Natasha Tori Maru

But he ain't gonna know which one of the shitloads of things he does will work. He changes shit too much and I wouldn't class him as scientist. His method is whack - but a pioneer, yes. He's N=1

This was legit my actual thought - I assumed he would have gone for advice there cos there's a lot more, er... Care? Required.. for arse play

It was actually a demented turd attempt at a joke, because it is a topic about cunnilingus

I think this is the cusp of where desire/aversion begins to colour emotional landscapes - and invite a whole host of other emotions to arise codependently with feelings and thoughts. Overall, I feel like I am not certain about anything on the topic.

I think you have a solid point - it could be either. Open to interpretation. I do think there is a lot of egoic drive to Byran. He wants have fame and be remembered.

It could be - I more saw it as unclear boundaries and not conforming to societies norms. The boundaries part because this is the sort of private enjoyment between couples that is part of the selective bond shared. Boundaries help define that private space and strengthen connection. But hey we all have weird patterns. Man though FUCK I was taken aback - I think he could have shared all that without the personal part! I think he is doing what marketers do - spinning a narrative and story. Personally it turns me off, and there are much better sources of information for this stuff.

I think we could all do without the sardonic comment.

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Might be meaning feelings - but I am only guessing. Emotions and feelings are different. But it's going to depend how terms are defined. In my worldview feelings are direct raw subjective experience. Emotions are more a structured psycho-biological pattern involving feeling, interpretation, physiology, impulse and meaning. Some people even bring affect into this mix - which would be a pre-conceptual energetic tone. This is getting complex because we are hitting a strange roadblock : at what level of consciou awareness does a sense of 'self' arise? And how exactly are we defining the self as it applies here?

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Frustration typically is less intense: arises from something blocking a goal or expectations. Mild. Thoughts arise coupled with the feeling typically 'this situation isn't working'. It's internal and is simmers. It's a discernment Anger is stronger more charged response to something perceived as wrong, unfair or threatening. Causes can be accumulated frustration, injustice, hurt, disrespect etc stronger and more explosive. More likely to be expressed outwardly, sometimes aggressively. It is usually a judgement related emotion. Focus 'someone / situation is wrong'.

I would argue they feel frustrated. Maybe anger can come up as a result. But it's frustration. Reinfoces my claim people don't understand there own inner emotions/feelings and default to miss labelling a lot of things as anger. Especially men.

Yep aversion too - it causes equal suffering. Although aversion can be looked at as the desire depending on frame. All I can impart is that a byproduct of real spirituality - truth seeking - was emotional healing and dissolving of conditioning. I am ten fold more internally regulated. It does get easier. I never persued truth to heal. But fell into its gravity due to extreme suffering. Godspeed to us both 🪽

@TruthFreedom sounds like a sort of "allowing" accepting and letting go of feeling/emotion. Which is healthy processing. That process becomes like a default habit the more we do it. It was key to assisting my own emotional regulation. Radical self forgiveness is a big one!

Perhaps some more nuance to titrate out your views; do you disgree with teaching kids things they dislike, thus potentially creating a hatred and negativity to schooling in them? Turning them off structured education. If we teach kids things that genuinely interest them, we foster a love of learning. Or, are you more wary of any external structures being forced in those too young to consent?

I suppose I would need to know what you mean by "control". I only think it is possible to mildly influence them once arisen. But if we are talking "allowing" or "not allowing" I don't think so. Spiritual work has had a positive effect on my emotional regulation - which could be a measure of control. Again depends on definition Are you deterministic? Free will awakening? Dovetails with no-self

Ones innate affect and temperament would definitely effect the rotary switch on anger

Anger, or anger that arises from frustration?

Maybe he's afraid of the female version of himself >.<

@Spiral good suggestion - I'll lock this because it's no longer constructive. @Rafael Thundercat feel free to reopen a new topic for discourse relating to the topic. Only closing this so you can make a clean topic. Discussing this stuff is important!

Exactly - context matters 😎

I mean - I dont think there is an issue as the context 100% matters 😃 The subforum choice and general jovial tone of the whole post sorta changes it. Just thought it might be worth highlighting cos it's a grey area. And for me I view it as open to interpretation (also I am quite Machiavellian so... Huehuehuehue)

This victim mindset is half the problem. I speak to lots of members individually like this. You aren't special. Peace