Natasha Tori Maru

39 years, 5 months & 18 days

I came across these also - it is very, very worth it to note that Scott has really ridden the privilege of being able to capitalise on how much easier prosperity was when he was a young man. His generation received handouts and concessions in a way current younger men cannot access as easily. He's a tail end boomer.

I love he expounds on male suicide. I think it is a tragedy that need highlighting more. What makes it extra horrible is it cements the feeling that men are already disposable and worthless - which many men already suffer from. I think I am concerned and passionate about this topic, because I see the emotional health of men on construction sites. I've had apprentices unalive themselves. As a woman working in the field with them, and sometimes being hands on with demo, hanging doors and running cable in areas they cannot reach, I participate in the communal comradery & banter Scott speaks about. Its when you are achieving something alongside men, they open up. Just as an off-hand comment here or there. I tend to hear a lot about their personal lives and troubles because I am a woman, and there is more perceived safety opening up to a woman (in my experience, at least). They don't need solutions - I tend to end up talking to them about what they are feeling, deeply probing into it, and revealing what other thoughts arise WITH the feeling and where they could stem from. Feelings are always bundled with thoughts, assumptions, narratives, identity claims and self-concepts. We go into uninspected belief territory often. You can tell when speaking to them, they do not often get into deep personal issues many in their lives. I enjoy the psychological aspect of it, and it's a huge boon for me in business. I find the guys on site are more motivated, happier and have a genuine desire to do good work, get the job done on time and on budget. All from having a chat about some troubles here and there. The difference is dramatic following some of these spur-of-the moment heart-to-heart chats. I just let them feel seen and heard. I don't think that happens often for a certain breed of man.

AI slop now. Thank riddence I binned google as a search engine over a year ago. https://techcrunch.com/2026/05/19/google-search-as-you-know-it-is-over/

I lean into this. Much more pragmatic take. Stripped down of inflated hype and dreams.

I use duckduckgo, startpage and kagi (paid though). I used to use Brave but it's been turd lately. Not sure what changed there.

Do I? Or do I have my own truth? If you haven't noticed, across our dialogue, and all dialogue with others on this forum, you rarely ask questions about others worldview to try to understand in earnest. Let alone mine. You simply never drop frame and insist on your own. Again and again. And again. And again and again. And that's fine, you can do that if you will. Because you won't ever abandon your worldview in earnest open enquiry, to really try to understand someone else's, you misunderstand others. And this is why you don't understand Ralston. You demonstrate it with almost every statement you make. You also ask others to teach you about Ralston through their own lens of interpretation. Further removing you from understanding him. My suggestion is, if you really want to participate in a real teardown of Ralston - you're going to have to batten down the hatches and read his books.

Respect. I must be shit 🥹

No worries ! Thank you for the support

It is part of the story he tells himself

Yep. Also he HEAVILY advocates for the need and (current gap) for strong male role models men can get behind. The role of "fathers" is really important. He doesn't advocate for returning to a previous system, or trying to change others. I like how he is more focussed on how men can cultivate integrity and worth through changing themselves and not blaming external factors. I think it is a self empowering message to run against the hopeless nihilism much of the younger generations are faced with in current culture. He emphasises how a lot of male suicide is punctuated common narratives around feeling "useless" and worthless. Pointing toward males having a deep need to provide value for their themselves as a natural manifestation of masculinity - and not because they are forced to be value providers by external incentive structures (that's not to deny there aren't significant external incentives at force, more that this is actually a positive masculine trait that produces positive self worth when fertilised). Less 'society needs to fix this' and more recovering male agency, meaning & competence. This is too simple and falls into the reductionist trap. He says alcohol is one potential way to assist with socialization but its a mechanism to loosen up - and there are others. You've also twisted his message of cultivating purpose and value into straight making money - he never claims this is the only way to actualise as a man. This is just your stripped down interpretation.

Okay Jan, go tell someone on the street they are dumb and see what sort of reaction you get. Nice mental gymnastics to justify doing whatever the hell you please. Not discussing this any further. You know the rules - do it again and test them at your peril.

I agree with this - it's a loaded term. When it's thrown around in debates like this, additional work has to go into stripping it of meaning that users bring, AND THEN reconstruct what others mean by the term. You double your work having to educate and redefine it. I don't ever refer to societies structures in a gendered way.

I agree. It reads like dead perfection of human prose. Like a simulacrum of a human mind's thoughts. It sticks from a mile away. I question a lot of its uses in general - is it enhancing our active participation in life - or is it removing us to be more of a 'witness' or 'observer'? We are devolving into spectator chimps of our lives, rather than chimps engaged and involved with the chimping

The internet has degraded in quality. Flood the zone with shit. Misinformation and disinformation is too widespread. Vetting is becoming harder and harder. I've been on the internet heavily since mid-90s when DIALix existed in Australia. It's been a slow boil. Reddit is actually foul. The group think there is really pervasive. And I swear to GOD LLM's are vomiting up consensus from that cesspool

Porn can be addictive. There is no arguing around this.

🫪🫪🫪🫪 Hur de dur 😃

@Willy Phallicus peace, dude. Don't let this scramble the eggs. It's just an online conversation.

Just don't be rude. It's not hard.

AGI talk gone quiet - isn't it supposed to be here by now?

@James123 I don't care. Observe the forum rules. Don't use truth to justify behaving in a nasty way.

Keep those nasty thoughts to yourself. Don't make such negative character judgements toward other users.

This shit is backwards. Biology and the differences between men and women are real. Some liberals and feminists live on other planets. I have no idea how these individuals come to these sorts of conclusions without group think and borrowing concepts. There is no critical thinking.

@Willy Phallicus I don't really care about continuing a dialogue with anyone so entrenched in a frame they cannot drop it for pure conceptual understanding. I'm literally too employed for this Peace