Natasha Tori Maru

I think its a great way to look at. Non-negotiables are the only things I try to discern right off the batt with new dudes. Get that out of the way. Its so rare to find people who are up-front and candid. And aware enough of their own needs they can clearly state them. Maturity helps - but MY GOD there are still many immature, low-consciousness individuals in the dating domain. Its shocking when someone is so together in professional life, family, friends. Relationships have a unique way of bringing out all of our uninspected parts and shadows. ROFL yeah he was very, very INTJ too. Very difficult for he and I to bond. He expected a female child to be female. So he did not treat me how I expected. Loaded expectations relating to gender. When I hit about 12/13 he realised I was more masculine minded and started to change how he related to me. Which was great! But 2 INTJ's running a construction business can be difficult. Same weaknesses. Same strengths. Insane when we butt heads. The best part is we do not take it personally so it doesn't ruin the father/daughter thing. Oh the knives - its not so unusual! My brother was a chef and he gave me many high quality japanese knives. I also have a set of Global knives that are just beautiful to use. And many of these: https://www.amazon.com.au/Victorinox-Classic-Pointed-Paring-Knife/dp/B0052C211C/ref=sr_1_10?crid=28QROH8OOK4ZR&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.sv3TCu0MiebfkZ_YEAjFhnNMMmkbJWr5yk-xeDqxTS046kcBmLr1I9n7O4S3pQsiUdNn2Uibm8_IGcKQKpNdkDmM-_s6aMvLl5csS1PQsd43GyDcR5ab8gbtI1kTnjtPpMwqOzI7vl647sO-09Ip4i02Ukgx1qxE92tO7E7pUYpzcFga0E0PEPOx-AzTfLHlOw21j80Jfn5b8O0qXAmXuzfZa_6-SICdnrsv2jr_9ltw4aRfRbHYXM3Y_XH9N3L_f20HdKJaFW8_cST-FUqit5hCo9l-QUhTz3OSkrVkUmk.r1ARvldF21MovT-5tGDL3HNUPQWcrqHUsF-tEu5vNU8&dib_tag=se&keywords=victorinox&qid=1726709499&sprefix=victorinox%2Caps%2C344&sr=8-10&th=1 They are the best cheap knives for little tasks - BUT FRIGHTENINGLY SHARP

Wow, great share - thank you. 'Female sexuality is mental, male sexuality is physical' - while this is a bit reductive and absolute, in general it has been the trend I have seen. I don't get the sort of perspective this bird does, but I work in a male dominated environement. I was closest with my brother's. I see the lack of intimacy between men. And it's interesting to note this probably always exisited - it's just now we are becoming aware of it (internet, social media). Do you think men are socialised out of vulnerability and intimacy between men? This really fucks them because they are forced to derive all of this from women. Also interested in your experience being vulnerable with women when you don't intimately know them? I had an experience with my Dad yesterday where he cried in a vulnerable way. I felt so much more love and affection for him. Compassion. And it was a male type problem he was expounding on.

To be clear it was me probing to understand what they were both referring to Self is thrown around as a full loaded term around here ...

This is the assumption left uninspected.

@integral I was close to selecting efficiency. In retrospect I probably should have selected it. The example in my mind that caught me was walking; I deliberately tailor my days around walking and cycling. But not to be quick - to lock in steps/movement and hard cardio. I actually think I should have selected efficiency because that is correct for me in all other aspects. I will always find the most efficient way to do something. Refine a process to perfection. I actually delight in it... I reckon that is an INTJ thing as I am exactly like my dad (INTJ also). But then I have this feminine 'go with the flow, whatever' mode I flip to as soon as my man enters the picture. But can snap back to process mode as needed. I have 2 forks, 2 spoons, 14 knives and 1 plate and 1 bowl. I don't like having too many things. Even my wardrobe is the same few items purchased high quality, multiples of, and repeated.... Mostly black 😅

I can see I nailed aesthetic / minimalist. Voted. I am pretty utilitarian but also highly value aesthetics and always have. Which can sort of butt heads. Great post! Aesthetic / Ritual / Preservation / Stimulation / Minimalist / Social / Naturalist I don't think there is a a lot of disharmony. I certainly don't feel disharmony

@integral What the fuck you uncultured SWINE! It's a macrame wall hanging.... HOLY SHIT Can you imagine my minge hanging out from that thing? JESUS hahahahaha

@UnbornTao rofl, dicked by autocorrect 💀 To be fully woke I should have added the word chad, rizz, mog.... It's giving mariokart... Clock it clock it! No because like... SIX SEVEN SKIBIDY TOILET

Jason Shurka who runs unifydtv.com Sells LED cubes, panels and spheres that heal you. Slowly funneled a big story into his grift: It's long. But it's a narrative slowly created as a launchpad for the grifting. "Ray" Works for a secret organisation who does covert spiritual work all over the world with powers of levitation, mind alteration, travel through oceans, astral projection and out of body work to manipulate the outcome of events. Special highlights: antivax conspiracy, global cabal, shadow government, COVID hoax, adrenachrome harvesting of clone children, underground tunnels linking continents, underground bases under Antarctica with invisible walls that disintegrate you and more! He's probably interviewing himself.

@Magnanimous first year? I went hard - book club, Buddhist society, character creator & world builders guild, chess club, drawing and painting club, science students society, mathematics & statistics society, physics society. I think that's it. University of Melbourne. I dropped out of a lot of them, but first year I just went crazy exploring the new world. Chess club, drawing and painting and character creator/world building guild were the best. Met some good mates there. True earnest weirdos totally authentic to themselves 😁 The transition for me was hard. I have to realise I was only being invited or speaking regularly to my high school mates due to shared obligations. Beyond that I had nothing in common with them. It took a year for those friendships to dissolve. But that time I had made 2 mates at uni and they opened up a huge social circle. I was always quiet and shy. Always introverted. But I have a Machiavellian side that comes out to play. I would lean more towards being an ambivert in retrospect. Despite the quietness, I was always able to have deep conversations with anyone. And I have a natural ability to understand alternate perspectives (in fact I have trouble not seeing things from multiple perspectives). I think this is why I was able to connect and make new friends. Real friends. But to do this I had to push past my natural inclination to sit and draw at home, read or do creative stuff. It was lucky the friends I did make really pushed me! Like we talking rock up 7am it's pancakes time! Or 11pm mariakart marathon. Very spontaneous but good for my development. Did you have close friends at high school? None of mine were close, or came close to understanding who I was. Uni guys got it though! It was only me, 1 chick and 8 guys in our circle.

My personal wish? Snap my fingers for a day. Both sexes get the opposite version body for a day. Women would realise just how irrationally overriding mens carnal desires can be. Men would understand how much fear, concern for safety, and vulnerability women experience. None of these basic instincts justify any sort of poor behaviour. But it might be eye opening !

I recall so many clubs and societies at uni - have you joined any? My high school mates where not friends, I discovered. Quite painfully. Merely aquantances born of the convenience of shared circumstance. The high school > University transition can be difficult. It's one of the biggest, if not the biggest, change you have faced so far. My first long term boyfriend I met at a social club at uni 😁

@Hyperion was I arguing - or trying to understand someone's worldview?

If you cannot argue a case without resorting to a statement about that person's character - you will struggle to convincingly argue a case. You are simply going to lose the person. It ends up being about assuaging some feeling. There are a few exceptions, I will grant that - when credibility is relevant. In leadership and ethics someone's integrity can be assessed etc But the type of character judgements I am seeing here are not it. If you make a character judgement and it is indeed relevant, it cannot be done in the disappointing manner it is here. People on both sides are expressing disgust. No need.

Guys, please. Address the argument. Do not make character judgements!

The fuck. I cannot see it!

That is not my argument.

Explaining is a form of appeasement. In this case, this is what elaboration from Leo serves. Capitulation is different. There is no capitulation from Leo unless there is some sound reasoning and truth involved.

Leo does appease his audience and followers. He has 60k + posts ON THE FORUM ALONE. That is a lot of explaining, couching and elaboration. Whenever something isn't clear, Leo elaborates. I probably look like I am white-knighting here, but shit me, it's just facts 🫪🫪🫪

@Leo Gura you never have to justify or qualify a values based discernment in my opinion. Ever. It's really cool that you do, though! It's just people. They do not have the requisite openness to approach anything in good faith, and they cannot help but push their judgement and unconscious bias onto everything around them. I don't know how you deal with it. But I don't have to tell you ! Bias is your domain ☺️ The bluntness is all good for me at least, I prefer it. Probably conditioning from working construction.

@Leo Gura I think due to your status as a teacher, followers get mixed up when it comes to values driven judgements. The above statement, if received from the context of 'teacher' (or leader), appears as a values driven statement dressed up as a universal judgement. Just my observation - either it is users unable to discern when you make a personal values post vs universal truth, or an inability to separate art from artist. IE the work, from the Leo. But this is why we have a forum and access to you - so we can harass you for further understanding! The trouble arises, and where users err, is coming at your posts with loaded judgements or without open questioning in good faith.

You cannot debunk something you don't even understand. Half this discussion is users not understanding what they are arguing against.

I suppose I use a lot of healthy fat. I require a surfectant. 2 years is nothing!

Fuck Incans got nothing on Aztecs - motherfuckers made cups out of their enemies skulls in a doco I watched. Part of their culture was to slaughter hundreds of people in the name of their respective God. The God ( like Tialoc for rain, Quetzalcōātl wisdom / wind etc ) had to have a certain amount of death / blood for shit like the rain to come. Sun to rise. They were an empire also though, but these customs arose from tribal traditions originally. Sounds like peace love and happiness to me 🤣

Reverse Uno - well played