Natasha Tori Maru

Yep aversion too - it causes equal suffering. Although aversion can be looked at as the desire depending on frame. All I can impart is that a byproduct of real spirituality - truth seeking - was emotional healing and dissolving of conditioning. I am ten fold more internally regulated. It does get easier. I never persued truth to heal. But fell into its gravity due to extreme suffering. Godspeed to us both 🪽

@TruthFreedom sounds like a sort of "allowing" accepting and letting go of feeling/emotion. Which is healthy processing. That process becomes like a default habit the more we do it. It was key to assisting my own emotional regulation. Radical self forgiveness is a big one!

Perhaps some more nuance to titrate out your views; do you disgree with teaching kids things they dislike, thus potentially creating a hatred and negativity to schooling in them? Turning them off structured education. If we teach kids things that genuinely interest them, we foster a love of learning. Or, are you more wary of any external structures being forced in those too young to consent?

I suppose I would need to know what you mean by "control". I only think it is possible to mildly influence them once arisen. But if we are talking "allowing" or "not allowing" I don't think so. Spiritual work has had a positive effect on my emotional regulation - which could be a measure of control. Again depends on definition Are you deterministic? Free will awakening? Dovetails with no-self

Ones innate affect and temperament would definitely effect the rotary switch on anger

Anger, or anger that arises from frustration?

Maybe he's afraid of the female version of himself >.<

@Spiral good suggestion - I'll lock this because it's no longer constructive. @Rafael Thundercat feel free to reopen a new topic for discourse relating to the topic. Only closing this so you can make a clean topic. Discussing this stuff is important!

Exactly - context matters 😎

I mean - I dont think there is an issue as the context 100% matters 😃 The subforum choice and general jovial tone of the whole post sorta changes it. Just thought it might be worth highlighting cos it's a grey area. And for me I view it as open to interpretation (also I am quite Machiavellian so... Huehuehuehue)

This victim mindset is half the problem. I speak to lots of members individually like this. You aren't special. Peace

This sort of thing isn't unique to science.

My brain is rubbing your brain with this one

Start every day with high tempo or interval based cardo (160bpm+) 1hr 2 weight sessions a week Min 10k steps a day, no sitting for more than 30minutes unless winding down to sleep Wholefoods plant based diet with extra EVOO. No farmed meat. No artificial sweeteners. 4 small meals a day, one larger. No flour, no wheat. Basically veggies, meat, dairy. No sauces. Spices & seasoning all good. No food 3hrs prior to sleep - minimum 7 1/2hrs sleep, ideal 8-9hrs Water, coffee, tea - that's it. Sip water through the day. Don't skol it - it flushes out electrolytes. I am pretty austere due to low food interest and high quality of life priority. And prioritizing a minimalistic routine & way of life. This setup means I rarely experience unexplained low moods, have good energy and never have crashes in focus, and get the most enjoyment out of all moments. Even answering emails, writing lists, folding the laundry. It's all fun fun fun! I try to ensure what I do now, is not robbing future me of the pleasure of just being in the moment.