Natasha Tori Maru

If with Ralston, make it soon. I don't think he is in the best health ❤️

@Juan I don't block or delete people. If you encounter someone in the streets, it doesn't have any bearing on blocking and deleting. It's not literal. Just a small measure of boundaries where we can draw them.

Definitely I agree with this. We interpret events by default. Survival mechanism of the brain. If we take away the wrong understanding of what has transpired, we can end up on self blame. Shame. Guilt. These issues are so common and are at the root of many problems we carry unconsciously. Even from rather benign events. It is all in how we interpret the event and our subsequent relationship to the memory and feeling. This is why parenting and early models of love are so important; a parent can help us correct our understanding of an event and resolve responsibility. Trauma can be loosely defined as the inability to resolve responsibility of a past event. I should have been more diligent with my explanation above. PTSD and C-PTSD have a wide constellation of other issues needed for diagnosis. But we typically only seek help when we are almost non-functional.

Depth, complexity and pathways to healing. Most notably the sort of debilitation involved in what some people ascribe to trauma would more properly be assigned to PTSD or C-PTSD. Because as soon as trauma begins to impede our functioning on a day to day level to the point we cannot function, it begins to become closer to diagnosable as one of these two pathologies. Trauma isn't a diagnosis in and of itself. But PTSD and C-PTSD are. There are more markers that qualify for a diagnosis of either of these two issues, I will add. Trauma and it's related conditions can be associated with maturity. But trauma, PTSD and C-PTSD =/= immaturity by default. I think when people say trauma and label it as incapacitating it is usually a pointer to a pathology (PTSD, C-PTSD or another condition entirely). I am sort of against a lot of the therapizing rheroric that is commonly online (I digress!).

@Valach I think online trauma, PTSD and C-PTSD are conflated.

Yep, just email them as an attachment. This makes me want to punch kittens. It has made me purchase physical books as of late.

Default behaviour isn't inherently morally neutral just because it is the default. Inaction is also a choice. You can feel and process pain while deliberately removing unnecessary triggers.

@bazera kindle Paperwhite - it was a gift so I rolled with it. Being locked to Amazon shits me.

Strongly disagree regarding the judgement here. Blocking is just another type of boundary. If someone is going to read and infer things indirectly without first hand information that's on them. Their interpretation is their responsibility. You can always let the person known you need space, and then block. In the end we need to look after ourselves first.

@Miguel1 I don't personally view blocking and wiping as immature. It is literally the death of a relationship. Something has ended that will never return as it was. A proper grieving process is usually needed. And many people need space to do that. It is a natural boundary and part of self care to ensure our needs are met (IE healing). You might be able to return to rekindle a relationship of a type after a time. But that time is certainly required for many people ❤️

If that sort of method works for your mental hygiene - you do you It isn't needed for everyone. I have friends who treat breakups as a "death" (of their previous mode of existence). So they need to totally wipe the past to appropriately grieve.

I don't know a whole lot about garlic in terms of health benefits. But I cook a lot (in order of strength least > most): - Whole garlic: mildest relatively sweet & aromatic, not very sharp - sweet, buttery caramelised flavour when roasted - Sliced garlic: moderate garlic aroma, bit sharper - becomes sweeter and more nutty when cooked - Chopped/minced garlic: stronger aroma that is pungent, aggressive garlic flavour - bit "hotter" when cooked - Crushed/mashed garlic: super strong raw flavour - shitloads of alliinase activity, pungent and sulfur-y Letting prepped garlic sit for a while changes the flavour profile when raw, and dramatically when cooked. Letting it sit gets all the enzymes activating which alter flavour. Cooked denatures alliinase and stops the enzyme reactions. Raw is sharp, hot, aggressive & sulfurous and it transitions in stages as you cook it from distinct garlic, soft & sweet to sweet, nutty & aromatic to deep buttery & savoury as you cook for longer. Garlic powder is a no go for me personally. I get stomach pains that will have me totally crippled for hours. Do not recommend.

I only agree with Leo after first discovering for myself.

I do not renumerate or think much on the past. So having relics of past relationships do not bother me. I have always remained in touch with my exes - even the painful breakups. I typically require 2/3 months of spaciousness to find my stride again and re-learn striking out alone. For that time I may have less contact. After that, though, I remain friends and catchup 2 or so times a year with them all. Everyone deals with this differently in my experience.

This is why I don't mind some subreddits - especially construction ones relating to methodology or estimating practices. Great for keeping up with current estimating tools (AI + programs) and ingenious methods of construction. Anything compliance related often doesn't transfer, but the rest can be very good. In those subreddits it is very clear who is talking out of their arse. There is a clearer split between idiots who think they can DIY or are full of false knowing - and those who work in the industry. I could be biased here because I know when someone is talking shit due to experience. But the general downvotes and comments quickly check you. My main issue is the group think and censorship due to the POTENTIAL to receive offense in other sections of the site. Even fair criticism or feedback. Honesty and earnestness are only valued as much as they can be sources of good feelings. Also the AI slop. Really bad.