Natasha Tori Maru

There's a huge difference between dating/courting and being in a committed relationship. Two distinct phases. If you are dating for 5 years and have not moved past this phase - I think something is amiss. All relationships progress, evolve and change. Nothing remains the same. So there are 3 moving parts here - You as a person (that changes), your partner (also changes) and the relationship (also changes and evolves). At any one time, all three elements will need varying levels of care and attention. I am personally of the opinion one should not be 100% vulnerable and open from the outset. When you are getting to know someone, it is a slow process. Our of necessity it probably won't be deep straight away. Like with small-talk - you are exchanging pennies back and forth. You don't know if you want to invest yet. As you continue to exchange pennies, you might decide to throw a dollar on the table and see how that goes - there's a bit more risk? But it's strategically calculated. No risk - no reward. After some time you realise it might be worth putting in a solid amount. But you can't know this straight away. You vet the person. You dance around them for a time - learning boundaries, navigating each other. You slowly learn about that person and update your model of them and decide if the relationship is worth it to continue opening up. You do not know this person. It takes (in my opinion) years to know someone. And even then, I would never claim to know someone in totality. People can totally surprise you. Once a safe bond has been developed with strong pillars of respect, individual autonomy, mutual care and affection - the gateways to real intimacy can form. Communication. Being seen. Being understood. Being loved and cared for. Feeling the ultimate connection with other. Breaking down the barriers between each party but still recognising each other as sovereign and residing in the CHOICE to be together. Why do we view a slow vetting and opening up as some form of self betrayal - why is this not living our truth? After all, it is still you. All of it is you. Labelling anything '"fake" or "inauthentic" can be a rejection (and mostly is) of some part of ourselves.... This is a really important question. Are you comfortable operating with strong boundaries? Are we comfortable relating to others without going straight to our most vulnerable parts? Is it all - or nothing? There is a real tension here where most people aren't comfortable operating outside this all or nothing belief: either we reveal everything and we have a "real connection" or I stay guarded - and the relationship is shallow. Fake. Good boundaries and vetting make deeper intimacy possible - safety is established. Less risk of being emotionally triggered. Clarity. No early overinvesting. Slow authenticity means we can safely reach the depths of the other person without risk they will reject our most vulnerable parts. Good boundaries mean we can hold space for the other person to be vulnerable; we aren't betraying any part of ourselves to be there in real connection with another. We aren't giving up attraction, or autonomy, or our sense of self. How are we identifying if someone is "higher consciousness" ? Is this even accurate? Is there a flaw in what we are looking for, that is blinding us to the potential in others? Mostly people view emotional openness, spiritual vocabulary, non-judgemental language, confidence/charisma and displays of vulnerability as higher consciousness. None of these actually indicate psychological maturity or wisdom. People speak eloquently about love, wholeness and unity and repeatedly violate boundaries. Ultimately - I vet others actions against their words. And actions can only be assessed through a slower and longer term relational attitude than words. Talk is cheap. Actions marrying up to words communicates integrity and truth. A higher consciousness person to me, has high integrity. I look for compatibility, communication, integrity and aligned values. These are ingredients that I can work with so we can see what we can cook up together. You won't ever be certain you will create a delicious dessert - abandon this. Just see what comes out and make sure the ingredients are there in the quantities you require. I don't need the person to be spiritual. I enjoy contrast. They need to be willing to grow. Compromise. No one will ever be perfect. They don't need to tick all our boxes. Explore contrasting people. Integrity and truth is not just something that happens between us. It happens within us. When we say we will do something, and don't do it. We lie to ourselves. We are dishonest to our values - and even if we don't openly acknowledge this, we are subconsciously communicating to ourselves "I am worthless" even if the thought never arrives. Self integrity and truth in this arena is far less common than anyone perceives. If you aren't operating from truth (words + actions aligning) you are lying to yourself and continually communicating to yourself through action you are worthless. Assess yourself for co-dependency. Consider that jumping in too quickly with vulnerability is an addiction to emotional high. Chasing states. Addictions happen within us - as well as outside us. This is not love. This is really garbled and stream of consciousness writing - I make no edits or revisions. Apologies if it doesn't answer or is a bit loopy / repetitive. I felt like whatever came out as it is was more authentic and then questions can follow. I also missed a few talking points, this isn't an exhaustive take on the topic. It is huge.

Do we have one? Rolling. Post that shit. Shorts, reels, tick-tock turds. Do your worst short format. Boomer cringe. I love the spittle on the guys mouth 🤮🤢 https://vt.tiktok.com/ZS45V1Enf/

@Raze oh god. I feel cringe in the back of my neck and shoulders as a sensation. Weird. The silence when he was done 🥹

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DZVjSumx3aE/?igsh=cGIyeWs3c3k5bWMz He's a sweaty flesh mound

*cringe intensifies*

@Ramanujan I've always been into it for as long as I can remember... I've always been overly concerned with existential matters of the self, how I can be better, suffer less. Become more conscious I was most aware I was like this since around 11 or 12 years old. If I had to say - since then.

Not to be blunt - but losing your health will do it. By force, if you cannot manage a gratitude and appreciation practice. The software apps you write - do others use them? That is how you are connecting with other humans, despite how nebulous it may seem. It is just that you may not get to directly experience how you affect them. You may never know 🙏🏻 but you can visualise: I get caught up in monkey survival games also. I spend some days informing contractors all day their work is shit. They are behind. I can't pay them because of xxx not done. It's a lot of bad news. No's. Dissappointing people. Negotiating. Stress. Plans read wrong, walls not plumb. Then the hospital is built. I see women getting breast scans to diagnose and treat cancer and save lives. ICUs where COVID patients were treated and infection prevention stopped spread, ICAs that stop mentally ill people killing themselves or hurting others. Dialysis centres where diabetes is treated. Pathologies where ED blood tests are run that save lives in a snap. I see how my troubles help others. It makes it all worth it. Those people get to live a bit longer, a bit better. One more sunrise. One more sunset. I can't see any of that in the middle of the monkey game. When I'm ordering 20 doors, frames and praying the hardware is all good. Looking at pages of specs and plans to find one detail so I don't loose $20k. The only way I make it through some days is to sit and visualise the building completed. The sunrise and set above it. And people leaving, after receiving treatment, going home to see their families. Gratitude and appreciation is the only way. Find connection. All goodness comes from connection. The more you mindfully remind yourself, the more you inner narrative will change. Reframe ❤️ the smallest actions can have huge impact - butterfly effect.

“People talk about how much energy it takes to train an AI model – but it also takes a lot of energy to train a human,” - Sam Altman

@Ulax you little shit Sides in orbit lol

There are challenges sure - I just don't want you to fall into black pill thinking (like I myself did, and clawed out). (づ ᴗ _ᴗ)づ♡

The statement " I am stage 2 construct aware, I am yellow" is more likely a confession of stage orange. It is a way of establishing authority or superiority, identity through achievement, status signaling, and using labels as credentials. Pillars of stage orange levels of growth. Someone with a more integrated understanding is often less attached to identifying as a particular stage. It doesn't necessarily discount that person from being yellow or tier II - but it serves as a reasonable point to infer the above. Especially when this is a pattern of behavior: needing to state oneself as this stage when cornered in debate.

@AION oh no no - this is about you being obsessed with me you want to join my cult!

I have, in the proper looksmaxxing vernacular, ascended ( ˘͈ ᵕ ˘͈)

Looksmaxxing movement is just one - which is why I raised you linked it. If you remove a range of metrics, others have very little to go off. As an example, if you remove speaking face to face, body language, tone, intonation and only have an image to go off - that image is going to serve as a larger metric to go off due to absence of other qualifying factors. If you are interested in being able to deduce with logic and critical thinking I can link you to some good resources. I suggest you look into it yourself if you do not wish to accept my claim. I don't care to pull up data, if that's what you want.

You don't see how if you remove one domain for connection - others become more important?

I mean - you posted it.

Dude you just called him dumb. The irony.

I think there is a distinction to be made between: 1) People care more about looks than they used to. 2) Looks have more influence because technology changed how people meet and interact. There is probably more evidence in support of the second claim. Human preferences for attractiveness are ancient and fairly stable - what has changed most is the environment. It is probably more accurate to say technology has increased the importance of appearance in certain contexts/domains.

I wonder how the projected budgeting for upgrading all the data centre hardware factors in - by the time they are built and running new chips will supersede them. Bets on Nvidia having deals for buybacks or upcycling or some shit.

It brings out the worst traits in people. All the wrong behaviour is rewarded if the intention is to build something of substance with another being with maturity, respect and gracious connection. The platform removes the context in which human qualities become visible. You are very correct that it corrupts men's understanding of the nature of women. You end up in a terrible cognitive echo chamber where confirmation bias destroys truth. Dating apps create conditions where confirmation bias thrives because people receive highly selective feedback and then generalise from it. I wouldn't say there is NO success in online dating unless one is good looking, but the odds are against you if you do not have that "look" to initiate a swipe right decision.

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We need to create systems to support this, and incentivise markets to work with these systems to profit in some way. I can't think of any other way for people to hop onto problem solving faster. There has been a lot of research and development into ways to extract carbon out and leverage the carbon cycle. Carbon farming. Bioenergy with carbon capture and storage, DAC or direct air capture. Even ocean absorption based strategies. If only stupid cu*** like Musk weren't insisting on abandoning Earth for Mars. TF even happened to that narrative? Someone needs to engineer a HUGE plant to move carbon into places we want it to support the existing cycle.

Been my best years so far.

I agree with this, which is why I think for someone like Orion it was a matter of time before he jumps on it in some way. Capture the audience while it's hot, ready and there. Smart.

@PsychedelicEagle I eat the seeds (I roast them) and I consume a lot of pumpkin per day - I even slice off the skin in thin whisps. Roast it with oil and some salt for skin crisps No supplements. I wasn't even the one to notice my hair changing. First it was just my mum making off-hand comments. Then I saw I mate who I hadn't had over in 4 or so years. He noticed right off the batt! Not something he normally notes. I was going to slice it all off as I routinely go through phases of shaving it or cutting it into a pixie thing. But now I want to see how long it can go before it stops growing... I gotta say it is MAINTENANCE. Which is why I contain it all in braids. Even tied up the bun is larger than my head. This is VERY cool! Appreciate the share. I eat an ungodly volume of vegetables. I don't really get many carbohydrates from any other sources. Lots of eggs too. From my mums chickens. Took a while to train my body to work with so much fiber, but once acclimated its awesome! Never felt better. I tend to believe most recommendations for vegetables are way below what is required due to the nutrients being depleted from soul - hence effecting quality. We need to crop cycle to replenish soils. Instead we just farm the same shit over and over, depleting it the good stuff.