Natasha Tori Maru

Not care about what they think. Or at least, if you do care, accept that you will feel sadness and allow this. With the idea that you may have some transient emotional upset that will pass, with the overall intention of good. Even if people do not understand your actions. I have largely given up trying to be understood as much by others. When younger, being misunderstood caused me much upset. Especially when it is wilful. It won't harm you to accept and feel hurt at others judgement. Avoidance of it is much worse. Not avoiding the pain of being judged and developing the capacity to experience it without allowing it to dictate my behaviour was a skill it took me a long time to learn.

Pleasure. In before someone uses it to analyse my psychological state, form a nice explanation for my psychology, and then force their frame of interpretation onto any statement I make from here on in

I would select rape. Taking into consideration I have a lot more resilience and internal stability than most people. I have a higher capacity withstanding psychological adversity. It is still a difficult hypothetical to answer. Similar to the bear/man one that is popular on social media. The bear-versus-man debate is interesting because it exposes how people evaluate risk under uncertainty.

Shit this is hard. Might have to come back to you. It heavily depends on what is meant by "rape". I might have a more solid answer if you define the scope of "rape" in this hypothetical. It is a cost weight between domains: 1) bodily autonomy 2) freedom 3) psychological trauma 4) physical safety 5) relationships 6) recovery 7) lost time. Those are the big ones for me.

@OBEler er, wow. I've had out of body experiences. You founded that argument based on an assumption instead of asking me?? How come you didn't ask?

The psychology of many women who stay with men like that becomes twisted over time. They are often made to feel "special" somehow. That he would never treat them like those other women. Or that she understands him. All his previous partners didn't and misunderstood his actions. Women feel privileged to have unique insight into their man, it can pull them closer. Make them feel more connected. Special. It's the other woman's fault somehow. They caused the actions, or misunderstood. Or won't take responsibility. Meanwhile the truth stares the partner in the face: she isn't special and she isn't immune to her partners wrath. Because the behaviour issue is from him. No one understand him, she does. So she naturally isolates a bit because everyone else doesn't understand her and her partner. In the case of Russell Brand I imagine isolation is a given due to fame. This further cements the narrative and immunises her against anyone else convincing her he alone is responsible and she isn't immune to his actions. Boundaries are blurry. It's a very predictable pattern with abused women. Slow boil. And it happens the other way also with genders swapped. Rape, abuse, assault - the psychology behind the strange loyalty is usually similar. Grew up in an abusive home seeing this whole thing play out in my family.

@JoshB woman can also be loyal to a fault once attached to a man. Their beliefs in him, his goodness, can be almost irrevocable. This could in part explain his wife's psychology.

@OBEler that is still your interpretation.

Went bananas? I had to 🥹🥹🥹🥹🤸🏻

@r0ckyreed he raped people. There's no mental gymnastics you can do to get around this. I'd be thinking about the victims. He isn't one. He raped.

Locking this. Going no where. Waste of energy and a distraction.

You need to listen. Don't discard in arrogance. You don't know anything about @Valach, what he has experienced or knows. Experience doesn't mean shit if you learn the wrong lesson.

You are going to tell someone what they experienced? Be more cautious & open.

@Valach has a serious point. It would do to listen.

Substantial deterioration of representation.