Natasha Tori Maru

Oh gosh we bringing the s-word into it. Chuck all the concept in the shredder, make sure it's oiled and ready to go full throttle

Nonviolent Communication is next on my book list. The title always made me pass on it due to my own misinterpretation. Someone I highly respect recommended it. Regarding the OP. Unfortunately I need to read a book to take it in fully. When listening to audiobooks, I tend to be "optimising" my time and dual-tasking. This degrades the quality of my attention. I thought women were supposed to be able to multi-task. Fucking lies! 😅 I can barely chew gum and walk at the same time ! With audiobooks, I need to listen over multiple times to feel I have absorbed all the points. Books I tend to retain after one reading. One reading, sitting breaks + notes for heavy hitters like Ralston. I feel this could be very individual though; I've always been an avid reader of long novels. Nonficton. Fiction. Biographies. Since I was 8 or 9 years old. I never stopped.

Thanks for sharing. I read some measure of restlessness and avoidance of emotion here. But I could be wrong. Very difficult to be in touch with purpose in such cases. I've been there. What makes you most excited? When you do feel energized and eagerly anticipate something in life that does not have any association with women? What are those moments like?

Do you feel able to name and genuinely feel a wide range of emotions? Is it easy to accurately identify emotions in your experience - or are you often trying to understand a state with the mind?

God DAMN. I somehow missed catching The Devil's Advocate. Recommend.

🎯 There's nothing being contributed. It is essentially shitposting.

@Lyubov I enjoy your emphasis on responsibility. And I think it is an excellent point that rationalisation and simply explaining mechanisms behind why & how we might feel anger is not enough. It is very easy to slide into justification from rationalisation in this way. We explain the mechanism, and can fall into explaining away responsibility. When we add responsibility back into the mix, we gain clarity around the boundaries of where we create our emotional experience, and consequentially are better able to embody agency. That agency is required to change our relationship to how we respond to feelings. Affecting that relationship is key to reducing reactivity and being able to sit comfortably with intense experiences of emotion. Cheers for the insight

Nothing wrong with anger. Lots wrong with suppression! I find most people who suffer from depression (the non-clinical chemical type) often have deeply repressed anger. Anger is a healthy forward moving energy. Expression through healthy processing is very good for the body. Unprocessed anger looks like someone acting out the emotion with no ability to stop it; they are overtaken by it and have an irresistible compulsion to act. Healthy, processed anger is recognised and felt fully, but we aren't overcome so much that we need to act on it. Although, expression can help! Having our emotions AT others is not self regulated. Emotional repression has consequences. Glad you are doing better 🙏🏻

@LordFall definitely jump into Ralston's work - it will assist with the distinction between pain and suffering

@Sincerity 99% of the office is cringe! That show exists to INVOKE cringe

@Yimpa

Brendan is super nice to speak to as well! Thanks for the share. I hear Peter is really getting on in age 🙏🏻

My GOD. This is worthy of the cringe Megathread. Toppled from the only dominance hierarchy he knew 🥹

It prohibited me from posting that! Either the word or sentence triggered some filter I have never encountered before.

@LordFall have you studied Peter Ralston's work?