Natasha Tori Maru

Experience. And earned wisdom. I think I was born with a very high capacity for stress, but I also learned early on that recovering from failure was more powerful a tool than avoiding or being locked in indecisiveness. A lot of varied, challenging and poor life experience has resulted in deep self trust. I trust in my capacity to deal with violation & transgression of my self; physical and mental. I do practice caution, but I am not fearing in the sense I have a complex of thought that inhibits me. I suppose I have demonstrated to myself my own capacity for stress and operate from there. I am not afraid to ask for help and lean on others. This was a hard lesson. I don't know what is to come. I don't know how much I might suffer. But I trust I have the capacity to handle it and recover. And if I don't - well - I'll be dead! I (so to speak, haha) won't be there to worry I suppose the trick is not letting experience harden you. It is just a story about some girl named Natasha out in space!

I think this is the more difficult hurdle of the two: internal admission vs public admission/confession. I believe he is totally self deceived. He is having to redefine how he qualifies rape & consent in his mind. He would have to come to terms with what this means for himself. His character. What this means for him. That feeling of lost integrity can be destabilising for the mind; especially when we have a construct in operation around a narrative "I am a good man". I'd imagine this would entail a substantial volume of renumeration; if it were me, I would be going over every sexual encounter (I could recall, considering he was probably inebriated in some form for most) and replaying what was said, my read on the person. Attempting to recall information I may have failed to pick up on, or ignored. That is a lot of ego backlash. Then it has to be accepted.

Not care about what they think. Or at least, if you do care, accept that you will feel sadness and allow this. With the idea that you may have some transient emotional upset that will pass, with the overall intention of good. Even if people do not understand your actions. I have largely given up trying to be understood as much by others. When younger, being misunderstood caused me much upset. Especially when it is wilful. It won't harm you to accept and feel hurt at others judgement. Avoidance of it is much worse. Not avoiding the pain of being judged and developing the capacity to experience it without allowing it to dictate my behaviour was a skill it took me a long time to learn.

Pleasure. In before someone uses it to analyse my psychological state, form a nice explanation for my psychology, and then force their frame of interpretation onto any statement I make from here on in

I would select rape. Taking into consideration I have a lot more resilience and internal stability than most people. I have a higher capacity withstanding psychological adversity. It is still a difficult hypothetical to answer. Similar to the bear/man one that is popular on social media. The bear-versus-man debate is interesting because it exposes how people evaluate risk under uncertainty.

Shit this is hard. Might have to come back to you. It heavily depends on what is meant by "rape". I might have a more solid answer if you define the scope of "rape" in this hypothetical. It is a cost weight between domains: 1) bodily autonomy 2) freedom 3) psychological trauma 4) physical safety 5) relationships 6) recovery 7) lost time. Those are the big ones for me.

@OBEler er, wow. I've had out of body experiences. You founded that argument based on an assumption instead of asking me?? How come you didn't ask?

The psychology of many women who stay with men like that becomes twisted over time. They are often made to feel "special" somehow. That he would never treat them like those other women. Or that she understands him. All his previous partners didn't and misunderstood his actions. Women feel privileged to have unique insight into their man, it can pull them closer. Make them feel more connected. Special. It's the other woman's fault somehow. They caused the actions, or misunderstood. Or won't take responsibility. Meanwhile the truth stares the partner in the face: she isn't special and she isn't immune to her partners wrath. Because the behaviour issue is from him. No one understand him, she does. So she naturally isolates a bit because everyone else doesn't understand her and her partner. In the case of Russell Brand I imagine isolation is a given due to fame. This further cements the narrative and immunises her against anyone else convincing her he alone is responsible and she isn't immune to his actions. Boundaries are blurry. It's a very predictable pattern with abused women. Slow boil. And it happens the other way also with genders swapped. Rape, abuse, assault - the psychology behind the strange loyalty is usually similar. Grew up in an abusive home seeing this whole thing play out in my family.

@JoshB woman can also be loyal to a fault once attached to a man. Their beliefs in him, his goodness, can be almost irrevocable. This could in part explain his wife's psychology.

@OBEler that is still your interpretation.

Went bananas? I had to 🥹🥹🥹🥹🤸🏻

@r0ckyreed he raped people. There's no mental gymnastics you can do to get around this. I'd be thinking about the victims. He isn't one. He raped.

Locking this. Going no where. Waste of energy and a distraction.

You need to listen. Don't discard in arrogance. You don't know anything about @Valach, what he has experienced or knows. Experience doesn't mean shit if you learn the wrong lesson.

You are going to tell someone what they experienced? Be more cautious & open.

@Valach has a serious point. It would do to listen.

Substantial deterioration of representation.

Yes, you have a point - I do agree it could be read like that. And I could have been more sophisticated translating the irony 🫶🏻

@EdgeGod900 because the title is taking the piss at the cope of endless analysis. So they are essentially poking fun at themselves and the entire audience that gets lost in it. Because it's ridiculous in the face of just actually... Connecting with a person relationally. But you do you boo, believe what you like. Whatever makes you feel good

Of course it's clickbait - it isn't even the main topic being discussed. And I agree with you - he is more balanced. He often gets a bad wrap because he is perceived as manosphere adjacent. @EdgeGod900 it's almost like you think this is my first turn about the internet. I expect better from you, as an ex troll to another! You poor sod. Hook line and sinker 😏

I wouldn't be - thats what giving birth and breastfeeding can do

BANANA ANOTOMY! for the learning!

@Ulax I will only state (for the record!!) women are remarkably more complex to deal with. Their value system is much more evenly distributed (aside from safety being no.1, and female/female dynamics really make this point moot), which means it can be more difficult to predict behaviour. Environment alters biology in a way many do not realise; biology is not this fixed thing. And women-women relationships revealed this to me in a big way.

Nice try Not a subject I'll go into on the forums

ThE ScIeNtIfIC ReAsON wHy wOmEN stOP gIViNg hEaD More cope slop. Analyse, explain mechanisms of women instead of just relate to the fucking person.