Natasha Tori Maru

Do you think he had something to prove, or was defending himself? What was the context prior to his uncalibrated behaviour?

Informed criticism requires understanding the relevant evidence and arguments.

I just want to make you aware (because you keep stating you are simply observing) that the above marked up in red is not an observation. They are interpretations, generalisations, explanations of a proposed mechanism, and psychological inferences. This distinction matters, because these are the parts of your reasoning where you are moving beyond what you directly observed, then assigning meaning, motives and causality to it. This is the part of your reasoning you have direct influence over, and where cognitive biases can enter.

One of the markers of maturity for me - and one of the biggest factors for stable, healthy long term relationships in general - is in our ability to repair. Disagreement, fights... these are not so bad in my opinion. It is our ability to repair after that really illustrates maturity, compassion and understanding. We can verbally apologise. One method. But the best apology is a change in behaviour. We must have integrity. Words must align with actions. We fall out of congruancy with others when we betray our own integrity by saying one thing - apologising - but continuing with the poor behaviour. We cannot just apologise and continue the poor behaviour, expecting forgiveness. We need to work on changing he behaviour that necessitated the apology. Necessitated the forgiveness. In long term relationship and repair, a provisional time must also be accepted where the person manifesting poor behaviour attempts to change. So we have to be willing to give grace for this period, accepting they may transgress while they try to recalibrate. Many people cannot accept this period when people try to change and cut ties at this point - and it comes down to our own personal boundaries with regard to what we will or will not tolerate. If someone is earnestly trying to change their behaviours (and usually beliefs are being changed simultaneously). I think it's important to distinguish between a setback during a genuine attempt to change and a repeated pattern in which apologies are made without meaningful progress. Online rhetoric is becoming considerably intolerant to this phase of relationship. Repair needs more work and emphasis in our culture - we aren't learning these skills or being taught them. Too often people have a zero sum mindset. I appreciate your comments @Rafael Thundercat - you speak on topics not attended to as frequently on the forum

Shits gonna' fuck - Or - Shit better fuck @UnbornTao I know you are about this

I don't think it's one or the other. There is a balance to be found between our unique rhetorical style and accurate expression. Maybe you haven't found that part of your voice/expression yet? It comes with time and practice. Adding flamboyant or interesting and unusual combinations of words to express a concept or idea generates added interest through imagery. You could have a bias to more formality and maybe you prefer that from others?

While the training was in "performance art" more specifically, it anesthetized me to public performance through exposure therapy - I guess? The training was in movement and dance, but also illustrating a narrative without spoken word. Methods of connecting with audiences through non-verbal communication. I did a lot of opening shows for local avante guard artists - for galleries and exhibitions. I worked with a troop of girls for various shows. Sometimes fashion, sometimes jewellery, photography, painting etc. We would perform for a live audience wearing designers originals. I loved it! It was an artists commune officially - lead by a photographer. Disbanded when the man who headed it committed suicide. We came up with choreography and worked with him (Terry was his name) and we were also his muses. I did a lot of photography and performance art with the commune. Is it a nudist festival?!! The last time I went to a nudist festival I recall a man who had busted open a glow stick, smeared it all over himself - paying particular attention to his unspeakables - and literally gyrating. Helicopter wang style Being naked around strangers will erase shame quick...

Mostly I think he means well. But he is delusional and substituting his propensity for Mormonism's structure and worldview with transhumanism and AI worship. He is a tech bro in the longevity space who can spin a narrative and virtue signal. Charm gets you very far.

Kiss of death

Incidentally, this is the exact same line of reasoning 4th wave feminists use for "patriarchy"

Then that's on your interpretation.

Really

It is a me problem.

Dance more How do you feel when someone else dances with you? When I dance with others, I can be so wild and out there. They are often more comfortable and easy expressing themselves when I am going apeshit in front of them. I suppose I am invoking the cringiest possible white girl dancing as an overt display *I* have no shame. I can actually dance quite well, I just sometimes choose to be based and do whatever my limbs feel like. Which can look bizarre. Uninhibited self-expression gives other people permission to express themselves more freely!! This is why a partner can help so much. But not everyone reacts the same. Some people feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable or pressured to match the energy. I took dance lessons when younger - jazz, contemporary, breakdancing, popping and locking - this really helped me. It grounded me, gave me confidence in my body, enhanced my own connection to emotion, feeling. Broke through anxiety, shame, embarrassment, fear of judgement. Sometimes I think it worked too well as I lack shame and embarrassment to a large degree which can act as a good check for behaviour. It also worked to train me in public performance. I have no issue with public perception, speaking or performing for an audience.

I am really disappointed by some of the replies. Warnings have been issued where it was clear someone was taking the piss. Posts have also been removed. Occasionally it is hard to know what is serious as there is no tone through text, and some people are confused regarding bias (and being clear regarding their own - which is even more left field). This thread is a tool for growth. It is also a vulnerable topic. Courage is grace under pressure.

What emotions / feelings come up for you? Sympathy, heartbreak, disgust, sadness, pity etc So you feel compelled to action?

@Carl-Richard to loose a definition for me!

Isn't it more than that, through? It's a seperate word, after all. Why is bias a seperate word if it is just synonymous? Unless bias is a domain word. I bias in my understanding also tends to distort judgement/discernment. So while the above forms part of a bias (or can), there's needs to be some distortion mechanism.

Really appears like many do not know what a bias is.

@Ajay0 This is not a debate thread. Please do not use it as such.

Try not to derail too much all

The downstream effects of love, connection, oneness, unity, nonduality and recognition of God conciousness are huge. I think you correctly identify one of these downstream effects in how we relate to each other - in how we express love, connection and pleasure through sex.

Yep 100%. This is identifying all the other factors that contribute to why people rape. You identified social learning and social norms... Rape can also be caused by entitlement, disregard of consent, power, domination, aggression, coercive attitudes. Situational factors like impaired inhibition... sometimes personal affect/personality. There are more I am sure! The solution has to address all these causes. The underlying concept is very interesting. implementing it would require a much broader systemic shift.

You recognise and deeply know that other IS you. How could you participate in an act of self violation unless you do not recognises other as part of yourself, as yourself? Connection IS unity, is ONE, is infinity. Good connection to make