Natasha Tori Maru

A single worded representation of absolute succinct communication Hahaha!

Vocab for me ? Extensive reading. Novels, great literary works. Non-fiction. Biographies. Articulation - writing. Journalling. Insights. I used to waffle on and be less concise. When I started to work in construction I was put in a pressure cooker to always communicate with the most precise words with as few sentences as possible. Trades and clients simply will not have the attention span to dig for the point. Try these frameworks to practice a structure, then apply to topics. Practice practice practice. Write it out, then speak it. Maybe even record it to review: PREP method BLUF method Another tip? I write out passages and cull cull cull out words ruthlessly. Anything unnecessary goes unless I am intentionally writing stream of consciousness and want flow. Hemingway to thank for that. Writing and reading will aid in sharpening articulation, speaking it out is practice & performance.

@Davino all Fauna with the names of Flora Pure beautiful spirits!

@James123 what is a moderator in your words? Do you think it is a spiritual leader of some sort? Just to be clear, that is certainly not how I define it. I could genuinely be here just for the personal development side of Actualized, as a user. So you could be projecting your ideas of 'shoulds' onto me. The word pussy is your word not mine.

If there is misunderstanding, then there is always the option to communicate better. Always the path to be greater.

Something upset him. Obviously, he still judges others for being a 'pussy' for not surrendering or following his path or advices. At the same time with James - there's a lot of claiming for no one being there to get upset. Theres also some 'I need to save others' hero complex mixed in, maybe? Overall, some oddities there.

Indeed. You must see some interesting dynamics working in law relating this.

Absolutely. And some moderators have their ego corrupt by their role thinking their words have more gravity.

@cetus rofl I have lurked these forums for a long time - I recall all of what you describe!

I think some of the issue is how people interact with and view authority. A lot of people's relationship to authority is very, very sensitive and deep rooted. It goes back to childhood. Then school. Then law. Society. Some of the wounds from it are actually complexes. People feel totally subjugated by it. And that can be projected onto the moderators and Leo as the authority in this small realm. Users also forget that opinions and views expressed by moderators are just that - opinions and views. This needs to be seperated in people's minds from the role of moderator. For example - how many users consider how they strip the mods of the right to an opinion because of their role? All due to fear of disagreement. Unclear boundaries. If there is any distrust, and there always will be with sound questioning and critical assessment, everything stands to be questioned. The egos relationship to authority is a big topic.

Has a use though.

So?

I do not have a high pitched girl voice, much to my displeasure. It does not have that sing/song ring to it. Much lower pitched. I used to speak with a lot of vocal fry but trained that out of myself when I had to chair meetings at work with large audiences. Listening to recordings of myself was like a pin to the eyeballs! But the Aussie accent? Unmistakable >.<

Echoing @thierry's thoughts - this could be physiological over psychological. My sister had panic attacks of a similar intensity to you, for years. We were both in a severely traumatic environment for many years, but she walked way with significantly more trauma she still has not resolved. Her panic attacks were intermittent. But had a pattern of psychological causes that would trigger them. Since yours may not be I am thinking environmental + physiological reaction? You have my compassion <3

I understand that part - that is on the individual. But moderators, ideally, moderate according to: https://www.actualized.org/forum/guidelines/ So it is not each moderators PERSONAL beliefs (at least, this is not the overarching arbiter, moderators still need to use their own judgment) it is the ideals and beliefs as stipulated in the guidelines. Not all beliefs are bad, especially when they pertain to social systems. They can effectively minimise harm and increase harmony. I don't mean to split hairs here, just do not want to lead anyone to think moderators should be performing like cowboys banning or issuing points, censoring or timeouts because someone has a different opinion or belief. Imagine if I banned you because I disagree with your statements? ROFL

IM DEAD my sides rofl

This is very black/white and absolutist. Just because getting a perfect outcome is impossible, doesn't mean we should give up. No need to cling to perfectionism. Half-way measures can suffice.

It isn't actually possible to 'delete' or erase the ego. I think it is foolish to think one can do this. All that happens is the we cling or identify to something new to replace the old that we think we erased. Spirituality becomes the new ground. Nonduality becomes the new ground to replace XXX. God-consciousness replaces nonduality etc etc ad infinitum. The 'ego-less' individuals I have met have been unconscious to the biggest and more detrimental egos I have ever encountered.

I work in 25 minute blocks, with 5 minutes fuck-around time. That 5 minutes is always getting up and moving in some way. Lunchbreak is a 30minute-1hr walk. 1hr sprint / intervals on the bike before work OR 1 hr run. 30 minutes resistance training after work. 3 out of 5 days a week are at the desk, the other 2 onsite so I am moving around daily then. If I do not get up and move every 30 minutes or so my mind begins to sleep (or my focus/sharpness can fade). They key is to never sit still for more than 1hr max. Seems to work for me

Traps for online content creators This is a serious amount of self reflection coming from experience. And it can apply to much more than just online content creation. From equating human romance to the value obtained from a toilet, to analysing the self so much we need a staple gun to the forehead. Only @ Actualized.org 😁😁😁

@integral A true maverick trailblazer, this boy. No words - just love

I've personally wanted that from the start. I think Leo had some reasons around wanting moderator badges though. How users respond to me in general totally changed with the moderator badge. Which is sad, but understandable. I prefer to fly under the radar.

@Elliott Stop responding to everything a moderator says as if their response is an attempt to moderate you or the discussion. We are users as well. A moderators opinion is just that - an opinion or addition to a discussion. It is not a corrective measure. Corrective measures are explicit for a reason. Would love to speak to you in real life.

Yeah and I am contributing to the discussion - highlighting that there are issues you cannot foresee until you are in the role. Do you want to give it a try?