Natasha Tori Maru

Can you choose both? The dichotomy is odd to me... I choose growth, and I am comfortable in that space of expansion and challenge Many people these days drive for comfort. Tap out of the money matrix by earning enough to retire early. Stay in the jammies and order in. Stick with shows they know. Music they have heard a million times. Repeat. Comfort, predictability. Certainty. Once we have many needs satisfied, we tend to find problems where there existed none. What a bunch of malcontents! People dislike the pain of chaotic and uncertain challenge that might stimulate growth. In truth, we want to pick the challenges we face in life. But sometimes what we choose isn't what is best for us. tl:dr I refuse the question! Thanks for the share

It is your rhetoric that is poor. Yeah, I am personally assessing your ability to communicate. It's lacking. I am engaging with what you said - your rhetorical slamming of the OP (you just chose to try to avoid it and change the subject, then proceed to try to apply this claim above which hits like a soggy, deflated balloon . And any other points raised were founded on uncharitable assumptions about the OP's level of development - including whether or not I wonder if people are "tired of my schtick". NB I don't ever wonder, but you clearly are being worn down by said schtick 🥳 ). As perfectly illustrated in your own words: Hmmm - doesn't seem like you are doing what you claim below: Ha ha ha! Total self ownage - I don't even need to do anything here! But do carry on with your sperging

Yeah - but I think it would be classed as polyfidelity. Four people in a closed group (me, two men and another woman). It was a while ago now - I have since been in monogamous relationships that have only steered into threesomes, but nothing verging on an actual poly relationship. I am monogamous now - and I prefer it.

@enchanted huehuehue I better not play with people too much Stupid games stupid prizes something something

(❁´◡`❁) ----------- 🎯 Add a dash of trusting yourself and self-knowledge and we bussin

Here's the assumption again Me telling you isn't going to provoke a genuine insight. And your intellect appears to tell you something else.

@LordFall It is reasonable to infer from what I said - there is an assumption behind that requires inspection.

@integral TBH I have been having concern for you in my meditation sessions lately - well - shall we say, every time I divert attention from breath or bodyscanning, thoughts of how you are doing after losing your dog flirt with my consiousness. I hope you are doing better, getting easier

@bazera ARGH >.< I feel cringe in my body as a contraction of my shoulders and neck, facial strain and an internal recognition of second hand embarrassment stemming from my own judgement. I find cringe interesting, as my experience of it has been reduced similar to yourself - I now have a high tolerance for it. But I still detect it. I think it is an interesting and often overlooked experience tbh. People seem to want to drop it as soon as it arrives. I prefer to test my limits of the cringe experience

@LordFall Exactly as said - Dunning-Kruger effect. You don't know what you don't know.

The Dunning-Kruger effect.

It can be lovely way to distract from our own inner truth. Pulling out original thoughts, feelings and emotions of the self requires both relationship to others & to the self. The work on how we relate to our thoughts, feelings and emotions can only happen in solitude. Others tend to assist in making us aware of our own unique way of interacting with our emotions. But relationship to others, especially more than one individual, can work to block us from how we are connecting and interacting with our inner worlds. Polyamory can become an addiction to emotional novelty, where the pursuit of experience gradually replaces the subtle work of self-understanding.

This is a silly dramatization to avoid the painful duty of truly inspecting the feedback.

The theoretical concept and the real experience of it are two radically different things. As @aurum raised - it is difficult to understand the volume of emotional and intellectual labour it typically requires. It can bring up many survival based insecurities and childhood wounds. If you have this sort of capacity it could work. It was way above my pay grade

@Miguel1 it's rare. Even here. It is a big part of embodiment and grounding in the work. In my own journey - the things I wouldn't face, self trust, feelings of unworthiness, imposter syndrome... I seemed to find myself in situations again and again where I was faced with the same issues. Each time I ignored the issue - the next time it cropped up it was louder. Louder. Until it was screaming so hard I couldn't ignore it any longer. The pain of remaining in that space was worse than the pain of finally facing it. That pattern repeated for me until I was ready to face it. I contributed to it appearing in retrospect. Perhaps you haven't heard the screaming full force .. yet. Maybe you have. Only experience taught me self trust. Relationships have a way of fast tracking spiritual growth and being a mirror for all your shit. Done right, conscious ones, bring up as much pain as joy. The pain of growth. The only way is to just risk it all and be open to opportunities. What you seek might not be where you would look - or who you think you need to look for. Maybe you don't know what's best for you? I sure didn't ❤️