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@somegirl Nice advice however it does not equate well. You get guys hitting on your regardless and judging from your picture you do not seem ugly at all (at least body wise). You look quite nice if i can say. An unattractive guy with an average personality is at the bottom of the sexual market. He needs good game and personality if he is unattractive. @Leo Gura What i found with most incels i talked with is that they try to hit on maybe 100 girls then they take rejection so badly it destroys them. The way they frame failure is very toxic. “I am scarred after 100 rejections an incel told me. Their attitude is quite toxic even if they try. Also there is one thing i just cannot understand. From one side you say girls want a strong MAN. Then on another side you say you should act more like a girl. It confuses me

@Bando A detailed video from Leo regarding Incels and the blackpill would be helpful. People here tend to ideolize him way too much so maybe his word would help them a lot. FYI- I used to be blackpilled for a few months last year and the blackpill in itself has some truth to it. YES, IT WILL BE EASIER IF YOU ARE GOOD LOOKING. Just like it will be easier to become rich if you are very smart or become enlightned if you have good spiritual genetics and shit. However the way the blackpill deals with it is so toxic, retarted and downright crazy it becomes apparent when you being deconstructing it. With blackpill logic, we should not work if our IQ is not 150, we should not meditate or do any spiritual work if we do not have Sadhguru hardware etc etc. Just dumb. What the blackpill boils down to is a rationalization of lazyness. You compare yourself to people that have shit easier than you and use it as an excuse not to improve your situation. Adopt a mindset where you do not compare yourself with other men. Yes 0.35 percent is low, and maybe Chad does have a higher success rate just because he is handsome. NOBODY CARES. 0.35 percent is still bigger than 0 percent.

@Lucas-fgm That gives me so much hope. I am southern European but i live in Belgium. I have not interacted much with local girls outside of pragmatic conversations since my circle is international since i study in an international university. Plus, locals are quite cold. I had a brazilian girl find me somewhat attractive though so i guess anything can happen. Hopefully if i start hitting on locals me being southern european will give me an edge on top of having some decent social skills. Belgian guys are very lame (like 80 percent of them). If you talk to them first, be expressive, make jokes, smile a lot, playfuly tease and touch and act self grouned you will easily be top 20 percent of guys. Maybe even 10 percent.

Only thing with Swedish guys is that they are unbeliaviable attractive making even a decent looking guy in other countries look like shit. However from what you described me about them they seem lame so it is balanced i guess.

@Javfly33 John Anthony claims to have 150 a year at an advanced level. Idk how accurate that value is though. However, there are pretty of guys that have 300+ laycounts so i think 30 a year is not that much at an advanced level. Maybe 50 a year would be more realistic especially if you use online dating properly. You can get a lay a month easily from online dating alone if you are good at using it.

@Javfly33 I think it takes online game, daygame and night game into account. Not using online while learning to get girls is a dumb mistake imo. USE ALL CHANNELS!! Maybe online dating will get you 1 lay a year, who the fuck cares. It takes a lot of work to make a good profile, true, in terms of getting high quality pictures etc. However once that is over it is kind of autopilot. Just swipe while taking a shit and set up logistics for dates. It does not need to be your only source or main source, just 1 out of many. Consider it as passive income.

I read somewhere from a top guy that top guys have around 10 percent close ratio for each number they get. So 10.000 phone numbers would result in 1000 girls.

@Preety_India "What is beauty" would be a good video idea for Leo now that i think about it.

@Leo Gura Antisocial? Sociopathic yes, selfish yes, but antisocial? I thought pickup was anything but antisocial. Very true, however in the past your wealth and income bracket was kind of fixed and these days it is very flexible and encouraged upon. Maybe in the next hundreds of years it will be regarding sexual stuff too. I am happy youtube and rsd is making pick up and stuff like this more popular despite the backlash.

@Consilience I am curious why so few actually do it. Why is it not normal and common for guys to do this, almost like a rite of passage into menhood hahaha. I know that you will say because it is hard as fuck, which it is. However, other difficult things are encouraged which are difficult like eating boring healthy foods, working out, running, developing crazy work ethic etc. The biggest reason maybe it is that guys scared to approach girls is because of the stigma it has? Maybe it would be cool if it was removed hehe. PS: I know it will not happen with the cancel culture we have these days but just saying it would be nice if it is done in a healthy respectful manner (catcalling does not count for example or touching people sexually without permission etc). PS2: I know for females it would be a bit annoying to get approached a lot but the other alternatives are not much better (angry incels, shooters, mysogonistic guys etc).

@Preety_India That is a good argument. Honestly i do not know the actual ratios since a lot of the members of this forumn have asexual names and profile pictures (me being an example).

@Preety_India And complaining man are seen as weak and pathetic starting from our beloved admin of this forumn to most of it's members. Being looked badly at for dating complaining is honestly judged when both sexes do it.

@Preety_India Looking at feminists at the west i do not think this is the case at all. Most people here are from western countries. I am sure in some eastern countries women get shamed a lot especially if they are religious countries. Also this is annonymous this forum anyway.

The fact that 90 percent of dating related complain threads are made by guys in this forum shows a lot. Why you think that is everyone? Why the females are not complaining as much as males are (they are but a lot less). If dating is struggle for both genders then shouldnt the complain rate be 50-50 instead of 90-10? I would be curious to know.

@somegirl As long as guys are not getting laid or having relationships they will complain. Sorry but it is just the way they are... To them this shit is like food, not getting it feels like starving. Trust me, those that do not complain on forums complain to their friends in real life when they drink something together.

@Parththakkar12 Because it is not socially correct to say i am attracted to narcissistic sociopaths. If someone told that you to you, you would feel like there is something wrong with her. Therefore, dating fantasies are created. A colossal cope. It is true that guys are honest about being attracted to physical features however those things are not negative traits but just neutral. Being narcissistic, very independent to the point of giving 0 shits about others , assertive, dominant etc can be great for the individual that has these attributes in aiding his survival but it harms society as a whole. Most issues in the world have been caused through history by these very traits. Meanwhile a big set of tits harms no one.

@Leo Gura Females loose a lot more by sex than guys due to pregnancy. Therefore, they are more selective and pickier by default. A guy looses nothing by sex, a girl can get herself and her baby killed if she fucks an unworthy man. Therefore, women are hypergamous and only select high value guys to mate. It is needed for her survival and makes total sense.

@something_else Could be so. Either way if asked the unevenes of the attraction triggers for both genders in terms of how "shallow" they are is not equal. Looks are considered shallow, confidence and charisma is not considered shallow. Both are purely survival based, shallow and not related to truth. The whole notion that guys are shallow because they care about looks while girls care about personality. Of course they will not kill you but it is less socially acceptable and taboo to say. Idk, i did not make this thread. I tried to bring it into the direction the opener intented since i read 20 comments talking about slut shaming which honestly, in a forum like this is kind of ridicioulous to discuss.

You guys are loosing track of the problem with these ridicioulous slut shaming stuff. OF COURSE, there is nothing wrong if girls sleep around as long as they are not cheating. I thought this group was more evolved than to slut shame. The issue the thread opener meant was that if a guy is vocal about his attraction triggers on females, females will get angry and make him feel bad. If guy says i want a healthy weight pretty girl, he is considered a shallow pig. Meanwhile, when girls say they want a confident charming successful man, that is considered normal and cool. Both attraction triggers are equally selfish and survival based, however males are made to feel bad about theirs while women are not. This is the issue.

@Lucas-fgm This is stage green issue. It destroys gender to the point where everyone is the same. I do not like toxic masculinity and abusive assholes but a guy should not be a little wimp bitch. No wonders incels are growing fast in developed countries, guys personalities are being completly destroyed in terms of polarization. When you have guys without masculine personalities then of course looks and money will be everything, that is all females have to judge them on. Side effect of stage green are incels and an increase of confused guys that have no polarity in them. Guys in Belgium where i am staying rn (im not belgian) are quite similar to what you wrote. On an individual level it is better because for example if i learn some game i can stand out from 90 percent of the lame guys here. My competition is being destroyed for free, so on a selfish level i should like this. However, on a collective level is not healthy for society and leads to social issues. I am curious, how do guys in Sweden for example find partners? If they are passive, do not approach, are not very social and shy then how they even manage to find someone?

@Lucas-fgm How exactly are they lame i am curious?

@bejapuskas I do not think that is a feasable strategy. I will implement orange dating and cast a huge net. Thank you for the support

@Peter Miklis I remember reading the comment section on his older dating videos. "I believed i would never date an attractive girl because of my looks due to the studies i read and used to limit myself because of them". Something along these lines. Quite blackpilled to me

@Preety_India You are right, however again it is about the demographic. Overwhelming majority of girls fall for that orange behaviour shit. You cannot use members of this forumn as examples, they are too few. Personally i used to be that guy females here describe and it did not work for me. Most girls reward fun and cocky, not self actualized. Your way of thinking is more evolved but too advanced for most guys to have success if they implement your ways. It is currently too advanced and not practical. Imagine teaching in the middle east people about cultural relativism, that place is not evolved enough for it.

@Preety_India 1. Leo learned about how to get girls using PUA stuff, which are stage orange. 2. Most females in developed countries, especially pre 30 are stage orange, therefore orange strategies work best to get them. You cater your strategies to the level of development of the individual you are dealing with. Stage green strategies will get you rejected with orange women. 3. Most females are still slaves to their primitive attraction triggers, very few can transcend them. Most girls especially pre 30 will just follow their emotions like monkeys without stopping and thinking "will this guy treat me well? will the relationship with him make me happy?". It is the equivalent of you eating junk food because it tastes good without ever stopping and thinking if it is actually good for you. When you are looking to get a girl, you cater to the majority of the population, not to 5 percent of super developed conscious people. Especially girls that conscious pre 30 are rarer than a 10/10 hot girl, they lack the life experience to develop such awareness. 4. Biological attraction itself is very animalistic which tends to be on the lower stages of the spiral. Therefore to properly use it to get a girl, such strategies are useful. This is not about conscious dating, it is about getting a girlfriend. Just like low conscious business leads to more profit, low conscious dating strategies lead to more girls wanting to be with you.