Natasha Tori Maru

And this is a very, very bad way to conduct yourself (not only as a woman, as a human). You end up pretzelling yourself into someone that you aren't. So you hide yourself to make someone happy. It also requires "acting" in a way. It is an energy drain. And can cause resentment when their needs aren't met - because they tend to be unable to speak their needs and truth while placating to another. The result is we never see them properly for who are, as they present what they think you will like (or need to be), rather than themselves. This impedes true connection - which is the whole purpose behind intimate relationships. We need to be seen. Received. Often it is a process we need to grow out of. Sometimes it is rooted in attachment issues or co-dependency. Been there >.<

What about men? Do men like nice as a quality in women?

Yes - I feel like I have "play" mode and serious mode. But I was naturally always analytical. Easily swept up in my emotional states on occasion. Now I have more self control and I do not feel an irrevocable impulse to always act on an emotion or feeling. If the situation isn't correct, I can reside in charged states with ease. Lots of integration and conditioning work to get there. Ongoing process. Nonstop process I can relate. I was an angry, nihilistic little harpy. I experience similar in response to music. Music is very important to me. I experience a lot of peace now, after a lot of spiritual work. Even in chaos

I think I inherently view "nice" as approval seeking, conflict or discomfort avoiding, socially agreeable and overall seeking harmony/pleasant seeking behaviour. Which can be twisted and often avoids boundaries. It is can also (and frequently) be manipulative - unconsciously so. Kindness I enjoy as it is concern for others wellbeing, compassionate and caring but can maintain good boundaries. Kindness is okay with discomfort and is less inherently manipulative. I respect kindness because it can be confrontational and niceness usually isn't. I also view kindness as a way to "hold space" for someone, whereas niceness does not have that quality. Kindness = “I can tolerate your displeasure without abandoning what I believe is right.” I don't think it is possible to perform the above and be "nice". Might just be me.

I have been told that. But I can be VERY excitable - quick to excitement, quick to return to calm When there is stress, crisis or a large complex problem - I am calm and clear. Extremely focused and driven toward a solution. But if we are just goofing off, or there is some good news, I flip to higher charged energy. Which usually means I move a lot (speak some also) - but mainly body language, faces and random sounds. This is how I am described by OTHERS, mind you - I don't feel super charged up in jubilant states, but I express it with no censure. I am good at reading the room though so I shelve it if I sense someone isn't in the right mind to receive. How about yourself?

I require kindness. Not necessarily nice. Nice isn't required.

I will raise - I think people might be conflating desire with passion. They are totally different aspects of motivation. Sitting down and contemplating the difference will help. Desire is about an objective "I want X" . I experience passion as more of a process of engagement - it is an activity or domain. I experience them as a reinforcing sequence where I am interested, passionate so I engage. This triggers a desire for mastery. This can also run in reverse where desire can trigger pursuit, repeated engagement and unlock passion - this is especially crucial for me because I have found various passions in this reverse orientation, also. Desire can exist without action. Passion tends to action - but not always. Desire <-> Passion can also conflict with each other. "I really want and desire success, but I don't actually enjoy the process of engagement required to achieve it". And I think many of us know this inner conflict - or have experienced it. Desire can pull you toward an outcome while passion pulls you toward the process. Not a simple topic.

I am impossible to ignore

The truth always arrives with a bunch of horseshit. In my experience

Be patient. Don't get attached to some fantasy future. Make sure you are aligned with what is real. As closely as possible. It will reduce wasted energy, stress and suffering. Don't resist what "is".

Gotta be clear and not collapse the person (or character) with the behaviour. And make sure we do not have any sort of parasocial relationship behaviours ourselves. Can point to fantasy thinking.

Honestly if you listen to what he says - it can be chalked up to a man who has been immersed in new age spirituality for most of his life. Amazing actor or channeller? I enjoy that Bashar actually has some kick arse advice. Regardless of his delulu status

There are a few people who listen to Bashar - it comes up now and then

@eos_nyxia Yes! Daisy chains as necklaces and crowns! I still pick them and make necklaces. There's a section of my building that is for retirees. The ladies have morning tea. I often bring them back chains of flowers for fun. It is spring here now... I've already been an evil little harpie and stolen flowers to decorate the chains 😈 innocent fun though. Thanks for sharing 🫶

No, you are misunderstanding.

This. There is no negotiation. There is no option not to work. I just do. It's a reflex. I am working before I even know what I am doing. It took me deliberate practice for a good few years to get to this place. But once there, the habits are as to be etched in stone.

...birds of a feather! Ingredients for the mighty cockroach omelette

I have no idea what you are talking about.

I know you have a problem with the court of public opinion - but it is your problem.

Experience.

People care. His influence - particularly the potentially negative influence - does.

‘Free Clavicular ’ protest by Neo Nazis - Melbourne, Australia We doing the world proud 🥹

Don't smash their dreams too early Some people love "gatekeeping by those with skill" might no longer be a thing. A strange way to look at it. Yep!

Reading this triggered a thought! I think there is a new problem arising - AI enables those without "skill" and expertise to shortcut their way to able to produce skilled work. They have a low effort process that can overcome the hurdles years of training, effort and persistence needed to develop a craft that someone can benefit from. That prestige and access is available to them. Removing hierarchy and barriers to entry for many creative output fields. AI is democratizing skills. And separating skill acquisition from skill output. But the actual process of training that skill is a valuable asset. It trains consistency, diligence, dedication & skills to produce excellence in a field. Along the way prestige is built through networks and business contacts - social skills are developed as a byproduct. The networks we have to work with - human contact & connection - are fast becoming a new type of asset that traditional training methods (ie university, business etc) used to build through training processes. Skill becomes cheaper - networks become more valuable. They are being gatekept in a new way. Human connection may become a scarce form of capital. Authentic, high quality and trusted relationships.