I really need to answer this question I have, please help.
Friend A:
He shared how he ditched 95% of his social circle because he didn't feel respected and this is how he felt. I recently did the same. So he listened a lot to my struggle and I expressed interest in his past experience so that I can take notes.
Recently, I told him how I hate when someone starts a conversation over text needing my help but then just ditches me hanging not knowing whether I have to help or not and answers 4 hours later, So in the process of sharing this, he did exactly this to me, just stopped responding for some hours without saying that he has to go or do something.
He also tells me he can't talk because his girlfriend is watching a lecture but then he talks to some other friend of his. Then when the girlfriend's lecture is over he cant talk again because he can't ignore her. He also tells me his mic doesn't work and probably forgot he told me he talks with people from his guild in the game, (so the mic does work?). I mean, this dude has rejected to talk with me many times, he just wants to text. This dude is invested in my yet then he does this, it makes no sense its confusing.
Friend B:
Sometimes ignores my messages, basically responds when he is ready to play the game we play together, other than that he is unreachable and avoidant. Sometimes says he will call when he hangs out but he doesn't call me and nevertheless hangs out with our friends. When we are talking, he often doesn't respond to something I say, when confronted he says "Oh I was focused on something". Like, I can talk and play a game ever since I was 5? Obviously, he can respond or at least say "wait", but he doesn't care so he just leaves me hanging. That's not friends in my world. I have done this no more than 20 times in my whole life and every time I have done it on purpose because I hated whoever asked me something. Not because they were my friend.
Question/conclusion
These things make me feel like a burden to them. Like I am trying too hard to be their friend and they are too polite to cut me off so they half-ass some relations.
But then I feel this crushing loneliness.
Then out of a sudden some of them reach out and I'm confused, like, do you want to be my friend or what?
I also feel it's very petty and even somewhat rude to ask Friend A if he is lying to me and why did he talk to that friend if he cant talk while his GF is watching a lecture and how does he talk with the guild if his mic doesn't work and also what laptop on earth doesn't have a microphone...
I tried confronting jokingly Friend B that he doesn't let me know when he is online like we agreed to and he didn't respond, neither laughed at the joke.
All out these people are acting standoffish and more confident than me, which I hate since if I play by the same rules which are (Be myself, don't care how the other person feels) I will probably straight up ignore them forever since I am upset with their behavior
