Natasha Tori Maru

For whatever reason, and maybe I am delulu - I don't view fantasy so negatively. Not like I did when younger. I think after having my heart slaughtered 4/5 times in various deep, long term relationships I learned to trust I will recover from heartbreak. So I'm willing to risk all because I know I'll always be okay after, even though the pain and suffering can be nigh unbearable. Romantic fantasy is okay because I trust myself with it now. My relationship to it changed compared to when I was more innocent.

You can disagree and it could also be correct - which is why I added all people are different. This is just how I work with being hooked into obsessive thoughts. The idea of the kind of life you could have by being with a man is the seed. What you can co-create. It's a fantasy about the future. It isn't about the future being set in stone and laid out perfectly on a timeline, it's about potential

I wish I had a magic formula! But like with men, all people are different. All women are different. For me? 1) show me your mind, and illustrate what sort of life and future you want. Show me where I can be in that future. A sum greater than it's parts we can tap into with more power than any single one of us could ever grasp... And then water that seed gradually over time until the thought is a giant weed I can't uproot from my mind. 2) listen, connect. so I can not only feel you intellectually, but emotionally. Feelings are how we make value judgements and therefore, decisions 3) touch me, soothe me, hold me, love me 4) make sex not about penetration or touch, fuck your woman with your mind and emotions - in a good way! 😁 Building tension with desire is it. Don't be afraid of healthy distance with reassurance connection remains. I can't think of anymore and I don't think this answered you with a lot of precision! Because right as I sat posting this on my rooftop, I had a visit from 3 beauties:

Yes. Something to consider at length if it is not obvious.

I'll add @Leo Gura popped in earlier to truly listen also. Notice Leo also didn't just jump in and try to tell anyone. He didn't make judgements or assessments of character. He just asked and took the information to integrate it and assess. Which I think carries a lot of weight. Many philosophers and masters of the past had extremely sexist views. Amazing spiritual insights and masters who were totally backwards in the domain of sex, desire and women. Even today this issue persists - awakening cannot overcome biology and incentive structures. Maybe we, as a community behind Leo, can break that theme of sexism that threads through the masters of the past.

Fear of ones own desire and it's control. Fear of the women who represent that loss of control & desire. Inability to understand the women due to conditioning and beliefs. Fear of what is misunderstood. Truly listening is the way to connect. Connection is the source of all goodness ❤️

@Valach it's interesting because when you think on it - it's blocking all potential for genuine connection ... 😢

I see Miguel as being one of the few to want to simply hear what the women of the forum think/have to say. Earnestly want to hear and try to understand. Not try to listen then prove a point. Others - including yourself - seem to want to tell us how it is. Just comes across that way.

Juries out on that

... Let's contemplate this one It might require second inspection to work out if we are using this thread to try to subtly put down others for disagreeing with a viral, conformist trend.

@Willy Phallicus I just called it like I saw it - muah! 😘

@Jirh getting hard isn't a reliable indicator of attraction. Bodies can respond in ways that don't match our desires, preferences and orientation.

Holyfuckballs! A rhetorical put down instead of genuine question?! How will this go over, I wonder? Let's come in and attack the value of the person posting! That'll be a GREAT quality contribution!!!

AI

100% arming up with lawyers

https://youtu.be/_dJPsS6R7u8?si=H5FYFJyS_JETrGXv

@Emerald thank you, Emerald ❤️‍🔥

I feel like this somehow lives up to the fucked up Aussie wildlife stereotype. Only this huge cu** destroys cars, bollars and phonebootbs 🥹 https://youtu.be/Bs_U1pnM8MI?si=lhxsqExT64VVhooA

You're really quite obsessed with me!

Ha ha ha! How you are getting I think you are monster from what I said is crazy! Read. Ralstons. Books.

Definitely no feelings involved - but nice try attempting to imply I am somehow being swayed by feelings. You aren't analysing. You are being disingenuous. If you like, I can post all the forum history where you staunchly refused to go to the source (which would indicate a more genuine approach to analysing what Ralston is saying, the fact you continually refuse to do so and insist on others translating it is telling enough despite you insisting otherwise). But even this is probably beyond the time I am willing to put into this, because if you are this deluded to your own intentions / motivations it's not going to be worth it in the slightest. Simply put - you come across as totally inauthentic in your attempt to truly understand because your words do not even slightly match your actions (IE insisting it is "analysing" while simultaneously refusing to go to the source - Ralston's books - to actually critically analyse and grasp, repeatedly). It is beyond reasonable to infer you are settled in your opinion and want to simply have it reinforced or simply prove a point by taking down users interpretations/strawmans of Ralston. Read his books. Do the work. Otherwise this is all for naught.

Depends how deep you want to go. Basics: drink water, sleep well. Biggest most direct visual effects. Sunscreen/moisturizer + cleanser. Might need to work out your skin type oily/dry/combination to find one that suits. Go a level higher? Vitamin C serum - brightens, firms, protects from free radicals & UV rays. Lactic acid (chemical exfoliation don't scrub your face). Retinol (biggest effect) - fine lines, clearing clogged pores, and evening out skin tone. It increases cell turnover and collagen production. This one had a very noticeable effect on me. NB beware! Start slow with retinol or it will burn your fucking face off and cause more redness. Additionally NO retinol or lactic acid within 4/5hrs of sun exposure. You will cause damage. Always at night. I have no fine lines or sagging at 40 (this will change from now, can't stop aging and it hits women around this age with perimenopause). Sunscreen every day since 12. Hat + sunglasses. Fear of the incineration capabilities of the Australian sun - skin being good was a side effect.

Fuck Rolex - I do not rate. Enicar sherpa graph all the way - muah!

He is my spirit animal

Record El Niño to bake Australia Well. I'll update you on the incineration down under. FUCK. The sad part is, I did a minor in meteorology at uni (maths was my major). We studied ice core samples from the Arctic in 2005/2006 looking at how the climate changes. Looking at the projected path we were on back then triggered 3/4 months of really bad depression for me.