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I can't really say this is a bad idea, since this is exactly what I did, but how you do this really affects the results. You don't want to sacrifice your happiness for this.

Do what you deeply desire, don't be a perfectionist, just follow your heart.

I'm wondering if you feel like if you made a new group of friends and you were really happy with them, that you would reject your old self. Do you feel like you'd have to change in order to gain friends with whom you'd have a more healthy relationship? And in this process, do you feel bad for your past friends and most importantly your past self? I think it's pretty normal that you sort of cling on to your past identity and experiences. Past feelings of "failure" and rejection really hurt, but wishing that your old friends or your old self could gain a healthy lifestyle and get certain results without changing or doing anything somehow, unfortunately in reality that just doesn't work. In life you just reap what you sow, and lots of people are just dealt with a bad hand of cards to start with. Continue to actualize, and I think at some point you would be able to not only gain new friends with which you could form a more healthy relationship, but you'd also understand your previous situation and the situation of your old friends. This would probably let you be able to reconcile with and accept your past self. It really sucks when you're bad with girls, but maybe you could focus on expanding your life experiences. Maybe get a new hobby where you could do some activity with a group of people. Or get a new task at your workplace where you'd work with another team in your company. I know it's hard when you are socially awkward to know new people. But these situations would really allow you to feel your inner insecurities and provide you the opportunity to confront them. As you build confidence, you'd naturally be comfortable in front of more and more people, including girls. Another suggestion would be therapy, but that would cost a bit.

If possible, I'd like to see a more fundamental video on emotions. I know Leo has made videos like what types of emotions there are on different levels, and how to master your emotions. And of course there are already videos on love/hate and fear, etc. However I think if the topic of where emotions actually come from and how they work can be explained, it would highly benefit those who struggle with their emotions.

My personal life is a testament of what Leo said here. Although this is still just our opinion, but I have to say in the end, Christianity is just a fucking cult.

Affirmations only work when you're serious about changing and have a practical method to do so. Otherwise, they don't work. I think affirmations can become destructive when in reality you are relatively positioned on the opposite side of the affirmation you make.

Seems like the environment that you grew up in attributed you with a sense of judgement about yourself. Overall, you didn't like some of the things that occurred in your family in the past. Now with this negative build up and a flawed self identity, you probably also have issues building relationships between your peers. You hate the world because you feel the world has abandoned you. No matter how hard you try, no one seems to ever give a fuck about you. Unfortunately this looks like a negative spiral downwards, my friend. You have a negative worldview about yourself, and your negativity repels those around you "proving" that you "don't deserve to be loved". Emotions are really a strong thing. Basically you need to cultivate a positive emotion which is stronger than the negative emotion to overcome this. And this positive emotion cannot be forced, it has to be genuine. Very hard. I wouldn't suggest you to do this directly. I wouldn't suggest to even try to be positive, because that is just damn hard right now. I used to be in this situation, and then when I suffered a depression, it took me ten years to overcome. For me the way to stop feeling guilt is to change how you see yourself, and in this process I changed my entire worldview. I think the changing your worldview part might be necessary, because how you see yourself is mainly built on how you think other people look at you. How you think other people look at you is based on your worldview. Logically, I think you would agree that there is no such thing as the idea of deserving or not deserving. What people think you deserve is only their selfish opinion. Anyone who is in your shoes, grew up the way you did, would end up in the exact same position as you. People are not better than you just because their circumstances were better. There is no fucking point in comparison here, because there is just nothing to compare with. I think the first thing you should do is to try to be exactly as you are right now. Just try to accept yourself as you are right now with no judgement. You need to jump out of neurotic ideas and let your emotions flow. Good thing would be to find a close friend and honestly talk about how you feel with him/her. Then I would recommend therapy, those this would cost you, but I wished I got therapy sooner. Would have saved me years of suffering, your happiness is way more important than any amount of money. Through therapy, you could understand more about yourself, identify your internal issues. And then you could gradually resolve those inner issues one by one. And so I think there's two parts to overcoming guilt. First is to develop this neutral mindset where you're able to look at your circumstance from a bigger point of view, big picture thinking here. There is a zillion reasons why you're the way you are, you just supposed to be the way you are right now. With understanding, you can become more calm about yourself. Then there is the work to change your habits, piece by piece, and generating results you want in your life. The neutral mindset is really important, because if you think negatively about yourself when you try and then "fail", it will hinder your will to continue. Work to change yourself in really small steps. The results will be exponential, meaning that the change is slow at first but you'll gradually change more and more quicker. Once you've overcome even one issue, you will be significantly stronger than you were before.

Yes, I still have a bit of this. It used to feel like someone else might see into the real me, I might get exposed somehow when people look at me.

I think it really depends on what your goal is. If you want to build skills for a potential career, I think these lessons don't teach you much. Their content are only useful because they may provide you concepts on which you could use to communicate with your future peers. As a software engineer, I only found lectures useful when I was studying for my master's degree, where I had to implement actual stuff. Very different from the conceptual lectures I had in college. Otherwise, there are lots to be learned only if you're interested.

Everyone has a foot in hell no matter their circumstances. Maybe we should just learn to admit that we're just goddamn monsters and try to accept that fact for a moment, from time to time.

I think finding the suitable field for yourself can be frustrating at times. The passion part takes a long time to develop after you've dived into a specific field, and I wouldn't expect any passion in college. If I could time travel back to my college years, instead of putting that much effort in studying, I would also try to be an intern at different companies. See what skills can be developed and finding those that I identify with most. I would try to satisfy my base desires first, like finding a high-income skill and being able to provide value, and try to build a sense of accomplishment. However most jobs are just a huge grind though.

Wow, what are you aiming for by putting this much time in working on yourself? If you enjoy the process, then no one would be able to suggest you anything I think.

Money and sex.

I think what I like most is giving love, caring for others, and being loved as well. However it's unfortunate that I don't experience this very often nowadays.

I actually do make around 100k, and I used to save like 80% of it before I bought a house. I live in Taiwan though and so the expenses here are way more cheaper than in the States. I only invest like 10% of my savings and so I'm a big hoarder.

I'm curious on how you realized you are God?

I agree with you, anyone who has to use drugs to wake up is not truly enlightened.

The sense of always being so far away from the goal, wondering if I would ever get there. Lots of emotional labor put in but with hardly any significant results.

You have completed the Levenson Self-Report Psychopathy Scale. The LSRP measures two scales. Scores range from 1 (low) to 5 (high). Your score from primary psychopathy has been calculated as 1.9. Primary psychopathy is the affective aspects of psychopathy; a lack of empathy for other people and tolerance for antisocial orientations. Your score from secondary psychopathy has been calculated as 2.4. Secondary psychopathy is the antisocial aspects of psychopathy; rule breaking and a lack of effort towards socially rewarded behavior. With two scores, results of the LSRP are very suitable for being plotted. Below is the distribution of how other people who have taken this test have scored. You score for primary psychopathy was higher than 41.76% of people who have taken this test. You score for secondary psychopathy was higher than 44.28% of people who have taken this test.

Yes, keep finding new therapists. It takes time to find the right one for yourself.

@TKP Have you ever tried to talk with you brother about his situation?

Why don't we ask this question, if a person loves video games playing it seven days a week for almost the entire day each day, then how do we get this guy to wake up a bit and decide to change his mind? I bet lots of people have played video games for days before. Yes, eventually you feel empty and you wonder if you should do something more constructive. But what if some people don't feel this way? What is the next step to "help" these type of people?

Did you read this book from Kindle? I see that this book will be released on Amazon on September 1st.

I remember Leo mentioning what you needed to do before you take psychedelics in one of his videos. Forgot which one it was, but he said you needed to get to an advanced level of personal development before you take psychedelics, or else you'll just have a bad trip.

Do you feel regret with how you use your time because you think you should be more productive? Maybe my guess is wrong, but how you should spend your time really depends on what you want. People need time doing nothing or just doing whatever you want and chill. These kinds of moments would allow your subconscious to rest and fix itself, which will give you willpower. I'm also guessing that your anger is a result of higher expectations. Not sure, but anger is an emotion and emotions are an essential part of the basic functions of the body. So you can't get rid of this emotion. Main point is what you're angry at. One way to resolve anger is to understand more about the situation you're mad at, gain more understanding about the details and about how you feel. When you've realized that things are like this for a reason, you probably will be able to accept the situation and be more calm.