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I am aware of this, however the ".org" is not just what the site happens to ends in, it's a big part of the branding. The logo is not just "Actualized", it's Actualized.org. Enlightenment isn't for anyone. It's not a thing that's for some and not others it's prior to all dualities, people, inclusion or exclusion, separation, etc. I highly, highly disagree about the "healthy way." Any woman pointing this out is shut up with some comment along the lines of "don't listen to women". Any man pointing this out is belittled for being "not man enough", or fill in the ________. I'm not saying there aren't some great lessons, intelligence and wisdom being taught here. But the attitude has taken a turn for the worst and kept going on that trajectory for over 3 years are so. Also to be kind of nit picky here, (but also it's important I think), you can't really say SOMEONE taught YOU to take back your authority without throwing away your authority. You realize you never gave it away in the first place.

I need to be humble? I need to be humble? Have you read anything Leo writes on here? "Rupert Spira isn't awake"? "There still other people for Rupert Spira?" Have you seen any of Leo's videos? Read anything he writes here? But I need to be humble?

If you have a problem with what I'm saying, I'd suggest contacting me via PM considering that we know each other quite well. However, do please, tell me how I'm doing the same thing. No longer banning or demeaning other teachers, presenting yourself as the authority on spiritual matters. No longer presenting the website as an organization when it is one person's business. No longer presenting enlightenment as a grand and special, exclusive attainment. No longer teaching pick up and manipulation of women, spiritual students are manipulated into "seduction" of spiritual authority in the same way.

@Thought Art Leo is in the business of selling information and knowledge, which he does by trying to make people feel like they are inept idiots in need of it. It's the same pattern again and again. What's funny is that enlightenment is NOT knowledge. Once misunderstanding is seen to be misunderstanding, it's no longer misunderstanding. There is no special knowledge to be obtained, bought or sold. You can sell someone information about how to fix something, but you can't sell them information on how to fix what isn't broken. Or maybe you CAN but it won't result in any improvement.

Don't go by the dictionary and accept commonly used definition, watch my video on cults where I educate MY community about what a cult is. Uhmm.... Uhmmm... Uhmmm... Red flag much?

Why is elementary and high school not expensive for families? Because society values education. Why do people benefit from therapy? Because we spend our lives hiding who we really are, because we thought we were something we actually aren't. We repress the love that we really are, thinking that we are bad, wrong, inept, thinking we have become great to prove our worth, or thinking such things about others, thinking we can't trust others, can't open up to others. We don't understand that we are unconditional love and anything that feels like less than that is a thought that can be let go of. Talk therapy is letting go of thoughts that never "fit" with the love that we really are. When someone holds space for you to be as you are, to speak what you really mean it can be immensely powerful. And we could learn honestly relate with each other and openly accept one another to the point where those special circumstances aren't needed. People often repress things, then shame themselves, which is the repression, and when they stop doing this magic happens. Walls fall. When you see that what is utterly unacceptable about yourself is perfectly accepted, all illusions or borders disappear. Instead of this utter liberation and freedom to love and nothing else, enlightenment is often talked about here like a special attainment. It feels like being back in 5th grade where we are building up walls based around out parents and peer's misunderstandings, trying to make them fit, repressing emotions and cutting ourselves off from our own love, creativity and authenticity. If you don't have cool enough shoes (5meo) or speak the way others speak and like what others like you are "out" or unworthy. Spiritual cliques are called cults. And if it's centered around one person, that is the definition of a cult. People seek awakening in the hopes that they will feel better in the having of it, when they find that is is Love/feeling all along and they were never separate from it, and there is no one even there to awaken to that there is no one there, the entire chase is a funny misunderstanding. A misunderstanding once seen to be a misunderstanding, is Understanding. That's all "you" get. Nothing. You get nothing. When one tries to manipulate enlightenment or "God realization" into being it feels awful. If one is repressing their authentic being as Love by habit since 5th grade and is seeing enlightenment through the lens of special attainment like the shoes, it's gonna be a miserable fucking ride. Why? Cause what they are seeking is the very feeling that is guiding them, that IS the feeling that they are running from. Enlightenment is not scary, dangerous, difficult, any of that. It's not only for a select few. It's not for the cool kids. When people believe that it IS that, they repress. It's simple. Express, don't repress. You can only let go of all the shit you are NOT to "realize" what you really are. It's as simple as what they taught us on Barney as kids. All the dumb cliches are right on. Love, be a fucking dork, be who you are and love yourself anyway. Don't try to secure a false self. It's a THOUGHT, A goddamn thought! Dance like no one is watching. We are here to have a wild, fucking BLAST. Beauty is uncaused. We are beautiful beyond words. Psychotherapy is a good start on it all, doesn't matter how you do it though. Psychedelics often allow people to do the same. Same idea. Express, let go.

@Leo Gura It doesn’t have to be expensive. The whole reason it IS expensive is because society as a whole undervalues it and there is shame around it. I'm naught a girl.

? Great. Maybe a video or trip report would encourage others here who would benefit to see the worth of talking to someone too. Cute? Why the belittling? "Don't play games, don't be cute, you aren't God realized, etc." I just want to have an honest conversation.

@Leo Gura I didn't say that you banned him for advocating therapy, I said you belittled him for it. Yes affordability is a hurtle for many. However, it seems we are going further in the direction of elitism here, not towards solving that major issue in our society. God and love do not "exist", "exist (v.) c. 1600, from French exister (17c.), from Latin existere/exsistere "to step out, stand forth, emerge, appear; exist, be" (see existence). " in that they stand out from the fabric of reality as separate entities that could nor could not be realized. Language requires you either assert or deny, some teachings assert, some deny. I'm not sure why this is made into such a "thing".

It's how you FEEL that matters. Don't control your speech to sound positive when inwards you are resisting it. The thought is a secondary manifestation of feeling. That's why it seems that we create with our thoughts, but thoughts only seem to have power exactly because they are completely powerless. Go direct to the Source, go to feeling, listen to feeling and you need not worry. You do not CONTROL your thoughts, you observe your thoughts and use feeling as a guide for whether or not to follow or believe them. You can select a better feeling thought, only because selecting a better feeling thought is dropping a thought that feels bad. When we bulldoze over feeling we are manipulating and controlling to get a positive outcome, simply to avoid feeling. Feeling is the unconditional love that trumps the duality of positive or negative and needs not wait for an outcome. This is why you think you're being kind of OCD, you interpret this in a way that causes you to focus on a thought that "you" FEAR a negative outcome. This is just one more thought that feeling is telling you "Nope" to.

Negative emotions indicate that your interpretation of reality is false. Enlightenment is the realization YOU are not the entity you think you are. You are not a thought. So when one believes thoughts about themselves or reality as a whole and interprets this in a way that is limited it will result in negative emotion. Solipsism is the attempt of the mind to grasp or own enlightenment. It feels horrific to do this. It's like trying to grasp onto a burning flame to own it. Only letting go will suffice, and will also allow the flame the oxygen it needs to burn on its own. You cannot understand deeper, think more to get out. You are already out. You can let go of the thoughts that hurt, then relax, and allow true insight to surface. https://www.actualityofbeing.com/aligning-thought-with-feeling https://www.actualityofbeing.com/spheres

There was a teacher here who really encouraged psychotherapy for people on the path. He was belittled for it, (that's not how you awaken, etc) and then eventually asked to leave the forum. This was before the suicides. I think there have been a lot of red flags along the way and a fundamental complete misunderstanding of what mental illness IS in this community. When articles demonize someone for misunderstanding, they just usually cause people to buckle down that THEY KNOW the right way. Unfortunately the tone here perpetuates a lot of shame around psychotherapy, mental illness, expression, and healing in general which is not separate from awakening at all.

Maybe what you really want as a result from a course is what you already have, so free and accessible it is?

Look at your hand. Your fingers on your hand aren't even. If your fingers were even, there wouldn't be a middle, center one. Life isn't fair or even because it's way better than that, you ARE the middle. You are always the middle, dead center, like the pupil of your eye, observing things around you. When we feel jealousy we know what we want. It is very good to know what we want in life. But when we focus on others having it, and us NOT having it, it feels bad because you are the middle. I want to go to Hawaii. I've lived my entire life where there are long hard winters. I can A. feel like shit that I can't buy a plane ticket. OR B, I can sit down and envision a beach and feel amazing. This feels so good, I get up with this vision, and I paint it on canvas. Maybe I start selling my paintings. Maybe it pays for a trip to Hawaii. You are creative energy. When you feel good, you are creating, when you feel bad you are working against what you want, and therefore, what you want to create. Align with your desires. Give all other thoughts of "I can't have _______" the middle finger.

I was also looking to cut out rice, and recently did the 3 6 9 cleanse from Medical Medium's Cleanse to Heal. Total gamechanger. I have since repeated it and have transformed my whole diet and learned so much. Highly recommend it. It is A LOT to learn so go slow. I started with just the morning celery juice over a year ago and felt wonderful on it.

Jealousy is wrongly demonized and avoided. Bring in curiosity when it arises, and directly feel the sensations in the body. The gift in jealousy is that we see clearly what we want, and it is always very helpful to know what we want, it's the very direction we seek. However when we make people bad or wrong for "making us" feel that way for having something we don't, we don't feel good. If we would listen to feeling directly, we would appreciate the gift jealousy is in showing to us what is is we want from life. By the way, such a sweet thing you did for her, really. ❤ It's likely that he represents for her some kind of dream or desire for authenticity, expression, living life fully, and she equates this with attraction because this is how we normally think of attraction. Again just like when we don't make jealousy about what the other person has that we don't, when we no longer make attraction about what someone else has that we don't, we can understand it more clearly. Hope you have a blast, it should be an energizing, amazing experience for you both.

Core philosophies? The moth (you) ARE the devil and the moth (the self) can burn up in the flame as it realizes it was only ever the flame the whole time. In forgiveness there is no one to forgive, either to DO it or to receive it. In life intelligent action such as pressing charges, or maintaining distance, or focusing on what is wanted instead of what is not wanted are still wise. It's the end of the subtle emotional suffering that is the end of the illusory you. The illusory you is marked by suffering, that suffering is guidance from Love telling you that you are thinking yourself to be a part from it. There is no "you" to have karma that needs burning through. A Desire is whole Love within itself, it is also guidance and direction but we often coopt desire and suffer for it, this is not true whole Desire. For example, if I sit here and dream of a tropical beach and enjoy the dream, that desire is whole. But if I think a lot about how I don't have money for plane tickets I'm suffering.

@Preety_India Plans are made and remembered only now. You get to have your cake and eat it too.

Time is a third thought about the distance between two thoughts arising... now. HA! It really is hilarious. Which is why time flies when you're having a good time, you aren't thinking about time at all.

@Evoke Rupert's. Which feels and aligns with what you "know" love to be? Not what you think is "right"? How do "you" "know" love anyway? It's easy. It's SO easy and available, it's overlooked. In love there is no self and no other. Direct experience is neither of those things, direct, nor experience. All you have is now. And the knife's edge of perfect now is no thing and no one to own it. There are seemingly some who skillfully use it like a sword to cut through what's false. Rupert is one of the best in my experience.

Common sense is so fucking radical. No one can say they attained the brilliance of it, without cutting themselves off from the constant beaming flow of the Light. Love Rupert. Common. For all. "God" would settle for no less. And no more, because all "more" would all be included in itSelf. Sense. Felt, perceived, intelligence. Same as love. Love is so perfectly brilliant, it knows no thing. In its brilliant light there are no borders.

There isn't really an inner or an outer. Do you hear "outside" sounds inside your ear? Inside your mind? Do you hear in the past or the future? Do you hear? So if you're asking about a you, or a hearer or a bubble, there just aren't any borders to ever, ever form that bubble as separate. Repeat for all other senses. Now. Do you ever see, touch, hear, smell, fell outside of now? Outside of now, are seeing, touching, hearing, smelling, feeling separate from each other, as if they were separate senses? Look at your hand. Is it felt? Is it seen? Close your eyes. Does your hand exist outside of the NOW sensation of it? What is it that can assert that it exists outside of the direct sensation? What is it that can say "my"?

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It appears to be an organization, because of how Leo built it. Who does this forum actually promote? ? If people who dedicate much of thier time here promote thier own endeavors that only makes the whole place richer. How many people here share thier art, music or promote YouTube channels? Even if it's just for encouragement?

Nahms sessions are an incredible value. My massage therapist is a friend I met through a friend, what should I stop paying her? Friends buy from friends.