Natasha Tori Maru

Turned into a quick crashout. What stands out to me is presenting yourself as an individualist who rejects tribal thinking. You reject people for categorizing you according to group identity - but then you also categorize huge numbers of people according to group identity? Stage orange, stage blue -- "ew" There is a bit of cognitive dissonance here that might help to be deconstructed. It could be contributing to some of the emotional distress you're experiencing.

Triggering people and provoking to make a point is uncharitable, though.

@LordFall Correct me if I am mistaken - you are separating inherent value from practical value? So, if I understand you correctly, you're distinguishing inherent human worth from instrumental or relational value? People may have some baseline value simply by being alive, but who we choose to invest our limited time and energy in is necessarily based on a contextual form of value - and this is the context from which you typically reply on the forums? If so that clears up a lot. Many users feel valid and valuable just as they are, intrinsically. There might be some confusion around context.

Slam dunk. Agree with this also. I do what I personally enjoy and its not about providing value. It just so happens my work has a lot of external value due to all of (if not all, I would argue) society inherently requiring hospital infrastructure. I couldn't give one fick about status, hierarchies or measuring up to someone else's standards. It is intrinsic motivation vs extrinsic. There is another issue being circled around - when someone's behaviour does not fit Lordfall's preferred interpretation, he infers an underlying pathology that explains their disagreement, rather than first considering whether his interpretation of their behaviour is simply wrong. Or simply just, you know, asking relational questions to ensure he has understood? It tends to convert an interpretation into an explanation of the person without sufficient evidence. And often, no evidence is actually given to warrant the conclusion - it is poor reasoning and epistemology. Real turnoff.

@LordFall Do you think people have inherent value and are worthy, just as they are? How does this tie into the concept of a person being valid, and how you do define validity?

Regarding @Sugarcoat I see Ni, Fi, Te & Se but also some Ne (a LOT of possibilities constantly being generated by her). I don't see Fi dom (my brother and sister are both Fi doms). From past comments I do see Fi but it is always embedded in a very abstract analytical process. There isn't a lot of value based "this is how I feel" and more an immediate jump to "why is this happening?' What structure explains this?" "Does this follow or could there be another possibility". Which is why Sugarcoat's posts are strange because they come across as quite personal but wrapped in abstractions. Te is odd because it is present but not dominant at all. Lots of category distinguishing, testing explanations, contradiction IDing, etc but much less of "Here is the objectively correct framework therefore here are the premises. This is the conclusion, now we apply it." But the Te component could be extraverted more in some real life application that isn't transparent from forum posts. IE how @Joshe or I operate with substantial Te being implemented in concrete reality and a touch less so on the forum (but still very much there). Joshe's Te floods into his work as does mine in construction. But the strongest argument against INTJ is her relational style. But this could be societal conditioning due to being female. I see personal resonance in her interpersonal nuance, sensitivity to emotional states, peoples interpretation of each other, psychological suffering. But this doesn't really jump out at me as either Fe or Fi. I see much more Fi though. I am decidedly uncertain.

Good morning boss! Wake up @Leo Gura! Rise & shine for a new day 🌞 Spin your magic for this lovely lady ☺️

If with Ralston, make it soon. I don't think he is in the best health ❤️

@Juan I don't block or delete people. If you encounter someone in the streets, it doesn't have any bearing on blocking and deleting. It's not literal. Just a small measure of boundaries where we can draw them.

Definitely I agree with this. We interpret events by default. Survival mechanism of the brain. If we take away the wrong understanding of what has transpired, we can end up on self blame. Shame. Guilt. These issues are so common and are at the root of many problems we carry unconsciously. Even from rather benign events. It is all in how we interpret the event and our subsequent relationship to the memory and feeling. This is why parenting and early models of love are so important; a parent can help us correct our understanding of an event and resolve responsibility. Trauma can be loosely defined as the inability to resolve responsibility of a past event. I should have been more diligent with my explanation above. PTSD and C-PTSD have a wide constellation of other issues needed for diagnosis. But we typically only seek help when we are almost non-functional.

Depth, complexity and pathways to healing. Most notably the sort of debilitation involved in what some people ascribe to trauma would more properly be assigned to PTSD or C-PTSD. Because as soon as trauma begins to impede our functioning on a day to day level to the point we cannot function, it begins to become closer to diagnosable as one of these two pathologies. Trauma isn't a diagnosis in and of itself. But PTSD and C-PTSD are. There are more markers that qualify for a diagnosis of either of these two issues, I will add. Trauma and it's related conditions can be associated with maturity. But trauma, PTSD and C-PTSD =/= immaturity by default. I think when people say trauma and label it as incapacitating it is usually a pointer to a pathology (PTSD, C-PTSD or another condition entirely). I am sort of against a lot of the therapizing rheroric that is commonly online (I digress!).

@Valach I think online trauma, PTSD and C-PTSD are conflated.

Yep, just email them as an attachment. This makes me want to punch kittens. It has made me purchase physical books as of late.

Default behaviour isn't inherently morally neutral just because it is the default. Inaction is also a choice. You can feel and process pain while deliberately removing unnecessary triggers.

@bazera kindle Paperwhite - it was a gift so I rolled with it. Being locked to Amazon shits me.

Strongly disagree regarding the judgement here. Blocking is just another type of boundary. If someone is going to read and infer things indirectly without first hand information that's on them. Their interpretation is their responsibility. You can always let the person known you need space, and then block. In the end we need to look after ourselves first.

@Miguel1 I don't personally view blocking and wiping as immature. It is literally the death of a relationship. Something has ended that will never return as it was. A proper grieving process is usually needed. And many people need space to do that. It is a natural boundary and part of self care to ensure our needs are met (IE healing). You might be able to return to rekindle a relationship of a type after a time. But that time is certainly required for many people ❤️

If that sort of method works for your mental hygiene - you do you It isn't needed for everyone. I have friends who treat breakups as a "death" (of their previous mode of existence). So they need to totally wipe the past to appropriately grieve.

I don't know a whole lot about garlic in terms of health benefits. But I cook a lot (in order of strength least > most): - Whole garlic: mildest relatively sweet & aromatic, not very sharp - sweet, buttery caramelised flavour when roasted - Sliced garlic: moderate garlic aroma, bit sharper - becomes sweeter and more nutty when cooked - Chopped/minced garlic: stronger aroma that is pungent, aggressive garlic flavour - bit "hotter" when cooked - Crushed/mashed garlic: super strong raw flavour - shitloads of alliinase activity, pungent and sulfur-y Letting prepped garlic sit for a while changes the flavour profile when raw, and dramatically when cooked. Letting it sit gets all the enzymes activating which alter flavour. Cooked denatures alliinase and stops the enzyme reactions. Raw is sharp, hot, aggressive & sulfurous and it transitions in stages as you cook it from distinct garlic, soft & sweet to sweet, nutty & aromatic to deep buttery & savoury as you cook for longer. Garlic powder is a no go for me personally. I get stomach pains that will have me totally crippled for hours. Do not recommend.

I only agree with Leo after first discovering for myself.

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I do not renumerate or think much on the past. So having relics of past relationships do not bother me. I have always remained in touch with my exes - even the painful breakups. I typically require 2/3 months of spaciousness to find my stride again and re-learn striking out alone. For that time I may have less contact. After that, though, I remain friends and catchup 2 or so times a year with them all. Everyone deals with this differently in my experience.

... its gotten worse. The censorship is fucked. You guys here crying about bUt My MaSCulInE VoICe, ThIS FoRuM iSn't AbOut TruTH, CAn't spEaK my tRuTh, toO muCh TrUth foR tHiS pLAcE!!! Exhibit A:

This is why I don't mind some subreddits - especially construction ones relating to methodology or estimating practices. Great for keeping up with current estimating tools (AI + programs) and ingenious methods of construction. Anything compliance related often doesn't transfer, but the rest can be very good. In those subreddits it is very clear who is talking out of their arse. There is a clearer split between idiots who think they can DIY or are full of false knowing - and those who work in the industry. I could be biased here because I know when someone is talking shit due to experience. But the general downvotes and comments quickly check you. My main issue is the group think and censorship due to the POTENTIAL to receive offense in other sections of the site. Even fair criticism or feedback. Honesty and earnestness are only valued as much as they can be sources of good feelings. Also the AI slop. Really bad.

I give up on reddit. I just got banned in one of the construction related subs. Apparently pointing out potential flaws in someone's reasoning while granting they may be correct - but there is a giant leap present in the logic - is WRONG. I'll just quietly return to 4chan