Natasha Tori Maru

@AION The way you phrased the portion I linked made it sound like you do believe in some form of diety ie "God". Which is chill, just not sure where you stand.

Fuck, how could I have missed this!? I better get back to blaming the patriarchy and men. Those fuckers have been keeping me down my whole life!!!

What makes the first impression on you when listening to a tune, rhythm or melody? Do you play music, or dance? Many dancers and drummers I know tend toward noticing rhythm first, movement & beat. Other musicians hear the emotional crescendos of the melody & sequential pitches. I do not know if there is any pattern to be found here. I am a dancer and only ever learned some drums and a touch of bass guitar (rhythm). I have always heard the beat and rhythm first. It catches me before the melody. I feel the beat in my body as movement, I feel the melody as an emotional weight in my chest and heart 😃

There's some big implications and inferences with this statement. For clarity; you believe in God, and that she/he/it is something outside you, that is an arbitrator of morality or truth?

@WonderSeeker even though the topic you posted could be seen as negative, I think it is extremely positive in that it lets users express their feelings in a place without directing it at a single person. Or turning it into a witch hunt. Just general issues being aired in a contained space. Thank you for the topic 🙏❤️

Not to derail but I am watching LOTR rn - wot! @Carl-Richard I'm channelling Leo now 😈😈😈

https://youtu.be/UqWJ6uf8AGE?si=9cyGL04Vggo-JXxs

I never thought about this, but it would lead me to think we may notice rhythm first. It might be the 'hook', so to speak. My interest is piqued by rhythm, but I often stay for the melody. Your playlists, Leo, often emphasize melody. So I am not surprised by your preference as elicited above ｡⁠◕⁠‿⁠◕⁠｡

The question is what we notice first - not so much which is more important 🙂 Melody/rhythm is codependent arising.

How are you framing harmony here? I see it as the structure support behind rhythm/melody and how the notes stack. Sort of like the atmosphere behind the notes of the harmony. I think they can be separate. But when they mesh together I am taken away to another dimension through the music! I am not a musician so I do not know all concepts as they are defined through that frame. I am just a lover of music 🎵 🎶 ❤️

@Jacob Morres I can see that in some of her posts. I think she had a personal dislike of PUA and it crept in to other valid points she raised. @Basman I saw that flaw in her style also. She really drove at points until it verged on being rediculous. I would contrast my style with hers and raise I pick my battles; I quickly see when others are closed off to an idea or alternate perspective. I just exit the conversation now. Occasionally I stick around if I think I am raising a point that is relevant for the forum and not the individual. But mostly I don't enjoy debating. Because really? Who's opinion is ever actually changed? Some users here are amazing and shift based on new points, others come in with so much 'knowing' there is not room for anything new. I will say this forum is great for users who are willing to look at topics from all angles. Emerald love to 'win'. I don't see conversation or debate that way. My version of 'win' is... Hehehe when I successfully troll someone 😈 @Joseph Maynor I miss her conversation. I really enjoyed how she always looked at mechanisms that worked behind the scenes, rather than focus on the surface manifestation of an issue.

I wonder when today is... In Aussieland, I am a day ahead. The day has just begun... Leo releasing videos in the future own here in the southern hemisphere 🫠

@bazera love the friction principle - it is the same way I look at it in different words 'lowering the barrier for entry'. Making doing the thing as easy as possible because my slinky mind will try anything to get out of it while building the habit. Once the habit is built through repetition, discipline isn't as needed because everything becomes reflexive. I think this is the video you reference: https://youtu.be/TwuutU9yUGE?si=l6UahE6cUXErVJ1G

I've noticed that all the successful people I have worked with have 3 things: observation, communication & self mastery.

Another tip I have: you want to be taking action with your future self in mind. This might be something as simple as preparing the coffee pot that night. So when you get up - turn it on and done. Lay out your clothes for the next day, so morning you can move through your routine with the lowest barrier to entry to begin and execute the task. Set all clocks 5 minutes fast. Plan ahead so when the time arrives to execute the routine you can be mindful and calm. This 'future me' is the 'pre-routine'. If you take action in the now to benefit the future you, it also enables you to look back on the past with gratitude. This will increase your overall enjoyment of the present and will stop remuneration over the past (regrets). The more you prepare for future you, the more you will be totally present, calm and confident in the moment. Again dovetails into enjoyment and gratitude for your own actions. Your effectiveness will increase because you aren't burdened by your own mind scrambling to catch up or remember (or beat yourself up for not doing xxx). Very very powerful technique. I employ this through the weekdays so I can deal with the stress and pressure of working in construction, as well as eating well, daily exercise, daily meditation, walking the dog etc. Most of my tasks are just setting up for future Tash 🙂

This 'eating itself' analogy has gone far enough lol - the visuals are traumatizing me! 💀😂

I empathise 🙏 The real issue is there is a lot of good advice mixed in with really unhealthy stuff. Mature people who have good critical thinking and experience will have an easier time sorting the shit from the good. Wisdom. Overall I think the younger generations are really scared to go out and put their balls on the line. That shit really does build resilience. But it isn't just gen alpha or z - growing up out of youth, into dating and the world? It's always been hard. Character building. Nothing worth it comes easy, in my experience. What we invest in and work for we value more inherently. Just how the human organism works. I do think the internet and social media has increased fear and risk aversion. More than earlier generations who weren't swamped with information and comparison syndrome.

Yes, absolutely. I tend to view it like this also - young men with less experience simply looking for a solution. Action steps to get there and a clean map that gives them duration/path/outcome. Logical to search for a solution. I can't even get angry or upset at them when they fall into red pill or misogynistic thinking. The moment you begin searching online for a solution to dating or women, you are flooded with it. Then algorithms begin to really cement it all in place over and over. Many of these younger guys are encountering dating advice aimed at 30+ or coming from emotionally jaded, damaged adults. Some of the advice is crazy for younger men to adopt! Experience and growing up will wash it all away (we can only hope!).

C'est la vie - your good work is noticed 🙂 So much. Basically misogyny rebranded as woke culture. There are probably 3/4 users who are severely paradigm locked here, who perpetuate it. Mostly it makes me feel deep sadness, because the pathology acts to prevent real intimacy with women. I simply do not have the energy to constantly reconstruct the same stupid arguments again and again. @Emerald was amazing at it. She had endurance I will NEVER have!

You're essentially trying to fight some users paradigm lock programmed in by the algorithms. As long as they consume online content, whatever headway they might make to get out, is going to revert back. Although, despite the futility of the above statement, I appreciate you calling users out. Much of my arguments are disregarded because I am a female. Sad. Symptoms of the chronically online.

One step further for the ultimate mogging - no hands eating off the floor. Just mouth. My body needs to become immune to the floor biohazard 🤪

@Mondsee I do not doubt it - the phrasing made me laugh, though 🤪

Christ almighty, makes it sound like a geriatric with a walker 💀

Approval seeking is a big one to look for - huge growth there. Often harkens back to approval seeking with parents. This gets reflected into romantic relationships also. You can witness on the forum even, those who seek Leo's approval. This points to some form of childhood love that wasn't pure and unconditional in the users history.

@bazera love all your points. Much of your process reflects my own. It is hard, laborious work. It doesn't often feel good either. The running script like a broken piece of software is an analogy I like to return to often. And I feel the same as you - it is scary to think we are walking unconsciously through life with these old scripts that run the show. Most people do this and will never become aware of it. Just looking for it in ourselves is a huge deal! It's fundamental to raising our consciousness - bring it all into awareness to dissolve in process. Suffering really reveals these scripts to us, in my experience. Hell yeah to us both on the path ay?