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I'm sorry if the topic of this post is not appropriate. There doesn't seem to be a category here for this topic, but I am just very curious if there is anyone from Taiwan who has followed Actualized.org for a few years like me. I've been doing this work alone for quite some time, would be great to know if anyone is also doing this work. Thanks.

From what you've shared, it seems like you believe you're destined to be a professional chess player. You're frustrated because you have not been able to achieve your sky high expectations yet. Please tell me I'm missing something.

I am not sure about your situation and this is just speculation, but I'm guessing that your frustration is caused by not being able to get enough income from being a professional chess player. So your anger and frustration is based simply on not having enough income, your family and friends not being able to see your situation in a more positive light, and the overall feeling of accomplishing nothing due to not being rewarded enough by society for being a professional chess player. I think it is basic human instinct that is making you feel this way. Do you think I'm pointing the right direction?

You're in a state of regression, plus in a bit of fight and flight mode. The switch that flipped back in 2015 is what caused this. You probably lived up to something before 2015, however your mindset back then could not sustain your dreams and so when your efforts get constantly undermined by reality, you suffer psychologically. You were then depressed for a while, but afterwards you wanted to change. You got a healthier lifestyle, you found beauty during the process of changing youself. You took therapy and went into depth about what really happened in your life. You are ready and what you only need to do now is to turn on the switch that you turned off back in 2015. You're in a mode of defense because your body doesn't want to experience the pain of fallout again. However a main part of life is experiencing loss and pain. Where there is something great that you want, there always will be a possibility you never achieve this dream. When you pursue what you really want in life, there will be a time where you fail non-stop. That will hurt and may even cut you deep, but whatever doesn't kill you will only make you stronger. And you are strong enough to endure that process until you transform. The only question now is are you willing to turn on the switch now and start feeling PAIN again.

This is the right way to do it, but it is too high level. Most people which is like 99.99% of people cannot do it. If you envy something, I say you should try to find a way to get the thing you want. Reward yourself for any bit of growth or achievement you make along the way. Eventually if what you imagined you wanted was a real thing, you'll get it. If it wasn't real, then you can finally drop it.

All the suggestions above are great, but I have a different perspective. I think that passions are pursuable only after you've achieved some level of financial success because most passions don't necessarily allow you to live abundantly. Also would you even be able to find your passion now with limited life and work experience? So I wouldn't try to find my passion right now but rather narrow down the objective that I want to achieve. You're in a great spot, you could focus on your relationship with your girlfriend and other people in your social life while completing school and continuing to work for your dad. You could even let your dad buy you a house. However nothing comes free, your capability of being independent would be restricted if you choose this option. But I would choose this path if I were you, why not enjoy life when you can? I mean I've worked for 15 years and most of my colleagues grinded hard at first only to try to land a position in the company where they could have a more comfortable work schedule. Their goal was also to work fewer hours and earn a higher wage, and most of them sort of ended up with this type of result, maybe just not making as much as they expected. Option B would be to move out, work for someone else like your peers. In theory this would be a better option, as it would allow you to grow faster in all areas, but you could also pursue this option later. Or if you're able to muster the motivation, accept a relatively more challenging role in your dad's business and take on the pressure. You could just inherit the business later on or create a similar business.

Why are we even discussing this? The answer is No.

I think it doesn't really matter what you say, it is the vibe and the rythm that you're in. If we're in sync with her emotions of excitement and have total confidence to express those emotions, then we will be able to find the words to express those feelings and get her number no matter what we say (although she might not respond later). I very difficult thing is how do we get in sync, especially if we don't have lots of experience with hot women.

I thought redpill was a base layer for every guy, that type of desire will always be there. The question is how do guys build an orangepill or greenpill mindset to transcend the red desire? It's hard, I mean who doesn't like a hot chick?

Bitcoin is not intended to become a currency, it will replace gold. Crypto currency like solana or XRP may become a medium of exchange and their price will stablize when they're widely adopted.

I don't think you are able to fix your current issue by just learning more about how the ego works or even getting a paradigm shift. I think you could consult more with your therapist about some techniques to discipline yourself and get yourself to focus on stuff that are important to you. You don't need high level stuff to fix your basic level needs.

I agree with you. However I think Leo just wants to be himself instead of being put on a pedistal here. So if anyone feels bullied from his response, I think they can talk with someone else on the forum. I do think Leo has toned down his aggressiveness after his apology post earlier.

Totally agree, there is just not a viable solution so we can only kick the can down the road till a chance appears.

Absolutely brilliant take! The problem with the conservative view is that not only does it sound negative, its ideal can only be actualized by a few while the over 90% majority suffer when they chase this narrow-minded dream. Better to accept reality as it is.

So I guess the relationship with your parents is very complicated to say the least. I know it is very hard, but you have to find a job and move out first. Get out of any toxic environments.

You have asked them to teach you before, right? If there are relationship issues, at least they could borrow you the car and perhaps you could ask your siblings to teach you?

It seems like your image of yourself is dependent on what other people think of you. I understand that is very hard to change, the urge for recognition when you've rarely experienced it is hard to overcome. You can do it Kobe style, use the hatred as fuel and take action. Start small and give yourself praise for anything you accomplish. Get a normal job, make some short videos with your phone, get into a skating social group, learn how to drive a car, connect more with your siblings/cousins, etc. You're not stuck, you only lack motivation. Everyone has been here, baby steps will become larger steps as you move forward. In the future when you look back, it is not where you are and what you have that you're proud of, but rather the journey you've been through and what kind of person you've become through the journey that will be your true source of confidence. The end is never sweet without the journey.

So we should learn how to scam and manipulate people?

This guy has nailed it. The heroes of today just don't see having a child as a necessity, if they're going to do something they're going to do it right. Countries that want to fix birthrate crisis should just find a way to legalize immigration I guess.

I disagree, conservatives are mostly idealistic and religious minded. They might appear to be truth seekers in some cases, but what they really want is to believe that the old world view still works and things should stay as they are. Most democrats are pragmatic and think in way that works objectively. I would say democrats are more realistic in this sense. However their disregard of moral standards and new ways of thinking about old values upsets conservatives.

I have felt the same way as you in the past, believing that only when I have accomplished something great and earned a lot of money can I love and accept myself. You are not incapable, it is only that the goal you've set for yourself is way too high to be achieved in a short amount of time. So in this situation your body would tend to feel that the effort is not worth it, because you cannot achieve greatness or become rich overnight, thus giving you the emotion of laziness. You're not in a bad place, it is your strong desire for the good things in life that is making you feel negatively about yourself. The way you're looking at things is not healthy, because you're placing judgement constantly on your condition whilst not comparing with yourself but with others. And I believe when you're comparing yourself with others, you're always comparing with them in the area they are strongest. If you give yourself space to find a job and gradually exercise, you can eventually get to a place you feel good about yourself step by step. Also you might find that you probably won't need to become rich and successful to be able to find happiness. Maybe you just want a hot girlfriend, the guys I know who can get hot girlfriends are not rich or successful. Depends on what you want, but you don't need to have everything to be happy.

If the bitcoin ETF gets approved, it might behave like the gold ETF in 2004 flying to the moon and never coming back.

I used to hate myself too. Then I gradually found a way to accept and love myself.............. as a fucking villian. Bring your expectations of yourself so goddamn low so that you actually will appreciate what you have NOW! I have nothing to lose, why not live another fucking day however I like?

If you value intelligence, then you will naturally be around people you look up to. The feeling you described being demoralized feels very real, it is a deep emotion in your condition. I used to fight this emotion all the time, I would try to study harder or work harder and chase more productivity. I would try to be friends with these people who I feel are doing great, and see if any of their attributes would rub off on me. Now I work at a large IC design company and I'm surrounded by excellent people, whenever this feeling occurs I just let it gradually sink in. I try to feel into the loss and emptiness of the entire emotion. Then when I'm alone sometimes I contemplate what I can do or why I'm feeling this way. I never find a real solution, but eventually I am just able to let it go. I'm still very happy that I've joined such a talented team and the IC industry has been rocking the past few years.

@Dodo I agree with you. I bought some bitcoin a while back, the next bitcoin halving is almost here. Everyone should join the revolution and learn about crypto!