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@4201 Saying "pain and suffering is a belief and has nothing to do with reality" is a very easy thing to say for someone who at the moment of saying it is comfortable. But there's ways how you could investigate whether that idea is true or not. For example someone could pull all your teeth out with pliers, pull your fingernails off, and drill holes on your knee-caps and on your skull (shallow ones so the brain doesn't get damaged which would most likely lead to unconsciousness.) Would you at that moment still think that pain and suffering is a belief and has nothing to do with reality? Or if you just meant psychological pain: If your biggest love ever (wife and soulmate) has been having foursome gangbangs with 3 of your best friends several times per week for 7 years. Would you still think that pain and suffering is a belief and has nothing to do with reality? Or like in my case: total loneliness for life, not a single friend or anything, not even online, not liked by anyone, forget everything about romance and love, no one to communicate with, no hope of it ever getting better. Prayed to God and angels and what not for any kind of company or for a sign or just anything, but nothing. And tried all help and have tried to improve etc. but nothing has worked. Completely abandoned by everyone and everything, even by God. (Not abandoned by parents though, but that doesn't count, the parents are just annoying.) Note that you cannot understand how it feels unless you have actually been in exactly that situation, which you haven't, none of you have. Would you still think that pain and suffering is a belief and has nothing to do with reality? Sorry if I sounded rude, vulgar or something but I like to investigate every claim in depth. Does it really hold water?

I don't know about USA, but the country where I live.. If you tell the hospital staff that you have taken drugs, they wont report it to the police. And one time when I had a bad trip, the police came inside my home while I was tripping balls, and my home was full of drugs, and they knew it, but since it was a medical emergency they didn't care about the drugs at all, they just drove me to the psych ward.

@snowyowl The thing is that those who say things like "happiness comes from within" and "you don't need anyone if you just love yourself" aren't as lonely as I am. So they are just talking shit, imo. It's extra ridiculous when Leo says it. Because he's a freaking celebrity, with hundreds of thousands of worshippers and a million women who want to marry him etc. etc. Some music can make me cry a bit. And women can make me cry a lot, but that's only during online chatting, and it was a long time ago when it happened last time, because I haven't chatted seriously with anyone in a long time. I don't meet people so I don't know if I could cry infront of people.

@Alysssa Because it's true that I will be alone, because I'm worthless. I would have to somehow lie to myself that I wont be alone. I don't think I can do that. Yes.

I care about your problems, but unfortunately I probably can't help you because I lack the required skills. I don't know about that. We'll never find out whether your hypothesis is true or not since I will be alone as long as I live, and then I might also be alone after death. But I've heard that everyone gets a spirit guide helper when one dies, but it's just a temporary helper who helps during the death process. Yes you're probably right about the thing about selfishness.

@Preety_India I'm sorry to hear about your problem. You're not unworthy. I wish I could help, but unfortunately I can't. I lack the ability.

@Matthi I'm sorry to hear about your problem. I wish I could help, but unfortunately I can't. I lack the ability.

@PepperBlossoms I'm sorry to hear about your problem. I wish I could help, but unfortunately I can't. I lack the ability.

@Travisty I'm sorry to hear about your problem. I wish I could help, but unfortunately I can't. I lack the ability.

@4201 I understand.

People only like the fancy stuff. The Consciousness/Nothingness gets ignored. They go for nice experiences..

Well.. yeah. But.. let's calm down.

@DIDego I'm from Sweden too if you didn't know.

I forced myself to watch 36 minutes of it. I think it's probably just wishful thinking feel good stuff. But thanks anyway.

I see.

The torture thing was a example or analogy. Sometimes it's not possible to make changes or end suffering by accepting the situation. For example if you are getting tortured. Or in my case: my situation. And stop hating me so much.

Elaborate?

No I'm not torturing myself, stop putting the blame on me. I know therapy don't help me.

Nope. What Eckhart Tolle says isn't automatically true. Try to end suffering by accepting being tortured, not gonna work, no matter how fancy "suffering stops when you accept the situation" sounds. In reality it doesn't work. And btw, there's also a 2nd choice left: leave the situation (suicide). Which I nowdays think about quite a lot. But I don't want to kill myself because it would cause immense suffering to my parents.

I have tried to help myself etc.

Rupert Spira's answer from 5:10:

Is it wrong to want impossible things? There's many impossible things that I want, for example win 5 million $ on lottery, walk on mars, and get a gf.

None of them. A shortened version of #1: "There are no changes you can make to improve your situation." In the same way like there's no change you can do to become 50 ft tall.

Albert Einstein never said that. It's not that I'm not responding well to advice, it's that no advice can help me. Advice aren't miraculous things you know. For example advice can't make you 50 feet tall. I'm not expecting different results. I expect everything to be exactly the same until my death. So I'm not insane. And what change could I even do?

@snowyowl Yes I'm sad because I'm completely alone 24/7. No there's no intellectual type pursuit which could give me a platform to meet people. I don't know what more to say.