Natasha Tori Maru

Makes it hard with older women who have had bad experiences. In the one hand they can be more mature and on your level. But then they can miss or crush their natural feminine joy of "being" in all the silly conditioning. Which is what younger women can naturally have. And men tend to crave. Life serving up bags of dicks. Your lucky girl will come along. I don't see you as someone to sit still for long 😁

She had lots of resentment? I dunno when I judge others I tend to be just blocking or avoiding my own shit. So if I sat here and judged you as a dickhead (I dont lol), I would actually just be trying to attempt not to feel hurt or dissappointed. Instead of just feeling hurt/dissappointed and letting it go so I can be happy again. Judging gets you stuck with the feeling repeating it over and over. Just let the real feeling out and be done! That's not to say I don't discern when there is wrongdoing. I just try to drop that moralising judgement. My sister judges endlessly and won't let anything go. Maddening. Like we talking shit from 15 years ago. My god

I agree. Even looking at contextual dynamics - all of it could be explained by "I just want to fuck" lol. Literally as simple as that. Ideally it should be just stories. Hopefully well told ones 😊 maybe trying to preserve a bit of honour... But then preferences come into it. Can logic prefences. It's just what gets you off 😅

In terms of perspective - I just think this thread is about sharing experiences. Sex tends to naturally be loaded with insecurity, judgement and shame. Some of that is coming out. A lot of status and status seeking behaviour going on too

I love you guys lol I can't judge. I can be a right little shit 😁

@Basman I can smell when I'm burning fat from my piss (sorry if tmi lol). It has a really distinct smell 😅

You can't really summarise a whole person based on a few forum posts and make a generalised assessment. Too little data to go off. You don't really know anything about the user other than some intermittent interactions. Yes. You probably have! You can call out behaviour you think is poor. But the additional stuff like "no internal frame" again, we aren't magical mind readers. This just can't be accurately known or inferred from forum posts. The argument is invalid anyway. Everyone has an internal frame. It's just a perspective or context.

My body responds to that sort of defecit within 3-4 weeks. Discounting water loss initially. YMMV we all respond differently

How would you know it's the correct answer, even if you had one?

I am actually a fan of Bryan - people mistake my criticism for straight un-nuanced hate. I like his insane experiment and slightly deranged expressions. I do chuckle a bit when people think I just toss out the baby with the bathwater 😭 But for general health advice, I prefer others. His book though... It is funny you came to the conclusion his epistemology is childlike. I got further into the book and my main issue was his poor philosophy!

There are more possibilities, and people don't all respond to lack of content by seeking "acceleration".

Many, many people would freak out and possibly run (or have a lot of trouble dealing with the general vulnerability) when confronted with the reality of someone being truly present and open like that. I see people say that they want that. But it requires a level of exposure that forces us to step up and be better. That's a real challenge because it means claiming/admitting to all the shitty parts of ourselves. Facing them. Not always the case... But it's a damn good question!

The Chef arrives to serve the degustation menu - thanks HEAPS!

Haha - if conflict is an accepted certainty, then we have to make sure we increase our skills at effectively resolution!

@Jordan of the Shire The dynamic you describe is so so similar to how I have been experiencing drilling down into a relational understanding of others. I didn't foresee the function you describe - it leading to more receptivity from the person who feels understood. It is can effectively make them feel safe I guess! This ties into why I suspect relational understanding is key to women - and when men apply logical/analytical understanding it can lead to misunderstanding. Thinking the mechanism explains the person. Thinking we can understand someone's psychology via inference. Map (analytical understanding) vs territory (relational understanding). Explanation doesn't equate to understanding. It's really gathering more datapoints to work with (logical view haha) It has been a big recognition to me, as of late, that I was failing in this arena of relational understanding.