Natasha Tori Maru

@enchanted many didn't choose. They were conscripted.

Let's have a wholesome thread. Gimme your earned wisdom! Behavioural signs that are a proxy for good character or trait! I'll start: He makes me want to be a better woman. Not because I need his approval or to earn love. Because I genuinely admire him Doesnt confuse vulnerability with weakness. Accepts no with no retaliation. Doesn't mistake independence for rejection. Can navigate relational ruptures without throwing out the relationship or abandoning themselves. I got more, but these are to get us rolling !

The series was harrowing. I enjoyed season 1 - but I disliked how they made Jane a "Mary Sue" type character in the later seasons. The concept was great for the first season. I haven't read the novel, but it is on my list. Many people I know couldn't watch the series due to how confrontation it was - EG rape, autonomy removal etc.

What did you think? I'm going to take a look this weekend.

Has anyone seen Russell Brand: In Plain Sight (2023)? It was a channel 4 investigation which examined allegations of rape and sexual assault by multiple women. Includes testimony from people who worked with Brand and investigated his behaviour. This was from 3 years back. He didn't sue for libel over this investigation from what I can find.

This is crazy! I have found that when you ask people about Gay/Lesbian LGBQ acceptance they are all for it and really open. Reasonable. Act like it is nothing shocking - IF - they haven't formed up an idea or concept of who you are as a person. If they have formed an opinion/concept of you already, and have some established history in their mind, it is often filled with assumptions. When you counter the pre-conceived idea or projection of who you are in someone's mind... it temporarily leaves them in a state of confusion as their concept of your truth doesn't marry up with the reality. They literally trip over the gap between idea of you, and who you really are! They go into shock. As long as they are able to reconcile the two; reality/concept - they seem to get over it. When they cannot, it can really reveal an unconscious prejudice! ____ To answer OP: morality is an illusion/construct. Social domain is a construct (not real). Good and bad are relative and not objective. The self is an illusion. Free will is largely an illusion... These four didn't go down so well at a family dinner a couple of months back. The free will one had my brother bashing his hands on the table I am banned from philosophy conversations. That side of the family are Christians - so this was probably... extra

What do you mean by this?

I consume about the same as you re fiber. When you realise how much it clears out from your internals, and the profound energy release as a result of no residual waste build-up - you never go back. I firmly believe any sort of waste that doesn't move at healthy speed from the intestines is a big mood, energy and vitality drain that isn't considered. Constipation is horrible and missed as a cause for many issues. Often people are not aware you can have a lot of old waste inside you, but still be passing stool. Having said that regarding fibre intake, it takes a while to acclimate the digestive system to the volumes in question. I can handle it, no problem. But the average jo? It would nuke their system pretty hard Not to mention most people are unprepared for the increase hydration required.

@Michal__ He's coming with RECEIPTS Let me know how you go!

I don't know about Martin Ball. I might watch. Has he recognised emptiness? That distinctions don't exist independently or intrinsically. All constructed from his mind in infinite variations as a unity. Absolutely empty, and full etc. I suppose if you get this wrong the rest will be all fucked up.

I had a relationship that lasted for 3.5years with a 62 year old man. That is a 25 year age gap. He is a fairly well known, high profile individual. Age gap tends to be more of an issue when there are problematic dynamics; eg a really young person can be exploited due to lack of experience. There are a lot of factors that go into the dynamics that present themselves.

I think this will be torturous to someone who has lived the life (and has the proclivity for the sorts of escapades) of Brand.

Try to look at green flags as indicators, signals, proxies or heuristics for a deeper value. Not the value itself.

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No worries - you cantankerous bastard I think I prefer looking at green flags as proxies or heuristics for deeper values a person might have - then we contrast those sets against ours for alignment. I think many users here addressed and answered according to their values rather than actual "green flags" which I think are these proxies/heuristics we use. In retrospect I should have defined green flags better Your proxies/heuristics/flags all seem to point toward humility? Across many domain sets domains (epistemic, moral, intelligence). This was my reading at least, if I am accurate

@Joshe This isn't the place for judging others.

Please. Do not turn this thread into judging each others standards, proxies and what we all look for! I think contrasting and comparing is great. Discernment. Lets not do this judging thing. Heaven help me, I tried to make a positive themed thread. Flush it down, right?

No way. I am not going to include someone I class as abusive or someone who treats people beneath them poorly.

Oh wow - I am so different. If I am too activated by the person, it is a yellow flag for me (just a warning I need to pay attention with nuance, as opposed to red flag no-go). I shouldn't feel excessive nervous system activation. Just some butterflies or normal excitement. Being intimidated or uncomfortable indicates to me my judgement may be clouded. Or I may be subconsciously responding to some sort of pattern of bonding that isn't formed from healthy attachment style. The "activation" should be proportionate to what is actually happening - so I take time to observe and reflect more when this yellow flag shows up. I do not interpret intensity as evidence of attraction or connection. I treat my own physiological response as information about the quality of the interaction.

I think you need to focus on what is said, and seperate it from your interpretation and inference.

@Ulax

@mariabudanova this silly chaps don't know, nevermind their brains buzzing along, frantically explaining everything away 🤸🏻