Natasha Tori Maru

Ralston's apprentice? He's a good lad 🙂

Brendon has even taken on Ralston's accent and intonation. Ah-while. EXXXXspirianSEEE. AHe-where.

@oOo Do you think spirituality/personal development is done on a forum?

Wait, but creativity isn't the opposite of restraint? @Cred Constrain often increases creativity. Limitation. What about architecture, engineering, music composition? These require planning, revision, iteration, delayed gratification. In my experience original work comes from depth + refinement. Unless you are using you terms in a nuanced way that requires more elaboration? I might be misunderstanding your points - impulsivity does not equal creativity. Low impulsivity does not equal zero or low creativity. For myself creativity is a composite of things akin to divergent thinking, pattern recombination, cognitive flexibility, working memory, persistence etc. @Leo Gura Do we have a video on creativity? Man I will be ASHAMED if there is one and I missed it >.<

Weaponizing truth.

The other side of it is like suddenly being a different person ! I was very surprised at how much shame I had, and could not see it or identify it within me.

Do you consider this to point to the individual who experiences noise disturbances as being neurodiverse?

@LastThursday I think this is guilt actually - different from shame. This is just within my understanding but guilt is 'I did wrong, I performed a wrong action'. Guilt is how we act out in reality. Shame is based around 'I AM wrong, I am defective in some way'. I often see people confusing the two notions. And it is easy to do so - as often we can feel guilty for doing a wrong action - and this can feed shame. Hence the shame-guilt spiral many fall into. Guilt is behaviour based, shame is identity based. Which is why I believe internalised shame is so much more detrimental and spawns all sorts of self worth issues. It threatens belonging - exposure as someone bad leads to being cast out. It has no clear repair path; I am broken as opposed to 'it broke, I'll fix it'. And shame also tends to be formed very early in development, leading us to really cement it into our nervous systems and form part of what we genuinely believe to be our personalities. Being mocked, ignored, punished for emotions, compared. All shame inducing. Shame is formed on distorted conclusions made in moments of vulnerability. We isolate from shame. Guilt tends to connect - go repair the thing. Shame forces us into silence. Hide. Don't be seen. I've done a lot of personal work and healing from extensive trauma - and shame was my biggest issue I had to overcome. I personally believe most people are unaware of their own internalised shame patterns and beliefs.

@Sandroew @Miguel1 I'll voicecap my feral accent for fun and upload it

@CARDOZZO just got onto this myself!!!!

This is why I think there is some filler shit going on. He got the pillow face

My rejection line is 'Hey, I am really flattered. Chops for asking and putting it out there - don't ask, don't get, right? But I am not interested in romantic or sexual relationships at the moment' Or end with 'I have a partner, so to be clear, I am not interested in any sort of sexual relationship' or a variant of the above (if it comes up, I do not just insert it in there randomly). If I pick up on someone's intentions I ask them if I am reading them correctly - then I make my stance clear, if needed. I leave it at that. If they ask me why I give them honest feedback. I dunno I think I am unusual for a woman. I am more candid. I have always approached men and been explicit re my interest and intentions.

In my experience this is rare. And the mark of a highly intelligent, mature individual. I cannot even think of more than one or two cases in my life who have exemplified this. The human mind craves certainty so it can predict the future. Predicting the future links back to survival. The ability to sit with cognitive dissonance and understand it - without suppressing one side to enable certainty - RARE. I think it is part how we are raised, educated - but also survival based programming of the brain that feeds into this mechanism. Theres a lot working against us

And filler. Those pillow cheeks yo, I could sleep on that face

Always assumptions and inferences. Every time. People trust their intuitive leaps more than the evidence presented before them.