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@gengar I wish you did not have to carry this burden alone - my compassion to you 💔

@mr_engineer 👍 I even think the term 'toxic masculinity' is used and twisted into misandry by many women. It is not isolated to feminists, although it is more likely to show up in these circles. Toxic masculinity tends to describe a certain set of behaviours that can turn negative - whereas misandry is an attitude toward men in general. There's a legit pattern in certain circles of women that have this negative attitude (which is misandry) and try to repackage it as 'toxic masculinity'. This can really lead to a whole host of issues with men feeling like it is not okay to be masculine at all. Misandry sometimes shows up alongside or within spaces that use feminist language - and this is where it is easy to think feminism is the issue. It is just more often we see the two things manifesting at the same time. The swing toward feminism doesn't mean sexism toward men doesn't exist, doesn't happen. And just because men have afforded more privilege due to the structure of society does not mean they have not suffered from the structure in place by the elites. Misandry can feel very very justified under the cloak of feminism. The issue is you get people who generalise all men, justify their hostility and treat men or 'the patriarchy' as this giant monolith instead of individuals. I stand for women as well. But I am very vocal about calling out both sexes on their shit. And I do find it tends to land a bit better from women to woman. When a man tries to push against sexism I see a lot more resistance. Sad.

I'm learning way too much about Sadhguru's personal life and habits

Christ, can you imagine how much of a festering, filthy sceptic stink that beard would be??!! I bet you can see the stink lines as you get closer. And the watering of the eyes 🤢 🤮

Yes, I highly recommend the Great Barrier Reef to scuba dive as an experience. It truly is an alien world down there. I think I can understand your words: felt very spiritual to me. There is something so visceral and otherwordly when diving. Suspended in water with no gravity. And the small movements and wavering of flora in the underwater current. It really feels like some sensations are blocked out - heightening all other sense faculties and deepening the experience. I hope you can see the Great Barrier Reef before it disappears! It has suffered terrible bleaching and is rapidly dying.

@CARDOZZO Slay

@CARDOZZO The bling The reflection in your glasses is an infinite regress - an image of you taking an image of you taking an image of you taking an image.... ad infinitum!

Right back at ya Yeah that is me! Scooba diving - we caught lobsters (I am holding the lobster loot). Circa 2024

@ExploringReality NGL I love how my first few interactions with you were fights and verbal sparring. Now you are one of my favourite users

Heh heh heh - gotta rebrand & repackage it all so it can be sold in a new way for the dosh

Yep. I have called out negativity toward men here. In addition, you aren't privy to warnings that are issued for things like this. Just because you do not see it, does not mean it is not happening. Mods do not often publicly call things out. PM's, warnings, points and timeouts are issued for these sorts of things all the time. In this case you are simply ignorant. The sort of cognitive bias and reductive thinking you display is something to seriously think about though. These types of thinking are never in isolation. We don't tend to think in a particular way about a particular thing. It is usually applied throughout our thought processes. So be wary of that. You will be blind-sighting yourself in other areas of your thinking and meaning making.

@mr_engineer just some advice - you are free to take it or leave it. Wanting to give you some relief from negativity.

@mr_engineer I think you need to ground himself in real life experience and make sure you aren't bogged down in cognitive bias + endless social media. Nothing is so reductive and simple.

@Carl-Richard Don't let me near you - I would braid that beard

For sure!

Haha, he would dismiss that as all social domain jargon. It is an interesting thought experiment as a standalone. How much individuation may be lost due to a sort of 'telepathic' transparency? How might our use of language change? It very much touches on dissolving the barriers between us. And sometimes it is those differences that create unique people, personalities. The contrast in individuals is a novel thing for sure. Variety of experience/perspective is tasted this way. Cohesion, integration, truth and integrity would rise up at the cost of individuation. God wanted to taste that separation and what rises up between. Good contemplations

Well my facecard is my avatar, the face is seen

Truth as Transparency This one reminds me of a practice in Ralston's Zen Body-being called 'Inside - Outside' (paraphrasing, I think that is what he called it) Where you move through your day & interactions as if everyone can hear all your thoughts with total transparency. Initially it can be frightening, but your mind begins to make slow corrective measures. My thinking became a lot more soft, and it helped with my ability to apply discernment over judgement. Powerful process to engage and train integrity.

I don't think insurance anywhere covers stuff like that. We always pay a subbie directly for these sorts of repairs (Australia). It is a terribly stressful job working in the construction industry, but boy do I have good rates for services repair from the good connections I have. I also know how much corruption is prevalent. There are 10 different ways a subcontractor can fuck you in the arse. The no.1 way I see situations like Leo's happening; fucken tampons and sanitary items flushed down the toilet. I DON'T KNOW WHY WOMEN DO THIS. Also - 'flushable' wipes, are not flushable. The above is from directly from all the hydraulics guys I have worked with.

@zurew thank you 🫶

@zurew I'm stealing some of this advice 🙏 I don't approach argument/ thought this way. It can leave me open to objections that I fail to push back on. Cheers!

A single worded representation of absolute succinct communication Hahaha!

Vocab for me ? Extensive reading. Novels, great literary works. Non-fiction. Biographies. Articulation - writing. Journalling. Insights. I used to waffle on and be less concise. When I started to work in construction I was put in a pressure cooker to always communicate with the most precise words with as few sentences as possible. Trades and clients simply will not have the attention span to dig for the point. Try these frameworks to practice a structure, then apply to topics. Practice practice practice. Write it out, then speak it. Maybe even record it to review: PREP method BLUF method Another tip? I write out passages and cull cull cull out words ruthlessly. Anything unnecessary goes unless I am intentionally writing stream of consciousness and want flow. Hemingway to thank for that. Writing and reading will aid in sharpening articulation, speaking it out is practice & performance.

@Davino all Fauna with the names of Flora Pure beautiful spirits!

@James123 what is a moderator in your words? Do you think it is a spiritual leader of some sort? Just to be clear, that is certainly not how I define it. I could genuinely be here just for the personal development side of Actualized, as a user. So you could be projecting your ideas of 'shoulds' onto me. The word pussy is your word not mine.