Lucasxp64

Pickup is a term that is ALMOST ALWAYS seen being used for short-term encounters. Keep in mind that generally the term "pickup" is related to the "pickup community", it has a lot of toxicity and emotional immaturity. It's like going out just to get girls fast. That community tends to let go of any ethical standards and consideration for their feelings. Leo Gura did a rant against the "pickup community". This is why I like to avoid using it, I don't want it related to that toxicity. "Approach" is much more specific and neutral. "Pickup" Includes the whole interaction, from the approach phase, to seduction, to having sex. Similarly, how I'd avoid using "incel" terminology, but I do use it sometimes when appropriate... But I'm still a little concerned about it, like the term "LooksMaxxing" (I avoid using it publically) But those terms are always kinda fuzzy, and getting too caught up in terminology sucks you into ideology: i.e. "Black Pill / Incel" ideology generates the most toxic garbage terminology you could imagine, it's basically a cult. But it's not like I don't use the term sometimes in my person notes, but generally I say: "Don't get sucked into that black pill garbage". Because I do make fine distinctions in the role that physical attributes play, there is no terminology out there that encompasses my specific circumstances, the kind of woman I want, and how I see my dynamics between them and me. --- Cold Approaches, is a more neutral term. I would use that term for "approaching a woman with intent of making her my girlfriend". Although, it could be "Approaching a woman with intent of a short-term encounter only" but Pickup would be more appropriate. Since I'm looking for a girlfriend, because I don't want to endlessly just waste my time with a bunch of short-term relationships, my goal isn't necessarily to just "pickup" but to "Find / Approach them, build rapport as much as possible, and begin meeting my romantic, sexual and companionship needs". Although, what is the difference between "a player" and a guy that wanted a long-term relationship, but it just didn't work out? Mostly in the intention in his head. GAME The term "GAME" I use much more often as an umbrella term for every interaction between man-woman for the sake of romantic and sexual interests, but mostly focused at the initial encounter/seduction phase, which I struggle abysmally unless I do it online. Even within a marriage or a committed relationship, there is a dynamic, there are always dynamics, like how the owner behind the YouTube Channel "PsycHacks" wrote in his book "The Value of Others" ("A relationship is where exchange of value happens"). There are things I which I can't be giving knee-jerk reactions, I need to thoughtfully think of seductive and reassuring ways of saying things to keep her romantic and sexual feelings for me, and keep our relationship smooth. "Seduction" can be used for higher or lower values. That is still game. Game encompasses "Game Theory" (Strategy), but also "Having fun, playing for fun, playful interaction" "pickup" which is closer to "not taking it seriously, taking it just as a game". Below is some responses of a conversation I had with Pi.AI (It's the most emotionally intelligent chatbot). Much better than ChatGPT for this kind of stuff I think.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/teach-yourself-how-to-dance I was listening to this Solomun DJ set, you can see the people dancing and interacting during the whole thing, and I can just feel their vibe. I've never been to a night venue before like that. I remembered about Leo's blog post, most people there are just dancing going with the emotions... Even the DJ he's mixing based on the flow of the emotions, we can really feel it from him.

We feed each other fantasies and words of affirmation, creating a bunch of fantasies of what we would do and be together in person once we actually get to meet each other. That fire didn't die off completely between me and her, but we just feed each other that stuff like an echo chamber, when reality began to settle in me and her, we realized that we should cool it off. It still feels too painful for her to have cut contact completely with me.

Thank you dear. And thanks to all of you guys too, I really needed to hear it. I wasn't really following the best principles and practices in dating I let my emotions carry me, I deserve that karma, it's of my own making. I also only got so far because I had improved on not getting stuck on other conversations that weren't what I was looking for, but this one had hit specially strong. That's another point I need to improve on. That's experience.

In my leisure walks, I always try to give just "good morning", to whoever I feel looks open for it. Sometimes, I say to a few, sometimes I go out of my way and even say good morning to people that don't feel open, and I get sometimes surprised with their kind tone of voices back. Each person answers with very different tones of voice back, super random. It was the single most important thing I did against my social anxiety, it's feeling now automatically to say good morning. I always try to get this feeling of openness inside myself when I say hi to a neighbor, as opposed to being stuck in my head. I almost never go past the "good morning/afternoon/evening", unless it's with some neighbor I already actually talked before already. But I'm trying now to get into the small talk territory more often, hahah.

Yesterday I did a cold approach, and we finished it with a hug and a kiss on the cheeks. Before that, we were laughing and speaking about our love life, and looking at each other's eyes for extended periods, etc. And I had to actually go, it felt the most natural way of ending it, it even felt to me, it would have been even wrong not to hug her goodbye. And I was already craving a hug, perfect timing, she loved it. The vibe was totally asking for it. We even waved goodbye to each other from afar, she scanned visually for me inside the bus after it went away even past some obstructions between us, I waved from the inside, she waved back. (Btw, I tried to close with clear intent, but she was much older than I'm, and she laughed at our age gap and told me about her son that had a similar age I do 🤣. But feel like she genuinely appreciated it, she had the "puppy eyes" expression all the time) 10/10 warm hug. 😍

I'm trying to give a break on online dating for now, since I don't have the discipline to find and stick with methods for locals only. I went out today and yesterday, just taking a walk in the city, and I did two cold approaches. The approaches lead nowhere, but I got some good vibes and momentum. One of those approaches was so sweet, we got to hug and kiss on the cheeks on our goodbye. I needed some of that.

She even had the courage to message me today saying that "The day I tried to get rid of you, was when I had a dream about you 😐". I'm actually tired of it. She has been the only one in my recent years that treated me with such on-off crazy vibes. So unstable, and in a way it made me attracted to that trait (Not love, more like feelings of mania), like those chicks that try to fix some dude. At this point, from a high perspective, I feel like only communicating again after I'm wealthy enough that dating her in her city would not feel a big deal to me.

On a previous forum post I did a few months ago, Leo Gura had written to me: I let the worst of my weakness of my past habits get the best of me, again. I just had a break-up again, with this girl online that we built intense rapport for each other for the past 20 days. It just feels way too good for my ego, even though I knew I couldn't meet her soon enough, and it wouldn't have been economically feasible, the economic risk even if I had it. But I still kept at it. It just felt too good at the moment. She was the one that initiated the break-up, for my own good, after all. She kept bringing reality into it, and she wanted to untangle, and I kept fulling the delusion, and she kept falling for it, but today she tried again to go for an ultimatum, she gave us time to talk about it, to process it emotionally, to let me ask questions. And I was just tired of trying to convince her otherwise again, she said we couldn't continue communicating even as friends, we couldn't ever see each other just like that by this point, and that we should break any dreams for any future together that we had. She was utterly in passion with me, and it made her scared of how obsessive she became for me. She was just my type, could have been my dream girl. 😩 If I had only met her in person fast enough, she was so ready. That feeds my ego like crack.

Happy New Year! // Feliz Ano Novo! // Feliz Año Nuevo! // Bonne année! (The fucking fireworks just woke me up from my sleep 😂)

I'm generally a nerd that will watch Sci-fi on my own. (Rarely sex happens) I'll think of that when doing Netflix dates, to watch hotter (Instead of sci-fi) but acceptable TV shows. 😉 Personally, when recommending stuff for my family I think if there are sex scenes in it, and I don't recommend them. "Oh, we're gonna watch GoT... 😏" Any recommendation of TV Shows with a lot of sex scenes to watch with a chick, to create some more sexual mood, but that isn't actual porn? I have a Spotify playlist with a suggestive mood. Well, at that point we're already in private, but some of them I feel like a nice progression to sex might be some sex scene ahaha, when we are already kissing and cuddling. Never had it happening to me though, when I get in private with someone it was clear to both of us before that we would have sex. Anyone wants to share some experience they had with someone new that music/movie watching helped the mood for sex? (Not established partners per se)

Wtf? Where do women get asked like that? Tinder? Social media DMs?

https://pi.ai/ (Very emotional. It has a nice personality and voices, you can voice call it without limits) - If you're in a country they are not in yet, just download the Android APK file from APKmirror. https://duck.ai/ (Avaliable: GPT4o-Mini, Claude 3 Haiku, Llama 3.1 70b, Mixtral 7x8b) -- IT REQUIRES NO LOGIN. They don't store the conversations. They are privacy-friendly, you can even use it through the TOR network (you don't have to, but if you wished to keep it extra private) and ask it whatever you want and it's NOT possible to be banned or limited since you don't even login, and they don't even have captchas, and were extremely reliable to me. (From the DuckDuckGo privacy-friendly search engine) https://aistudio.google.com (You can use the Gemini Flash 1.5) to use its context window of 1 Million tokens, you can upload several books of text as TXT and ask it questions (Although, it doesn't work as good as you would expect, seems to be descent for large code bases and documentations, better than simply using RAG techniques). It's not as smart a GPT4o but it's still nice. You can also use it as an API for free. For example I use it in VSCODE as a free copilot. https://gemini.google.com/ The version of Gemini Flash but for the public in general. The free AI Studio from google there is a limited offer of this free one. https://labs.google.com/search/experiment/1 TURN ON for having AI responses (It uses Gemini Flash probably, just as dumb) in your Google Search. https://stablehorde.net/ - Crowdsourced AI for image generation and text. https://github.com/jhj0517/Whisper-WebUI (Transcribe audio to text, you can use fast GPUs in Google Colab for free) Perhaps try Kaggle for 30h weekly GPU time. Works in CPU Mode too.

We must self-impregnate ourselves with our own seed, and be our own midwives. Do not succumb to unholy temptations and distractions that keep you astray from your holy purpose. No purpose? Your purpose is to birth your new self, to make love daily to yourself daily, to birth yourself. Amen fellow, Actualizers! 🙏 May you be blessed! "From the moment I understood the weakness of my flesh, it disgusted me. I craved the strength and certainty of steel. I aspired to the purity of the blessed machine. Your kind cling to your flesh as if it will not decay and fail you. One day the crude biomass you call a temple will wither and you will beg my kind to save you. But I am already saved. For the Machine is Immortal"

"Large Language Model" Their pseudo-minds were built by training over text, and they had the emergent phenomena of abstracting within their training the underlying patterns that we use to think. But it's a shadow of a shadow. Human Minds -> Human Language -> Human Writing -> Large Language Model human writing simulation. They already got language mostly correct (At least formal language), and a vast amount of knowledge/information. And they got a good chunk of the human mind, but it's not quite there yet obviously. The question is if they keep training and improving on those models, they will be able to drill deeper and deeper into the collective human psyche and successfully replicate our hidden underlying mental capabilities through inferencing indirectly. We essentially got for free some kind of intelligence by teaching them to use language. We don't yet know how to separate the content from the "underlying thinking capability" that humans have. Those models have content and thinking intertwined, but there is research at extracting their "underlying thinking capability" by creating synthetic training data from larger models. They managed to create smaller models that show similar behavior of bigger models but with fewer parameters, therefore, less information/content. The issue, is that most human writing is not rigorous enough to map to our thinking process. I actually never found before such a text. Even if I transcribed every piece of information I've ever experienced, and the outputs that I've generated, it wouldn't be enough to map exactly the mental processes and the experience inside my mind. But some believe that the larger those models become, the better the training, more curation of quality training data, better architecture, etc. We will finally achieve something post-human at everything. Currently, they are obviously more knowledgeable.