Natasha Tori Maru

Makes it hard with older women who have had bad experiences. In the one hand they can be more mature and on your level. But then they can miss or crush their natural feminine joy of "being" in all the silly conditioning. Which is what younger women can naturally have. And men tend to crave. Life serving up bags of dicks. Your lucky girl will come along. I don't see you as someone to sit still for long 😁

She had lots of resentment? I dunno when I judge others I tend to be just blocking or avoiding my own shit. So if I sat here and judged you as a dickhead (I dont lol), I would actually just be trying to attempt not to feel hurt or dissappointed. Instead of just feeling hurt/dissappointed and letting it go so I can be happy again. Judging gets you stuck with the feeling repeating it over and over. Just let the real feeling out and be done! That's not to say I don't discern when there is wrongdoing. I just try to drop that moralising judgement. My sister judges endlessly and won't let anything go. Maddening. Like we talking shit from 15 years ago. My god

I agree. Even looking at contextual dynamics - all of it could be explained by "I just want to fuck" lol. Literally as simple as that. Ideally it should be just stories. Hopefully well told ones 😊 maybe trying to preserve a bit of honour... But then preferences come into it. Can logic prefences. It's just what gets you off 😅

In terms of perspective - I just think this thread is about sharing experiences. Sex tends to naturally be loaded with insecurity, judgement and shame. Some of that is coming out. A lot of status and status seeking behaviour going on too

I love you guys lol I can't judge. I can be a right little shit 😁

@Basman I can smell when I'm burning fat from my piss (sorry if tmi lol). It has a really distinct smell 😅

You can't really summarise a whole person based on a few forum posts and make a generalised assessment. Too little data to go off. You don't really know anything about the user other than some intermittent interactions. Yes. You probably have! You can call out behaviour you think is poor. But the additional stuff like "no internal frame" again, we aren't magical mind readers. This just can't be accurately known or inferred from forum posts. The argument is invalid anyway. Everyone has an internal frame. It's just a perspective or context.

My body responds to that sort of defecit within 3-4 weeks. Discounting water loss initially. YMMV we all respond differently

How would you know it's the correct answer, even if you had one?

I am actually a fan of Bryan - people mistake my criticism for straight un-nuanced hate. I like his insane experiment and slightly deranged expressions. I do chuckle a bit when people think I just toss out the baby with the bathwater 😭 But for general health advice, I prefer others. His book though... It is funny you came to the conclusion his epistemology is childlike. I got further into the book and my main issue was his poor philosophy!

For someone who submitted such a poor research thesis for his PhD, I cannot say I am surprised AI was used in such a lazy way with very little review (broken down in the video). I think the overall points Mike makes encourage much greater attachment to the physical body, and there isn't enough emphasis on "this body matters, so I will look after it". The issue isn't caring about the body - but making the body into the foundation of identity / value / psychological security. Similar crossover to some of the more problematic extreme views within the looksmaxxing movement (hardmaxxing). I don't think it is good to encourage our wellbeing, identity, worth or security to depend on our bodies being a certain way.

There are more possibilities, and people don't all respond to lack of content by seeking "acceleration".

Many, many people would freak out and possibly run (or have a lot of trouble dealing with the general vulnerability) when confronted with the reality of someone being truly present and open like that. I see people say that they want that. But it requires a level of exposure that forces us to step up and be better. That's a real challenge because it means claiming/admitting to all the shitty parts of ourselves. Facing them. Not always the case... But it's a damn good question!

This is a broader topic that can also apply to many users issues with understanding women ❤️❤️❤️

The Chef arrives to serve the degustation menu - thanks HEAPS!

Haha - if conflict is an accepted certainty, then we have to make sure we increase our skills at effectively resolution!

@Jordan of the Shire The dynamic you describe is so so similar to how I have been experiencing drilling down into a relational understanding of others. I didn't foresee the function you describe - it leading to more receptivity from the person who feels understood. It is can effectively make them feel safe I guess! This ties into why I suspect relational understanding is key to women - and when men apply logical/analytical understanding it can lead to misunderstanding. Thinking the mechanism explains the person. Thinking we can understand someone's psychology via inference. Map (analytical understanding) vs territory (relational understanding). Explanation doesn't equate to understanding. It's really gathering more datapoints to work with (logical view haha) It has been a big recognition to me, as of late, that I was failing in this arena of relational understanding.

Same for me. I am aggressive with my reasoning and pushing it onto others. I can be very INSISTENT when I think I am right. I engage in a lot of absolute language that leaves no room for nuance. It can transmit that I have not thought something through critically (ie I am stating THIS IS THE THING, rather than "this could be a reason, and given this, it is likely to be"). I think by softening my rhetoric I not only have the message land better, but I actually stop more often and inspect other possibilities. So it sharpens my critical thinking at the same time. The forum is good for these skills. Maybe you are doing what I am doing above - altering rhetoric to have it transmuted to a clearer and more precise critical thinking assessment/ability? This appears to be the effect it has on me. It is a way of raising consciousness if you think about it

A lot of karma was resolved. Claiming and owning our poor behaviour stops us resisting the truth, and the feeling of shame dissolves very rapidly. In a flash. Resist or deny that behaviour and we create a bad relationship to it/our emotions - this is where Ralston's unnecessary suffering comes into it. How we relate to emotions, feelings and thoughts. That's the unnecessary suffering we can affect. Your forum use has let you sit in more of your authenticity, in my opinion. Just from reading your interactions over time. Your expression is evolving. I know. It is so difficult too because others are snap quick to psychologically profile (it is actually magical thinking this "mind reading"). People never stop to ask more questions "what exactly do you mean by this and this?" they reply to what they think they understand and then... TRIGGER RAGE Just ask more questions before thinking you know - half the problem!

@LordFall I sort of like getting triggered by my interactions with you though, not gonna lie! I don't mean that in a bad way at all. More like "oh shit, im triggered! there's something there I need to look at!" You were one of the biggest characters on the forum that made me realise one of my biggest triggers is being misunderstood. Probably my largest trigger. Because when you look at our interactions and debating style - you are really direct in how I see your argument style: Claim > counterclaim > evidence > defend position > challenge opponents reasoning > interprets opponents objection. Pure logical and clean analysis. I think I do more of Claim > underlying assumption > epistemic standard assessment > relational dynamic > assess how the interaction is functioning. Also - I have a tendancy to make a broad claim that isn't accurate to my meaning - I then narrow it to my intentional meaning. This can look like I am sidestepping. It's me just not being precise the first time. So when that happens between us, I think I am maddening for you to speak to because I go for everything underneath the argument and then look at how that is known - while also attending to how I personally relate. So I am often not sticking with analytical logic only. I think this ends up in arguments dissolving into being misunderstood or looking like aversion. Combine that with me often not wanting to push my assessment onto the other person (sometimes I don't want to state my opinion as I don't want to influence someones thinking in a negative way - which is egoic in itself) - I want them to inspect their thinking in a rather pedagogical way/method. This style simply fails in some engagements Anyway I am glad this clears some air - in a sex thread of all things! Sorry for any clashes and reactions I may have had with you.

@Asayake Grateful for your honest assessment here. And to be understood. I tried to stick to just what was happening through evidence and move away from any sort of psychological understanding/interpretation. I think the most common types of friction and arguments on the forum are when meaning is taken and a psychological interpretation is being applied to members when it is all based on inference and there isn't sufficient evidence. Most of the time I end up clashing here because I go for the epistemology behind someone's argument rather than the argument itself "how does this person know this though" and it can look like evasion or be irritating for others who want direct engagement (especially when I look for assumptions inn their argument first). I just really enjoy getting into how others think - but this can feel invasive if they do not perceive I am charitable (which often happens through poor rhetoric from me). I want you to know I sincerely apologise for the clashes we have had.

Yep I do fall into traps like that. I give up engaging and dismiss. Mostly when I think either 1) my point wont be received or 2) I run out of steam. I don't think criticism is bad - even this directed at me. You can asses and critisize someone and have good intentions, especially when it is valid like here. Which is why my kindness or warmth after is simply and expression of no ill intent. I tend to fall into the trap of intention outweighing outcome. It is from frustration regarding not being understood the first time, and then pushing which results in bad outcome. None of this excuses the results. So I am happy to sincerely apologise (and I do so here!) to anyone I have hurt or offended through my rhetorical patterns of engagement. Many times I don't express my meaning sufficiently originally, then I become upset internally and I become averse to continual engagement. It is my own ability to communicate that is an issue

I am... familiar with the carnal side of the male To be perfectly honest - my view is that most women aren't aware of how overriding a drive it can be for many men. And it isn't just young men either. It is really interesting to read up on cases of trans people who take hormones. @Raze has linked some great videos in the past that help either sex get into the others head. I dated a 60+ year older fella who was just as virile and consumed by women as any 18 year old.

Economy seats are horrible for maneuverability And I am sure no one who joins the mile high club gets away with it being unnoticed! I suspect you don't understand what I am saying - just based on this reply.

@questionreality To be clear - you are operating from an assessment that does not contain all data. You aren't privy to private messages that have transpired between that user and others to remedy / moderate.