Natasha Tori Maru

I know many men of similar drive. One of my ex's was insatiable. I couldnt keep up. And I had to explain to him, with references, how women can't just keep rooting all day and not run into issues with their sparrow 🤣 You probably know of Frank Yang - his sex drive was his biggest biological conditioning. He turned to spirituality to help with it. And obviously he found... A lot more! Lol

@Leo Gura 🦘

@AION this blog post from Leo would be great for you to contemplate. I think there is a great growth and learning opportunity there for you; I have noticed a lot of reductionism in your thinking. This is just how it comes across as a pattern in your posts. Might help 🙂 https://www.actualized.org/insights/reductionism-is-wrong

I feel this symbiosis in the way you describe. I think I like jazz for this reason, I feel more rhythm in it (although, this could be more perception). The swing-feel, unique articulation and syncopation really capture me. While I enjoy the melodic improvisation essential to the genre, I really feel it is the rhythmic approach that dictates how that melody is interpreted and phrased 😃 I love music!

Yeah, but this is just a projection. And a reductionist attitude. Notice that this has nothing to do with me 💩

What makes the first impression on you when listening to a tune, rhythm or melody? Do you play music, or dance? Many dancers and drummers I know tend toward noticing rhythm first, movement & beat. Other musicians hear the emotional crescendos of the melody & sequential pitches. I do not know if there is any pattern to be found here. I am a dancer and only ever learned some drums and a touch of bass guitar (rhythm). I have always heard the beat and rhythm first. It catches me before the melody. I feel the beat in my body as movement, I feel the melody as an emotional weight in my chest and heart 😃

Anyone else experiencing the site just go down completely? Not even a glitch. Legit down

@Miguel1 @nerdspeak I do not have anything to add, but I thought it prudent to note; I always enjoy your discussions and contributions regarding conscious relationships. I haven't come across any literature or great speakers who were able to speak on the topic, especially as it relates to modern social dating norms. I am sure they exist, I just haven't heard anyone expound upon the topic in a way that really illuminated it. These discussions, especially the ones around the male side of pickup, always have my mind munching away at new ideas, ways of looking at things, and ways I can improve as a woman. We can all get closer to conscious romantic relating and embodiment through them. Trailblazers. So, thanks!

The root cause of this sort of behaviour is a lack of self worth, and self respect. If you notice yourself needlessly apologising; either just for existing, or taking responsibility for things you had no cause in, it harkens back to self worth. Somewhere along the line, we would have transitioned through some set of life experiences, and taken a false meaning away. This is cognitive bias. Meaning making is a tricky thing; existentially there is no meaning. Humans manifest their own meaning. And we love to do it! But it is important to see the truth of the situation; if we approach someone as a child and they tell us to 'Fuck off', it is too scary to face that the world might be bad or hard. It is much easier to internalize and conclude 'I am bad' so we can deal with the load. The beginnings of internalised shame. And then guilt. And then the guilt/shame spiral. Leading to low self worth AND, you guessed it, needlessly apologising. Like we may needlessly apologise to the person we approached who told us to 'fuck off'. We think we were a burden. The reality of the situation is, we cannot take that meaning away. They could be having a bad day. They could be focusing. They could dislike others on principle. None of which have anything to do with us. Only them. We only become traumatised when we are unable to resolve responsibility. Understanding is key. Forgiveness is the way out. Forgiveness is about YOU letting go. It is not about letting your oppressor into your life. Not about them. It is not about making them feel absolved; it is the purge of negativity and the resolving of responsibility. You discern they are not for you, freeing yourself of judging them. No hard feelings. Boundaries. Powerful process of emptying to make way for genuine self-love, respect and worth. 🙏

You are allowed to not agree - but you aren't allowed to do so on a manner that is offensive/mean spirited, directed at others users. Let's be clear. Check the guidelines mate. Accurate.

Maybe not, but there is undeniable condescension and nastiness going on. And a lack of humour: 'what Nasha calls aura is just puffed up confidence with no ability. That is enough to get girls. Emptiness' - AION (Can't quote on mobile)

I think the subforum context flew over some heads. I cannot stop laughing!

@Joseph Maynor me too.

Trailblaze into integrity and authenticity - here's to our continued progress My career in the building industry really taught me to speak less and execute. I never tell anyone my intentions. I speak about my ideas and projects mainly for perspective and brainstorming. Sometimes, talking about the thing can almost brainwash me into feeling like I am making progress. But it is false; action tastes so much sweeter. I visualise my outcomes as I fall asleep at night. I see the building complete.

Probably because historically marriage was about survival? What is valued in relationship and marriage has changed a lot.