Natasha Tori Maru

Wrong.

No you aren't challenging any perspectives. You've presented no facts to back up your argument. Debating 101. This is why you are stuck in a loop. You are resorting to attempting to elevate your credibility with the tale about jazz music as if it had something to do with the topic. This is because you have no grounds for your beliefs. Have a really hard think about if your beliefs are based on fact & reality. Without this they are actually called delusions.

It attempts to describe systematic material existence & pattern- but remember science can be broken when scaling. A good example is Newton - Newtonian mechanics explain very well the physical parameters we labor under (science in this frame is 'real life'). But approach the speed of light? Relativity from Einstein takes over. Time is no longer constant and depends on your frame. Linking space & time 'relativity'. 'Absolute' in science can be a matter of frame & perspective - indicating how you think about it is the 'story'. It works in real life because it is attempting to describe real life. Science, is therefore, not discovered or 'absolute'. It is helpful to remember that mathematics is the more true form, that is discovered and a universal language. Science is founded on mathematics, so it is easy to blindly trust science as it is often rooted in mathematics.

I was just about to post this - nailed it. I have been dating actively for a long time, and although I am a single anecdote, I can attest there are profound changes in what men go for when reaching their 40s (and women).

To be clear so I understand this sentence, as I think the grammar is catching me: You take issue with the fact that dating for women is more than just physical attraction? That the elements you raise, kindness, humor, intelligence, do not factor in for women? Oh boy if so, I have news for you!!!! GOOD NEWS!!

Somehow, somewhere along the line, you have absorbed this belief men are victims of something. Women maybe? I do not know. On what evidence are you putting forth these opinions? Stats? You don't seem to have the ability to decipher that a point can have validity independent of a system.

Correct me if I am wrong @Princess Arabia, to rephrase with simplicity so Tenebroso can understand: 1 woman with a selection of 10 men - she may be sexually attracted to one man. More elements to sexual desire come into play for her. 1 man with a selection of 10 women - he may be sexually attracted to half the women. Less elements that constitute sexual desire for him. Ergo she has less options, as dictated by the complexities in her sexual nature. Tenebroso seems to be fixated on the gatekeeping phenomena : men tend to be the gatekeepers of commitment/relationships. Women tend to be the gatekeepers of sex. Whereas your point isn't talking about this. I understand and agree with your articulation

Hello Artsy, 1) Have you much experience with emotional conflict resolution? 2) Do you and/or your partner remain on point, or do you think conflict dissolves into attacking each other? Do you perceive it is reduced to a 'winning' contest, where you each deviate to other points in an attempt to 'win'? Ultimately, it sounds like you are getting 'charged up' in an emotional soup, unable to decifer what you feel clearly, only that you feel something negative. I have been there myself and overcome this pattern. I have found that sometimes bad emotions longer when, either 1) there has not been a reconciliation and reaffirmation my mate is on my side and 2) we have not yet resolved responsibility. You speak of trauma. It may be useful to hold in your mind, that trauma at its root, is the inability to reconcile responsibility. If you still have not plainly worked out who is responsible for what, you will fall into those pesky thought loops and rumination. This will mean your body will feel the bad charged up energy as a response to the ruminating thoughts. This can leave deep wounds. Ultimately, conflict is very difficult when one or the other is charged up with hot emotions. You may need to look at your boundaries and communication. Often we do a disservice to ourselves and our partner, by attempting to be 'nice' and not bringing issues up. This is a form of self betrayal in an attempt to avoid the pain to the partner. Unfortunately, this is actually not the correct path! It usually results on resentment in the background. Women in particular, can be very very bad at this version of honesty, as they are naturally more prone to seeking harmony and agreeableness above all else.

A question for the users of the forum to reflect on: In your life, how have you linked meaning, discipline & pleasure? I really enjoy using this triangle to assess where I need to place more energy. Meaning is the energy that punctuates everything, a great river of momentum. It is why we do what we do. Linked intrinsically with belief, it is a story we tell ourselves in meditation, prayer. Without meaning, life has no momentum. A hollow existence. Pleasure, the juice, the tantalizing spark of life. Dopamine, serotonin. It makes the journey worth it. It makes hard times easier. It can bring joy to existence even... but without meaning as an undercurrent, it can turn unto a numbing chase. The spiral of addiction. An endless junk food binge. Discipline is the bridge between the fleeting pleasure of the flesh, and the greater, lasting meaning of existence. The constant steering rudder toward things that matter. Never about self-flagellation, but always about choosing the hard choice, the boring choice, the actions invisible to others. Master discipline! You will learn to delay your pleasures in service of something greater, that will foster your personal expansion. Pleasure keeps you alive, meaning gives you a reason to stay alive, and discipline ensures you build a life worth staying alive for. The balance of this triad is difficult, but with age & experience, it becomes easier. I hope this question is of service to you all. My intention with this post is to highlight an issue I see with many users of the forum who are not as far along their path. But this triad is always worth thinking on, wherever you currently sit with your development, as it is also the key to managing stress in life <3

Alright - gently pointing out this is not true or accurate and founded on a belief system you have constructed. 99% of dating being negative is outside the scope of reason. Noting, also, you did not answer the first part of my query. Without being able to put forth evidence to effectively argue the reasons for your conclusions, they are simply beliefs - and very negatively bent at that. However, I can see this religious fervor you have for these biases means this will be your reality. Thanks for the answer - I really, truly, hope you can find a way out of this thought lock you are cycling within.

I think the part bolded is the discipline in this case. You are consciously guiding your thoughts to focus on an outcome. Nonetheless, I think you and I are saying the same thing! The practice becomes the pleasure, when you are aligned with your desire.

Data to back this? or is this just anecdotes and reading internet heresy. You saying most = 51%?

I know - I never imaged I would work in construction. Tell me I work in this field 4 years back? I'd be dry retching It has really taught me a lot, and I never realised the creative solutions involved in being a good construction manager. I had to have the soy boy beaten out of me to be proficient though But now I love the roofers, concreters and steel guys who are ROUGH AS GUTS. I don't fit in appearance or behaviour wise. But I know how to get the best out of people !

Haha yep I get you! Icarus a bit too close to the sun

HA - INFJ so this applies to me But I did one of the official paid for tests (during high school, so it wasn't paid for by me) Sort of accurate as I am quite fixated on unity and the collective consciousness. I have been so fixated on the existential questions, that I did struggle to get on with the cotidian nature of material reality and needs for decades.

There are physical & higher dimensional energy 'beings' I'll call them 'beings' because there are some that have been there with us this whole time. There are some that have been here longer than humans. Take a look at the Nazca mummies, or Lacerta files (this one is more a curiosity for me, but DAMN it lines up with a lot. Could be a LARP). There are heaps of stories like this about. A big energy vortex for this shit is Skinwalker Ranch. I like this guys channel

I do agree here. Maybe I can bend this toward more masculine energy by bringing it into the realm of the physical, as men typically are physically more powerful than women Thank you for your kind words as well - you stand out from the users here, as you embody a steadfast masculinity many can earnestly look up to From my end, you are an exemplary man to lead others on the correct path. Truly I have enjoyed this dialogue and your questions. The Light in me, bows & recognises the Light in you 🙏

Ah yes, I gave this a listen. I have little expectation with regards to the disclosure movement, as no one is going to listen unless an alien is present in their face talking to them. Or mass contact. It is unfortunate the disclosure movement has been so polluted with misinformation. Immaculate Constellation - nice fancy euphemism for 'cleaning the skies' 'covering all the shit up'. To my knowledge this operation has been around since the dates the interviewee reports. This will only be of interest to people already interested in the movement. Great share though, thank you! The part that I liked was the reference to the shadow government 'to the benefit of a select few elite'. I've come across this same theme from many, many other sources not relating to the disclosure movement. But I wont go further as 'shadow government' brings mods and rules. Conspiracy theories, misinformation and all that

1. Conceptually, for myself, wielding power through the masculine is operating in the world with the knowledge one can cause great damage, and care & protectiveness are paramount in executive decision making & action. Stoic compassion while steadfastly driving for an outcome. 2. I have found, in my limited experience, most men do not. The ones I have met have always come across as integrating their feminine side so well, it seems to act to balance their masculine traits and act like a 'checks and balances' system. They have always radiated grace, power and a gentle self assured nature. Usually age assists greatly, as many men I know who are older (60+) have learned this through life. Its a rare man indeed who is younger and has integrated the feminine/masculine in balance. Many misguided men do not realise their intense internal rejection of the feminine, resulting on the endless threads here regarding their troubles with women. More and more of the younger generations are born with this great amount of awareness and consciousness, in comparison to generation x & the baby boomers. I myself being on the top end of generation y. Its a great shame their pure minds are polluted with the internet & its concepts, as it has degraded markedly over the last 9 or so years. Overall I have so much love & respect for men. They build the infrastructure of this world. They lay the asphalt, pave the sidewalks, design grand machines. They mine coal, work oil rigs, defend in the military. They protect and uphold. They destroy their bodies in service to holding space for women, just as women sacrifice their bodies to bear them children. I feel like many younger men are crying out for these traits to be acknowledged and appreciated as a semi-backlash to women's recent empowerment. It seems they are threatened, and don't realise women can be empowered just as they have always been, and always will be. Men and women can BOTH be empowered, simultaneously. If they so choose to believe it <3

Yes agree! @Carl-Richard nailed it so well, it could be a signature quote!

Your post is full of strange disagreements/agreements with your premise. On the one hand you are claiming you want an external force to give you momentum. Then you say you want to 'master' being mindful - which requires discipline?

RIP Australia. Can confirm, Australia's mental health being in the toilet is due to economic issues. Cost of living here, just groceries even, is horrid. We have many companies/businesses that capitalised on the lockdowns. The government handed out cash to business to keep them afloat during our major lockdowns. Many businesses unethically claimed and took the cash with no real entitlement. Coupled with our larger companies raising prices outside of inflation just to increase profit at the peoples expense... it hasn't been a good time ! Materials used in construction really killed us.

Have they discovered the cause yet? I do always wonder if hackers will target the power grid, as it works with its own grid code. While its not a programming language, I have been alerted to large vulnerabilities through my friends in government (Australia though).

Yes indeed, which is why, if you noted my final disclaimer, this would be evident. My intention was to frame this triad in a way that others can use to assist in steering them back on their chosen path. Hence why, I posted in this forum, and added the last point. The gap in growth amoung the forum users is great, and leads to lots of confusion when attempting to grasp higher concepts. In particular, integrating matter reality with spirituality. My post aims to assist with the next steps they need to master 💜

Experience is existence teaching you, in the moment.