mandyjw

God would never do that to you because instantly getting money is one of the greatest curses you can achieve. Google the research on happiness and winning the lottery. There are many other reasons than that though including your view of the world and yourself. Have you read Eckhart Tolle's The Power Of Now? It's not law of attraction. But it's better.

@tsuki You broke me.

@tsuki You're right, you're right. I don't want you to be right, but I want you to be right. I forgot myself and uncovered this amazing sense of wonder. I want other people to know it, so so much. Does it exist, just for me? Can that be right?

I'm not sure. The feeling arises unabided. There are times I feel like I should be compassionate, but those are usually the times I fail to be compassionate and am selfish. I resonate with Ralston's words but there's a deeper connection in the interaction that is missing. How can we call someone into our experience who is missing something and there not be a part of us that is also missing that? Leo has something Ralston does not and vice versa. I have something you do not and vice versa. Together it makes the whole. How can it be otherwise? But I see what you mean. I'm focusing on what's missing. And my compassion is just pure love but with the addition of a thought or feeling that something is missing. I fail to see clearly. Sigh, good God, when will these realizations stop?

You're very smart but you believe that you are dumb and even have the user name Dodo and so you created your own reality. How do you feel about the law of attraction?

@David Hammond I agree. There are people who have been told that they are intelligent all their life or who have thought of their intelligence as the only positive thing about them so they develop a big sense of self around it. Then when their thoughts make them suffer it's a huge hurdle for them to let go of thought because their self is so wrapped up in being a person who is really good at thinking. It's takes a massive wave of suffering to break them. That was probably the case with Eckhart Tolle and I know it's the case with a lot of people I know personally

Can intelligence be seen as a hindrance?

@tsuki You're for real aren't you? I've been trying to figure you out for days now and I'm pretty sure of that but there are a few things I still can't reconcile. I should never have contributed to this thread in order to criticize Leo. I did it out of fear that others would suffer because of him. When I watch that video I just feel intense compassion for Leo. And it feels like Peter should be showing him compassion. But I'm projecting on Peter Ralston.

@bejapuskas helping myself is helping everyone because we are one. I don't have to do one or the other first, they have to simultaneous.

Too much attention on nothing and not enough on the something you'd never been able to see before. It's a bitch of a thing to balance. The best practice I can suggest is spend time in nature. She always has the perfect balance. Try to notice the something in nature without labeling too much.

This is beautiful.

I mean the mind's capacity to think and hold ideas. I've noticed that many intelligent people are very identified with their mind and so they are prone to mind caused suffering so out of necessity they seek this work. But they seek it through their intelligence, which causes lots of misconceptions. I do believe that a lot of people have stumbled across it accidentally and they don't know what they know and so they can't explain it to other people. If you find or seek one out it can be very enlightening.

I agree with what Peter Ralston says but I don't like how he says it. Something seems off.

@tsuki You give me clarity. I want a world with less suffering. But I know even that's a trap if I add future to it.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_of_the_instrument

What do you love doing? What lights you up? I wouldn't focus so much on what you don't want, or relationships at all if you can't help but feel negativity in that area. There's SO much in life outside those areas. Try to bring in more focus and clarity in your life outside of the relationship realm. Do you feel like you have to have something to look forward to to be happy? This books helped me in so many areas in life. https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+power+of+now&qid=1553991471&s=gateway&sr=8-1 There's something described in the book called the pain body and I feel like when it comes to having kids and relationships women are really susceptible to having this strange kind of negative energy to work through in those areas. I think that might be what you have going on.

No, I do mean things like sandwiches, or a house, or an experience, etc. Do you experience highs and lows? I unconsciously moralized wanting things for a long time. I thought I shouldn't have desires and the result was falling into nihilism. So I let myself want things and came alive again. But then I realized that I didn't really want anything, not really, I just wanted to feel alive. In the end it was just disconnection from the present moment. But what stuck with me was being highly in tune with my intuition and impulses. And some of those definitely feel like desires. I try to integrate them with conscious planning and thinking, and that's something I'm learning. It's hard to hold a balance, or stay present. It's easy to let them run amok in my head and cause suffering as true desires with lots of expectation and thoughts of future do. It's also easier to dismiss them because part of me still feels that desires are wrong or dangerous. On your last point, wow, I've never thought of it that way before.

What does it feel like when you feel like something is missing? Are you thinking of a particular thing, or is it a general feeling of nothing in particular, or both? Do you ever have impulses to do things, visions of things flash through your head uninvited or find intense joy/intrigue in things most people find insignificant?

@Shin

Are you completely and totally ok with that, or do you want something more? Is going through life blindly rewarding? Do you ever feel like something is missing? Do you let yourself want more or do you try not to have wants?

@Paul92 This work will teach you how to be ok with any kind of uncertainty. OCD is a blessing in disguise. I had pretty severe OCD for a year or two as a kid and still have those tendencies so I know exactly how that feels. If you have those tendencies the mind creates so much suffering that you have a lot of motivation and reminders to move beyond it quite quickly. I really recommend this book. It really shows you how to move beyond concepts and be at peace in the moment. https://www.amazon.com/Power-Now-Guide-Spiritual-Enlightenment/dp/1577314808/ref=sr_1_2?keywords=the+power+of+now&qid=1553977338&s=gateway&sr=8-2

@Shin It takes me around 24 hours to have mature reactions to things.

I can do better but I don't want to. You want me to be somebody. Nobody. But I can be anybody that I want to be. Come play with me. Who are you?

So do you. You just won't admit it. tsuki is too afraid to climb the tree. Non-duality is what holds you up. You trust in non-duality while you enjoy the world of duality. That's the whole point. If it wasn't the point you'd already be a yogi in a cave and we wouldn't be talking to you. The world of form wants something from you. Are you fulfilled? Are you fulfilled when you are thinking about it?

I like to be. I also like to chatter.