Natasha Tori Maru

This is why I think there is some filler shit going on. He got the pillow face

My rejection line is 'Hey, I am really flattered. Chops for asking and putting it out there - don't ask, don't get, right? But I am not interested in romantic or sexual relationships at the moment' Or end with 'I have a partner, so to be clear, I am not interested in any sort of sexual relationship' or a variant of the above (if it comes up, I do not just insert it in there randomly). If I pick up on someone's intentions I ask them if I am reading them correctly - then I make my stance clear, if needed. I leave it at that. If they ask me why I give them honest feedback. I dunno I think I am unusual for a woman. I am more candid. I have always approached men and been explicit re my interest and intentions.

In my experience this is rare. And the mark of a highly intelligent, mature individual. I cannot even think of more than one or two cases in my life who have exemplified this. The human mind craves certainty so it can predict the future. Predicting the future links back to survival. The ability to sit with cognitive dissonance and understand it - without suppressing one side to enable certainty - RARE. I think it is part how we are raised, educated - but also survival based programming of the brain that feeds into this mechanism. Theres a lot working against us

And filler. Those pillow cheeks yo, I could sleep on that face

Always assumptions and inferences. Every time. People trust their intuitive leaps more than the evidence presented before them.

Do you think it could be a result of incorrect or false meaning making? 'I experienced trauma, therefor I am bad, I deserved it, I did something to cause it' It is sometimes easier to blame ourselves than the rest of the world. It can be too much to see the world as busted. Much easier to think we did something to 'cause' the badness. The brain attempting to correct something to prevent it happening again. Only this can cause internalised shame. Shame is a powerful self sabotage mechanism. There are many possibilities. And interesting question to ponder...

Wow, WHAT! Not even 'up the duff" ? (preggers)

@Joshe @Leo Gura I a nub >.< Americans have the better idioms: Kneehigh to a grasshopper, piece of cake, break a leg, under the weather, spill the beans, better late than never, speak of the devil, bite the bullet etc Australians, being the criminal colony we are, have busted variations: Flat out like a lizard drinking, as mad as a cut snake, too right, couldn't organise a piss up at a brewery, spit the dummy, dog's breakfast, pull your head in, give it a burl, a few kangaroos loose in the top paddock, on a good wicket, up the duff etc

I haven't heard this one Ruthlessly poaching this phrase, if you do not mind. I normally roll with ' Like water on Teflon, baby'

Two people can endure the same traumatic experience, but those two people will not necessarily end up with pathological trauma. One can walk away severely affected, while the other not. I endured some extreme trauma as a young adult. Assault, mental and physical. My sister/brothers endured similar. I did not walk away with significant trauma from the event - but one brother and my sister have been affected pathologically to this day. 20 years later. Same event, one/two year age gap. Significantly different psychological reactions.

Yeeeep! My dog is like this with human food also. But she is a poodle so naturally very lean, deep chested sprinting dog much like a Greyhound. She naturally regulates her appetite, but when I feed her cooked food with any sort of salt she won't stop eating. I regulate her food intake. Most dogs are obese nowadays. Sad. They can't tell us how much pain they are in, but you can see how they have trouble moving. I don't let other people feed my dog. And I don't feed her any processed stuff. I make all her food (pain in the arse, but she is a living being and under my care). It sucks when you have family or friends who try to sneak food to them ☹️

@Leo Gura cheers cheers 🙏 The intuition of ugly.

How do you define 'ugly', Leo? Repulsive, turn off? Is there a moral/ethical fragment that comes into the definition of ugly, for you? Is it something unclaimed within you? These are questions. Questions that need answers, damn it! 😁

@oOo what? Lol Wrong topic? But where was Leo going to put an intro - it isn't his podcast?

Thanks for the episode. Just finished it. I have a question. More a request for your opinion! In your view: should institutions enforce epistemic standards, or is that a slippery slope toward control?