Natasha Tori Maru

@Sincerity hahaha! It's giving Eat, Pray, Love women's midlife crisis new age spirituality derp ( ⁠⊙⁠_⁠◎⁠)

Stage coral would kiss, makeup and forgive 🥹

Where the fuck is @Ulax when we need him 🥲

I'll be a good girl now

I view this as a function of development and maturity. Not so much MBTI.

@AION GUILTY !!!

We have several members GUILTY AS CHARGED!

Otherwise we are just hammers treating everything as nails

Half the problem is - if the other party doesn't deem that mode of connection useful or contributing to THEIR intention - they will disregard the attempt at connection. Some people are blind to the fact that their points will land and be received with ease when the other person feels truly seen and validated.

It is fair to feel that way. But notice that some of the bad feeling may be due to the contradiction in rejecting others for something you also engage in yourself. While noticing that won't remove the feelings associated with strong individualism, it may help to make it more bearable

But the experience you speak of - it is just one datapoint. There are many factors to consider that may be hidden. And this isn't even to speak of cognitive bias - we each filter out things we do not wish to see so we can confirm a hypothesis.

If disarming was the intention the opposite happened! You guys both armoured up The only way to disarm is to properly relate to each other - understand each others meaning. Be seen. Need relational questions and probing to do that. It is hard to relate to others and receive when we have something to prove. Listening goes out the window.

You will never be seen or understood if all you do is reflect.

Turned into a quick crashout. What stands out to me is presenting yourself as an individualist who rejects tribal thinking. You reject people for categorizing you according to group identity - but then you also categorize huge numbers of people according to group identity? Stage orange, stage blue -- "ew" There is a bit of cognitive dissonance here that might help to be deconstructed. It could be contributing to some of the emotional distress you're experiencing.

Triggering people and provoking to make a point is uncharitable, though.