Natasha Tori Maru

Definitely keep us updated with what you can - big pivot! But I dare say a good fit; you have always come across as passionate around the topic

Parasites? Shit. That's a serious contender for explanation - my sister had parasites and they causes her anxiety and panic attacks of all things (as well as other symptoms).

I checked up on him last week as a result of re-watching the Fake Spirituality vid Leo did (I see the Aubrey Marcus Polyamory thread from last year as sort of inspiration for that video, so it triggered the memory of him). I came to the same conclusion as you. He's very, very ungrounded at the moment - to say the least!

Excuse me, boys. Naughty. Naughty boys. Motherfucking TROUBLE TROUBLE TROUBLE ON THE INTERWEBS. See below markup in green. hErE cOmES tHe FuN POlIcE

@Jordan of the Shire I appreciate these insights. Making me think a lot! I find the concept of properly processing and feeling our emotions, and emotional dysregulation, a big topic that ties in with authenticity. I often hear people "acting on emotion" and claiming it is them "authentically expressing" themselves in the moment. Reacting and expressing without any form of block. But I see their "expressing" the emotion as an form of emotional violence (ie they are having their emotions AT a person, instead of expressing as is). For example: I become angry my colleague didn't do something, and I follow my impulse to be angry. But is this a true manifestation of the emotion or feeling? Is there some addition on top of the emotion, resulting in me having the emotion AT a person (ie blame, judgement, self righteousness)? Properly processed and regulated emotions means we FEEL them acutely - but we aren't so overtaken by them as to feel the need to act them out and express. There is space. I do not speak about repression or bypassing/avoidance. I speak about truly feeling the depth of all spectrums of emotion/feeling, and being able to hold space to respond and not immediately react. It is an interesting thought - Authenticity isn't necessarily acting out whatever state is currently dominant. It may be the capacity to remain in honest contact with your internal experience while allowing how that experience becomes expressed in the world. And that expression is no longer a violent one (directed at someone) when felt in full and authentically.

@Rafael Thundercat Shame is a HUGE topic from my research and personal work. Unlike other emotions, I perceive it operating on multiple psychological levels simultaneously. Which is why it can be so tricky because the source can be different for all of us - and it has a habit of morphing from emotion, to a feeling, to being part of our identity. And it can transition back through all of these forms. To convolute it further - guilt can also be confused for shame and also feed it. The guilt / shame spiral. Shame = "I am wrong". Guilt = "I did wrong". Because shame is about identity "I am" I find it is much harder to work with as a conditioned response. Shame as a feeling: an unpleasant affective state, often involving exposure, contraction, wanting to hide, or wanting to escape someone's attention. Shame as an emotion: a level above feeling, which is the raw emotion and often is about how wrong we feel in relation to some standard. Shame as a part of identity: repeated shame can become an identity. The shame isn't merely an emotion that happens to a person - it is imbedded in their sense of self "I did something shameful > people see me as defective or wrong > I am defective > I am this kind of person who is defective" Emotions can be real without the interpretation being true - which is a core philosophical distinction that can help us assessing our feelings, emotions and beliefs. Shame is often not based on truth.

And it is usually only one half of the story. It isn't genuine as half the persons life (the shit parts) are completely omitted. It's a curated avatar. A simulacrum. I cannot connect.

Interesting. This contains a useful principal but if taken literally it is false. Yes, inputs strongly influence outputs. But it smuggles in some bullshit - you can put in the same effort and get radically different outputs. Could be because of luck, timing, socioeconomic circumstances, illness/disability, genetics (this is your main point), random shit, starting conditions etc Your "inputs" influence outcomes for sure, but they do not fully determine them. You wont necessarily get what you put into life, however, what you repeatedly put into life has the propensity to shape what you become and the opportunities that may arise... universe does not guarantee fairness.

I call this "dirty fuel". It can suffice for a while - but it is never as good on the system/engine as positive motivation. In some ways I think it can be a necessary part of growth to use dirty fuel prior to finding authentic clean sources from within.

This is not a certainty. There are myriad other avenues in life that result in power and agency. And those myriad other avenues bring about the possibility of not having the associated negative consequences that social media can smuggled in.

I raised the effect of "psychologically inferring" in dialogue earlier in this thread, actually: I am surprised an example played out directly in the same thread. Mechanistically trying to explain, infer or "psychoanalyse" a person's state in argument is a failure to relate to the person and just turns them against us. Which is exactly what happened here. When someone is related to, via questions around their meaning, experience and views they feel understood. And end up much more receptive to alternative views and theories. A possibility the assumption underneath (when there is some sort of negative inferred state) is that "this person doesn't agree with me, therefore there must be something defective in their state". I used to do this all the time in dialogue and it really soured my relationships.

https://metasinternalresearch.org/ Curated repository and analysis of Meta's leaked/disclosed internal research, not itself the primary research. But if anyone is interested. @Lyubov I am keen to hear back after sometime of having no access to Instagram. I found that, despite me thinking I was relaxing or unwinding, I was left feeling slightly empty, numb and seeking further stimulation. It really disrupted my wind down routines.

But how do you determine those constants and know them for sure?

Haha - HAL 😈

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