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Guys i have two options: either work a job and have money to make music as well as going out and having a social life. ‎Or continuing on higher education for a couple of years before being able to live life. ‎Which one should i choose ? ‎I guess imma choose the first option, fuck it. I have deep needs for art and socializing. I can't just ignore them for 3 years while i study, imma take a couple of years off studying to pursue music and socialization, then i'll continue on higher education.

@aurum Yessir.

So, I am going to break down Leo's advice into 3 different categories: spiritual, dating wise, and career wise. Since I started my journey with actualized.org I've done a lot of work. Spirituality is probably where I've gotten the most success out of the three domains i listed above. I've done hundreds of hours in total of combined meditations and contemplations, and my consciousness really grew a lot. However, I had rare ecstatic experiences before doing spiritual work then I didn't have such robust experiences sober. I've tried mdma once, and it was a really great spiritual experience, however I won't do psychedelics anymore because I have mental illnesses. I should do more spiritual work like contemplation and meditation to get more mystical experiences, however that isn't a priority for now. Dating wise, I've had success too, I've had a lot of experience approaching women, close to 2700 approaches, a lot of make outs in clubs, however never got laid because I didn't have money for the hotel room, because of my mental illnesses I couldn't get a job, I was too dysfunctional to work. After treatment though I am planning on getting a job, to have money to take girls to hotel rooms and get laid there. Career wise is where I didn't have much success yet, simply because I didn't really work at it, since my passion is rap music and I need money for proper equipment, which since I am planning on getting a job soon, am planning to get those equipment and make higher quality rap songs. I have a talent for rap, but I just need more financial resources to actualize my vision. I have a strategy of posting reels regularly where I rap and create a Patreon where people can support me in exchange of exclusive content. If I can get some 50 people to donate 10 dollars a month, I'll be able to quit my job and focus full time on rap. I am still 23 years old. So yeah, that's that.

@Zenterus @LordFall Lmao, what's your response to this ?

I think that losing weight is a deeply spiritual journey, as it requires relinquishing material desires for food, towards a higher goal, like being fit, looking better as well as having better health.

@something_else Bro you seem to be misunderstanding the fact that as a 23 years old virgin, i need a strategy to get laid. I can't just make friends and hope to get laid somehow by making friends. Lmao, i'll have a group of 10 or 15 friends, how many attractive women will there be, and what are the chances i'll sleep with one of them, close to zero. You need massive action taking to change the situation, i can't just wait for hope, it won't work.

@LordFall For now my priority is to get a job to be able to lose my virginity. Then i want to focus on my art/rap for a bit.

The reason most people struggle with money is because they're slaves to wages. The system is explicitly designed so that the majority of people are slaves to wages which by default means they'll struggle with money for the rest of their lives. Slavery isn't fun, and you're a fool if you think it doesn't exist anymore. We need a systemic change to solve the problem of wage slavery as a society. But on a personal note you need a realistic plan to escape wage slavery as an individual.

@Butters If everyone could work 16 hours a day, everyone would be a millionaire and society will collapse. Obviously you can't nor should you work that hard.

Dude, people expect you to have infinite energy as well as mental and physical resources. I can't just spend all my day in productive mode, I'll burn out or go insane, or both. I need time to rest and slack off, otherwise it is unsustainable.

@something_else Dude I have no experience with social circle. However, I've already made out with girls at the club a lot. I can see myself taking a girl to a hotel room after making out with her and sleeping with her there. That will work.

@something_else @Jirh I wouldn't bet losing my virginity on university, especially with no money at all. I did 2700 approaches still didn't got laid yet because of bad logistics, i am aiming to fix my logistics so that i can make pick up work and lose my virginity finally. I don't have enough energy to work and do higher education at the same time.

@something_else Dude i am a 23 years old virgin, I can afford staying a virgin for many years to come while I continue on higher education, it's fucking up my whole psyche.

@Joshe You'll truly become tier 2 when you stop caring about stages.

Since Leo rarely talks about these topics which are essential for building a great life, thought i would create this thread to develop a solid theoretical foundation for money, finances, wealth building... Feel free to share any videos or insights, you might find helpful towards that end.

Alright I want to think deeply about the counter-intuitiveness of life. And in the different areas that requires success. In attraction: Focusing on dating in general and being good with women in general, rather than on attracting a single girl. This is counter-intuitive because most people think of this problem too shallowly like I need a girlfriend, but what I found out is that by exposing yourself to massive experience with a lot of women, you end up getting the best results in terms of your dating life. In marriage and procreation: What I found out is that marriage and the raising of children is pure conformity. Rationally speaking, from an individual's perspective, it doesn't make any sense. There are so many problems with marriage and raising a family. First of all, sexual scarcity and frustration, due to not being able to date and sleep with anyone other than your partner for the rest of your life. Which is why cheating becomes very common. Second of all marriage and raising a family with children, puts you extremely deep in survival mode, where you have to spend decades providing for your family, from baby diapers to school and university, etc... It is a huge commitment not to take lightly, in terms of time, energy and money, which you'll have less for yourself to be able to raise a family, which makes it very much a negative overall. With religion: Most people think they should be more religious, whereas the counter-intuitive move would be to be less religious. In happiness: Many people think money is the key to happiness. Whereas the wise person understands that it's all a balance, you need to make a decent amount of money to live comfortably, as well as have the time for other areas of life, like self-exploration and actualization, spirituality, socialization, and just time to relax and enjoy life. With career: Most people think of work as a way to pay the bills, whereas the counter-intuitive move would be to pursue success in a field you're passionate about. With productivity: Rather than filling your days with endless work and tasks. The counter-intuitive move would be to disperse your goals on different phases in your life, where you focus on socialization for a while, then on your career, then on psychedelics exploration, etc...

Last time when i performed at an open mic. At the end an attractive girl looked at me, smiled and was attracted. Another approached me, telling me that my lyrics were good. The first girl, i didn't approach though, because i wasn't looking for dating opportunities i was more looking to do my rap. And the second girl wasn't that attractive. But i can see that if i continue doing open mics, i could potentially get girls by socializing there and approaching women who are attracted to me after finishing my performance. However the thing with open mics is that they require a lot of preparations to do and are kind of an indirect way to get laid. ‎Cold approaching girls is like begging for money. Yes you can get money that way, but there are more elegant and refined ways to do it. The best approach to get laid is to leverage your dream, aspiration and purpose, turn youself into a high status, recognized person, and get laid from fans of your body of work. ‎Picking up girls work well espicially in large venues like clubs, where people are drinking, dancing and having fun. Girls are more open to being hit on, and having one night stands. ‎You can combine both short term pick up game at clubs, and long term status/fame game with your career.

@Rishabh R Dude i've done over 2700 approaches by now lmao.

@AION It definitely feels like begging though, since most girls you hit on reject you. Lmao.

@Olaf Being told you're sweet is definitely a compliment. Plus if a girl has a boyfriend just move on, don't be so desperate.

@LordFall Picking up girls is like begging for money. Yes you can get money that way, but there are more elegant and refined ways to do it. The best approach to get laid is to leverage your dream, aspiration and purpose, turn youself into a high status, recognized person, and get laid from fans of your work. Picking up girls work well espicially in large venues like clubs, where people are drinking, dancing and having fun. Girls are more open to being hit on, and taken home if there's attraction. You can combine both short term pick up game at clubs, and long term status/fame game with your career.

@LordFall I think the best way for me to get laid heavily is to become famous through my rap career. However i need to build a stable source of income to build my rap career. Which will take a few years.

@LordFall Do you have any book recommendations on how to fuel your dating life with status based game ?

@AION The thing with social circles is that they require constant lying and inauthenticity. You always have to be fake, to not chock or disagree with anybody. That's how you stay cool. The thing is it is unfulfilling, so why do it at all ? Last year, in my institute where i was learning, they asked me what was my religion, i said i'm not religious, and everyone ostracized me for it for the whole year lmao, i didn't form one solid friendship from that year.

@LordFall Last time when i performed at an open mic. At the end an attractive girl looked at me, smiled and was attracted. Another approached me, telling me that my lyrics were good. The first girl, i didn't approach though, because i wasn't looking for dating opportunities i was more looking to do my rap. And the second girl wasn't that attractive. But i can see that if i continue doing open mics, i could potentially get girls by socializing there and approaching women who are attracted to me after finishing my performance. However the thing with open mics is that they require a lot of preparations to do and are kind of an indirect way to get laid.