Natasha Tori Maru

I don't think I understand your version self love. It is not egoism in my definition. You must be using it in some foreign context here.

Yeah so where did I blame men? I made no collective judgement. I never meant to convey that at all.

You aren't telling me anything I do not know, only reinforcing my point above. You are also saying 'morals be damned, I will game the system and compromise my own integrity' if I understand your last line correctly. It just appears to be lowering yourself and conforming. You need to learn when no means no, though. It might be a hard lesson. Don't cry when you reap what you sow.

Thank you for your topic - and expressing your choice. Those sorts of breakups are up there for me. The emotional turmoil is gut wrenching. Respect. x

My Doctor Hallucinates People Very gratifying. Especially for experiencer folk. Doesn't go down well with normal audiences.

Deciding to sit by my Grandfathers side in hospice, until he passed on. I was a moment away from leaving. I thought I couldn't face seeing that. I leant over him, and whispered 'Bye, Papa' and he semi-rose up and said 'NO'. So, I stayed and watched him pass. It took 3 hours. I saw him come into a complete state of being as his brain shut down, his self left. I feel I witnessed a form of no-self at the moment of death; as the overlay of all his conditioning melted away as the brain switched off. His body was putting off so much energy. His last words were 'Beautiful girls' and he looked around like it was the first time he saw anything in his life. He repeated 'The light, the light' many times. Pure being, everything else erased. Horror & beauty all at once.

Is the search for truth or meaning some sort of marker for ND? I don't think I fit the ND profile. I am different, yes. No doubt. I don't fully discount it. I hope we aren't shitting on neurotypicals. We exist in symbiosis. NT's help keep support networks and society running, which ND's benefit from. No sense crying about how life is harder - it is just a different set/domain of challenges. Useful to acknowledge. Not good to fall into victim/self-pity mindset. I do also think what @Joseph Maynor raised is very, very astute; we can never really know someone. Not fully. We can come close - but this requires in-person dialogue/relationship. And at length. It is a crude disservice to think we can know anyone at all through text. Text is powerful, I do not deny it. Very good format to express things we otherwise could not. But it also gives a false sense of intimacy and knowing. We are working with a crafted avatar of a person; they have more control over how they are perceived. Often times this runs totally counter to the earnest on-the-fly expression we see in real life. Totally intimate uncensored reaction to shared experience in the moment. In addition to the above - we never really know how/what/why other people think the way they do. I think to even consider we do, is hubris. Just think on it - none of us know Leo. Not at all. Not a wit. We see only what is presented. We know some random facts we might be able to make assumptions or connections with; but it is the gaps in our understanding of other people that mystery, intrigue and earnestness lie. False confidence in patterns leads to arrogance - I know this well. Which is why it does not do to make any formal claims without facts/evidence.

Weird line of reasoning - you should probably have added nuance or context, yes? I definitely wouldn't say usually. Just the statement alone makes me question if you know how to attact a healthy women. But hey, maybe you want to attract someone with unconscious issues? Woman 'I don't want to have sex tonight' Man 'That means have sex' Something doesn't sound right there.

I gather, from what I have listened to on YouTube, his gig is merging Eastern/Western mental health and personal development help. He often espouses eastern methods when western fall short (or has a gap) and vice versa. I think he advocates for ayurvedic medicine as a supplement to Western style treatments/training. I think this is core to his branding. On a side note, I think he has good things to say. Not always correct. I think (totally personal opinion) there is a bit of spiritual ego present - almost as if he has dissolved a lot of the typical egoic patterns and attached to the new, spiritual ground.

This is me, disappointed. I really do respect you @UnbornTao. I appreciate your input and your open, deep enquiry you contribute to discussions here. It is very unique. Lends nuance and always attempts to drive at our assumptions, misconceptions and presuppositions. I'll own my disappointment. Mostly confusion. Self generated through investing. I'm out.

https://youtu.be/Xgaj5suTCgk?si=NSdSS22sLdDyfPyy

On you to clarify that, in that case. The words you chose do indeed broadcast the tone I raised. The above is gaslighting. You, yourself, stated above 'I get irritated with all this'. That came out. Irrespective of whether you choose to acknowledge it or not.

@UnbornTao because you think I have a belief, you deem it acceptable to speak to me in that way? This is some mental gymnastics to avoid the fact you are, for some reason, emotionally upset by this discussion. You are the one making the claim you know 'what others are listening to, or hearing', while simultaneously implying you understand what Ralston is saying. Despite you professing 'I don't listen either'. The statements imply otherwise. And I suspect you state this to try to level yourself with others. Do you not think, that even thinking you understand what another user understands, is arrogant? Without even asking enquiry questions to prove the reality of the situation. This is actually about what YOU believe regarding cults, I suspect.

@UnbornTao regardless of your answer, I certainly won't engage now. Thank you

There's no need for that. I apologise if I have offended you. I feel this is quite dismissive, condescending, passive aggressive & broadcasts superiority. Like engaging is beneath you 'I don't take you seriously, so I won't engage you further'. I have seen you use this tactic before. Really mean spirited. Why would you say this?!?