caspex

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  1. Changing the environment will help you fap less but ultimately the solution is you. You can slow down the momentum of fapping from daily to every 2 days to 3 and so on, go very gradually when you do this. If you start by doing once every 2 days then do that for maybe a week before you move on to every 3 days. You'll be happier as well since you'll be looking forward to something at the end of the week(if you slow yourself down to once a week). You'll just enjoy yourself way more with a slower momentum, making you not want to fap naturally again the next day. But yeah, if you are fapping daily then you got to change the content you consume etc. to slow yourself down. Overtime it wouldn't matter as much since you'll gain resiliency. Also try not to watch porn at all when you do fap because that pulls you into the addiction. If you aren't horny enough that you can't fap with only your imagination then that's a pretty good sign you shouldn't fap. Porn is completely unnecessary and will pull you into a daily spree again. If you are addicted to porn then you'll also notice that if you want to use imagination to fap you'll need a lot more foreplay/stimulation. You can't just whip out your dick and be done in 10 minutes like with porn. This is a good thing meaning you are more resilient to seduction and such. Not using porn to fap and having a slower momentum will also push you to talk to more girls towards the end of your cycle, so that you get that foreplay and are actually able to fap the day you want to fap and enjoy it. How many days your cycle should take depends on your body. And it should go without saying that if you can do pick up or dating then do that and there'd be no need for you to fap at all.
  2. If there are any such effects pointed out by the OP that happen due to group meditation, then they surely wouldn't be on the level of psychological
  3. I agree that Google should unban the man but the initial ban was justified. It's problematic that Google isn't unbanning the man, I wonder if the situation has been correctly communicated to the people in charge inside Google.
  4. Post here something that makes you go "What a time to be alive!"
  5. What you said is quite vague. It's obvious the old paradigm will need to be destroyed before a new one emerges for the collective. And I think most people already sense that that might happen in our lifetimes. Can you be more specific?
  6. I think Google's reaction was justified, while the guy should be unbanned and it is unfair to the guy since he meant no harm, I'd rather Google react like this to child nudity than the alternative Also comparing a cut finger is not a very good comparison. Child nudity is orders of magnitude more serious than that.
  7. I am from India which admittedly doesn't have it as bad as some other third world countries depending on which state you live in. But I'd still advice isolation as suggested by an user above. This is because from personal experience I can tell you that I would have never gotten into spirituality or even self-help before I turned 25 (I am 18), if it weren't for me becoming isolated and living alone for a while due to certain legal conditions. Typical third world country household is much more restrictive. Your elders have massive influence over your decisions and life. So it'd make sense for you to distance yourself to pursue further work. Getting financially independent is also important. You don't have to become a millionaire or some passive income god, just good enough so you can live relatively well on your own. This is just what I personally plan to do, this isn't verified by experience.
  8. Trying to make AI "human-like" so that you can call it 'alive' and 'conscious' seems pretty human-centric to me. I am telling you right now that you can never convince someone that an AI is alive or conscious, they will always have to make a leap of faith at the end of the day. No matter how lively the AI may seem, or whatever it does, or shows the utmost integrity, there is no way you can debunk "Maybe it's just imitating X" or other such arguments. This is because we humans ourselves make a leap of faith thinking that other humans are sentient and alive. Why? Because of emotions. And as soon as someone's emotions get involved with AI, most people would immediately make that leap and believe it to be sentient. Humans possess different ways of processing information apart from reasoning, unlike AI. One example is Emotions, another is Intuition. Intuition is often conflated with emotions, so I'll define Intuition like this. While it may seem like Intuition is randomly connecting dots in your head in a process of trial and error until something works, it's actually the ability to connect those dots randomly and reach the solution without the need of trial and error. These different faculties that human possess is the key difference between AI and Humans and why it feels so much shallower. Another difference is that I think makes a major impact is that AI just doesn't have enough experience with interactions yet. Or we can say it doesn't have enough General Data yet. Human who are trying to see if AI is sentient have like 20+ years of General Data they gathered through living. I wouldn't class creativity as a difference though because these AI do create new things, based on older recognized patterns, just like us humans. What most people mean when they say creativity is a difference, is actually my definition of intuition. I define creativity as the ability to create new things, that aren't previously in one's memory.
  9. Everything can make sense if you don't limit yourself, so yeah paradoxes don't exist. But that's only the case when you limit yourself to 'when you don't limit yourself'. If you do limit yourself then you can make all kinds of paradoxes. So do paradoxes exist or not exist in 'reality'? Well, considering everything, they do and also don't. Which can be seen as a paradox in itself, or not. Depends on how you limit your logic.
  10. good luck that sounds p cool
  11. That last one is very nice and defined a boundary I was subtlety trying to set for myself.
  12. My inner navigation is telling me to give dominance over to my discernment/proactive side. Which just means directing the flow of my strength/energy/lifeforce/prana towards that side of my psyche instead of the reactive side that runs on desire. And my inner navigation predicts this will give me power over my desires, increasing my willpower. It's because I am giving away all my lifeforce away to the reactive side it spends it carelessly, but my proactive side will use it wisely because it's proactive enough to think.
  13. Average day of Leo standing still staring at the wall with some moon sugar on the table
  14. @AndylizedAAY how long are your hands to be able to hold such a phone? ?
  15. damn your phone is so long even your screenshots are called long
  16. I agree with this. I would say what the OP outlined leads to hate and lack of empathy towards women rather than fear. If you are scared of talking to women that's most definitely an issue with your masculine side. You can have the utmost empathy and love towards women but still be scared of approaching them. This is because they are too mysterious and you don't want to take the initiative of delving into the unknown to demystify and normalize a woman. And many men have both the issues at the same time. They repress their feminine while at the same time being underdeveloped in their masculine.
  17. There's a part of you that reacts and there's one that proacts. Only the reactive part of you needs motivation, not the proactive one. It's much more intelligent. Distinguish between these and make sure the later controls the prior. If you need motivation that means you have the reactive part of you controlling ya. This is a problem because that never works in the long run.
  18. I'd be turning into a female. Biggest disadvantage: Being Constrained. I am someone who loves letting lose on all aspects of life. But as a women, especially living in the capital of India, I'd have to be so much more on edge and paranoid outside. I'd have to care about my looks a lot more. I wouldn't know about other countries but here a woman is actually much more heavily judged on her looks than a man. Depending on how attractive you are, you'd be fit into various stereotypes. An example would be that if you are pretty attractive then you are automatically an ego-centric person. And if you prove yourself to be humble then there'd be a lot more jealousy than admiration. There's no win in that regard. If you are ugly then you are automatically an NPC. I as a female, would be constantly given advice, especially by older women on how to conduct myself, how to behave, and a lot of warnings to keep myself safe. This is especially true since I live alone. I'd probably not even be living alone if I was a female. I'd be seen as a female first and as a fellow human second. I'd be much more naturally anxious because you guys can guess. Most people you see outside are men so as a female it'd be pretty daunting to explore places on your own. In India, you really need a man to get things done more efficiently whether it is government work, house work, legal proceedings, negotiations etc. This is because a man is taken much more seriously. So if I want to do any of that efficiently I'd need to find a man to help me out. Also I'd be judged for having male friends, and very frequently suspected of having affairs with them, so I'd really have to behave in a way to show that it's not like that. Also I'd be judged for being not submissive. So yeah, that will constrain me so much that I'd probably not even enjoy living. And let's say I decide to not play by the rules for the week that I am a female, and just live like how I live right now everyday, I'd be seen as a disgrace. A girl gone astray. A girl who has 'gone outta hand'. In general I'd be controlled much more and I gotta admit, I am not a big of fan that. Biggest Advantage: A Support Network On most fronts whether emotionally, financially or socially, I'd have a really great support network. It'd be so supportive that I'd actually not be held liable and judged for not achieving much on my own in my life. Don't get me wrong, I'd be praised if I do, but I wouldn't be judged much if I don't. Not much would be expected from me than to marry and be a good member of the family. The social networking would be CRAZY. If let's say I am a housewife, INSTANT connection with other housewives in the area and so much to talk about and relate to. I'd be so much more open and expressive emotionally in all situations because being emotionally vulnerable wouldn't mean that I lose respect anymore. As a man if I admit weakness, sure I may be given comfort by my social circle, but then what? I am not seen the same as before. I am seen as weaker, given less respect, as more submissive. As a woman I wouldn't have that problem, or at least not nearly to that extent.
  19. @Leo Gura What should one word towards after becoming egoless? The goal being to free up your conscious to reach the highest levels
  20. I am gonna start making notes for all that I have studied for the coming examinations. As I stated in my previous post, running and studying are the only two things I should be focusing on. So I am gonna give most of my time to studying, now that it is freed from anime and other things.
  21. 30 Day Challenges I am not doing much action if I am not gonna be taking any drastic decisions to better my life. So I'll do these two challenges: No-Fap No Junk Food I have never managed past 14 days on No-Fap, hopefully I am able to do 30 days this time. What's different this time is I'll be intentionally cutting off all triggers. One of the major ones being Anime and Manga. I'll only watch Blue Lock because it only has men in it, is a sports anime and is a pure Orange show. The other triggers that I am able to cut off is YT shorts and YT in general. In fact, I am not gonna watch any Youtube videos for these 30 days except the ones I have saved in watch later. I have like 90 videos saved in watch later with most of them being multiple hours long. And if I run out of that I always have good old Actualized.org for all my video consumption needs. Now the problem with this approach is, with anime and much of YT gone, most of the things I do for fun have now been purged. So what do I do for good ol' introverted fun then? Well honestly I have no clue, I'll probably sleep or some shit. One of the reasons that I am doing this is to reduce the amount of diverse stimuli I get on a regular basis. I feel like that is really bad for staying stable in your goals, learning and emotions. I'll stick to having fun with friends outside when I am not studying or running. No Junk Food is an interesting challenge for me I have never quite tried. I wanna fix my diet anyways and if I manage 30 days off it I'll just stay off it indefinitely. I eat junk on a regular basis so that definitely keeps my energy levels low. I say it'll be a 30 challenge, but really I'll just start today which is 28 Feb, and end on 1 April. So it's a 32 days challenge but who cares about the specifics.
  22. The Zeitgarnik Effect It postulates that people remember unfinished or interrupted tasks better than completed tasks. The best way to get your mind off the tension of remembering these tasks that you have to do later, is to just write them down. In hindsight, this seems extremely simple. But I never did this and now that I did, so much stress has been lifted off my mind because I do not need to remember these tasks I have to do. The pressure of remembering all this stuff really made me stressed and unable to relax, is also why I sought escape through youtube shorts. I feel so much better now by just writing all the stuff down. It surprised me how much stuff I was holding on to remember. No wonder I couldn't relax.
  23. Keeping in theme with the last post, what is that goal for me that effects my very core? Broadly speaking, that is exploration. This is very broad, as it includes stuff such as traveling, exploring the occult, exploring the mind, interest in spirituality as it explores life and reality, exploring the body through various disciplines, etc. I am cherry picking with what I value in exploration though. But it doesn't matter since I know what I value in exploration when I look at it, so there is no need to list em all down. This is the same as 'understanding', although this has a certain different flavor to it. It's less intellectual or closed. Exploration and Understanding are both sides of the same coin. With my core value/goal in mind, I can actually quite swiftly sort through my goals. I am left with the following: Graduating College Exercise (Only running for now) Graduating college for me is an instrumental goal to my terminal goal of physical exploration without any financial problems. There are definitely other ways to reach this end, I just prefer the more traditional/familiar way for now. I have no reason to pursue any other goals except these two. Now, even though my core goal is exploration, I have a pretty deep need within me for egoic expansion, an expansion of my ego in the competitive sense. In a sense where I compare myself with others and then rise on top. Such as being more fit, having more IQ, more achievements, more skills, more reputation, more respect. Not because I want these things for the sake of them or because it gives me some thrill by being above others, but because it helps me fit in. See, this is not an orange desire/need at all, this is a blue need. Why? Because I see 'normal' as being accomplished and distinguished from the masses, and I know many such people, so to 'fit in' and 'be normal', I'd have to be above the average masses. I have this belief because of my Asian upbringing. The reason my self-esteem is low is because I am very average, but I see that as below average, because obviously I should be above average right? Right? So to properly enter Orange here. I'd need to redefine 'normal' and 'average', specifically that being average isn't a bad thing use affirmations to tell myself I indeed fit in and am normal and average THEN start competing for the thrill of being above others An example of how I'd do this:
  24. Yeah making a conscious effort to not write down your insights in order to strengthen your memory and recall would work. It has it's own pros and cons. Whether you should commit to this kind of living really depends on what you're trying to do though. If you're trying to speak about your insights to people like a guru, answering their questions on the spot, then it makes more sense to not write it down and it'd be way better to just have a strong recall and memory for insights. But if you are someone who makes youtube videos every week about a variety of topics, or writes books about topic that you contemplate yourself, or interact with people in a non-live environment like this forum, or maybe writes a blog sharing insights, then it's makes so much more sense to have written down insights. Basically, the more dynamic and live your environment is the more it makes sense to just have better memory and recall instead of written down insights.