eliasvelez

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  1. I think you didnt understand my question. I think this idea of interfering and trying to control someone elses adult decisions just seems comical. I know only someone in my social circle where the parents try to interfere with their dating decitions and it just creates so much suffering and is such a clumsy way to try controlling reality haha. Its like life is this komplex and delicate thing and you try to manipulate it with heavy tools that make more harm than good. What if you dont like the dude/girl but your daughter is deeply in love? Do you really think it is that simple haha. What do you do if you daughter just does what she wants even if you dont like it? And btw if you raise your kid in a healthy way you wouldnt need to worry about this stuff. Btw, would you do the same if you had a son? If no, why not?
  2. What if she ignores your „say“ haha. What are you gonna do?
  3. Hey my dad is not nessecarely a conservative but he also has limited and closemindet perspectives. It was very difficult for me the since I was a kid because my father comes very fast to his emotional limits and its very rare that I feel I have a connection with him that is not superfical. The last years I tried to build a deeper connection but it just hurt me. I now realize that my father has this limits for a reason and its not personal. My approach would be that you accept the limits of your father, dont take it personal and meet him at this level. If you wish or expect that he behaves different than who he is, you just will be disappointed(For example with my father. He rarely gives recognition for something im proud of and very fast turns it and makes it about himeself. Ist like I want to tell him about somethin, after 2 minutes of beginning, he interuptes and makes it the next 20 min about himeself… as an example). I now just dont expect much intimacy or connection with him and enjoy our superfishal connections and if I dont want to talk with him I just leave and since then I feel more love for him because everyone has his/her limits, and his are just very fast found. Like with a pet. You know that a pet has limits. you would be forever frustrated with that pet if you expect it to talk… but when you accept the pet with its limits(that it cannot talk) you love the pet how he is.
  4. Yes I was thinking the same. For me it seems that Leos advices and views of dating comes from a stage orange(and lower) lense. While there ofc seems to be some some truth to what Leo says I think dating can also be approached from a more present and consiouss perspective that integrates the survival aspects (but is not limited to that) but also the aspects where realness and connection also play an important role. (I also experimented with pickup and my Insight was that there are more conscious approaches to dating. Of course if you only want to get a lot if laid, then yes, pickup is for you but there seem to be more sustainable and ways with more Integrity to approach dating)
  5. Easy. Honestly, everywhere you are and no matter if its about dating or making friends. Just be present and do what you anyways would do. If you feel attached to the person or worry about that you could make a mistake, its okay, but dont take it to seriously and dont involve with that or try to push it away. Be just normal yourself, you dont need to proof someting to no one. From there you will see if you two vibe, if not, its okay, have the standards for yourself that you only want closer contact to people whit the same wavelength because thats the only thing that is sustainable… if yes and you two have a good vibe, great, just ask her if she would like to do something togheter sometime or suggest something. Thats it, relax.. most importantly enjoy yourself..really! Dont overcomplicate it.
  6. Posts like this show me how much different the american bubble is than the european. Almost nobody in Europe would say something like this because it doesnt is that easy.
  7. 2 Main Lessons -I deserve unconditional Selflove. There is not one aspect of me, not one thing I could do that would make me undeserving of Selflove and selfacceptance. -It is not about being confident or charismatic. It is about being real. I am learning to own and embrace my current experience instead of clinging to ideas how I should be and trying to manipulate reality to move in the direction of these Ideas.
  8. Of course, it has, lol. If you misunderstand an important topic, you will vote for someone who also misunderstands this topic. If you understand an important topic, you will vote for someone who also understands this topic. If you don't worry about integrity, you won't have a problem for voting someone who lacks this characteristic. If you value it, on the other hand because you understand it is important, you will be probably more selective for who gets your vote. Does that make sense for you? You vote for people and parties who reflect your values and priorities. It is btw no coincidence that if you look at graphs of the most conscious countries (like wester Europe and the Scandinavian countries.) The support of trump is very narrow, in Denmark it is for example at 4%. And no, I don't believe blindly what Leo tells. But I don't care what Trump tells on some podcasts. What I care about is what he has done, does and how he presents himself, and that that should be more than enough to figure out why he shouldn't even be near a position of power.
  9. Don't listen to what others say. Just buy these shoes and try it out at home how it feels to wear them with your clothes. When you see you don't like them, give them back and next time you know. You will only really know if it is a good fit after YOU tried it.
  10. General fashion advice. Just play with it and wear what you want. With time and experimentation, you can trust that you will figure out what works for you. You can wear what others may consider as ugly or taboos but honestly as long as you own it and you feel good in it will look good. Trust me. The best style is your own style!
  11. Its not about that. It just seems disconnected from the current political reality in america and the issues that need to be fixed before you even could consider that politics deal with that.
  12. https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/bernie-sanders-kamala-harris-vote-israel-gaza-rcna177851
  13. just compare the policy implemented in the era of the trump administration and the policy implemented in bidens administration. I think that is enough to know who cares more for the country... even with leaving out the toxic and embarassing behaviour of maga
  14. If you are interested in understanding that, I recommend you the book "The Evolution of Desire" from David M. Buss. In very short, because it gives cues to reproductive value.