Natasha Tori Maru

Lots and lots of arguing all the time, where the stakes are high (IE if I am not calm, coherent, rational and able to present a clear case I generally lose) at work. Where if I can't argue effectively without emotion I stand to loose lots of money. Also, I don't rush to answer. I don't feel a huge compulsion to defend myself. But I will engage to argue a point to get toward truth. I take my time to think and brainstorm and mostly that's about understanding the other argument more than my own. Also I tap out real fast if I figure out 1) someone is just wanting to win 2) they are being uncharitable or arguing in bad faith 3) they just flat dislike me and can't get the fuck over it 🤣 Sometimes I also just like to verbally joust for fun, and get snide and a bit sly. Like having AI fights with people 😁

Wrong about what? Can you summarise your understanding of my points?

Yeah, I don't think I am a good example of the general female population (in terms of my openness to physical 'defects' - which I do not class as such but by societies standards, I suppose they are). For me, brains trump looks. I have a minimum-ish set of standards, but they are loose. I have had LTR with some dudes who would be probably in the firm 4-5 category. Overweight, male pattern hair loss, not facially attractive by societies standards, short. But man they could chew the fat intellectually. Good humour + fucken icy wicked wit (maybe they were internet trolls ). I think the main element that caught my attention was confidence. Literally BDE. Then I discovered brains and NOM NOM NOM.

You seem surprised by my confidence. Well - SUPRISE I just know there are bigger issues than hair loss that hold people back. Much, much deeper ones. @NewKidOnTheBlock TBH if you own it like that - respect. Making a weakness an armour. That would probably earn points in my vetting books

Tapping out is often the most sensible option. People aren't actually putting effort into understanding what is actually being said by each party. No interest in getting closer to the truth of the matter. Only interest is service to ego (ie winning). You can tell as no one is asking further questions. Was a good brainrub session with you while it lasted

Well yeah, from what you have seen. Our experience is limited to us and can be a significant source of cognitive bias. Cognitive drift also. Like hair transplants.

tl;dr for my links above - LLM's have revealed language is self generating. The intriguing part is how we are interacting with language itself as conduits for transmitting qualia.

Something you do not, perhaps?

Exactly. Fuck the hair, you ain't going no where if you don't even interact. Plus bald head gives the velcro feel! Unbeatable tactile sensations

@LordFall I disagree. Confidence trumps looks every time - provided there are minimum appearance standards and cleanliness are met etc etc "Why not" - that's not a good reason to me. This is not to say looks do not have an effect and should not be focused on. But you need to prioritise and being overly attached to hair signals to me you aren't doing so. This is why I raised earlier I would be vetting the person harder. I don't want to date someone who is fighting their aging and devoting needless energy, money, time and resources to doing so. Again this is my personal opinion. And while this does not exclude it from criticism, it is not something I am going to change my mind over.

Because it does not address the root (huehuehue a pun!!!) issue.

Yeah so, just repeating "It clearly does." isn't further advancing your point. It's just repeating the same claim with nothing else to add while ignoring the counters I raised (and support points, mind you, if you read carefully). You also don't even go into further elaborating on your point then come out that no one is arguing subjective/objective attraction being binary? So how about clearly laying out your claim? I even raised that "fairly" could be doing a lot of heavy lifting in your original statement - prompting maybe some more elaboration on your part regarding where you sit there? Are you interested in trying to discern the truth here (wherever it may be, usually half way between in cases such as these) or just winning???

Hair transplant? The fuck lol. FUCK NO. Bald is fine. If you are so insecure as to be attached to hair holy shit. You need some meaning in life. Either you are a 1) young nub or 2) no experience of life 3) have a pathology. Obviously this is my personal preference - but anyone so fixated on hair is a marker they haven't got priorities. I wouldn't want to date them. Not saying I would rule it out, but I would be vetting what's going on for them psychologically / attachment wise a lot more extensively.