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I lost everything due to unfavorable mental health. Quit school, got kicked out of my household, damaged my relationship with my immediate family... It all culminated in me spending a year in bed in excruciating agony and pain, the time to find a psychiatrist that understood my case and how to help me. Since the beginning of that year to today I went from weighing 76 kg to 140 kg. Started taking the medications and the pain lifted away in a few months. Yet the hardest part was yet to come, which is to regain back everything I lost. Started working in my dad's coffee shop, starting out 2 hours a day, then 4 hours, then 6 hours... Fast forward to today where I can remain at work for 8 or 9 hours. I went back to studying in an institute to obtain the bt3 diploma, the equivalent of bac 2, to then be able to enter university. In the institute, I chose at first a difficult specialization: information technology, I couldn't complete the first day. Then switched to physical education for it being less difficult. The psychiatrist recommended me taking half a pill of Xanax before going to the institute to manage to stay until the end of the school day. Fast forward to today I am able to go the institute and attend my classes, as well as study for a certain amount of time at home. After a few months of taking medications, I started learning Italian, a language I love. Fast forward to today I am at a pretty advanced level in it. Now the goal is to pass this year, to be able to enroll in university in Italian literature, then improve my diet and maintain an exercise routine. Wish me well.

@Judy2 Fiction is facts. Animals don't create fiction, it's only possible due to the human evolved brain area, giving us access to a higher dimension of reality: imagination. What about that as a nice recontextualization? Fiction isn't fiction, it's a higher reality than the reality we share with animals.

@Judy2 Like when you read Dante or Dostoevsky, or any excellent work of fictional literature, your life drastically changes for the better, it grows your mind and makes you contemplate reality in deeper ways than scientific textbooks could. Fictional literature is an artform, a higher dimension of reality accessed through the splendid use of mind and imagination. Fictional literature isn't only entertainment but encapsulates reality in a different flavor than what we call the "real" world.

@Judy2 Well in my mind, fiction encapsulates higher truths than physical reality. Secondly, I want write books in Italian on many topics perhaps bridging literature, philosophy, sociology, psychology... I will have a big impact on the world this way. Secondly i am so passionate and excited to get to study Italian literature, like I am so passionate about the Italian language, and its historical literature, it's so fascinating to me. And i would love to get more people interested in that aspect of life (Italian language and literature). If we go to the ikigai model, I basically got all the areas covered: profession, mission, passion and vocation.

@Judy2 No worries, i didn't respond because i was going to say the same things i said in my first reply to your post. Basically expand your range of experience, and follow your interest, then your career plan will emerge naturally out of this process.

@Judy2 Your priority should be your career, and once a week you can relax and go out with friends, to a party, a concert...

@Judy2 Life is good. You can enjoy your youth and also be working on building a rewarding career that you love. It's up to you to balance it out...

@Judy2 Well this is a common problem, you have to basically figure yourself out to figure out your career. It took me a long time to figure out what i wanted as a career, teaching italian literature, and writing books in italian... But yeah you should i think expand your range of experience, start thinking and contemplating this question : what should be my career ? And you'll get many answers. Also don't pressure yourself too much, honestly just choose what you intuitively feel right to do and choose at the moment. Like when i started learning italian, years ago, i wasn't thinking about turning it into a career, i just did it because i was interested and fascinated by the culture and the language. And now i'm fully confident, italian literature is what i want my career to be...

I wanna continue on higher education in italian literature. I'm passionate about reading, writing and the italian language, therefore i think it's a perfect fit for my personality. I also want to improve myself education wise and career wise, obtaining a master's degree and a phd in italian literature. I'm very excited and grateful i get to study what i enjoy, and make a career out of it. I would love to become a professor of italian literature in university once i obtain my phd.

You don't need a girlfriend, you need a psychiatrist. That's what i should've told myself, every time i came here whining and bitching for years about being a virgin. It wasn't due to virginity or lack of sexual partners, it was due to my mental health which made me think that i need a girlfriend and sex. Now that my mental health is better i rarely think about losing my virginity, or getting a girlfriend, and i don't come here whining anymore. I am just genuinely happy and satisfied with life, and content with it, as it is, no need to change it. I focus on myself, doing the chores, going to work, school... and improving my life slowly but surely. Also realized that you cannot control everything in the future and life in general, so i just let go, and i'm enjoying my time in this life.

When you see the worst countries to inhabit, like north Korea, or Afghanistan. It's clear they have a problem in their relationship to truth. In north Korea for instance there's all sorts of propaganda going on. As well as in Afghanistan, where they do not understand Islam to be a human construct. But rather they treat it as objective reality, which in turn they oppress women, and minorities like homosexuals. On the inverse secular democracies like the us, or northern and western Europe, tend to be rather good places to live, since there's a separation between church and state, information can flow easily... Even if we look historically, nazi Germany, or fascist Japan committed atrocities because they were so ego centered and narcissistic, they believed they were superior... The equation is simple: truth= lack of corruption = prosperity and success of a nation.

@Natasha Tori Maru Babe if it's you, it's okay

I genuinely felt weirded out by women driving motorcycles in my city, i felt it unclassy and unfeminine, not proper of a woman. Was i conservative in this instance, i generally am pretty liberal, as well as conservative depending on the issue. But it just felt unelegant and not worthy of a woman to be driving a motorcycle.

I was talking with my father's friend, he's an antisemite, but dude is too close minded to learn history. Like he says that the holocaust was only 400 000 jews were killed, and that history is written by the victors... And hitler genocided the jews because they were self serving and corrupting society with prostitution and interest. Here's the thing: this guys is a muslim and since his childhood he was indoctrinated into islam. Therefore his whole sense of identity, emotional system, and life now is wrapped up in it. If he was to learn history properly it would conflate with his religious upbringing and push him to grow beyond the center of gravity of his culture, which would feel like insanity, and losing his mind. Therefore he never had a chance to begin with to know the truth.

A philosophical mind. An open mind, because reality is infinite, therefore your mind has to be infinitely open to understand it. A wise mind. An intellectually curious mind, to grow and wise up to certain realities and facts. A conscious mind. A sophisticated mind. A nuanced mind. A complex mind. A fluid mind. A cross disciplinary mind. An enlightened mind. A multiperspectival mind. A loving mind.