel much less solid. Just like if a model-looking guy did hit on her, I know she would be considering as well. And I don't mean just physical. Like I said, after a certain point, for me differences a blurry in attractiveness because I tend to be very emotional about woman. That also means, I could find girls that are an even greater match with me if I feel like she lacks something. --- What I just said sounds much more what a woman would say, they tend to be more emotional. But I'd say some woman would say stuff like: "I care more about our connection" that's because, she has abundance with 7+/10s guys that are way above average. And she will say "oh, but looks don't matter as much". Like I said, for me there is a certain level, that above that I START TO QUESTION the validity of going for hotter and hotter. But I won't lie, if I could, I'd have 10s lined up for me, that are both emotionally and sexually compatible with me and I would have like a whole polygamous family with many girls, and we would love each other deeply, and we could have adventures bringing girls in and having orgies together with them. This is the same, as women wanting a billionaire that has a private Boing 747, but never quite reaching it, so they go lower.

I ask myself: What's the actual difference between DAYGAME and NIGHTGAME? For example, approaching a girl at night in a well-lit location with bars and restaurants around, but it's mostly chill vibes. What if it was on the outside of a really "naughty" loud nightclub where they tend to hang out? Would we call that daygame or nightgame? The lines seem blurry. But it seems like there is this vibe of NIGHTNESS and DAYNESS. The most extreme NIGTHNESS vibe is some loud nightclub with a really horny crowd (Like in Brazil we have sensually themed nightclubs) (Well, perhaps a Swingers club with glory holes LMAO), and the DAYNESS is someone in the morning commuting to places not for leisure, but for Work, university, etc. Or you might say, a church in a small town. lol. So we have a sort of gradient: - Commuting to work, university, going to a doctor's appointment - Going out of work back home - Commuting for leisure - Sitting at a bookstore, park, beach by herself --- But I guess there are more aspects to it, so it's a sort of matrix at least, and then we have overlapping factors as well. I think it's interesting to think about all the possible niches in-between. For example, some people like day game, perhaps, it's better when they are coming off from work, etc at 5 PM. Perhaps certain areas that people hang out at night for leisure and not needing to go into a nightclub, bar, etc. In Brazil, we have carnival at a time of the year and other festivals, so it's basically night-game but on broad daylight, it's the horniest public festival lmao. Music events of certain genres are notorious for certain horniness, but others the crowd is much more kept, also operas, theaters, etc. --- So there seems to be many niches and in-between there, perhaps. But they all tend to fall squarely defined as nightgame vs daygame.

🤯 🤣 I didn't make that connection. I don't drink, I never got drunk before and I don't intend to. To quote from the Jack Black post:

Useful references: Leo Gura's answer to: Day game vs night game: when are women more receptive Leo's Answer at I struggle with day game (Not verbatim, I reform mated with Markdown for my personal notes and added titles)

I remember reading online about this kind of stuff happening. Some people's theory is that some girls end up having hook-ups out of the passion of the moment, but it moved too fast, and they ended up feeling like sluts. Or other things such as just being open to a hook-up in the first place and just not wanting to be attached to anybody, etc... We will never know for sure why exactly. Keep up your diary if you feel so!

I also wasted just as much time with women, but it was long distance relationships. I met two out of the three of them in person, but it was for brief encounters, because I couldn't take care of the logistics of it. But regardless, they didn't add to me. Anything I got out of those relationships was that I shouldn't be in one, just like the clarity that the OP is showing. At least, I got rid of that feeling that personal insecurity about women. I'm not even a virgin anymore, but either way, it wasn't great. I should have done just like the OP and had 100% of that mental focus and clarity for myself... Actually align how I see the truth of things with how I act: This is the kind of crap that a man (or woman) might be led into that absolutely wrecks their well-being, and they lose the clarity to even see it was a problem, where you keep trying, but you are never fully mentally free. Again, if it taught anything, it was not to fall for those kinds of situations, but I wouldn't have fallen for them in the first place if I had more financial resources and I had gotten my meditation/spirituality/self-inquiry sharper. It improves tremendously my self-inquiry NOT to keep repeating those lies I was repeating to myself that were creating my suffering in the relationships: I could have let it go. But also, I think just after I move from the current phase I'm in, where I start to get some minimum success with business enough for me to start dating, I'll do so, but I'll do it RIGHT. What's right for me? I think to myself, if I had put all of that emotional energy for doing COLD APPROACHES (What I did, and what led me into my major issues was that they lived too far, or I didn't have the logistical means to met them). Also, the quality wasn't the best in terms of attractiveness and overall fit of personality/goals. I believe, like, everyone here said, I improve myself as a man in general: Better Game/Social skills, Logistics/money+time, etc. It will improve the choices and quality. And not being so quick to jump at the first lady that seems nice - and actually having that wealth of opportunities by being in the flow of a high-quality dating life, I'd have been so much better in terms of personal growth and having a relationship that is successfully healthy, or having some other kinds of "open relationships" - ON MY TERMS, (fuck buddies, one-night-stands, etc.) that wouldn't be draining of hundreds to thousands of hours as opposed to the long-distance stuff I had that left me only craving like a hungry dog for physical touch, affection/sex, with too much of a time commitment. Don't get me wrong, I'd LOVE to have high quality time spent with a girl EVERY DAY, but there has to be extremely sharp boundaries about the time we spend together, we can't just chat all day. For the time we spent together, we have to make it worth the time. Not wasting debating about some random political crap she is obssed about. Like how David Goggins would said once in a podcast: And that, of course, requires high-quality handling of the logistics of it. If there is too much pain in that, the benefits of a girl in my life would go down, to the point it mostly leaves me just craving physical proximity/cuddling/sex and not having enough of it. I should not get complacent getting some odd job just to get a quick fix for my problem with money just for the purpose to look for a relationship, I should do it all right. I got to accept I'm in a phase of my life, I GOT to nail this down. Furthermore, I'm almost 26. There is no fucking time to waste. Women are supposed to be there for me to share positive things with, not because I'm a hungry ghost enslaved by the desire. They feel that from me, that's my inner frame.

I'm from Brazil, actually in Brazil South where basically the genetic pool is mostly of German migration (btw, we have millions of German speakers in the countryside of Rio Grande do Sul state) and black woman from freed slaves (I don't know the specific regions of Africa, but they also have a specific look which I find different from African American women/men). I'd say it's just as much as anywhere else, judging by those videos of people showing around streets in different countries. The amount of Hot woman I see is directly proportional to the volume of women. Perhaps in regions with different genetic pools, certain looks are much more common than others. i.e. in Scandinavia blond hair and green/blue eyes, redheads in the UK/Ireland, certain bone structures in Slavic women, etc. When it comes to Russian women, I'd say it's mostly because in that region they have a certain look to them. I'd say Scandinavian women have much more of the look I like, and German women tend to look just like most girls I see outside. But that doesn't mean to say I don't find girls that look the stereotypical hot Russian or Scandinavian girl here. They are just less frequent than in those areas. I personally tend to have certain preferences to certain look/type, and it's kinda independent of how hot they actually are (breast sizes and shape, ass size and shape, BMI levels, fat distribution and overall body shape). I'd choose between a girl that fits more into that, even if she is actually less hot in regard to her body. To a certain extent, of course.