Natasha Tori Maru

What makes the first impression on you when listening to a tune, rhythm or melody? Do you play music, or dance? Many dancers and drummers I know tend toward noticing rhythm first, movement & beat. Other musicians hear the emotional crescendos of the melody & sequential pitches. I do not know if there is any pattern to be found here. I am a dancer and only ever learned some drums and a touch of bass guitar (rhythm). I have always heard the beat and rhythm first. It catches me before the melody. I feel the beat in my body as movement, I feel the melody as an emotional weight in my chest and heart 😃

I do not think so - I think maybe you are attempting to sell your preference as objective fact. In my opinion, it is not so simple at all!

Ohhhh! Thank you I will check this out 🙏 Yep, I do! It helped a lot with my emotional healing initially (release and somatic work), and now I would say the energy I feel is mostly sexual. Without being erotic, if you get my meaning. More the movement of primal energy. Enhanced focus from the do nothing meditation and yoga makes the experience of being and movement more intense than a hit of MDMA for me. It has taken a long time to feel into my body with this much sensation. Taking mushrooms... When everything in your body is vibrating. Similar feeling. I haven't needed to use substances in a while now. Training the quality of awareness also dovetailed back to consciousness work.

@Sincerity 👍 Your signature points to the issue as well !

@theleelajoker Agree! The sexual component really interests me. I find through really intense meditation and mindfulness practice my quality of focus and attention is enhanced. I always relate this back to orgasm - it is the only time I am in a pure state of being; in single minded highest quality focus. I have occasionally had experiences of do nothing meditation where this heightened quality-of-focus is so high it almost feels ORGASMIC. No shit. Freaky as fuck the first time I experienced it. Since then, I have always wondered if the drive for pair bonding and orgasm with another was to experience this extreme/heightened focus state. Where I am completely one with my body, with another. Like my desire for romantic paring is a desire to merge with another and sex/orgasm is the easiest mechanical way to do it. Total unity of focus of two beings. Becoming one being. Just being. Needless to say, I have been working on the quality of my focus through mediation for some time now. Not just the ability or duration of attention. Which is a different domain entirely - and one in which it saddens me is being eroded by technology. Anyway, just some crazy musings before I fall asleep!

Beat gets me moving and I will smash out 40kms mountain biking in an adrenaline filled rush. Or dance all night! Melody - particularly strings - will fuck me in the feels : Then add a defined beat/rhythm - I'M DONE FOR:

So it is the phrasing that makes it egotistical or unhealthy? The language?

I think when one does awaken to it, and makes the statement 'I am God', others who have discovered this truth understand it is not the self, or ego, that makes the statement. Even if, ironically, it is the ego that types it out on a computer screen.

@AION You really do not like to simply state your claim. That's cool. But it can be frustrating when you create threads like this then dance around answering direct questions.

Hue hue hue oH nOES! My bOdY cOunT is HiGh! WomEN r HyPeRgamOus!!! MEn LoVE UncoNdiTiOnAlly, WoMeN LoVE OppoRtUniSticAlly!!! I better stop now >.> The funny thing is, red pill is meant to help men out dating. And most dudes don't even realize its red pill thinking behind half the popular podcasters these days. I don't actually see red pill advice actually helping men at all in practice... Regarding Ralston. Man, I dunno. Not enough info to go off from him. I would love to hear him rap on about romantic love more. But there's very little of his stuff out there on it. For me - just as there is spirituality, nonduality, unity and oneness - to see through that requires subject/object dissolution. Dissolving the barriers between subject and object - either by viewing self and all distinction as object object. Or seeing self in everything; self-self dissolution. All as one. A romantic partnership is about dissolving the barriers between two. Just as marriage isn't a unity of two; it is dissolving all that is between. But in romantic paring, your bias, your issues, your troubles, your bullshit - show up. It is a more accurate mirror because I cannot see myself while behind my eyes. There is more opportunity for healing and growth in romance. I have always felt a glass ceiling present when going true alone monk-mode. Monk-mode can be done with the right partner. Just my feelings on the matter

I take it the phrasing 'we are all God' or 'everything is God' isn't drumming up the same egoic connotations as 'I am God'. So it is the individuals personal ego identifying as 'God' that you argue is unhealthy? I am trying to make out the nuance in your view - not argue. I suppose Solipsism would be equally as unhealthy a view (Solipsism, to me, is merely a philosophical concept, not something that can be directly realized at the relative level. Too many thought/conceptual presuppositions).

@AION The way you phrased the portion I linked made it sound like you do believe in some form of diety ie "God". Which is chill, just not sure where you stand.

Fuck, how could I have missed this!? I better get back to blaming the patriarchy and men. Those fuckers have been keeping me down my whole life!!!

There's some big implications and inferences with this statement. For clarity; you believe in God, and that she/he/it is something outside you, that is an arbitrator of morality or truth?

@WonderSeeker even though the topic you posted could be seen as negative, I think it is extremely positive in that it lets users express their feelings in a place without directing it at a single person. Or turning it into a witch hunt. Just general issues being aired in a contained space. Thank you for the topic 🙏❤️

Not to derail but I am watching LOTR rn - wot! @Carl-Richard I'm channelling Leo now 😈😈😈

https://youtu.be/UqWJ6uf8AGE?si=9cyGL04Vggo-JXxs

I never thought about this, but it would lead me to think we may notice rhythm first. It might be the 'hook', so to speak. My interest is piqued by rhythm, but I often stay for the melody. Your playlists, Leo, often emphasize melody. So I am not surprised by your preference as elicited above ｡⁠◕⁠‿⁠◕⁠｡

The question is what we notice first - not so much which is more important 🙂 Melody/rhythm is codependent arising.

How are you framing harmony here? I see it as the structure support behind rhythm/melody and how the notes stack. Sort of like the atmosphere behind the notes of the harmony. I think they can be separate. But when they mesh together I am taken away to another dimension through the music! I am not a musician so I do not know all concepts as they are defined through that frame. I am just a lover of music 🎵 🎶 ❤️

@Jacob Morres I can see that in some of her posts. I think she had a personal dislike of PUA and it crept in to other valid points she raised. @Basman I saw that flaw in her style also. She really drove at points until it verged on being rediculous. I would contrast my style with hers and raise I pick my battles; I quickly see when others are closed off to an idea or alternate perspective. I just exit the conversation now. Occasionally I stick around if I think I am raising a point that is relevant for the forum and not the individual. But mostly I don't enjoy debating. Because really? Who's opinion is ever actually changed? Some users here are amazing and shift based on new points, others come in with so much 'knowing' there is not room for anything new. I will say this forum is great for users who are willing to look at topics from all angles. Emerald love to 'win'. I don't see conversation or debate that way. My version of 'win' is... Hehehe when I successfully troll someone 😈 @Joseph Maynor I miss her conversation. I really enjoyed how she always looked at mechanisms that worked behind the scenes, rather than focus on the surface manifestation of an issue.

I wonder when today is... In Aussieland, I am a day ahead. The day has just begun... Leo releasing videos in the future own here in the southern hemisphere 🫠

@bazera love the friction principle - it is the same way I look at it in different words 'lowering the barrier for entry'. Making doing the thing as easy as possible because my slinky mind will try anything to get out of it while building the habit. Once the habit is built through repetition, discipline isn't as needed because everything becomes reflexive. I think this is the video you reference: https://youtu.be/TwuutU9yUGE?si=l6UahE6cUXErVJ1G

I've noticed that all the successful people I have worked with have 3 things: observation, communication & self mastery.

Another tip I have: you want to be taking action with your future self in mind. This might be something as simple as preparing the coffee pot that night. So when you get up - turn it on and done. Lay out your clothes for the next day, so morning you can move through your routine with the lowest barrier to entry to begin and execute the task. Set all clocks 5 minutes fast. Plan ahead so when the time arrives to execute the routine you can be mindful and calm. This 'future me' is the 'pre-routine'. If you take action in the now to benefit the future you, it also enables you to look back on the past with gratitude. This will increase your overall enjoyment of the present and will stop remuneration over the past (regrets). The more you prepare for future you, the more you will be totally present, calm and confident in the moment. Again dovetails into enjoyment and gratitude for your own actions. Your effectiveness will increase because you aren't burdened by your own mind scrambling to catch up or remember (or beat yourself up for not doing xxx). Very very powerful technique. I employ this through the weekdays so I can deal with the stress and pressure of working in construction, as well as eating well, daily exercise, daily meditation, walking the dog etc. Most of my tasks are just setting up for future Tash 🙂