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It was a long dialogue. We live in the same apartment complex and work together. Just little conversations here and there with lots of time between . Always different aspects of his troubles with women. I think the time between let him think about it, take small steps and watch how his results changed. I also think he had an idea of how women 'worked' and projected this onto all women. So he tried to apply some formula to 'get women'. Like step 1. 2. 3. = results. He had to let that go & a big part of it was realizing women are all different. All want different things. All respond differently. With some commonality of course. I went out with him a few times as a 'wingwoman' at bars and clubs. It got him into places, and he also got to introduce chicks to his sister who was out having some fun with him. I think this made a lot of women feel safer around and acted as an icebreaker. I think the biggest thing it did was to open up opportunity so he could just speak to women like humans and not pedestalize them.

@CARDOZZO appreciated 🙏🏻 unfortunately any truth I might speak on the matter will be dismissed, because I have a pair of tits over a cock. It's good, well rounded, healthy masculine men who need to lead the charge. More fathers who aren't 'genetic' fathers. I mean male leaders ❤️ My brother went through some resentment toward women for a while. When I really sat down with him a lot of what he spoke about was desperately wanting a woman. Loving women. But resenting them for not accepting him. Resentment because he felt he wasn't 'chosen'. That resentment was unconsciously coming out and women were turned off hardcore. He changed his mindset and deleted all social media. Now he has kids and solid relationship. Happy chappy carpenter 😄

@Valach I think I misspoke actually - I think secures do use dating apps but are on them way less prior to paring up. I think they get used as a tool to filter heavily, efficiently and quickly. The 2 secure people I know used them to filter their preferences and moved off them right away. They didn't get caught in 'paralysis by analysis' of all the options out there. Well this is what they told me, anyway. They could be wrong - sample size of 2 there 🥹🥹🥹

I use a Lenovo X1 carbon professional. Hasn't skipped a beat in 2 years. Use it for AutoCAD, Bluebeam, Revit, email, conference calls (zoom, teams) + ten million horrible .pdf files for plansets that typically kill a laptop. Also run a few AI recording apps that compile meeting minutes etc. What will you use it for? And what was your main issue with the apple laptop?

@Tenebroso to be quite frank, again. I repeat myself - you don't know what women want. Don't be content to lay down and cry rather than try to take action to change your cognitive bias. You have severe victim mindset. Try to understand that video I linked. It might help unravel the false meanings you have created.

@Tenebroso yeah. I will respond to you that way. Because the content you consume is making you a victim. You view yourself as some innocent person who is at the mercy of evil women. And you stereotype all women this way. You have all the power to go out and have a different experience. The sad thing is, manosphere 'red pill' and content creators that peddle this bullshit want to make you feel powerless so they can hold your biggest commodity; your attention. Your click. Your view. Your time and money. They want you powerless and you believe them. Don't. Listen to someone like @CARDOZZO who has the opposite of this victim mindset. And stop being sexist, stating 'all women are this'. No.

@Florian can you link me to statements or some evidence Bryan has made about curing suffering? Addressing people with chronic pain? Personality disorders? Depression? I am sorry 'sleeping well along fixes most emotional problems'. Strawman. I am talking people who have low quality of life. People who have incurable personality disorders or depression. Some of these people would not like to be told they are going to love forever in pain. Please link me Bryan's strategy for addressing this? Not your interpretation. Even just some thoughts from him, rather than his cowardice avoiding the question all the time. I am happy to change my mind. But I have never seen Bryan even try to think or address people who suffer chronically from pain. He has never once tried to understand how Don't Die applies to them and rap on it. He just deflects the question and talks about the virtue of existence. Have a listen to this. Some of the comments below ask these serious questions: https://youtu.be/OqlPU1CKEpI?si=d9HGaiuOZ0lmiTpn

Fuck you, Ames Window (many of you have probably come across this): Demonstrates our brains prioritise assumptions over raw data. Perception is a best guess not a direct feed, here we are predictively processing. Reality = sensory input + built in expections. Depth cues like perspective and motion are ambiguous... When two cues conflict the brain fucken brute forces it, picks one interpretation and makes it fit what it thinks will happen. What we are 'seeing' in reality is like a controlled hallucination mechanistically. The brain is constantly predicting, correcting errors and then making shit up to fill the gaps. I feel betrayed 💀

...that you cannot believe is still free? For me its VLC, Blender. ffMPEG, OBS and Linux (to name what I use currently)

@Carl-Richard what is more fucked up is as an artist raised on first principles in fine art, I was taught myriad tricks in rendering images to fool the onlooker. So a serious of random lines close up look like a mess but then from afar it's a reed bed on water etc. I feel like I should know better, but the depths of self deception is like a recursive shit spiral of lies 😭 This deserves a blog post - Actualized.org quote style, imo

You're not wrong - I see 20% tauted by reputable people who study attachment theory and dating patterns. But then my experience says... Fuck no.

@AerisVahnEphelia rofl it always comes down to projecting the spigot

@Lila9 heh heh so tldr - it's all shit in different forms? Poking fun, but I agree. It's easy to look on externally and form some opinions from that surface; the reality of living it is another thing entirely.

You know - when you remove problems from people. It reveals this big empty hole inside they have never faced. An unoccupied, un-inspected place. When we are first confronted with it - it gets slapped with 'boredom' or 'understimulated'. But if you sit with it, you reveal what cannot be spoken. You connect with breath - how we connect to reality moment to moment. But yeah most people fucken hate the mundane that is underneath their drama and problems. So they just make some more to replace the old 🤣🤣🤣

Listen - you were passive aggressive and mean to a moderator in this thread. No amount of constipated smiley faces is going to bury that. We arbiter the rules. One of which, is no conspiracy theories. Don't get all bent out of shape when we point this out to you - and point out the flaws in that type of thinking. Mods do a job. If you have an issue with the job - TALK TO LEO. But I know you won't. I'm done. I cannot be any clearer. Nothing confusing going on but some mental gymnastics from you deciding which rules apply to you and which don't.

@Ramasta9 You break a rule, don't take it personal when mods address it. You're still taking it personally. You're still attaching to your ideas like they are you. Got a problem with a rule? Appeal to Leo. Clear steps to escalate.

Its sorta weird cos I feel like red pill isn't even used as a term anymore. But the idea behind it persists. In a simplified way it appears it's just - broken people attract broken people. Both aren't able to recognize secure healthy love and approach it with their own beliefs (and loaded expectations) regarding what love is. The again, these days, who actually gets raised right to KNOW secure love? There are many who claim there are only around 20% of people with healthy attachment styles. And those people typically do not use dating apps, and pair up relatively quickly. I've already been through my own healing from a lot of the wrong ideas of what love is.

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Very true. Similar with attraction. What we are attracted to is often not what we need - or what is good for us. I think maturity plays a huge factor as this can be the operating mechanism of inhibition.

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@Ramasta9 No. This is me telling you not to treat mods inhumanly.

@Stick I think this might be where your and Leo's difference is - not sure how he defines it?

@Ramasta9 If you don't understand - that is on you. Disappointed. Good day.

Comon man, can't you see how ironic this is? You are being very mean spirited to @UnbornTao You pick and choose which rules apply to you. I suppose you enjoy the benefits of the moderating we do. Keeping the forums neat & legible. Stopping spammers. Ensuring quality. Censoring vile namecalling. Attending to reported content. Spending time looking after members who are enduring hardships and mental health challenges. Stopping petty fights escalating. Stepping in when others are condescending or mean to each other. PMing members constantly about issues. This is unpaid volunteer work that often puts a dark colour on our OWN use and enjoyment of the forums. You don't have on single IOTA of what we do behind the scenes. But then you cry about policing conspiratorial thinking. We are doing our jobs upholding forum rules - but you take this ONE aspect of us doing our jobs personally and take it out on moderators. If you have an issue with policy - take it up with Leo. Take. It. Up. With. Leo. If you think we are robots who do not think - THINK AGAIN. And consider we arbiter the forum rules - outside of the small nuances we might agree or not agree with. Maturity. If you choose not to abide it is a matter of time before you self select out. So, ironically, you accuse others of being triggered. When it is you who is triggered. It is you who is attached to ideas and thoughts. Because when we call out your failure to honor epistemology, YOU take it personally. We are aware you are going through some hardships - many are. This is, however, NOT an excuse to be so passive aggressively constipated in posts towards mods.