Natasha Tori Maru

I dunno. I honestly don't know. I work in construction. The methodology can work - but the timescales do not add up for me. Whatever theories float around - the current explanation does not suffice for me. Channelling your hardcore agent Fox Mulder X-Files moment right here

I call the space between internal reaction and action 'grace'

@Nick_98 It is a difficult question because the process is different for us all. Big topic. Usually larger, charged up emotional reactivity arises from not only the reaction to the situation - but an inherent and unknown belief we hold that is ALSO being touched on. Addressing the (usually) false belief was the way I begun to deconstruct the emotions to a calmer state; calm enough to be able to assess them clearly. Really FEEL them, and not mask them with the fire of anger. I believe some of what you describe relates to alexithymia - which is common in men. But I would not slap myself with a diagnosis like this because it doesn't do to pathologize unnecessarily. The first step for me in this process was to allow all emotion/feeling. No suppression. Let the anger exhaust itself, and then ask again, after the fire was out, what was left? It took me a long time. 4 or so years of this process. Once I was able to identify the emotion/feeling - I then reverse engineered the feeling back to the thought - where did the feeling come from? What thoughts came up with it? What part of the situation am I judging or showing attachment to? Interestingly, and it may not be the case for you, many of my feelings of anger were rooted in shame. Shame for being who I am. Not allowing myself to be without fulfilling some function. Not being 'right' inside. The 'shame' belief is very common. The feeling reaction of shame, then anger, is rooted in the belief 'I am wrong' - as in, I am fundamentally wrong or broken in some way. Anger arises because we have the conflicting thought 'No, wait, I am not wrong!' counter to this shame/belief. This naturally results in shame/guilt spirals. Shame being 'I am wrong'. Guilt being 'I did the wrong thing'. Again, it is not the same for everyone. I speak of myself here. My own observations have revealed some emotions are generated from thoughts, and some arise from unconscious beliefs. Some are pure survival instinct. Thoughts can arise from emotions/feelings also. They arise from many sources - inquiry will reveal the truth of them. Overall our attachments, desires and aversions, usually operate to ENHANCE whatever feeling is present. You will need to inquire into attachments you have. Which happens naturally as part of truth seeking. Regardless, emotional work and inquiry is not prioritized enough. The long and short of my answer is; emotional/feeling enquiry & deep allowing of said feeling/emotion. Deep inquiry. To the level you inquire into the self regarding truth. Or ontology. Or phenomenology. Emotions and feelings are the greatest part of this work that is overlooked; how can we know truth if our own emotions could be clouding our vision in ways we cannot perceive? This is the other side of the coin - the feminine path. This compliments the heady cerebral masculine spiritual truth seeking. Both must come together. Yin/yang. How can we ever be clear regarding our beliefs and biases, if we aren't even aware of the emotions infecting and tainting what we receive as 'truth'? These are my own insights I have through inquiry. Who knows, I may be totally wrong. Emotions and feelings are so nebulous. Very difficult. I am still working on this aspect myself and claim no expertise

Yes boss, thank you boss Good to see your high quality posts of late!!

I joke I joke - smileys and laughs

Slurping up that nonduality juice from James all over the forum, I see. Rimjobs on all his posts

https://www.actualized.org/insights/lessons-from-being-a-public-figure I think my own insights around reactivity do not nullify our internal reactions (ie thoughts/feelings). I react to criticism 'That is a nasty thing to say' 'This contains a provocatory attack on character, rather than addressing the point' 'This is a highly negative person'. I react with a thought assessment; I do not have a great emotional reaction unless I have some personal connection to the individual. Without a strong emotional reaction, I have space between my own thought and action because there is no judging response; merely a discernment 'This person is not for me' 'That is nasty'. I still feel emotions; but they do not grip me and have me by the throat. I am not compelled to act from this emotional space. Having this space between the thought and the action not being occupied with highly charged emotion/feeling is the key. It is possible to cultivate this sort of stoicism. Some people have this innately; for others it can be a learned trait when we stop tying our sense of identity to our thoughts, physicality or externality. I used to be highly reactive. Physically and emotionally. I worked on my identity attachments to bring out more authentic emotional and feeling expression without being so swept up in the experience. Prior to this I had less feeling/emotional discernment; I would become so charged up my emotions felt like a big soup. I wasn't able to bring nuance to a particular feeling. I would simply have a huge reaction 'charge' with little clarity. Anger was my most commonly felt emotion/feeling - but it was mostly a mask for other, more nuanced internal reactions, which were far more subtle. You want to reach a state where you can feel these subtle shifts. Everyone's experience with their emotions/feelings and reactivity will be different. Nature / nurture have their own parts to play. In the end, it is about changing our relationship to emotion/feeling. Spirituality did this for me, as a by-product.

@Shermaningeorgia you do not have to look up to them. Your issue is you judge them and put them down for things outside their control.

Tbh half this shit isn't even caused by gender wars. Patriarchy vs matriarchy. It's all just a distraction from the system making everyone miserable. Stop watching podcasts lol

Spiritual sperging

@James123 You are on a roll son - calm those jets. Many threads from you in the last few days. D'u got somthin' to say m'lad?

No where did I make a claim to any opinion regarding this. I did not say attractiveness does not matter. I don't really understand your point, unless this is some sort of new insight for you?

Just being helpful. Nothing in life is 'have to'. Choose to 🙂

Precisely. Discernment, not judgement.

It is something you will learn, I assure you. How old are you? Looksmaxing is not new 🤣🤣🤣🤣 technology doesn't change vanity as a concept. Just introduces new tools. It's rebranding to sell you some more shit. To sell you some more 'lack' so you don't feel whole. That's the 'technology'.

Some elements, sure - but this simply does not hold true for everyone. 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder' You do realise looksmaxing has been around for eons? This is the standard play women have adopted (self imposed or not) forever. There is nothing new in looksmaxing. Personally - I would watch out for the quoted statement turning into an excuse.

Hahaha, the spirituality-flavoured foreplay. My God, I can't stop laughing MY SIDES

Are you saying more lube is needed before I jam the cock in? Gotta take it step by step, easy does it I was not disagreeing with @Joshe, to be clear

You can go the other way - you can dissolve it all into (erase object) subject-subject or (erase subject) object-object. Ultimately, you get to there is no centralized experience. There is no ego (no self, no privileged point of view), or there is all ego (nonduality 'all is mind / awareness'). Intimacy with no separation. The apparent structure of experience can be collapsed in both directions toward a nondual state. It is a collapse of all distinction that made the question meaningful. In the end - its both. All me. No me. This is getting to endgame where most discussions end because language dies trying to add any elaboration. Pushing further and further with words ends up confusing rather than clarifying.

Need to differentiate between feminism and misandry. I lot of flat out disgusting misandry is smuggled in under the guise of 'feminism'.

Carbon X1 reporting in (the conformity shame) Tax write-off and got it on an end-of-life discount due to next gen lineup coming out Gotta admit, I am a grubby bitch. The black matt really leaves evidence of my greasy little digits...

@Breakingthewall @James123 This debate depends how you interpret 'experience' and what meaning the word receives. I think you are using the same term with differing meanings.

It is proper punctuation. Nothing more. It isn't a tone setting element of a sentence. I notice that many people of the younger generations see full stops as a tonal implication of 'firmness' 'finality' or strict conviction. It is not so - but lackadaisical internet speaking can make it appear that way

How to kill something if it never existed 🙂🙃🙂

https://youtu.be/8AHCfZTRGiI?si=fhvyV9I-n_ptcUUS