Natasha Tori Maru

@Human Mint I've asked GPs in the past to document and note on file any treatments I am refused when I request them. They change their tune very fast, and it can assist timelines when chronic issues arise.

I understand the intention - but intention doesn't always matter when outcome is poor.

I appreciate it And very glad you have strong flexibility of mind to be able to embody a different perspective. It is an asset that facilitates gratitude and higher consciousness. That isn't to say your problems aren't as real and deeply serious. They are legitimate too

Can you demonstrate for me where there is enjoyment? I can see most parties displaying poor conduct in some way or other. But I don't see enjoyment in the rhetoric. Having said that, I have speed read most posts here. From my read only @Inliytened1 could be read that way. Which I was dismayed by

I have the same thoughts. I'll give it to them; they really try to innovate and remix. I feel they could have totally deleted the vehicle system and diverted resources to building more story / content in the sky islands and underworld. Even a unique reward or OP weapon RNG element in those locations would have been great.

I appreciate these words, Leo ❤️ The signals between muscles just stop working with MND. Just takes over until the lungs stop. It's a horror. It's a true recontextualization. I am so grateful to be able to do something as mundane as make the bed. Or operate a door handle.

My Aunt has MND (think ALS). I help care for her. She is dying in front of my very eyes, very rapidly (she was walking 2 months ago, and now has lost the ability to move her legs. Her speaking muscles are now failing). It is very confronting. As you get older you are also confronted with your parents passing. This is also hard. Can't describe it.

@Leo Gura how did you feel about the underground area and light roots? I felt it had potential but ultimately it was wasted. After a while there was no real incentive to go down there. Loved the sky islands though.

A lot less - no time 🥹 We were sponsored to raid as Oceanic competitors. I used to hide I was a chick for as long as possible until I produced pure results on meters or for healing (to avoid any toxicity). Was a great time! Often got to duelist in arena on all characters (but I was less of an PvPer). Lots of "toxic positivity" from others in that game. Initially that sort of mentality pushed me really well in business. But it is a drain to use bad fuel to motivate myself so I had to change. I also ran and helped manage PAX Australia for 5 years as an enforcer. I am extremely competitive. I try to reign it into certain domains now so I don't try to crush everyone around me (I reserve the competitive behaviour for cycling, gaming and business). In business (I am the main estimator) I play to fucken WIN. I want to win the bid and bury all the other builders. I usually leverage my interpersonal ralational skills to do so - I talk to everyone. Talk talk talk. Pick up the phone. Emails and text is empty. Just chatting with others in the field and prompting/using social skills gets info. And you never know when that information will come in useful (to crush the competition muahahaha!). Interestingly, moderating here has been great for my personal growth. Both in terms of me shelving my competitive side here, and learning where my own rhetoric and SOP were causing friction with others. Moderating has translated to a business skill, just as gaming did. If you were a competitive gamer, I can see this translating really well to your business escapades 😈

@LordFall I had to remove a lot of unconscious put downs, condescension, trolling and turd rhetoric I picked up from hardcore WoW raiding and Arena. It might not be the case with you. I could be projecting my own shit. I operated from the mode that that sort of rhetoric was good for me, hardened me and made me still pay attention to objective facts despite the sledging (thick skin). So I figured others would respond how I did. I was so wrong 🤣 just because I could tolerate being told to fuck off, or get in the kitchen - didn't mean others would respond how I did 🥹 Hard wakeup call that I can't just facts and logic my way through. I had to learn to relate to the person first, ask them about their experience and meaning, values - so they felt seen. People became remarkably pliable and open to my points as soon as they felt understood. Learned that from an ENTJ in business who was a fucking juggernaut at convincing others. I use that relating tool with all my contractors so we keep a tight knight group of trusted subbies we take from project to project to maintain quality/consistent outcomes in construction.

It's a rhetorical question. But I would never do this. I wouldnt want to contribute to waste in this way. I don't even own a car and ride my bike on the grounds of waste and pollutants 😀

Got it. But that's got nothing to do what what I raised. Can you see that you are making character judgements of users when they don't agree with you? There are many possibilities as to why they may not agree. It could simply be communication styles and not the substance of the arguement. Communication style can have little to do with intelligence or competence. The tendancy is to think "this person has somehing wrong, I can see it, so I'll tell them" - but that is fraught with inference. We aren't mind readers (regardless of how much I might fancy myself one!). It doesn't help your case to immediately jump to some defect in the other person when they don't grasp, understand or agree with your point. Explanation is not understanding. I note you mentioned coming from competitive gaming. I do as well. That environment is toxic and trolly as fuck. It took me a good few years to rid myself of how bad my own rhetoric was as a result of 10 years in that world. Some of that poor rhetoric, condescension, put downs and defence might originate from there.

Authenticity. I find it ill-defined. The word is tossed about flippantly. EVERYWHERE. It is spoken about on these forums frequently. What is Authenticity (in the romantic sense, and interpersonally)? Do you think it is overrated/underrated? Only appropriate at certain times or phases of connection? I find it paradoxical. Authenticity requires enough self-awareness to distinguish your genuine values from the forces acting on you (incentive structures). I think it is about congruence. Congruence between what is actually going on inside you, how you live, make choices and relate to the world. So for me it's being able to accurately know what I experience, owning it completely and acting in accordance with it as the situation deeps appropriate. I feel like it needs these clauses because it gets muddled up with just "expressing" without censure. Authenticity IS NOT just expressing the contents of your mind. "I say what I feel", "I refuse to change for anyone", "I do what feels natural", "I am brutally honest" or "I don't care what anyone thinks, this is who I am" - all of these are not it in my definition. Philosophy wise I don't think to be authentic we require a true fixed self. Values change. We change. What is authentic will change. Existentially I see it creeping toward "am I taking ownership of the fact I am choosing?" My closest definition: Authenticity is the constant, background practice of shrinking the space between what I experience and what I understand myself to currently value. What I claim to be, and how I actually behave... while remaining willing to amend my understanding of me. Would love everyone's thoughts around this loaded topic as it applies to dating, courtship, romance, relationships, attraction etc.

I agree. It is a difficult issue - some of the younger gen learn attraction mechanisms based on a toxic online environment. These "skills" then do not directly translate to face-to-face attraction. They actually tend to retard development.

So, when you have a worldview or frame that acts to discount any falsifiability - the model is self sealing. Exchanges will then repeatedly function to discount the phenomenological information supplied by anyone - the frame is being used to reduce other people to NPC's. If you don't agree - you are "lower", "not conscious enough", "projecting", "need to do shadow work", "not sufficiently intellectually developed". Any objections to the framework are explained away. The model acquires a built-in defence against falsification. This is how you get stuck in paradigms. It also has the rather nasty side effect of reducing the person down to some mechanism and can potentially induce a dehumanizing feeling in others (they are just NPC's the model explains, not real people with individual meaning, experience, values that genuinely differ). What is worse - is when the model (or frame) is then used to pathologise some part of your view in a further attempt to reduce, discount and discard any genuine points being raised against it. "Your argument is mistaken because your psychology is defective."

We should be treating medical circumstances as unknown unless more detailed information is provided - putting forth solutions based on inference rather than asking what is referred to isn't charitable.

I would laugh if the word slop wasn't used. Geriatric would send me 🤣

Very difficult issue though - adapt to a horrid courtship environment and potentially learn maladaptive relational strategies that can translate to poor relationship skills. Previously when apps weren't a thing, there was more opportunity to learn many of these relational skills though socialisation. And real, face to face feedback from others would give you something to reflect against that would encourage the fostering and growth of good, healthy social dynamics. You didn't tend bring along maladaptive habits from a digital environment - because it wasn't as big of a thing. Think gen z stare

How can I connect?

This is about where I sit on this topic. Well said. Dating apps and social media in particular can fuck off. It tend to view it as green flag when someone isn't on them.

Listened while I made dinner - cheers for the share. Get around all the points you raised and overall review ❤️

Same for me, really. I find it confusing. MAKE IT MAKE SENSE Also worth it to note - we are doing two very different things when we say "I don't prefer stories in videogames" to ripping on a videogame by claiming it is childish.

Do you repeat outfits? Exact same several days in a row? Find one or two that work and repeat? Or do you have a style that has essential basics but you rotate accessories? Or do you find something that works and purchase multiple of that item in differing colours? TELL ME! I am a chronic outfit repeater; I find a couple of items that work as a basic template and alternate one or two small elements. I am completely unbothered repeating an outfit 3 days in a row, exactly the same (provided it is clean). I don't want to think too much. Just slap something on I know works and go. I dislike shopping for clothes. I wear a lot of black. Special occasions I deviate. But day to day I don't give a shit if it's the same all week INTJ if that factors in

I just dismissed his take there - it was said from ignorance. If Leo doesn't like story in videogames that's cool.

The survival brain! Ambiguity is not appreciated from the lymbric brains perspective. Yes. Huge topic.