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@Byun Sean I have done massive progress in self development the last few months, especially regarding non neediness, self sufficience, understanding ego and it's mechanics and trying to un-wire social conditioning and programming regarding what you should like want etc. Yes it is tough but very enjoyable especially during covid. The thing is that girls almost never were into me and it has caused some self esteem issues due to my basic Maslow Needs not being met. I think i need to tackle this dating/girls thing in order to develop myself even further. The base needs to be taken care of before you can build up. However i am very logical and analytical kind of person, very similar to Leo (which is why i resonate with him) and i suck at flirting and making moves

@Byun Sean Great advice. Really appreciate it. May i ask you, did you start to actively approach girls or just went through with whichever girl you encountered by living your life normally. Also, what dating material would you reccommend?

@Byun Sean By biased bs i mean when you say i did this so it works. My language was a bit off there and i apologise. I am sure that working on your personality helps and that is what i will do, it is just when people say looks dont matter that i get a bit pissed because my life experience has shown me otherwise. As i said, if i was born next day as a model i could get girls by just existing. If i get a great personality i can also get girls. Both ways work just fine. Now, i cant do the first so i will focus on the second. It is just that some messages here make it seem like only the second works when actually both work but only the second one is actually doable. Now could you please tell me how can i attract a girl taller than me? Did you ever attract a girl taller than yourself? Even if you did not, what exactly did you improve personality wise outside the typical be more funny, less needy more confident etc. And btw i have maximized my looks and face wise i am not bad at all (often called cute)

@Byun Sean This is bunch of biased bs tbh. It is true that a good personality can attract a girl but saying that girl is not attracted by looks is ignoring reality. I know guys that get girls attracted to them JUST by the way they look. Now if the good looking guy had trash personality the girl would be turned off for sure but tbh most guys don't have such bad personalities to turn a girl off if she is attracted by guy looks. I'm not saying u have to be good looking necessarily to get something but ignoring it's value is what i don't agree with. It is like saying: you can either pass a test without studying because you are very smart or you can study a lot and pass it. Both ways of passing the test work, same here. You can attract a girl either by being good looking in her eyes or by personality.

@aurum I am 172 cm in a country where average height of girls my age is around 175 so yeah.

Guys i am not saying a normal girl will pick a taller guy rather than me. I am saying girls taller than me will not date me and that is due to heavy cultural and biological reasons. It is not that a i see a cute girl and i cant talk to her because she will pick the taller guy, not at all. I see people saying that guys project their desire for looks on the girls when girls care about personality. Guys do not give a single shit about girl height. There is no projection here, i am not complaining about my face or anything like that. Caring about height is a purely feminine trait that guys do not have. If you guys knew a girl that cared about height and ended up being with a guy SHORTER than her than you can share. My only hope is to focus on the 20 percent of girls shorter or my height by taking to a lot of them or getting lucky with 1/200 girls taller than me that does not care about height.

@ivory You are right and thank you. But it is just painful when you see a really cute girl but you cannot approach her because she is taller than you. I said around 1/5 girl is around my height or shorter so i can actually approach her. Maybe i could attract a girl that is taller than me but that is like winning the lottary so not really worth trying unless i just want to improve my skills

I would like to hear your opinions about something guys. Basically, i live in a environment where the people around me are very ambitious. I am talking about stage orange ambition, so wanting to want on big firms, have high positions there, have very high salaries etc. Personally i am not interested at all at this stuff. I want a job where i do something i enjoy, that helps the society in some way and where i am respected and treated properly. I am 22 so soon will start on my journey and i feel a bit conflicted. On one side i know what i want but on the other side i feel like i will be viewed as not ambitious, lazy, unintelligent and lesser. I will do a master program so it is not that i will be uneducated in the traditional sense. I live in a developed country so even with the average salary i can live quite good, i do not care about the luxurious lifestyle and stuff that tend to cost a lot. Due to 22 years of social programming i have some insecurities about myself due to my current desires. I really dislike the ambitious white collar promotion addicted workaholics that work 14 hours a day to get a promotion so they can afford their fancy cars and boost off to society about the position or place they work at. I am simple in that way. I am very passionate about understanding the world and reality which is why i follow Leo's work (other channels too) and will soon begin reading to further my understanding. My question is do you think that i am self deceiving myself because i do not want to work heavy heavy hours and have that competitive ruthless spirit, or not wanting to indulge in stage orange motivation is something healthy? It is just very difficult to unwire 22 years of programming

@SamC Models by Mark Manson- The first 3 chapters are absolute masterpieces, especially the first one Coach Coray Wayne- Most healthy manifestation of red pill knowledge, School of Attraction- Stage Green dating coach Dan Bacon- Most similar to Leo when it comes to talking and attraction women The Single Guy- Relatable af guy and also seems simple and cool. 33 secrets, Alpha male secrets- His philosophy is very pro male and heavy red pilled but he has a few videos where he talks about to stop being a victim and to focus on yourself etc and those are very good in my opinion.

@Danioover9000 I feel like Leo has an insanely high sex drive and is unable to do noFap due to his high sex drive. He said in his teens he was able to ejaculate 10-20 times a day which i find insanely high personally. If you are not at that level of sex drive then you can control it without much problem. I did nofap for 140 days (hard mode so no sex either, just wet dreams which i could not control) and i have difficulty meditating for 1 hour so yeah its not that hard.

@Preety_India You need to understand it from both points of view. You may hate players but some of them have to be that way. Being a good guy in itself does not work. You need confidence assertiveness dominance charm and charisma and detachment to get girls. These traits if taken too far can corrupt you and turn you into a complete jerk. Especially after you have been heart broken or felt ignored by girls when you were a good guy. You feel this personal vengeance against them for ignoring or rejecting you. I do not support player asshole behavior but you need to see it from both points of view. Guys these days are incentived to act in a way that if taken too far will corrupt you regarding being a good partner for girls. Not all of them can manage to stay in that sweet spot where they are confident charismatic detached assertive while also being kind caring empathetic etc. It requires a combination of the masculine or feminine that is very difficult to do for most guys. Usually they will either be feminine and not get shit, then go 180 change and act purely masculine which creates problems for girls in the long run so yeah.

Porn, masturbation and higher consciousness are independent variables

@Preety_India Maybe approach a little? I am not saying to literally approach but make it clear that you are interested in a kind honest guy. Just ask them out, they will do the rest do not worry. Personally i am a bit scared to make it clear that i am interested in a girl but if she does make it clear to me first indirectly then it is all good. So give them choosing signals that you are interested and it should be okay.I am sure that there are some kind caring guys that are confident enough to make moves once they know you are interested in them. Otherwise, well you can always do what guys do and hit on them instead of waiting to be hit on. It is unnatural but better than being hurt by the guys that actually approach. It is clearly the lesser evil.

@Preety_India First of all, all the kindness and help you give to others you should do out of yourself not to get anything in return. You make peace with the idea of helping someone a lot and them not doing anything back for you. View helping people like you view giving money to the homeless guy, you help him because you can and you enjoy it, not because you expect the homeless man to do anything for you. Now some more practical advice Friends- personally i am a very intuitive guy so i can tell trustworthy people just by the way they act, facial expressions, gestures etc. Also having a good memory and remembering what people do and say can help as it helps you spot out inconsistencies like lies for eg. Also try to have self respect and boundaries so people wont take advantage of you. Develop yourself to be an interesting, likable and cool person so people wanna be near you. Do not get overly attached to people. Partners- Pick people based on kindness, caring, honesty etc not based on assertiveness, detachment, confidence and charm. If they have the latter qualities that is a bonus but not the core. Aquitancies- No reason to even give a shit about people you are not even close with to be honest.

I would like your guys opinion about something. I live in a Western country and i am very frustrated about the unfairness when it comes to dating between men and woman. I know a lot of girls and guys, all sort of people. When it comes to girls all they have to do is exist, take care of themselves to some extent and they have a lot of guys coming to them. I am not talking about players and assholes, i am taking about caring, honest, smart and interesting people. Meanwhile guys have to do so much shit. They have to take care of themselves physically to some extent, have life ambition, work on their charisma, confidence, assertiveness, detachment etc. Some of these traits are very difficult to develop especially in western society where a lot of these traits are demonized and not taught to young people that much. So a girl just exists and gets good decent guys that would make great partners and treat her well meanwhile guys have to do all that shit to hopefully get a girlfriend after hitting on 50 of them. i know Leo is going to say that the problem for girls is that they get pumped and dumped and treated like shit by players but he is very paradigm locked about this. He always assumes most guys are player pua assholes that treat girls badly. Most guys are decent guys that treat girls well and respect them. The pua assholes are a small minority. So a girl will get a shit load of decent kind caring smart guys that would make great partners and can even be good looking while guys have to do so much shit to hopefully get something after 50 approaches. What do you guys think? Please do not destroy me in your responses but give me your opinion.

@hamedsf Yes life is unfair and it sucks but i am just giving my opinion. If you have any counterarguments to my opinion of men having it unfair let me know