Natasha Tori Maru

I do not renumerate or think much on the past. So having relics of past relationships do not bother me. I have always remained in touch with my exes - even the painful breakups. I typically require 2/3 months of spaciousness to find my stride again and re-learn striking out alone. For that time I may have less contact. After that, though, I remain friends and catchup 2 or so times a year with them all. Everyone deals with this differently in my experience.

This is why I don't mind some subreddits - especially construction ones relating to methodology or estimating practices. Great for keeping up with current estimating tools (AI + programs) and ingenious methods of construction. Anything compliance related often doesn't transfer, but the rest can be very good. In those subreddits it is very clear who is talking out of their arse. There is a clearer split between idiots who think they can DIY or are full of false knowing - and those who work in the industry. I could be biased here because I know when someone is talking shit due to experience. But the general downvotes and comments quickly check you. My main issue is the group think and censorship due to the POTENTIAL to receive offense in other sections of the site. Even fair criticism or feedback. Honesty and earnestness are only valued as much as they can be sources of good feelings. Also the AI slop. Really bad.

I give up on reddit. I just got banned in one of the construction related subs. Apparently pointing out potential flaws in someone's reasoning while granting they may be correct - but there is a giant leap present in the logic - is WRONG. I'll just quietly return to 4chan

I think it was a foregone conclusion based on the premise and topic being undefined. Either the topic needed to be concrete or a moderator was always going to be needed to check and resteer.

I am imagining self abuse. "peer reviewed" - by the comments section

This is a really good distinction.

Seconded!

@Lyubov Thanks for reporting back I've experienced similar effects where the dopamine cycle cross pollinates other activities. The more time I spend focused on a single assignment that isn't triggering a charged emotional reaction, the higher my quality of awareness is transplanted onto other tasks.

I'm 2/3 of the way through Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg. Highly recommend. It has triggered some huge insights for me. The book is not what it seems. Reading this one as there are some small tasks you probably wouldn't be able to properly engage with if this were consumed as an audiobook. Possible, but much easier to circle and note.

I had to stop listening - will check it later if it is available for rewatch!

It better be good, or I'll be injecting abuse and more (avoidable) bias into my moderation! 😈

You guys need a live moderator to keep you on track!

Will do - FUCK. STOP THIS. You LURE ME

It may have been the subreddit I was on. I haven't been back to test it out - I was honestly so revolted over being censored for (what I felt was) benign, honest feedback!

I enjoyed the second half a lot too. It was a great connection. The power of the mind. That's all you need to know. I often feel the need to self check on these topics. Glad got enjoyed it