Natasha Tori Maru

@enchanted Sometimes we are just "in" our emotions LET ME HAVE MY EMOTIONS!

More examples of the framing I am questioning. The prompt to consider fatherhood, and the go is immediately toward male reproductive behaviour and mating status. Maybe men do not perceive themselves overly connected with the role. You are, though. It is the rhetoric employed NOW I question. Right here. On this very forum.

Women are often referred to as mothers in discussions like this. But men are more often referred to as men or providers. Not fathers. I wonder why there is asymmetry there - it appears all over the forum in discussions of this type. Is it because motherhood is more salient? Asymmetrical model of parental responsibility?

You don't need to apologise. No offense was taken. We are trying to help you.

No worries, I can keep saying it. Most happy to oblige 😊 You are incorrect.

@Atb210201 You do realise this is magical thinking, yes? You have very little idea of what is going on internally with people from observing the outside. Especially with complex interpersonal dynamics. Just an example - you tried to tell me I feel and experience something I told you I do not. A small personal sample size blown out to a wild generalisation is also problematic.

Please don't turn this into a men vs women excuse to dunk on either sex.

I'm providing you with evidence to counter your view. It's not me who isn't accepting reality. You can't even directly address what is said without all these strange sidetrack arguements. It is simple really - you don't know what is best for others.

My tits provide. I evolved to lactate.

Disappointing, but not unexpected. Have a look into: - Causal claims - Universal generalisations - Testing beliefs against counterexamples

That's not what I want to do here. You need to have insight into this. Just reading the conversation that proceeded above I can see reason isn't enough to convince you. You need to investigate your beliefs and reasoning. How you came to this conclusion.

So no evidence counters your theory? So it is impossible to falsify? You don't see a problem with this line of reasoning?

@Someone here What did you genuinely expect to happen as a result of this post?

I have done it. It has been fine. I remain close friends with two of them - unfortunately the third man was killed by a shark. But if not for that, I would be close with him. It appears like others experience of success still are not sufficient evidence to counter your belief. I am sorry.

@blankisomeone What evidence would you need to establish that every single person who dies by suicide has unmet basic needs? What would count as evidence against your theory?

I take a walk with music or no (depending on mood). No drive, push or force. Slow meandering in the woods, by the river. I let my mind wonder off and let my eyes focus on distant objects and horizons. No podcasts. Just air, water, trees and sound. Slow moving.

Because it's an artificial limit. That's why. From your response, I gather you don't really understand what I am meaning.

@Atb210201 I am sorry to hear you have this belief

No. Too absolute. It can be done. You just have to be mature & realistic about it.

Clear, easy. Prose flows. I think you avoid unnecessary verbosity and select the simplest most succinct words. The substance of the posts are complex enough without needing the additional cognitive labour of tracking a sentence with multiple commas, parenthesis or pauses. Short and sharp. I think the writing is most effective when you begin with super short sentences and gradually lengthen them. Unsure if this is consciously done, but it's impactful.

@Zenterus I can erase it - if you hide it with the options panel this will also make disappear. Mods can reinstate at request

Peaking at the club, sticky floors sweat and saucer eyes - wait for it 2:48

WTF you can do this? Done. The database is huge now >.< Thanks heaps!

I am aware. It still remains that a cognitive bias is being trained when you engage in pickup methodology. Something is wrong if most signals are being read as sexual. Or if one small signal is being extrapolated to "I cannot have a platonic relationship with the opposite sex".