Natasha Tori Maru

I'd never heard of this piece of scum, Vitaly, prior to this.

The whole topic is sort of fascinating to look at in depth. The above caught me. I think knowledge =/= wisdom. And it is very, very easy for us to conflate the two when we are young. We are full of 'knowing' before we mature and realise we were... full of shit. So to speak A similar conflation often arises with pleasure being conflated with happiness. I think the flood of information is empowering, no doubt. Experience is the greater teacher. It is rare someone can actually have the self control to avoid making mistakes and heed advice; most of us need to fuck up and find out. For these reasons I suspect there could be the delusion of youth operating as a factor in there. Possibly, also, too much information, too soon. Sort of like trying to teach a student algebra when they do not know simple BODMAS or basic rules; that person is going to dislike maths and walk away with a negative experience due to the struggle. Paralyzed by algebra and unable to proceed in their schooling. This could be a metaphor for information saturation and inundation people endure. I digress a bit. I sound very disparaging of younger people - I do not wish to convey judgement with the above passage. My comments are more a statement of my own experience, stupidity, hubris and pure ignorance I had to work through. All needed. All warranted. But I was a MESS. A stupid arrogant little girl.

The topic makes me wonder if technology / social is retarding maturity.

Do you think this is true of people, not just one sex?

Haha, you got me - the touristy aspect does turn me off. But someone recommended Bali to me, as a first destination for a solo woman traveller 😃

My pleasure 🤍 You are an absolute sweety btw, beautiful gentle energy on the forum

Great point. You don't know yourself as well. You cannot yet communicate your needs (or know them) with clarity. You mistake the heady thrill of lust for love. You can be afraid of being hurt, lacking the confidence to know you will recover from anything. Sometimes something feels wrong in a relationship, or a need isn't being met. And we aren't clear enough to enunciate it, or even know what is wrong. So naturally people look outside themselves to find what is wrong. Which can lead to cheating or immature behaviour. I wonder how much the comparitive nature of social media feeds into the 'grass is always greener' mentality that creeps in. Past generations simply would not have been swamped with images of perfection and finely curated lives in current volumes. I am 40 this year. I grew up without social media - then with. I saw both sides in a way. But I can never be sure that anything is directly causative. I can see trends and changes in behaviour, though.

Agree. He turned his shit around

Begging for it, aren't we?

Nice try

Not so fun fact - I've seen someone murdered in front of me. Those inferences can get you!

I think it's less about raw ability here and more about the aura doing the work 🙃

Absolute mogging. Overpowering aura. Reminds me of this energy - old. But an aura that could ballslam anyone into a meat crayon:

1. I self-generate my own suffering. 2. I self-generate negative emotion. 3. Feeling is one of the most intelligent aspects of survival. Also, self-knowledge. 4. I have no control. I take action on the top priority thing (or highest % to influence outcome) to push kinetic energy toward a potential outcome. I just stay the course and engage with the flow of life. Have the wisdom to know when to act. Insane shit happens. 5. I do not know. 6. Fear is deception. 7. Anything I reject outwardly is within me, manifested in an unconscious way. 8. Any thought, concept, belief, frame, ideal etc is just a cataract between Self and reality, obscuring what IS.

@Joshe I may have read it wrong, but I thought when Leo said: 'You have to do something seriously off for a woman to replace you once she has fallen for you.' It meant unmet needs? That could just be my assumption 🤪 Maybe that's the core of the issue - both sexes are not getting needs met. A change as technology has taken over. It might explain modern dating patterns.

Cheating is definitely a constant, tale as old as time for people.

@BlessedLion ❤️

Fuck, really kicking me in the hard nuts with this one. I will admit, I have a terrible ball-less non-answer; its both. It's a pendulum swing for me that is constantly in need of balance. Living truthfully for me is about integrity of action. Ruthless, honest action where I am congruent. My words align with execution. Follow-through. Ruthless follow-through. This was a hard earned lesson for me that did not come naturally. But it is necessary for my survival and basic wellbeing needs. To reduce mind chatter and anxiety. To bring abundance. Grounded. Human Living for truth; a devotion to a cause, ideal, what-have-you. God, Love, unity, infinity, reality, awakening, enlightenment. Surrender. The way things really are. Living for Truth always pulls me upward and beyond. Deep inquiry and ungroundedness. Understanding illusion. I delight in it, but the swing to the absolute can lacerate life from me if I am not careful. This was my more natural way. So, it's both. And none. At the same time. Empty & full. The pendulum swings back and forth - and when I was younger, the swing radius was huge. Life goes. As I have aged the swings are smaller, quicker, less dramatic - but balance is emerging for me as the pendulum begins to still. I feel alignment and integration in this space. Almost as if the Absolute (living for Truth) and the relative (living truthfully) are unifying. I do not know if this is a good answer. But it just came out like no one wrote it. As if channelled.

This is hearsay - but someone briefly mentioned to me he wrote about this on his website. Blog perhaps. I did not look into it myself. You could search there if directly asking him isn't your style.

It's a good message for you, isn't it? It made the desired impact. Good day 😏

Jubilantly received To be sure, you do not even know what I claim. Your inferences and assumptions are as vague as fumes dissolving in a mirage. Which is why the fool thing sorta fell flat 🙃

I read my own signature again and again through this thread, I am glad it got through you.

Why not inquire further?

I prefer this eating timing also I do not like to cut out or restrict anything. I am firm in that I believe the best diet is the one that you can maintain, within certain principles. If you cannot sustain something, it simply isn't going to get you the results you want (ie bodyfat gain/loss, muscle gain/loss, health/homeostatic balance. Having said that, me personally? I do have some digestion issues that mean some things I must be conscious of dose. Simply put I mainly eat plants, eggs, fish, small amounts of cheese and once a week some red meat in the form of kangaroo (not farmed, in Australia these animals are culled due to overpopulation, so I prefer to eat this type of red meat for sustainability reasons). Fruit, vegetables 70% - the rest fish/eggs/cheese/meat. Spices, herbs and no sauce. I eat a lot of EVOO - by the spoonful in my food. I don't have a problem adhering to this. I do not even consider other food varieties as options. I prefer to think of food as little as possible and stick to similar meals in rotation so I can get on with all the other stuff I am not a food oriented person. I do enjoy food for sure. But I feel like thinking about food, preparing, shopping, organising, recipes, takes up a lot of 'mind space' and I like to free my mind from all overthinking and anxieties. Having said that, I will break my own rules for customary occasions. I am not rigid. Balance and homeostasis are what I consider healthy!