Natasha Tori Maru

I love disagreeing with people I like. We should be comfortable with ambiguity and discerning subtle differences. Intellectual maturity. When someone can argue a crazy outlandish point with sound argument, internal consistency and transparent logic - I kinda love it. It's like "they are serving up this delicious horseshit with the ultimate garnishes and aesthetics, it's still horseshit, but the presentation is immaculate" The truth usually arrives with a bunch of bullshit anyway. The wheat is always being sorted from the chaff. Maybe I just like the process as much as the end result ╮⁠(⁠＾⁠▽⁠＾⁠)⁠╭

Ooph. He repulses me. Looksmaxxing feels so effeminate - which can actually be an asset - when it is counterbalanced by strong masculine traits to act as compliment. Really interesting juxtaposition when a man can embody feminine/masculine in balance. But clav ain't it.

"my metaphorical balls have receeded into my body in anticipation of rejection - but I really love whatever the fuck you are DOING to me right now and I'll have an order for takeaway" I'm a sleaze

@Jirh some shit can be just hard over text in general. I had a horrible bomb like that thrown at me from an ex who called me a selfish, entitled child for floating through life on privilige. He was right. But it hurt so much I wouldn't allow the message to be received. And because it was from an ex, I didn't trust the source. But it was accurate.

I would be questioning my own ability to filter "high consciousness" people from "low consciousness" people. I would consider my own arrogance in making that judgement and on what markers or parameters I make the distinction. I might investigate if I am my own bad filter, removing out opportunity to truly see high consciousness in another. But that's me.

@Miguel1 nothing here appears as an attack - merely people calling it as it is seen according to the language you use. If you mean something different, you can step in to clarify. You frame "game players" as low consciousness. How is this not putting yourself above, as you also claim to be "higher consciousness"? I say this with love. Honestly. I get worried when people don't give negative feedback or all positive. It means they DON'T care. I come in good faith.

Pre-orders up, bitchez!

I tend to agree with @oOo @Jirh here. There is something you are getting egoically from believing you are above certain things. The frame you use feels off to me, personally. Feeding egoic belief could be causing the feeling of misalignment. Consider you are afraid of being 100% authentic for the fear of rejection, abandonment or being cast out. These are fundamental things for humans. All of us. Sometimes shit is real simple and we make it complex. By facing rejection the wrong people often fall away - and the right people who exist that can change your view appear. These people, you won't have to entertain games with. I also note this has been a constant thorn in your side for a while, but you are rejecting what the above 2 users are saying without really trying to sit with the initial bad taste. I would personally try to sit with the feedback for a longer time. A week or so, prior to rejecting. Sometimes the things we are avoiding the most have the greatest opportunity for growth.

Instead of sledging others in such a negative and non-constructive way, you could let others come to their own conclusions if they wish to. Or you can ignore me. But this is such a poopy comment. You can have your opinion, but it isn't immune to criticism. And it's a shit statement all round. Zero contribution.

You aren't able to explicate your reasoning. So the conversation is fruitless to me.

Which areas of your life do you currently feel the greatest mismatch between your feelings of 'how you desire to be' and your actions?

There is evidence to support the claim that open, responsible conversations about suicide are generally more protective in the long run, over silence or non allowance. Blanket bans on these sorts of topics can lead to possibilities of inducing shame, isolation and mistakenly creating beliefs we are not allowed to speak on these topics. The evidence does NOT show talking about suicide always prevents suicide, or that any discussion is beneficial. A lot of this topic is tightly woven into questions around sovereignty/agency, personal responsibility and ethics. Terminal health diagnosis that cement us into a slowly declining quality of life often lead to suicidal thoughts as a possible solution. I know my relative who was recently diagnosed with MND is seriously considering assisted suicide. At the end of the day it's always how, by whom, and in what context suicide is talked about.

@integral no, thank you

I'm interested in this! Thanks for the share

@Jirh You summed up my feelings on the matter. I was hoping my line of enquiry might reveal some more nuance in the bland and overly reductive initial statement. Reductionism is applied way to broadly when it comes to the sexes. The topic is complex, involving many different systems - and it's often impossible to untether them to get to any sort of 'ultimate truth of women/men'. If we aren't comfortable with a level of ambiguity we will constantly fall into traps of reductionism. When someone cannot sufficiently explain their ideas, opinions or claims it suggests an adopted belief (although this can also be because one can lack the ability to express themselves, but good questioning usually resolves this). And all too often these days, without critical analysis (and the proliferation of misinformation affecting us also), people fall victim to the repetition and certainty served up to them from whatever section of the internet they are immersed in. Absolutely - and not to be afraid of hashing things out in dyadic conversation! We don't always have to come from a position of authority and knowing. Sometimes walking through ideas with someone else can be a great way to sharpen critical thinking. The tough part about this forum - and the internet at large - is when someone is being uncharitable or not having an open, good faith approach. Ces't La Vie when we are dealing with egos!