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I think you didnt understand my question. I think this idea of interfering and trying to control someone elses adult decisions just seems comical. I know only someone in my social circle where the parents try to interfere with their dating decitions and it just creates so much suffering and is such a clumsy way to try controlling reality haha. Its like life is this komplex and delicate thing and you try to manipulate it with heavy tools that make more harm than good. What if you dont like the dude/girl but your daughter is deeply in love? Do you really think it is that simple haha. What do you do if you daughter just does what she wants even if you dont like it? And btw if you raise your kid in a healthy way you wouldnt need to worry about this stuff. Btw, would you do the same if you had a son? If no, why not?

What if she ignores your „say“ haha. What are you gonna do?

Hey my dad is not nessecarely a conservative but he also has limited and closemindet perspectives. It was very difficult for me the since I was a kid because my father comes very fast to his emotional limits and its very rare that I feel I have a connection with him that is not superfical. The last years I tried to build a deeper connection but it just hurt me. I now realize that my father has this limits for a reason and its not personal. My approach would be that you accept the limits of your father, dont take it personal and meet him at this level. If you wish or expect that he behaves different than who he is, you just will be disappointed(For example with my father. He rarely gives recognition for something im proud of and very fast turns it and makes it about himeself. Ist like I want to tell him about somethin, after 2 minutes of beginning, he interuptes and makes it the next 20 min about himeself… as an example). I now just dont expect much intimacy or connection with him and enjoy our superfishal connections and if I dont want to talk with him I just leave and since then I feel more love for him because everyone has his/her limits, and his are just very fast found. Like with a pet. You know that a pet has limits. you would be forever frustrated with that pet if you expect it to talk… but when you accept the pet with its limits(that it cannot talk) you love the pet how he is.

Yes I was thinking the same. For me it seems that Leos advices and views of dating comes from a stage orange(and lower) lense. While there ofc seems to be some some truth to what Leo says I think dating can also be approached from a more present and consiouss perspective that integrates the survival aspects (but is not limited to that) but also the aspects where realness and connection also play an important role. (I also experimented with pickup and my Insight was that there are more conscious approaches to dating. Of course if you only want to get a lot if laid, then yes, pickup is for you but there seem to be more sustainable and ways with more Integrity to approach dating)

Easy. Honestly, everywhere you are and no matter if its about dating or making friends. Just be present and do what you anyways would do. If you feel attached to the person or worry about that you could make a mistake, its okay, but dont take it to seriously and dont involve with that or try to push it away. Be just normal yourself, you dont need to proof someting to no one. From there you will see if you two vibe, if not, its okay, have the standards for yourself that you only want closer contact to people whit the same wavelength because thats the only thing that is sustainable… if yes and you two have a good vibe, great, just ask her if she would like to do something togheter sometime or suggest something. Thats it, relax.. most importantly enjoy yourself..really! Dont overcomplicate it.

Posts like this show me how much different the american bubble is than the european. Almost nobody in Europe would say something like this because it doesnt is that easy.

2 Main Lessons -I deserve unconditional Selflove. There is not one aspect of me, not one thing I could do that would make me undeserving of Selflove and selfacceptance. -It is not about being confident or charismatic. It is about being real. I am learning to own and embrace my current experience instead of clinging to ideas how I should be and trying to manipulate reality to move in the direction of these Ideas.

Of course, it has, lol. If you misunderstand an important topic, you will vote for someone who also misunderstands this topic. If you understand an important topic, you will vote for someone who also understands this topic. If you don't worry about integrity, you won't have a problem for voting someone who lacks this characteristic. If you value it, on the other hand because you understand it is important, you will be probably more selective for who gets your vote. Does that make sense for you? You vote for people and parties who reflect your values and priorities. It is btw no coincidence that if you look at graphs of the most conscious countries (like wester Europe and the Scandinavian countries.) The support of trump is very narrow, in Denmark it is for example at 4%. And no, I don't believe blindly what Leo tells. But I don't care what Trump tells on some podcasts. What I care about is what he has done, does and how he presents himself, and that that should be more than enough to figure out why he shouldn't even be near a position of power.

Don't listen to what others say. Just buy these shoes and try it out at home how it feels to wear them with your clothes. When you see you don't like them, give them back and next time you know. You will only really know if it is a good fit after YOU tried it.

General fashion advice. Just play with it and wear what you want. With time and experimentation, you can trust that you will figure out what works for you. You can wear what others may consider as ugly or taboos but honestly as long as you own it and you feel good in it will look good. Trust me. The best style is your own style!

Its not about that. It just seems disconnected from the current political reality in america and the issues that need to be fixed before you even could consider that politics deal with that.

https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/bernie-sanders-kamala-harris-vote-israel-gaza-rcna177851

bruh

just compare the policy implemented in the era of the trump administration and the policy implemented in bidens administration. I think that is enough to know who cares more for the country... even with leaving out the toxic and embarassing behaviour of maga

If you are interested in understanding that, I recommend you the book "The Evolution of Desire" from David M. Buss. In very short, because it gives cues to reproductive value.

I did for some years vipassana and also visited 3 retreats in the last years, had a daily practise but now changed my practise to TWIM (tranquil wisdom insight meditation). In TWIM the meditation object is Metta and the three main difference from vipassana is first, you don't "focus" on the meditation object but are just being aware of it (because focusing creates tension and craving simultaneously you are also aware of everything else that is present. With time you will notice that you mind wrapps from alone around the Meditation object because it is pleasant. Secondly, a big part of TWIM is the relaxation of the body. So every time you get lost in distraction, you release the attention from it but because there is still tension in the body, you also relax your body proactive. Third, you smile during the whole session, sounds silly but is actually an important part of the meditation. Tis meditation is basically a tool for going trough all the Jhanas until Nibbana. I myself only visited one TWIM retreat and have a daily practise of 40 minutes since 4 months so not that much experience but it seems like a pretty solid technique. Does someone have experience with TWIM? And if yes, how was it for you?

the entitelment.... so you are the one who decides what is a good reason for not replying? stop playing the victim and look what you can do different...

Hello Im thinking about changing my dating strategy. The last year I did a bit of pickup which peaked this february where I was doing it more intensily. in that month I had dates with around 8-9 girls and had sex with 2. after that, i stopped completely. I talked with some people about it and came to the conclusion that I want it to be more naturally and not put that much effort into it. So that I dont walk around with the goal(I had always a goal, for example: today im gonna approach 3 girls) of approaching anymore (because its kinda unatural and takes emotional energy) but just approach when it feels naturally and just from my lifestyle. The thing is, at the moment it kinda doesnt work and im asking myself why. I would say im attractive, i have decent social skills, I met a lot of people the last months, the past 2 years I had a sales job where I approached around 300-600 people daily(and was pretty good at it. I stopped it because I think old school sales where you try to convince someone to buy something is against my values and is a performance job whitch reinforces toxic patterns). Even if my pickup-time was fun and I did it with integrity… Im hesitant to go down that road again… I talked with someone who has a lot of experience in this field and this person also meant that my conclusion was right, after having done pickup fore some time and after having some success, one should leave pickup because you start to loose your capacity for being a normal person with girls and see girls more and more as sexual opportunities instead of letting go and be open to whatewher happens with the human in front if you. i should just being myself, pursue my other goals (creative stuff, spirituality, traveling a lot, life-purpose, dancing, and so on… and ask girls out who i meet…(for some reason, everytime I meet someone kinda attractive, I have an most of the time an excuse for not going further with things.) pickup seem superficial and i dont know if it is sustainable after some point (I can approach decent, I had good dates, I can be direct) I can do all that in the frame of doing pickup but when im just living my life without bothering about pickup(almost everyone I meet that was for some time into pickup btw, didnt really seemed fulfilled) , everything in dating gets kinda more difficult when you just life your normal life and dont invest in pickup and its. But I don't want to do pickup anymore, I dont want to go about my life and have always pickup in the back of my mind, I feel like pickup is just an endless hamsterwheel/addiction and I wantet to stop doing it before I would reinforce the toxic aspects that arise from that approach to dating, I just want to be myself and take dating opportunities when they naturally arise, I want to trancend pickup and I thought after some time that would happen, that I would come to a point where I just am and everything can happen (friendship, dating, sex, relationship… you know, like most normal people) … because in the end its VERY simple… ->hello…nice conversation…youre fun, lets meet for coffe… oh“honest compliment“….kissing… and so on…<-it pretty simple and im kinda frustratet that it this big deal for me but at the moment im questoning myself and am mabey im to lazy, mabey I should do pickup again, or mabey look where I should put more effort. Or mabey, I really just need more time and just need to find someone i really click with idk I hope you can make some sense of what I said and have mabey some advice for me😅? (im btw 23) What i am missing?

Thanks for your answer

Im not shure what you mean with „aloot“.. but I think I understand what you mean… its about knowing thyself and be rooted in thyself… the striving is…everything I do, I do not because of programming and conditioning but because it is coming from my truth

Thanks for your answer. I think I talked to people who do authentic game and that is why i stopped walking around with the intention of picking up and am trying to just be open, without expectations and am more sincere and im trying with that. The problem I faced was that pickup gave like a frame whitch kinda made everything more easy( im someone who can make a systematic goal , for example today I approach 10 girls, and follow trought it. Now life is more complicatet and dynamic…more voulnerability and authenticity makes it more difficult because the rejection and everything else is much more personal and I just dont have the balls to ask someone I have a sincere connection with out or to own my desires…At the moment im working with somatic experience, to be more in touch with myself and act out from that place and am meditating more so my actions can be more independetn of my toughts and feelings… im also trying to be very honest in my friendships(practise with them) and gave up a comfortable sales job because I want to go away from performance based stuff. Im going regulary to meditations retreats, want to do regular Circling meetings, I do dancing and have a always clearer life purpose… so what do you mean with I should work on more? I would love to have some inputs on that:))

So you mean I should just see where it goes and just contuine with my life, trying to work on voulnerability, authenticity and honesty.. instead on focusing on approaching again? Because at the moment the struggle is kinda not being really shure what I want and not taking the chances that are given to me… I

Where warcriminals reenacting their crimes. very powerful, it reaches even a point where one of the perpetrator starts to reflect and question his behavior. a victim of this war crimes confronts the "criminals" with their crimes. "It's like Nazi-germany would have won and the perpetrators who are still on power today would be confronted by the stuff they did in the second world war". two very insightful documentaries. the war crimes happen in the context of the military regime in Indonesia who seizes power around 1966 and where they kill in a timeframe of 2 year 1 million people. If you say you love humans/humanity. Watch these 2 movies as an invitation to see if you can even accept and love this part of the human experience. It will give your love more depth.

Hey. Im registered for going to an enligtement intensive retreat. Im pretty scared, mainly because I imagine that every experience I had, every shameful thing I did , every fantacy, every neurotic tought and just everything else I dont want to be exposed haha and im not shure if Im ready for this. What is your experience with enlightenment intensives? And how do you deal with that fear? Is it justified?