Natasha Tori Maru

@gettoefl I disagree. I've made the first move plenty of times. Doing so never weakened me in any capacity. It was simply earnest candid expression.

Emotional reaction - as opposed to feeling, which normally has the story attached - can be instinctual ie survival based. Faster than thought. Keeps you safe. You feel the fear of the lion and it generates energy to move. In the example - feeling anger because someone cuts you off while driving - the anger is arising because of the story 'they cut me off'. An adult might feel angry. If a child were walking, and another child walked in front of them - they don't get angry. There is 'oh an obstacle in front (another kid) '. In a similar way, animals do not get angry when another animal moves in front. But the do experience anger/agitation as a survival mechanism. The adult in this scenario is reacting to the story. If the adult had no story it would just be 'someone cut in'. Not 'someone cut me off', which inserts their narrative in. So in some instances the story is generating all the emotion. In others, like the lion, survival is the instant generator and powerful protector that requires no story. In some cases the initial reaction doesnt happen. But more often than not in non-identifiction the emotion happens, without it becoming a feeling (where the story, or perception) comes in. This gives you breathing room to respond and not react. Important to note though, not all emotions are created equal 😁

Question if that is true.

Your ideas about women in general are misguided. This is red pill stuff picked up from the internet. Most women aren't like that. You have no idea about women and what they want. This is all just too much time spent online listening to jaded men upper 30s dating spheres and their busted rationalizations for broken relationships or why they were rejected. That aint your experience. Expand your perspective.

Are you sure there would be anger? Really question that. Is anger present with a simple observation? 'Someone cut in front' That is all. If anger is arising, we are still identifying with thought. With a 'me'. 'Someone cut ME off, now I will be inconvenienced!!' vs 'Someone cut in to traffic.'

@LoneWonderer keep floating on through life - your current path is rock solid if you ask me. There is not right or wrong. See where it takes you. My only advice would be to consider seriously all opportunities that come by, no matter how unappealing they may appear 😁

Definitely felt like it was externally forced. I would never have chosen to engage in a business, let alone construction. Literally the opportunity came up and I just thought 'why the fuck not?'. But I had to be in a place to even want to accept the opportunity. I wouldn't have been able to do this without nepotism. Learning from someone with 40 years of commercial construction experience. But also, I am proficient at the role, and excel without feeling like I force myself. So I am not in this position without some merit. I was selected for the role because I had a mechanical problem solving mind. Resiliance. Positivity. Persistence. Combined with being a woman - I think I had a unique advantage there. So there is some luck involved. Some blessings. But I had to do the work on my end and learn on the job. And fast. No education. Sink or swim. Regardless of it being a family business, if I failed in the role I would have gotten the axe.

@LoneWonderer I'll add that the process was slow. Very painful. Uncomfortable. Lots of emotional issues came up through it. I don't know why getting into business and making a career did this for me. I'm still trying to work it out 🥹 But it has been the best thing for me spiritually. Strangely.

@LoneWonderer while I can never know your experience directly as my truth - what you describe strikes in very strong alignment to how I used to be. Ask me 5 years ago, and I would NEVER have told you I would ever be in this position. Ever. And it was never something I aimed for at all. I don't view this as a failing on your part. If I did I would have to claim *I* too, have failed! I don't have much advice here, other than a natural progression to this point. I used to detest the social domain. I still dislike the unconscious nature of it. I think a huge breakthrough point for me was realising I can endure another's company and not be for it. I can operate in social domains and recognise these are not my people. Unconscious people. They don't meant any ill. They are just locked in survival and will do almost anything - including fucking anyone over - to look after themselves and those they love. I learned as long as I don't get in the way of that. I'm fine. Even better if I can make them feel and see I aid in their survival (and this is the magic of what I do in business and how it works). I also realised I am not obliged to respond to any conversation. Or questions. Some of these realisations made me sit in peace in social situations because the reframe was that I was not required to do anything. I simply chose to or not. Much of my own shit was the pressure of social CUSTOM. But when you fly in the face of social custom - it requires a profound amount of 'zero fuckd given'. Basically I am based as fuck now, whereas I wasn't before. Not sure any of this rings true to you. I think you will find you might naturally branch out as you age. Or you just might find a perfect niche that meets your survival needs. Big business and construction in particular can seem impossible and high stakes. Step by step. Little by little. I went from introverted, introspective, deep girl to intense, focussed action oriented woman. I cut through bullshit at work. What I thought were needs where just comfort and familiarity causing stasis. For me anyway. That all fell away....

@Ramasta9 oh yes right, I gotchu - that is heavy 🫶🙏🏻 I think some of that emotion is punctuation how you have been expressing yourself on the forum lately. Definitely take care and for sure step back from here if needed. I come here because I do enjoy being challenged for growth myself. But at the wrong moment general conversation here without expression, tone, body language and touch can feel really wrong in the face of flat text ❤️ Sleep, sometimes, is the only thing that brings me peace. When mourning and caring. You have my heart

I am proud I have the testicle to build a medical centre up to about $1mill acting as estimator, contracts administrator and project manager. At the moment I cannot handle more than about a $1million budgeted build. At one point I was homeless. So this is a lot for me No.1 tip I have? Master the social domain. Social dynamics do it all for you. Good with people = get them to want to work with you.

For context - what about genetic variabilities and expression? The claim here is we are equal inside, but above this: You claim we are different? I might be misunderstanding, or more clarity is needed. I think these are the sorts of inconsistencies I see sometimes that make me think you could be picking and choosing supporting arguments for a belief. Again, I could be wrong. Just how it appears. There is nothing threatening about what you are saying. This frame comes across as an attempt to say 'You are afraid, it is okay' implying there is some compromise in others rationality due to fear. It is statements like this that make your points harder to digest - and detracts from the validity of the claim. I make no statement on the validity of the claims, to be clear. Merely how they are expressed. I think the type of thinking you exhibit leans toward a powerful cognitive bias; I am familiar with enhanced sensitivity the more we clear rubbish from our systemic environment. But there is a fine line there. And I think being so sensitive your system comes to a crashing halt at the smallest thing points toward fragility that belies a body that may be out of homeostasis. The body is resilient. It should be able to occasionally endure stress without collapse. Again, perhaps this is your wording or dramatic flair to interoception regarding pollutants (I am going by your experiential reports of eating 'bad things' or consuming 'toxins' on the forum). Cognitive bias will mean we look past these sorts of real issues... I think I also notice this language coming out more over time as a pattern through your posts here. I only note this from a compassionate place; maybe this forum is bringing out negativity? Or maybe your external circumstances are trying at the moment... regardless of cause - you have my good will extended your way

This is a big tell, I agree. Knowing how to read body language and facial expression can mean your hit rate is much higher because you act on positive signals. Lots of dudes do just spam approach hoping, but never actually end up learning and assessing a women's signals. You can get flat rejections and some hostility even, if you fail in a reading of woman. Then you fall into the trap of thinking women flat hate being approached. Or that women hate men. Hate sexuality. Hate forwardness. Traps everywhere. @Never_give_up Sometimes you will also notice a women may be partially turned toward you - their body may be facing you with eye contact or their face turned to you. Frequent small glances can also be a positive indicator. Sometimes women will look in an admiring way - but this does not always mean they are dtf or want to be approached. We aren't candid. I wish it were easier for dudes.

Most women I know want kids, but cannot ensure their own income and safety while doing so. As soon as you have children, your income takes a hit. You become more vulnerable to financial abuse due to a lack of material funds for survival. If you face divorce with children as a stay at home mum, this introduces a huge issue. Most women would ideally drop to part time and raise children - but again the disparity in wages becomes a power dynamic in the relationship. If there is a breakup, you carry risk not having sovereign means. There are tons of good men who take equal responsibility raising children. But the work normally falls on the woman. So it can be the total other way. These issues cannot be reduced down to one explanation. And I will correct you - people - are selfish. People are egoic.

@JTL Happiness increase, or pleasure increase?

@Ramasta9 This is positioning yourself as elevated. Idealism morphing into an identity. Where simple ideas can irrevocably cement themselves into our perception of self - and lead to a dislodging of reason. I feel beneath many of your statements you reveal this belief: "People who disagree are biologically compromised… therefore they can’t perceive reality correctly.” I really feel this is a closed type belief system that is unfalsifiable. Anyone who disagrees is 'toxified' and if they agree they are 'awake'. This is actually what leads to cult dynamics, ideological extremism and conspiratorial thinking. I am not disagreeing with the truth that diet, sleep, environment affect cognition. Chronic stress and poor nutrition do affect clarity, mood and perception.

Yeah, it's a fucken pandora's box of potential turds underneath it all. As well as some diamonds in technological development. For me I want healthspan. I want broadening of the sensory experience. Part of my interest around AI/technology and transhumanism is that traditionally technology has acted to support and assist humans. The role of technology is changing, as well as capability. This changes everything because for the first time technology has the potential to replace humans (or part of the human experience), rather than just assist. Anyway, you have been on of the few here with the testicle to acknowledge some of the legit concerns and wider implications

It is important to realise the distinction between pleasure and happiness. Most people conflate the two.

Never fear earnest expression, with all our own personal unique character and flavour No need for pedantic correctness. There are no true mistakes. Especially in writing. There are some rules, sure. But I think we would all prefer the unfiltered words.

AI

@bazera I agree. Watching outtakes, director commentary and trivia about top shows/movies I love is a bit of a relaxing leisure thing for me. It really adds to the depth of the shows/movies. I hold them in much higher acclaim when I see the logistics and thought behind the process.

Better Call Saul is on par with Breaking Bad. Both have fantastic story, character archs. Acting is steller. Editing, cinematography and production are movie quality. I think both of these series did a lot to put TV on the radar for quality. Helped attract some great talent. I've watched both series 3 times over. I identify and understand the characters in new ways each time. Half the greatness of the show is it's treatment and development of side characters as well as central cast 👌

Haha - the spiritual twist to the joke slaps

I colour my hair BLACK LIKE MY SOUL

Have you guys seen Gattaca? I recommend it - relates to this topic. Interested to hear more about the ethics and not smoke and wishful thinking. A lot of this stuff seems like people are lost in la-de-da dreamland idea/potential addiction. The ethical concerns regarding elitism, eugenics etc are big. Discussions on this forum are always surface level. Inequality (access to enhancements, brain implants, genetic edits) Loss of what makes us human. Is more capability better? It might be worth investigating this assumption. What roles do struggle, natural adaptability, meaning all play? Emotions deleted? The role of grief, limitation and vulnerability in the human experience. Identity instability - are you still you after major cognitive edits? What anchors identity (personality, preferences, perception alterations) Philosophy of personal continuity and how this melds with no-self etc. Power concentration - who controls what? Can access be revoked? Is cognition to be monitored or influenced? Safety and unintended consequences. Humans are shit at predicting complex system outcomes. CRISPR Consent/coercion Meaning crisis Existential risk - humans losing control I think a big question at the heart of it is: Is the goal to improve human life - or replace some/part/all of the human condition? I find these surface level hype-fest discussions zzzz. Lets look at the above to start