Natasha Tori Maru

@Jacko thanks for the share, I came across this coincidentally. Tl;dr lies lies and more lies. Quite alarming too, as I routinely make purchases in an effort to avoid foods that could be from polluted origins. Having said that, the volume of processed foods I eat is very small. I don't even remember the last time I purchased Leggos tomatoes ! I am not surprised by the findings.

There's an opportunity to leverage off this

@Judy2 At your age I wouldn't even use a retinoid - just me personally. Your cell turnover will be optimal. Increasing it might just (and sounds like it does) cause irritation. With all of these sorts of products YMMV. If you are a non-responder or have adverse reactions I would simply discontinue use. With regards to sunscreen - do you have a mindfulness practice where you focus on the quality and content of your awareness? It is possible to filter out sensations from your immediate sensory experience. Some people can do this, others cannot. If this isn't possible, look into a waterglide sunscreen, low residue or low oily emulsion. Skin types are highly genetic, I have a large family, so I regularly ask them what works for them also - for advices For many skin issues - I tend to look at diet. Do you get enough healthy fats? I eat a LOT of fat in my diet. I usually do not assess and apply solutions topically and go for diet, hydration and movement based solutions. I also routinely eliminate all products if I am reacting in some way and my routine is dialed in / consistent. It is funny you raise this - I am unsure if there is any science behind it - but I eat pumpkin and carrot every day. My hands and feet have a yellow tinge to them. I've noticed I can withstand the sun for longer portions of time without burning. I am very resistant to tanning also. Which is a large contrast to when I was younger and did not consume these vegetables; I would burn and freckle up. I haven't gotten any new freckles or skin marks for 3/4 years. I worked out I get around 1g of oil from pumpkin. Ever since I begin consuming it daily, my hair thickened, falls less and is highly resistant to breaking. I didn't change anything else. I've been eating similarly for a while. My hair is now reaching my thighs. You can visibly see how much thicker the plaits are after diet change - I usually wear my hair braided on either side of my head.

Maybez - What chu gonna do about it, ay? Wonna fight?

If you think life is a vending machine where you put good in and good comes out - you will be sorely disappointed. You have to be anti-fragile. When the wind comes, don't let it blow you around so you fall over. The winds of chaos and RNG have to feed you like a fire. We all face this shit. Giving up isn't the answer. I do recognize a lot of black/white and absolutist thinking in your posts. It is important not to draw huge conclusions from single events. Trust that you will bounce back.

It's tough - women are socialised to be agreeable, care and prioritise group harmony. They are also held accountable when they DON'T put their foot down. Sometimes this conditioning runs right up against candid communication. It's something many women need to learn, but they often, when initially handling truth, overcompensate and verge on nastiness and hostility while transmitting their message. It is a function of maturity - usually. There are good women out there. Take 5 and focus on your life purpose for a bit ❤️

I have Claude pro for business. I don't want to waste it on frivolous stuff.

I couldn't find any external Instagram links (or cross pposts) to the clip on a general website trawl - but after looking chatGPT came up with the below:

To be clear sex isn't just penis in vagina. And none of what I express has anything to do with relationships being centred around sex. It is one element of a healthy whole (even none at all, if both individuals are asexual or prefer it that way). Like everything, sex fades. Connection has to remain though.

Haha, I imagine him leaving the house and dry retching at 90% of the social domain

Hahaha the mortarboards? With the tassle shit? 😭

@Joseph Maynor we aren't trying to date each other in this thread... We are describing real face to face relationships.

What is for you? It is quite individual, this is my own experience of myself, my past, and dynamics that have enriched me and worked ( that I speak from ).

For me it is both. Emotional and physical connection. Communication is always essential but this comes down to listening and paying attention. It isn't hard to remain connected with those two elements in play. Maturity & negotiation skills. Someone who doesn't freak out at the first sign of conflict. Can calmly assess, remove themselves when too charged up. Understands their own needs - this is huge. If you don't understand yourself you won't be able to communicate shit because you will just transmit all the wrong shit to your partner. Sex is sacred. I can't personally go without it. And I won't ever lie to placate a mans ego. I'll tell them when it aint' right. And I want to know that the man is satisfied also. Negotiate what we can and meet in the middle. Compromise and invest. If the sex dies there is something wrong with the emotional and cerebral connection. I view it like a barometer for the relationship. Quality over quantity. When women do not want sex, outside of a physiological issue or genuine asexuality - something is amiss. I speak in general here. Tiredness, just not in the mood etc are genuine reasons not to want to fuck - I am not saying to give it up no matter what. It's about the overall pattern. It is if there is a change in her. Suddenly wanting no sex. Not ever getting turned on like she used to etc. I recognize we age. We slow down. Things change. I accept and change with them. Always checking in on myself, my man, and the relationship. All three need to thrive. Sometimes one of us needs to take on more work. Sometimes less. Good times, hard times - as long as what we create together is worth it and the trajectory is up. When one person gives up on themselves, me or the relationship - doom.

@AION Some more attention for you - here

I mean fuck - I think we learned different social dynamics and play because of a different environment. 3rd spaces are disappearing, drinking is on the decline, everything can be delivered. We are atomized in our tiny environments with entertainment on tap. Getting out of the house for to something to do was more common. I mean how often was it we were bored and chilling, sex would fill up a whole afternoon! Distractions are everywhere now, lowering our quality of attention. We can get food delivered - groceries. All of these missing elements were situations where you could potentially meet that someone.... All opportunities. These are growing less and less for future generations. So, they learn through the savage world of dating apps that bring out poor behavior to try to get ahead. It isn't like this for everyone - but it is for many. It is only logical than men go for PUA / cold approach and all manner of cerebral methods to try to understand. And they end up learning the wrong thing because the world of social media and dating apps is nothing like navigating a real man or woman. It creates a weird as fuck gamified artificial dynamic that leads to poor conclusions for both sexes.

I just think a lot of the guys here are under-socialized and haven't had a really quality, deep and healthy long term attachment with a strong and put together woman with healthy love attachment. I also think dating apps are horrible and fucked up a whole generation. And many of the younger crowd have this dynamic they have grown and learned through.

My fan is back! Always popping in JUST to pay me some attention. Didn't contribute in any way but to talk to me This was how I understood the framing of the thread. Not to capture or try to use force. But to have her be so seduced by the thought of you she will come willingly - through healthy dynamics (and for the man to be so seduced by the dance also). I answered the question not from any sort of low consciousness perspective, where one might leverage a woman via attachment issue exploitation, codependency etc. But from the perspective of two highly conscious agentic individuals, mature with their shit in order - coming together to create something beautiful between them. Being able to physically please a woman (body and soul) relies on fully listening to her and willingly taking direction - especially in bed. So it can be a proxy for a good man who pays attention. Quality of attention. That matters. Listening is a challenge for everyone.

Shit like this breaks my heart

Fuck, he's got that recurring shit going STRAIGHT to infinity

Oh you boys! Trying to reach God through a woman! 😋 I love men, can't lie 😍

@Inliytened1 Goldeneye. The golden gun 🔫

Not gonna lie - I have had such intense, single pointed focus meditation sessions where all is so married in union it was the bliss of orgasm. After I really considered orgasm; it is a pure state of absolute being. Total single pointed focus. Irrefutable. A total inability to seperate mind in that state. It makes sense the deepest state of focussed meditation feel like orgasm, somehow. I shit you not, the feeling was the same. And so utterly shocking. It is a practice to reach those states though. I cannot get there without a lot of dedicated time. A purge of modern life does it. Isolation. It is no wander sex and orgasm is a huge drive for humanity if this is what we touch on. Who knows ...

If you want a real, emotional and intellectual connection with a woman, where you are each defined individuals with true connection to yourselves, but want to dissolve all the things that might be in the way - safety will always be necessary. Cannot have real connection without safety. After all, union, connection, infinity are Love - fear is the corruption, safety is the salve ❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥 hearts on fire !

For whatever reason, and maybe I am delulu - I don't view fantasy so negatively. Not like I did when younger. I think after having my heart slaughtered 4/5 times in various deep, long term relationships I learned to trust I will recover from heartbreak. So I'm willing to risk all because I know I'll always be okay after, even though the pain and suffering can be nigh unbearable. Romantic fantasy is okay because I trust myself with it now. My relationship to it changed compared to when I was more innocent.