Natasha Tori Maru

Are you role-playing?

It's such a huge skyscraper sized truck to be hit by, when you have the realisation fear is the greatest deception, isn't it? It had me motioning through my day, totally disconnected from reality, seeing every way fear fed into the narrative of my life.

I think you made this post to justify your personal judgement of dog owners and their approach to care

I'm deadly series - read fiction. You get into another characters head. Into their world.

Wow, I jumped into this thread and I was about to post 'sounds like stage testosterone' Something something great minds

Exactly - which is why how it is phrased makes all the difference to how it is received. I personally do not like speaking about structures within society with any sort of gendered attribute. I find it needlessly polarizing and in some cases completely incorrect. It also runs the risk of men and women feeling shame for things they are not responsible for - but have the power to change.

@Jannes Yeah so, my stance is that as we fix issues facing women, that might present as huge focuses, our quality of existence as men AND women increases. Men’s problems sometimes appear more acute once women gain equality. This highlights where there may have been issues with men the entire time, but because the greater threat to progression was women's issues, problems weren't visible. Men face some rigid gender stereotypes that need to be challenged. And the source of these needs to be assessed - because some of these harmful stereotypes are extrinsic. Men face a loneliness epidemic today because their main source of connection, affection and companionship is no longer 'guaranteed' due to women's equality movements. Women generally have stronger interpersonal connections with each other AND men - meaning they spread burden of connection needs over many people. Men often just have themselves and their partner. The loneliness epidemic references is an example of the structural consequence of shifting gender roles: men are often socially habituated to connect mainly through romantic relationships or traditional hierarchies. This explains a lot of the MGTOW movement; many of these men are realizing the bond between men is important. A bond that perhaps was neglected when women weren't as free, due to women being subjugated to men previously (before feminism and women's rights). Resenting women for this loss of 'supply' is an issue that feeds Red Pill ideology. The problems arise when we try to come up with 'solutions'. There is an attempt to try to return to rigid gender stereotypes to feed needs. There are also some toxic ideologies proposing control of external structures to ensure men's emotional health. Again it's the wrong direction. Social connection needs to be emphasised as a need for men, a need that is normal & absolutely integral to their health and wellbeing. A need that doesn't necessarily need to be serviced in totality by women. Many people blame feminism for these issues - when all it did was reveal these existing cracks. I think it simply illustrates weaknesses already baked into an old system we are outgrowing. The above is just an example - but looking at men in education is another example of this phenomenon - they are falling behind. Men's rights to custody of children is another inherent bias in the system that needs looking into. There are many more... What do you think?

@Hojo I feel his motivation is fear of death.

This is a firm argument for the displacement of men. And this is why this debate is coming into focus so often, now. The more we improve society and remedy the big cracks, the more the little cracks suddenly visible - and we also discover where we might need to place some reinforcement for new issues that arise. There's a big lag in isolating what the new problem is, where it came from, and coming up with solutions that don't revert to previous structure or subjugation in some way.

Unfortunately humans have bred and changed dogs evolution through selective breeding & training. Some dogs have been bred to be dependant on humans in a way that means they prefer an unnatural environment (IE indoors). I don't claim this is correct. We can witness more of this in short-nosed breeds like pugs (constant breathing issues that need thousands in surgery). Dachshunds who's spines break just existing or doing normal dog shit. German shepherds with backs bread for an 'aesthetic' downslope that end up disabled. Bully breeds selectively bred for aggression that we punish for exisiting. Let's not even get into greyhound racing! Unnaturally fast track turns that break their delicate back hocks. Dogs that literally snap their spines while racing from the sheer power of their legs and speed.... What humans have done to dogs is disgusting.

@UnbornTao What you are doing is bullying now. You've repeatedly called your assessment out over a long span of time. Irrespective of it being correct or truth, it's clear targetting and pretty low bar.

Yep this is why male suicide is a huge, huge problem ☹️ As a wider question - do the men of the forum think this isn't payed enough attention? Heaps of dudes feel expendable.

To balance this you can claim women have opportunity to build character through mothering / childrearing & care. Men can coast to a greater degree. There's a reason women gravitate towards caretaking to a greater degree. Different domains of speciality.

Yep there's definitely a pattern there that means I see more of the poor examples of mental health and men. If I put a women in a similar situation, she would be less likely to kill herself.

From everything I have seen in the younger folks I train and couch, men do appear to be falling behind. Women's equality has not been at the cost of men's. It is just illuminating issues that were always there. Male suicide is something I am passionate about that I wish was spoken about here more. I don't think male suicide means women are superior. We have had 4 male apprentices kill themselves. Burying a 22 year old man almost broke me.