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Hitler was a German hero in his time. People who hate Hitler just aren't able to the get into the context of that time from Germany's point of view.

If you embrace the "darkness", you would be free. You wouldn't be doomed as you think in the long run. After that, change would become more likely if you pursue small goals at a time. What you don't know is that although it takes time to evolve, you are not actually that far off from where you want to be. Another thing is that if you maintain the same survival mentality that you have now, you will still be depressed even if you got the partner or the type of lifestyle that you wanted. Rebirth, that is the way!

I am quite curious on why you think you are not worthy and what type of partner you would like to have.

Do you think your low self esteem has to do with your performance in the classroom, meaning studying and passing exams? Maybe if you could add a perspective to how you observe and measure yourself, you would understand and feel better about yourself?

It would seem like you are not happy with the current situation that you're in. However in your mind, you think that it is way too hard to change the circumstances in your current state. So there are two forces at play here, one is you have a strong urge to change and transform yourself based on I would guess a very negative motivation. The other is a strong resistance of pain, because you've already worked so hard to get this far. Maybe you realized you went in the wrong direction at some place in your life and now you're so tired you want to rest, you just don't have any energy left to work on the transformation you want at the moment. These two forces create a big conflict and it is very normal to have conflicting emotions as well. On the surface, you desperately wish you could change something about your life, but in the inside you actually want to avoid the pain of "loss" or behaving in a way you deem "unworthy". This is probably why you are avoiding positive emotions, because once you express your positive emotions, there would be more room for you to feel more negative emotions, the emotions you want to escape right now. Your deep consciousness seems to know that there is a huge amount of work you need to do in order to get where you want to be. However you want to avoid thinking about that, because the Truth is sometimes unbearable. You need to know the greatest transformations in life always starts with realizing how "low" or "bad" your current state is. Sometimes external accidents even, to force people to realize the Truth. If you are able to find peace with yourself right now, you will embark on a new journey towards a higher level in your life. What you need to do now is to very slowly identify where the huge pain is in your emotions. Clarify the points that are causing these painful emotions and gradually feel in the pain very consciously. Normal people would just keep on evading the pain by distracting themselves non-stop. This would only bury the pain deeper and deeper until they've lost touch with the source of their problems. Then I would suggest talking with a very close friend, someone you could say anything to and is willing to listen. Express the kind of negative emotions your are experiencing right now, and what are causing them. Do this until you get very conscious about what you don't accept about yourself. What you need right now is rest, the conscious type of rest. You need to stop trying to change and just simply be and observe yourself. Feel in the pain and let the source of the pain be your future motivation to achieve greatness.

Good to know that I was able to help a bit. Most of my response were only guesses, I was afraid my description wasn't really your case. You'll have to find a way to untie the knot to go forward, not easy though. Other than that, I don't have anything more to add at the moment. I don't think there is a sure path to understanding psychology. I had serious depression before and I spent a lot of money on different therapists. Then luckily there were Youtubers like Teal Swan and Leo Gura to aid me more. Then it took over 7 years to implement the stuff, this is where I really understood what I learned previously. It really depends on what topics you're really interested in and whose content would be able to allow you to understand more. Google is your best tool. Basically you only need find methods to fix one problem at a time and you will naturally understand more when you resolve those issues one by one.

Okay, so this is sort of a knot that has formed in your psychology. You don't like it when you don't act naturally in front of others, and then when you judge yourself for this, you then think judging yourself for not being able to act naturally is also "wrong", so you judge yourself again for judging yourself. I've had one of these before. The issue here is that your natural behavior doesn't seem natural to you, but you don't really have the chance to even change your natural behavior because of the multi-layer judgements. What you want on the surface, according to my limited understanding, is that you want to act like someone who is very authentic. But what you really want inside is to not have to endure the very bad feelings of being judged. One side of you desperately wants to find a way to act naturally while the other side wants to prevent yourself from being judged. It's really a situation where you're stuck. What you need to realize is that even if you are disfunctional in some way, that is still authentic. It's okay to be relatively not confident, not smart, not outstanding. You don't have to act at the level you imagine you need to be at in order to be authentic. But then again even before allowing yourself to be your current self, there is the issue of these multiple layer judgements... Two directions you can do at the same time. @Waken's suggestion is very good, try to drop the need to be outstanding. Your true thoughts and natural self are being held back because deep down you think they're not good enough to bring up. But if you're able to let yourself go and allow yourself to express the "low" thoughts that you are feeling, the result can be better than you expected. If you express what you truly feel, people will relate to that. Then again, like what @Nahm said, you need to be conscious of why you are judging yourself. Where are the judgements coming from exactly, why are you judging yourself in this way. I think you understand that perfectionism is toxic, so trying to be perfect never works and so that shouldn't be the goal. You'll need to find time when you're by yourself to contemplate on this part. And don't think of this question logically, think of it emotionally. Dig into your emotions and feel the origin of the judgements/thoughts. Once you're able to find where these thoughts came from, you might be able to see how dumb these thoughts of judgement are and be able to drop them.

Although you may not be so different from your peers, it is the feeling that you're not on the same level as them that is limiting you. And we should respect your feelings. So if you think you're not on the same level as them, okay, then let us assume you're not on the same level as your peers for the moment. Even though that doesn't really matter In the present moment when you are with your peers, it seems that you quickly try analyze the situation, things like "let's see if I'm good enough as my peers", "how am I not good enough as they are", "in what ways are they doing better than I am", "how am I going to fit in", etc. When you are in this mode of thinking, you create an atmosphere of doubt, fear, and judgement which would be sensed by your peers and friends. Although it is basically just you judging yourself, this atmosphere would likely push people away from you, because no one likes the kind of judgement you're putting on yourself. Normally, most people are not as sensitive as you are in this kind of way, and no one likes to over analyze things. If everyone had to analyze and see if they were good enough among their peers, then no one would be good enough and everyone would be just like you. And even if the people with you didn't sense your analyzing emotion, they would still have difficulty interacting with you when you're doing this, and thus they might just get bored with you and leave. So it's mostly not that you have a problem, but that you think you have "many problems" that is causing this. If you are able to be okay with yourself, then everyone would be totally okay with you and want to hang out with you. The problem is, it is hard to be the real you. And this is everyone's problem. Life is not about being good enough. I believe happiness is way more important than being "great", whatever that means. And to be happy, you need to be your normal self in front of others. So when you are with your peers and friends, kick all the judgement to the side and just simply be with them. Let your natural emotions flow through. Be your very ordinary self. If you want to analyze the situation you can do all that afterwards. Simply feel and observe who you are, and also who your peers are. Don't judge anything. Once you are able to just be yourself without needing to achieve anything, you can see that you're as light as a feather and happiness is just at your finger tips.

Everything done consciously can be fruitful and produce desirable results.

Ahhh, but whether or not we really know the actual reality of the conservatives could use some more study, observation, insight, and understanding, right? It is easy to just demonize them, but they're just ordinary people like you and me. Only the background and environment where they grew up is different.

This questions seems to be a bit off from the previous question being discussed. But are you talking about the politicians or the American people? I think the US would seem to be more and more politically divided due to the kind of topics that is being thrown about whether in the media or on the Internet. However, are Americans more divided than ever now? I don't think so, the division was always there and hasn't changed much. Only the talking points the politicians are using have become more and more extreme. This doesn't mean the politicians' view has changed either, they're only doing this to grab more attention.

No they do not. Mainstream media is cherry-picking the "racism" in conservatives for political gain. I think that is very obvious if you look at CNN or MSNBC. I wouldn't say they don't care about the real issues, but they are definitely doing this in a way for build a narrative that overall supports the democratic party.

I don't think this is a good idea. Racist acts and tendencies cannot be fixed by enforcing some sort of rule or law on people. Putting it simply, you can't force a person to be non-racist. Fixing racist tendencies in a person requires him to go deep into his own psychology to find root causes of those thoughts/beliefs/actions. Putting cameras and surveillance everywhere would catch a few serious racist assaults, but would catch a ton of unconscious small racist acts. These small racist acts on camera could bring about a bunch of unnecessary court filings and more friction between different groups. These minority groups might also take advantage of these opportunities to lash out in some way. Racism can only be resolved through love and understanding. Using the enforcement of law method would eventually stir more hatred and misunderstanding.

Great, another example of how unconsciousness causes destruction in lives. How to get out? Find the most simplest way for the victim to understand his/her situation, shed light and allow them to see. Not easy though.

Great post! Should have read your post first before posting.

Basically, I agree with you. The OCD thought is not only hard to process, but the imagination of the thought is sometimes really horrific. People very easily project these deep emotions onto external things and start pursuing directions that don't really work. However, if you really want to fix OCD. You will need be able to clarify and process the root cause of your OCD issue. Starting with finding the suitable therapist for yourself might be a good idea. The issue itself is sometimes not as a big of a monster as it seems to be. It might be simply something that you don't realize about yourself. Your OCD related emotions are protecting yourself from this thing about yourself, and therefore it is being your friend and trying to help you. After you've clarified the root cause, which is not easy, I believe a method can be found on resolving the issue and not needing your emotions to react in that way anymore.

Hey guys, I really liked the Seaspiracy film, but I don't think the narrator Ali in the film is suggesting us to go vegan. He is only trying to think of alternative ways to combat the current sea situations. I think the real issue is how the current industrial fishing methods are destroying the habitat in the ocean. If the big corps don't evolve their fishing methods, there's no real solution to the main problem then. Going vegan wouldn't necessarily resolve the problem. If everyone on Earth just went vegan without thinking now, I bet there would be potential for a new film Veganspiracy 5 ~ 10 years from now.

I don't think anyone other than Leo himself can know for sure. But you shouldn't really care about whether Leo is blissful or not. After all, Leo is just an ordinary person like you and me. The way more important thing is that you can become more enlightened and actualize you life. You have the potential to be way more better than Leo's current state.

If a person is really conscious, I don't think he would mind whether being rich or poor. However, teaching someone from the slums to live consciously is extremely hard! The reason that person probably lives in the slums in itself might be a result of the various limitations in his beliefs, habits and mindset. You would have to talk with that person for long periods of time to see what his self-limiting beliefs are and then think of a way to help train him to get out of that situation. It's already hard enough to improve ourselves sometimes. Changing someone else's life? Near impossible. Why are you interested in this question though?

It applies to everyone.

I'm also very interested to know if anyone changed their environment during their teens because they were in this dead end situation, and eventually found their true passion. Coming from an Asian family, I was basically forced to either become a doctor or lawyer during my teens which were totally not suitable jobs for me. I was this very mediocre Asian, which in my parents' eyes was a huge problem. And unfortunately I didn't know better, so I eventually banged my head against the wall enough times to pull myself into college, get a degree, and become a software engineer. My current job pays very well, and so I do have the financial freedom that I sort of enjoy today. But during my student years, I can tell you I was NOT happy. I also consider my current job to be a mediocre one, a job I do just to get paid. I don't have a lot of friends, and most of the time I just keep to myself. I think the idea of doing what I should be doing instead of what I truly want to do over the years has eroded my ability to enjoy life and just be myself. It might have also limited my social abilities, as I had certain ideologies and false narratives growing up, and so I couldn't relate to people as a normal person could. Thankfully I found Leo and identified a lot of the issues that I had. I hope you find a way out, could you share what your dream is?

In Leo's videos, I remembered he said that the process of understanding our emotions is sort of like peeling an onion. At first, there are some very deep emotions that we have which we may not fully understand. We can allow these types of emotions to flow out freely and allow ourselves to feel the emotion fully, even when the emotion is really negative. This frees us from the judgement and suffering within when we try very hard to fight these negative emotions, because our ego doesn't like itself to identify with these negative emotions. During the process of understanding our emotions, we gradually get more and more conscious of why we have certain negative thoughts, and which internal beliefs they stem from within us. When we're able to gradually identify these internal beliefs that are producing emotions, we get the choice to see if we want to change the rules of the filter. This is usually the time we do training work to change and get a new set of filter to produce a healthier belief system.

Unfortunately China needs them. There are some provinces within China that wants to defect from China. So if Taiwan is allowed to declare independence, many more provinces and minority groups will see this as a possible way forward. There are other reasons China needs Taiwan, as the sea surrounding Taiwan controls a very strategic trade route in Asia which Korea and Japan heavily relies on. Taiwan is also mountainous and contains several natural sea ports, which is an excellent place to load up on military forces to counter forces from the Pacific (namely the US), sort of like a huge aircraft carrier. China doesn't give a shit about the people of Taiwan, they will burn Taiwan down to ashes if they have to control the island. China is currently sort of using the hundred years of humiliation where Taiwan was stolen by the Japanese before being taken over by the previous very corrupt government of China, which the communists eventually overthrew, to convince their people that regaining Taiwan is one of the keys to end the humiliation the Chinese suffered between the 19th and early 20th Century. And unfortunately this narrative is working quite well within China.

Hi Farnaby, I agree with your observation! Sometimes our ego wants to preserve a certain form of self-image. In this process, the ego tells the self that it has to do this or fix that, and is sort of placing a judgement on the self. Under these judgements, the self is not able to express its true emotion and is therefore hurting itself in some way by not fully accepting itself. We all need to just be what we are, instead of forcing ourselves to get out of a current state that we're in which we very much do not like.

There's no point debating here, Bobby's definition of God is different from Leo's.