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@aurum Yeah actually I thought about what you said for a while, and I would say that's pretty true in my experience as well. That's pretty spot on. In my experience, that's not "absolute", but its a good model for how I work, and perhaps a lot of men. You bring up some interesting qualities too, that I never explicitly told myself. I too care about intelligence and maturity, perhaps after personality, and physical attractiveness would be one of my tops. But at the same time physical attractiveness is pretty complex if you go into the weeds of it. Energetic polarity is interesting. I never heard that before. But I like the sound of that lol

Disclaimer: These are just my personal insights. I'm not trying to say I'm the right one here. I'm just sharing some interesting insights I had, from my own experience. I think these insights are pretty different from what I hear everywhere, so I'll share some of these insights. I'm a 28 year old single guy. I had relationships one after another for 8 years, and took a break for 2 years until now to focus more on myself. But past 4 or so months, I've just focused on socializing with all kinds of people because I've been anti-social with building my businesses aggressively. These days I live in New Jersey, and about 3 to 4 times per week after I finish my work, I get in the car and ask myself: Should I take a left on route 1 and go to New York, or should I take a right on route 1 and go to Pennsylvania? I either go to New York to get in the city kind of vibe, which is social. I go to Pennsylvania because it puts me in a state of being where I fall in love with life, connect to the mountains. (I usually drive to Poconos. It's a 5 hour round trip.) It's almost like 2 different personalities I have when I'm in New York or Pennsylvania. So today was Sunday. I reached Poconos at 11 pm. There's a town I always go to. It's usually always empty. I go there to just walk the streets alone at night, look through the windows of shops that are closed, which has unique lighted displays. I walk the train tracks there that go around the mountains. It's lit up though. It's really beautiful and feels somewhat spiritual. Usually when I come here, there's no one there because I usually arrive late night on a random day in this small town in Poconos. But today I saw this girl walking her dog. She's just in some home outfit, as she just stepped out of the house to walk her dog. I wouldn't have said anything, but she had a Corgi dog, and I never saw one before, so I struck up a conversation. I actually really was interested in that Corgi because its all over social media and I never saw one. We ended up talking once, and then went our separate ways, but crossed paths again and talked again even longer. But I really connected with her. She was pretty to me, but not like the prettiest girl by common social standards. Then as I was driving back home, on a 2 hour drive approximately, I was just reflecting a lot on attraction and connection. I think the last time I really connected with a girl was my ex girlfriend years ago. I've talked to many girls since then, but I guess I didn't connect. But today I actually felt a deeper connection with this girl. And on the drive here's some insights I came up with: 1) Looks is not everything to a guy (Insight for girls and guys), every guy is different, and every girl is different. I think on this forum and elsewhere online there's this notion going around that guys only care about looks. And of course we do. I care about a girl's looks too. But it's not like we're always going for the prettiest girl. I remember years ago I was talking to my friend and he's like "I mainly look at her a** and t*ts." I was actually shocked because I thought all guys look at the face. And now if you ask me, I care about her face, but much more her personality. If a girl is bubbly, and cute, then that's pretty attractive, in my opinion. But guys can fall in a trap of rating girls. I've done this before, and reducing someone to a rating is not only detrimental to girls, but I realized it cuts a lot of psychology off within me. (If that makes sense) As in, when you think in a reductionist way in general, you cut yourself off SO MANY possibilities. As a guy, why would you want to do that? You lose the discovery of what you really want in a girl, and I think that closes you off to a lot of possibilities, great experiences, etc. I realized that there's all kinds of people out there, guys and girls. Every human being is unique. They all have their own unique world of details. Staying on the surface in interacting with people, and disconnecting yourself from that world of details and distinctions is what is closing you off to what you really want, who you really are and seeing the world more accurately. 2) Environment plays such an interesting role in attraction This whole New York vs. Pennsylvania thing is kind of trippy to me. I'm trying to make sense of it, just to myself. I'm wondering why did I connect with this girl after a long time. I remember being in a club with my friend, just having fun and hitting up many girls. But I didn't really emotionally connect with those girls. It was a club environment. I don't think you're meant to be in a spiritual, loving state in a club, and therefore the attraction you feel in a club is very different. Whereas when I was in the mountains today at 11 pm, and already in a loving, curious state before even meeting her, that played a really interesting role in attraction. The attraction was a different kind of attraction. (Maybe there are different kinds of attraction.) As in, the environment played a key role in the connection, but also the state of being that I was in because of the environment, and possibly the state of being that she is in because of the environment, and state of being that she is in because of the state of being that I was in, and the environment around us being very calm, conducive to a deeper conversation about life. Also I realized, because I wasn't even trying to pick her up, and the whole interaction was organic and natural, made me feel connected to her more. But then I was thinking, if I met this Corgi girl in New York instead of Pennsylvania, I'm not so sure I would have connected with her in the same way. I don't know why but New York typically puts me in a more materialistic state of mind, emotion and being. I have a feeling it does that to others as well. Everyone is in a rush. I also think New York can be dehumanizing at times. I would see a homeless person in New York and often be numb to their struggle. But in this town in Pennsylvania, I saw a struggling old man once and did everything to help him, because of the environment. Of course genuine connection happens in New York as well, but I think the norm is surface-level interaction throughout. Of course going to New York is nice too in many ways, but its just different, not better nor worse. 3) Ultimately, all we want is intimacy and connection. I think when you really connect with someone, a lot of things that you cared about will fall out the window. Of course being strategic matters in selecting a partner. But it's so weird how the entire internet puts so much value on superficiality. And then when you actually connect with someone, you can see the superficiality for what it really is online.

@Emerald I think there's a lot going on in each of those environments. Like in the Ayahuasca thing, I'm just guessing, but you are all meeting with certain individual intentions, shared intentions, the belonging that those shared intentions create, and I guess just a space to be vulnerable which allows you to see those wounds more easily. With online spaces, maybe we perhaps take on some kind of false pixelated identity lol I don't know. Or maybe it's just the nature of the medium, which happens to be very limited in the distinctions we can access. I actually wish to understand this deeper too. I don't even know where to look to understand this deeper, because I don't see this discussed much. But that's a really interesting idea about creating spaces like that. There's a lot there: Taking existing environments that happen to foster limited connection, like the streets of New York, and making them more harmonious, as well as creating new spaces like that that humans haven't thought of before. It's good you still have faith in humanity lol to potentially reach a point where all environments could be like that. I'm not so sure we would ever reach that point, just from the history of wars since forever, or perhaps the human nature for war and strategy, and all that. Then again, war also does bring people together. Sept 11 brought people together, very oddly. I honestly wish to understand this more. I think about it every now and then, how good it would be if the world united more, came together, connected more.

I've been pretty passive for a long time, but I want to see if there's a way I can proactively help those suffering from these wars: Russians, Ukrainians, Israelis, Palestinians. (North Koreans too if possible) I'm hoping this thread doesn't become about taking sides. I'm aware one side usually suffers more than the other, but the citizens and military personnel from both end up suffering because of the government's actions. I'm hoping with this thread we create a maybe small to big hub of creative ideas to help these people, despite the obvious border challenges. Key action takeaways for me, you, our friends, etc. I'm aware there are a few big threads at the moment, on this forum, but I wanted to make this to separate from the talking and understanding to purely action steps. I'm currently learning about geo-politics on a regular basis, but a lot of it goes over my head. But I still get important insights every now and then, but is there a practical way to use that information besides improving the public conversation and influencing policymakers in the right direction? I also feel too naive in these areas to really contribute on political talk at the moment though. But what other action steps are there? Are there any organizations to donate or help in other ways, that we can trust? Any meet ups? Are there perhaps refugee centers in major cities in US? One problem I realized is that these countries have us blocked off politically, emotionally, culturally and physically so it feels pretty hard and limited to make actual impact. Also it can feel demoralizing when you feel you are just 1 person and you feel so limited in what you can do. I recall though that Richard Branson went to the streets to protest the Vietnam war back in the day, if I recall correctly. That always inspired me. Are there perhaps any major action steps that one can take that are safe? Any creative action steps? Any action steps that you took or a friend took that seemed to be pretty effective?

@Spiritual Warfare Haven't you heard that phrase: "If you see something, say something" lol I'm just kidding though. Bro honestly you can't know her, and her life from such a limited angle. Who knows what her relationship is like with her boyfriend, or what her life is like for that matter. I would say, just use this as a reminder to turn inwards and focus on becoming a better version of yourself.

@Sandhu I don't really have a good TLDR here, but I'm just realizing that its rare when my real authentic self comes out in an interaction, and when it does, it makes all the difference. We want depth and connection, and a big part of that involves being connected to life, spiritually, and emotionally.

@Buck Edwards Yeah that's interesting. People have a whole world of their own. It's hard to see that world unless you explore it, and then you really see whether you want to be a part of that world or not. But whether or not people have depth or not, I realized most of us interact on the surface. I guess its worthwhile to penetrate the surface and go deeper with people. "So don't just keep your heart open. Also keep your eyes open. Our eyes deceive us through our own biases and perceptions. Reality is far more intimate and intricate than what meets the eye." - This is very well said, in my opinion.

@Leo Gura I've been trying to articulate some questions for a while now, but some of them are kind of vague, but I'll give it a shot anyways: How is it possible that they can just get away with this? Doesn't the UN and/or other countries hold them accountable for war crimes? And from my understanding, they've been doing this for a long time before Oct 7th. Knowing about some very smart Israeli AI scientists, AI researchers, scientists, and economists, how can such smart people like Israeli officials be so deceived? Do they even know they are in the wrong? Like sometimes you can deceive yourself while still knowing on some level that you are in the wrong. How different is USA from Israel in terms of self-deception. I'm from the US and it hurts knowing how much USA has caused destruction around the world over the past few decades. Is the average American just as deceived and in denial about America's wrong-doings? Are we too much in the social system of USA to ever even see the true wrong-doings of USA (referring partly to your blog post about understanding social systems). Will Israel face justice for what they have done ever? I think it's just not fair what they are doing to Palestinians. And you say that they will face terror from some potential terrorists in the future, and I honestly don't wish hurt on anyone. But when I say justice, I mean will the officials go to jail? Will these Israeli officials be charged at all? Also I'm trying to articulate this, but I can't do justice here: What are the bigger implications of this self-deception? I know this is a vague question, but I'm trying to understand why this is so important to have made a whole thread on it with tons of videos? Is there any larger implications of what this self-deception of Israel will lead to in the future, or what it's causing now besides this war? What does it generally mean, this self-deception? You don't have to answer all these questions of course. I think I asked too much here. I'm just curious on your overall thoughts here.

For anyone in Florida who can help me with this, my family has been considering moving to Orlando .. given these weather conditions now and in the past .. is it safe or worth it?

@Raze I'll do some research then, maybe there are other factors to confirm besides verification. Idk how much I trust these large charities though, but that's something I believe worth researching too.

@Raze Wow I think this may be exactly what I'm looking for. From my understanding, from the link you shared, this goes directly to those in need in these places? But how do you verify that campaigns like these are really legit? Isn't anyone able to just make a campaign like this with text and images?

@zazen but what is a good flow of that money, to where exactly are you referring? I agree though, I think the flow of money is a key avenue here for influence.

@PurpleTree Honestly I didn't even think about that, but now that makes a lot of sense. There's a lot of people from Ukraine looking for freelance work online. But a lot of what you are saying is being in that area. I go to Poland every now and then, and I can see these ideas being effective there for Ukrainian refugees. Nice ideas though.

@Alex4 I honestly know very little about our country politics. But honestly I should get into that. I know a lot more about geo-politics. But even then, are you suggesting that helps with effective policymaking?

@Lyubov Lol my mom said that when I brought up this idea to her. I thought about it for a while, and I realized what matters is for me to be filling my plate up in a gradual process. As long as I'm on the right path, I can make more time now for others mentally and emotionally.

yeah same, I didn't know he wasn't sure we liked it either lol @Leo Gura I end up reading it 3 to 5 times because there's a lot of nuance, depth, and angles. Text-based ones are very valuable.

@Leo Gura Yeah I see your point there. There are trade-offs from endlessly pursuing a solution. I recall this one person who spent decades, I believe, trying to decipher this Egyptian thing. He did it at the end after a long while, but he did sacrifice on a lot else.

Ironically, AI right now is not up to date properly at all with the latest developments in AI. For that you'd have to go watch latest videos and news and get newsletters and stuff. Even some books have. But if you're talking about just health solutions in general, I have used AI for that and have gotten a lot of benefit out of it. It's important to have nuanced conversations though.

@Leo Gura to say either of those "doesn't work" means you tried every solution out there, which is not possible. Doesn't increasing requisite variety apply here? Being more nuanced than the problem itself? I for example never thought tinnitus was curable from my research, until you found a solution. I also quit this business 5 years ago because I thought there was no solution to fix it. I restarted it 2 months ago with a solution to the problem 5 years ago, and its working. I too said there is no solution for years. Maybe in some cases there really is no solution but acceptance. I'm not sure though when that exactly applies though.

Also on a very side note, AI development is on an exponential rise, and healthcare is already transforming, so who knows what solutions will open up in a few years time or up to 5 years.

@Ramanujan yeah there really is no best answer, still input helps I guess

For years I've been trying to figure out how to master a lot of personal development principles: gaining more experience, making fine distinctions, visualizing more, becoming more fearless, pushing my comfort zone, etc. The one that really sticks is a life training program where I incorporate habitual activities that lead to automatically embodying these principles. Like I have an app I'm building that makes me more intelligent, socializing every week for pushing my comfort zone and being more bold, etc. Of course having a life training program is a meta technique that organizes it all together, which has allowed me to tap into all these personal development principles systematically. I've already sort of proven this in my own life, and Leo confirms it in his video "Valuable things require development over time". And like I jump rope Monday, Wednesday and Friday, and each session I add 10 seconds, and over time I try to reduce breaks, increase speed, etc. The typical mastery path. So I noticed that leads to a lot of personal development mastery like pushing comfort zone, mastery, confidence, health, etc. But there's another meta principle or skill I've been eyeing for some time now, that I'm not sure if it will work or not in mastering a lot of personal development principles. In the book mastery by George Leonard, he talks about going into finer and finer distinctions. Like when you're driving a car, rather than doing it unconsciously, first you adjust the seat, then the mirror, then maybe you notice your breathing is tense so you relax it, then maybe you see your emotions are in the past so you let that go, etc. And Leo even talks about this in his video "Learning = making fine distinctions". But I'm getting this feeling that this could be a sort of meta 24/7 practice, that you intend to do sort of all day every day, that can master a lot of personal development techniques. So like I'm taking a shower, and then notice (making a distinction) I'm overthinking, so I observe that, maybe let that go, then I notice the temperature of the water, and (make a distinction) and make it colder out of exploration of temperature and adventure and pushing comfort zone, and then I notice that my mind's eye is empty (another distinction) so I visualize my self-image out of choice. I don't know if I'm making sense or not. But I'm seeing that if I just live, operationally, in a manner where I'm making distinctions as a way of life, I can sort of accomplish a lot of personal development principles. I can push my comfort zone, visualize, be more in the moment, learn rapidly, develop masculinity, etc. Has anyone confirmed this in their own experience, or think along these lines? @Leo Gura do you have any input on this? Or perhaps does anyone else have an alternative way of mastering life, various personal development principles, inner game, outer game, etc.? Is there perhaps another meta skill out there? Leo mentioned a sort of "24/7 emotional mastery jiu jitsu" in the past where when say you're feeling anger you breathe deeper, or when you're feeling tense, then you let go of body tension, etc. I can see that being great for a 24/7 jiu jitsu on life principles, but I think making distinctions as a way of life feels more enjoyable and legit. There is also what Benjamin franklin did. (1 week he'd embody 1 new principle to make it a habit). There is that, if that has worked for anyone? Lastly, there is psycho-cybernetics. By visualizing daily, I can see a lot of personal development principles being integrated. I mostly want to get your input on the 24/7 meta practice of making distinctions as a way of life and mastering various personal development principles. But if you have input on these other techniques, I'm very open to that as well.

@Scholar @Leo Gura I remember reading Sarah Rose's book on Ayurvedic recipes, and in the first chapter she talks about how she was eating healthy and doing everything but when she met with this ayurvedic indian doctor in India the doc is like you're completely out of balance (doshas). What if you tried turning to some eastern medicine masters in India or china? I know people who have been able to connect with some experts in India with successful results, maybe you can consider that. They might be able to see from certain paradigms of your health that you're not seeing perhaps. You could probably connect via zoom or something online. Like Leo I remember you said you saw a psychic once I think, and that person predicted stuff to your surprise, so maybe one of these eastern medicine masters would surprise you. Maybe if western solutions aren't working, you can try those. I don't know if it'll work but it's worth a shot. But I wouldn't give up, I know it can be hard. I and you guys have had countless times where we think there is no solution, but some time later we are surprised to find a solution.

@Leo Gura No worries, your health comes first to us.

@Leo Gura if you care to share, do you have any updates on the reprogramming mind course?