Natasha Tori Maru

Men are shallow - sexist. Women are shallow - sexist. Humans are shallow - not discriminatory in a targeted way against a group. We make assumptions if we think moderating sexism against men doesn't happen here. It does.

@LordFall lol what. Assumptions. I am co owner of a construction business. I think I know some shit about putting my arse on the line and getting results. You have fantastical thinking and make certain comments about the future - and these are just guesses. Even funnier - Bryan Johnson constantly repeats "humans are terrible at predicting the future". You can try to frame it how you like, but this is what is happening - fantastical hype thinking.

But that was what I illustrated from the start - the boundary part? I elaborated on the fallacy of the idiot comparison above. You know. You don't want to try to understand. You have way too much to prove. And I know how you operate once you get locked on. Your rhetoric digs your own grave in repeat cycles all over the forum. Catch

@Elliott yep I chalk it up mostly to the individual possibly having a lot of trouble coming to terms with their identity, and so once found, discovered and integrated - they attach to labels to feel safe and understood. The struggle to accept themselves could possible be projected out and viewed as doubly harmful the perceive others are not accepting them as they are if they do not use their preferred terms. I just don't have that experience, so while I can conceptually understand it - it's not the same as really knowing. But it's not a boundary in the strict sense. To be clear I am just not able to accept the pronoun argument when it is framed as a boundary. If they just prefer it and dont claim it as a boundary that makes more sense. And is acceptable. It doesn't need to be framed as a boundary to be a legitimate thing.

No one should get special anything for their sex.

@Elliott forum rules. Context etc. You usually get snarky with an attitude then fling insults. Calling someone an idiot is hard to misinterpret. There's also no need to call someone an idiot. Avoidable. Calling someone the wrong pronoun on accident is not always so clear it is an offense. There is usually a need on application for pronouns in normal speech. It can be unavoidable without some language alterations that might not be natural. Additionally not every non-binary person cares about pronouns.

@Elliott yes this is because personal boundaries are about what we let in, not about controlling others. This is why I am confused around the framing of pronouns in this way. You can have a preference for sure - it's just not a boundary in the psychological sense.

@Jirh you know the experience of animals?

@Elliott no. I don't. That's what I am saying in my post. ¿Comprende? That is different to not accepting. Or not being accommodating to their preferred pronouns and paying due respect. Or saying they are wrong, unacceptable or bad. You assume the worst of people systematically on these forums.

Forgetting - or establishing a habit? Maybe two sides of the same coin 🙃 Do something enough, repeated, and there is no need to remember. It becomes a habit. Like wiping your arse with tp. Practice makes perfect - whenever you fuck up just get back on the horse. Don't worry about falling off the wagon. The more you practice starting again the closer it becomes a habit and reflex.

That's cool. You don't know me.

Overall I think it has gotten better - especially over the last 3 years. There's some more fucked up rhotoric that irritates me, but not enough to impact my day - I want no sympathy: Women here are maligned for being emotional, feelings based. Unable to make proper decisions because "corrupt emotions" and never using intellect to make decisions with love - and generally just being painted with this frame of femininity "emotional, feeling, expressive, empathic, nurturing" etc. all well and good. Then there is a secondary dialogue of endless whinging and complaining that women don't use their head, aren't intellectual with decisions, aren't truthful. Work based off feelings etc. that we need to use rationality more. Be more forthright and honest. And then... "I am not attracted to masculine women, only feminine. Strong feminine polarity" but also don't be stupid and be in the feelings, also you need to be rational and intellectual like a man. But also don't be like a man because I won't be attracted to you. Pretzel yourself into impossible shit for me. I don't get it.

@Elliott no, I would just wonder if they were okay ¯⁠\⁠(⁠°⁠_⁠o⁠)⁠/⁠¯

@Ulax whatever

@Miguel1 there's very little I can to do say anything to alter beliefs based on cognitive bias. I am also not stupid - I wont engage in much dialogue with someone if I feel the belief is based on feelings or brainwashing. Or cognitive bias. Some users I won't engage in trying to reason with them. If I see sexism - warnings. Removing points for sexist remarks, when users don't respond to verbal warnings, when it is a repeat, systemic offense. That sends a message. Intended or not. It does. I considered stepping down as a moderator and retiring from contributing here because I do not wish to stay if I supply insubstantial value. Overall I accept I will be treated slightly poorly here. Emerald and ethereal cat have mostly retired. I would not expect a response.