Natasha Tori Maru

Dance more How do you feel when someone else dances with you? When I dance with others, I can be so wild and out there. They are often more comfortable and easy expressing themselves when I am going apeshit in front of them. I suppose I am invoking the cringiest possible white girl dancing as an overt display *I* have no shame. I can actually dance quite well, I just sometimes choose to be based and do whatever my limbs feel like. Which can look bizarre. Uninhibited self-expression gives other people permission to express themselves more freely!! This is why a partner can help so much. But not everyone reacts the same. Some people feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable or pressured to match the energy. I took dance lessons when younger - jazz, contemporary, breakdancing, popping and locking - this really helped me. It grounded me, gave me confidence in my body, enhanced my own connection to emotion, feeling. Broke through anxiety, shame, embarrassment, fear of judgement. Sometimes I think it worked too well as I lack shame and embarrassment to a large degree which can act as a good check for behaviour. It also worked to train me in public performance. I have no issue with public perception, speaking or performing for an audience.

I am really disappointed by some of the replies. Warnings have been issued where it was clear someone was taking the piss. Posts have also been removed. Occasionally it is hard to know what is serious as there is no tone through text, and some people are confused regarding bias (and being clear regarding their own - which is even more left field). This thread is a tool for growth. It is also a vulnerable topic. Courage is grace under pressure.

What emotions / feelings come up for you? Sympathy, heartbreak, disgust, sadness, pity etc So you feel compelled to action?

@Carl-Richard to loose a definition for me!

Isn't it more than that, through? It's a seperate word, after all. Why is bias a seperate word if it is just synonymous? Unless bias is a domain word. I bias in my understanding also tends to distort judgement/discernment. So while the above forms part of a bias (or can), there's needs to be some distortion mechanism.

Really appears like many do not know what a bias is.

@Ajay0 This is not a debate thread. Please do not use it as such.

Try not to derail too much all

The downstream effects of love, connection, oneness, unity, nonduality and recognition of God conciousness are huge. I think you correctly identify one of these downstream effects in how we relate to each other - in how we express love, connection and pleasure through sex.

Yep 100%. This is identifying all the other factors that contribute to why people rape. You identified social learning and social norms... Rape can also be caused by entitlement, disregard of consent, power, domination, aggression, coercive attitudes. Situational factors like impaired inhibition... sometimes personal affect/personality. There are more I am sure! The solution has to address all these causes. The underlying concept is very interesting. implementing it would require a much broader systemic shift.

You recognise and deeply know that other IS you. How could you participate in an act of self violation unless you do not recognises other as part of yourself, as yourself? Connection IS unity, is ONE, is infinity. Good connection to make

This is either changing position or qualifying what you originally meant (which is fine, sometimes we express our original premise better after review/dialogue, or we just phrased it a particular way). Sexual deprivation as the explanation for rape to a broader worldview change. The missing mechanism is why someone who disregards another person's agency would adopt the proposed worldview, or why that worldview would prevent them from doing so?

Fundamentally it violates the sovereignty, agency and consent of another to satisfy a need. Opposite direction of oneness, unity, and connection.

They can. But they aren't a complete solution because they do not solve across all the reasons people commit rape. The entire problem needs to be understood in full for a full solution.

It is a reductionist misunderstanding of why people rape to think it can be solved with art, spirituality and connection. Sexual deprivation is extremely relevant to some individuals, but rape is a multifactorial behaviour that cannot be explained simply by a shortage of consensual sex.

I am sorry my line of reasoning/questoning upset you. But this is very uncharitable.

That doesn't follow from anything I asked or stated.

Sure - agree to disagree. I think its a conflation of selection and category. Vent away and disregard me

I am illustrating your assumptions behind the main argument.

Does it follow that rape is justified? I reject the starving child analogy, because I consider it false. Will you die if you do not rape or have sex?

Rape is understandable, as in, it is logical? Is this a correct understanding?

You are a real one

Maybe its the interpretation of the experience, then. There are several layers of judgement, interpretion and concept sneaking in

I don't think identifying bias should be done with the goal of elimination. The realistic goal is to understand how it influences us and prevent it from distorting our judgments & discernment.