Natasha Tori Maru

We are ahead in Australia so new years is donskies 😃 Had my brother over for a gaming night. Usually it's a non-event for me. New year is my birthday.

Pretty offensive term tbh. Cope.

Possible, but there is additional context

You need to read Ralston's book then. If you want to understand the process. It has been answered in one form or another all over the forum. Multiple times. The fact that you won't means you aren't serious about the topic - you are only serious about disliking Ralston. He did write an entire book on it, so perhaps there is a lot to unpack You want to know, right? It will require effort from you. I do speak from experience. And the trauma / suffering I experienced was from an incident as bad as your example. I wonder why some people can walk away from incidents like that with suffering and trauma, and some people do not? I wonder what one person is doing, and one is not? I wonder what is going on internally? Contemplation questions that might assist.

Through the process Ralston outlines. My answer is Ralston's answer. I take no credit ☺️ Read the post linked. That would be my outline. If you like, I can cut paste it and post it again here, but I wish to credit Ralston and the user. I've used Ralston's book and process to understand what I was doing and reduce suffering dramatically.

Yes this is the portion you are unable to reconcile. See here, for a good breakdown: And also Peter Ralston's book 'Ending Unnecessary Suffering'. Genuinely. I know you hate him, but you need to get past personal feelings for him and just look at the work seperate from who generated it. Look at the work for the truth that resides there. If you will not, then that is a loss indeed. And I do not mean to attack here - but you are essentially strawmanning Ralston. Continually. Your statements betray your ignorance to the process and possibilities. Up to you if you want the truth.

Unnecessary is the portion self generated by the mind through the resistance of what is. Or, aversion / desire in lieu of equinimity. I think you have formed a worldview where the idea one can be responsible for a portion of the suffering is rejected. Maybe there is a moral judgement of blame going on, for responsibility being within our hands. This would mean shame lies at the core of the issue. But there is no wrong in this scenario. Just correction.

@Breakingthewall cheers for the answer. Unnecessary suffering can still be ended in a healthy manner. I don't see a cohesive argument from your worldview to deny this. Pain can exist without suffering.

Do you have to suffer if a leg is broken, or can you just feel pain? Just sense pain? Does reality suffer? Does a rock suffer? If it is all one - if you claim that there is no differentiating between self and reality - how does the wind suffer? Do my eyelashes suffer? My toenails suffer? A cup suffer? It is all one, so it must suffer, yes?

Similar to me - resistance to pain or what is.

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Well yes and no - because you also tried to discredit Ralston here: Some analysis, hay?

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