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@Leo Gura LOL dude half my guy friends are like that. Not all guys are PUA dicks that cant treat girls right. How hard is it to find a loyal, honest, caring, not needy, mature, faithful and respectful. Millions of them out there. Only one that is difficult to fill is the manipulation one since we all do it to some extent, mostly unconsciously. Issue is that these kind of men are not good at emotional stimulation but you can have a good relationship with them. Hell even i fall into most of those "criteria".

@tsuki There are like 8 boxes you need to tick. Some you need to tick harder than others. Being okay looking in her eyes, funny, confident, not needy, not broke and a bit bold is a good start. These are kind of musts. Anything else is a bonus

@Shin The way i see it is that the good looking guy is born rich. The not good looking guy with good game is the guy that is not born rich but is super smart or skilled and manages to become rich. Both are rich, just managed to become so using different methods. One was born, the other was earned. If you are a good looking guy, an average personality will be enough to get a decent girls. You are set on this area of your life If you are not a good looking guy then you need a great personality and you will get the same kind of girl, it will be harder ofc but life aint fair so deal with it

@Leo Gura LOL you sure that they were just trying to be nice and rejecting you over necklace. Girls don't like to hurt your feelings so it's easier for them to say that compared to something like "i don't find you attractive". Necklace rejection is the most crazy thing i have heard this year hahhahahah

Use Photo feeler. It is a great website to get your pictures rated by random people and they don't hold back trust me. If you get 9/10 ratings then those pictures you can use for online dating. I don't think professional pics are really needed given the insane quality that some smartphones have these days. You can use them of course but it is not mandatory. What is most important is to show the best version of yourself in the pictures. Personally i look very cute when i smile so i tend to take a lot of smiling pics, some people look better serious so via versa. Also if you can take a pic with friends, or doing something cool it is also nice. If you lift try to include it in a way that looks casual so girls know you re built and write a good bio. Considering how random girls are when it comes to what they find attractive i think most guys can get some results online. Especially if your pictures show you as above average looking (don't have to be chad though). Just please, PLEASE. DON'T take 5 selfies or pictures of yourself doing random restarted facial expressions for 5 pictures in a row. I saw the guys section on Tinder where i live and it is sad how 0 effort people put on their profiles. Just applying the tips i gave you will put you on the top 20 percent of profiles as long as you aren't like legit ugly. Also knowing the algorithms of the apps is also important. For example on Tinder you should not like more than around 40 percent of the profiles you see. So stuff like that also helps on top

@Leo Gura True true. Plus here you have a lot of status so it is nice to leverage it. Damn this fucking COVID really killed it for me, i had a bad rejection which destroyed my self esteem (im young) and wanted to start some basic pick up in bars and clubs to improve my skills. Will have to resort to online dating and instagram at this point.

@Leo Gura Why don't you do pickup instead or is it very time consuming and not worth it when you have more efficient methods? Would you consider it in any scenario? You have said yourself that pick up can give you great girls

@Recursoinominado You are right but it is not that easy. It would be great advice for some people but lets say he does not get girls smiling at him. Maybe girls are not really interested in him so the one girl that does smile is automatically the most special girl because she was the only one that actually was interested in him. I know it sounds sad af but there are a lot of people with absolutely 0 options and rejected by girls and if they get 1 girl showing interested she automatically becomes special af. Personally i almost never get girls smiling at me or showing interest so yeah, it depends on the person.

Hey everyone, i would really need help with a question. So i met a girl last November and at beginning we started as friends. She already had a boyfriend so i though, yes we ll be friends and that is it. However in time i started to get feelings for her. It was the first time i fell in love with someone. This happened through a few months. Then in March her relationship ended and when i tried to make a move i got rejected. This person really liked me as a person but she did not have feelings for me and therefore didnt a relationship. This made me depressed for a few months until i got over it in June. However, ever since i dont have feelings for her but my ego is very wounded. I feel like i was not good enough and all of that kind of shit. What makes things worse is that she also started liking someone else(nothing happened) who it seemed to be a higher value person than me. This really hurt me. I have interacted and met girls ever since, some very cool actually. However none of those make me feel the way that person did. It would be like eating pizza and after that eating some average rice or something. It is decent but nothing compared to the other thing. I feel like i wont feel like that about someone again. I also feel like girls like that are 1 in 1 million so i will not meet someone that cool again. I ve met over 100 girls in the last few years and none of them i felt such a connection with. Please what advice do you have for me? I am quite young, so please do not be very harsh I need to clarify that those 100 something girls i met i didnt do anything physical or romantic. I got to know them as people and connect and stuff but i didnt feel anything more than sexual lust Thank you everyone!

@F A B I think it is good advice. I am just very picky with personality

@RendHeaven Thank you for the advice, appreciate it. I think you are right. This being the first person i had strong feelings for makes it a total bitch of a situation. Would you recommend me to try to meet and date new people? I am already working on myself on other areas like contemplation, meditation, gym, university work etc.

@Khr Really like the last part of your advice "wants to be with you should be number 1 requirement". The thing is nothing happened between them anyway, just the idea of it hurted me. At this point i dont have feelings anymore, just my ego is hurt. Not my heart, at this point. Thanks for the advice though

@Keyhole A woman wanting to date me has not happened in my life, maybe 1-2 small crushes out of 100 girls

@RendHeaven I said perfect FOR ME not perfect in general. Value and connection are relative. Maybe she would be shitty match for you and your girl would be a bad match for me. When i say she was perfect i meant for me, not perfect for the whole world.

@Sempiternity It is good in theory but how do i actually embody that mindset?

@Preety_India @Preety_India Thank you for your advice. The person is not with anyone so its not that he got chosen over me. I dont have feelings anymore and am on good terms with the person. It is just that my ego is hurt, not my heart at this point. I feel like i will not find someone so perfect FOR ME again and i will settle for mediocrity. I thought of starting dating and talking to a lot of girls hard after this covid bs ends since my place is on a lockdown rn which is horrible for my current situation (oh well)

@Keyhole Is it really healthy though to downgrade the value of people that reject you? She is honestly an amaizing person in every way, otherwise i would not fall so hard. But thanks for the advice though still

@SamC Normally yes, the thing is that i have interacted with a lot of girls. It is not like i am a super antisocial person that met 2 girls in his life and now it seems like that. I ve over 100 girls met and maybe 1-2 came close to this one in terms of how i felt and connection. Were you in this situation also?