Karmadhi

Does not that put too much importance into looks? If she talks to you for 2 minutes all she sees is your looks and maybe a bit of your body language, tonality and base confidence. You even said it yourself in one of your old videos that in order to see someone s full personality it takes a bit of time, not possible in 3 minutes.

There are many things here you need to take into account: 1. Have you maximized your appearance? Gym and fashion would be your best friends here alongside good groming and even hair transplant if you need it (cannot tell). Looks are not the most important thing but they definitely make a difference, do not listen to PUA guys that think its just about your game. 2. Do you have hang ups from your past? Deep trauma or inner issues? Limiting beliefs? Work on those on top of going out. 3. Try daygame. Maybe your natural personality is better suited for it. At least that is the case for me and many people I know. Maybe you are a natural fish that is trying to swim in the desert. It does not work as well for him as swimming in the sea does. Maybe daygame is your sea. 4. Try to do social stuff also. Go to meetups, gatherings, events etc and talk to everyone. Social circle is way more powerful than cold approach and it is how most guys get their partners. You will not get laid massively for it but you can defiantly find a partner from it. 5. Persistence of course but you seem to have that in check which is very nice since it is the hardest thing. 6. Getting coaching is not bad per say but first of all I would avoid RSD guys and just focus on learning some basic principles and applying it. Once you have good experience you can hire someone to see you and fine tune details but most of the work is you doing it and self reflecting. Leos videos should be all the theory you need. 7. I have met PUA guys that do get girls sometimes but I ALWAYS notice that the ones that actually do well are really chill, natural and pleasant to talk to even as buddies. Meanwhile the ones that struggle, even if they do get laid have this weird over analytical almost autistic vibe around them which I find weird as fuck to be honest. If that is you try to change it. Just be yourself (cringe but it is mandatory). Final question: Why are you doing pickup? What are your reasons and motivations? Is there a deeper meaning behind it for you?

Thing is whenever someone here complains about not getting girls you say that "guys these days are not getting laid because they are not social". However spam approaching girls is not natural nor has ever been. If just being social would not get you laid then why do you promote it so much? Instead of promoting guys to socialize more you should promote them to approach and flirt with tons of new girls which is very different from socializing. Normally guys dont spam flirt with girls Also I was talking in terms of even dates. Dates not the same as having sex. You might need dates with 5 different girls to have sex with 1. I was talking in terms of dates abundance rather than sex abundance.

I found this video of this guy who has approached over 2000 women living in Germany during the day and gives his thoughts I really like his philosophy which is based on just being himself and following simple social conventions instead of super long overly complicated structures which daygamers love to do. Always found those silly af. I would understand a detailed structure on nightgame which is a highly artificial environment with a lot of noise but a quiet day scenario is as natural as it gets. Also he says he gets pretty good results. Regardless his philosophy is great. Just wanted to share it.

As Adam in Dark says: "Humans are peculiar creatures. All their actions are driven by desire, their character are forged by pain". So yeah, I agree with you.

Enough for it to get all the attention in social media and news. Also most conservatives are not super racist, homophobic backwards people as liberals make them seen. So the argument goes both ways. Just because you see white supremacists and people saying gays should be stonned does not mean most conservatives think like that. It is also shown on news a lot which is even worse than facebook for bommers.

I am quite green myself but when I see some of the extreme stuff like 50 genders, identifying as animals etc then I am not suprised why when trump publicly says " there are 2 genders" only he gets a lot of support. Same with Orban in Hungary. If these progressives want more support they should do the transition slowly and smoothly instead of going overboard with this gender stuff. It gets so bad people vote for whoever is against it, even if that person is not a good choice in general. The enemy of my enemy is my friend kind of thinking. This progressive gender/sexuality stuff, has gone a bit overkill these days, you even mentioned it in your videos.

@Leo Gura Leo recently I have been going out a lot and meeting a bunch of people through common groups and events etc. So heavily socializing and going out etc. However I have noticed that when I go out to just socialize and have fun and meet people I do not get the abundance of girls people claim. There is a big difference for me between going out and have fun and meet some people compared to actually doing pick up and hitting on 10 girls per night. What happens is that I meet maybe 7-8 girls and max 3-4 are is single and the whole vibe is just social and fun. Of course you can flirt if you want, follow them on instagram and meet up but it does not really lead to abundance. Obviously it is better than sitting at home but it lacks the volume pickup gives you. Usually you will not meet 10 girls EVERY time you go out unless you are explicitly hitting on them which is more of a pickup frame rather than a social frame. Because in social frame you also meet guys, some girls are in a couple etc. With me when I did night game I would talk and properly hit on 10 girls per night and the evening was about that rather than just socializing and having fun. How do I find the balance between "social fun mode" and "hitting on girls, flirting" mode. Hope my question is clear.

Do you still have insane stomach pains whenever you eat fruits and veggies or you are just tired a lot? I remember you made a blog video about eating something that caused you immense pain for 2 hours.

You can join Whatsapp groups and meetup events. I have met many people this way. There should be such communities online if you search.

Parts of my game are pretty weak, parts are ok, parts are decent. I do not care about rotation, fucking anything hotter than a 7 nor having a high laycount so I do not care about having a high level. More about improving the lagging parts which I wrote above. A 6/10 decent looking kind girl would make me happy, I am not very ambitious about this domain. I know guys that are extremely boring and lame that manage to get girls. That always baffled me. But ok if this is just for my dating life and no spillover in my case then thanks for telling me. That is the info I wanted to know.

I do struggle with very very specific things like going in for a kiss with a girl, sexual escalation, basically everything very physical that you do from the moment you decide to kiss. However it is not that difficult for me to get a girl to want me to kiss her. Verbally I am happy with myself. I am not this super smooth PUA guy but I am happy with my level, it is not what causes me frustration but the stuff above. Lacking that killer instinct and ruthlessness. Like a hawk. I am weird I know.

My bad, sorry. I will stop.

I say it because outside of hiting on a girl in public, my social skills are quite decent and I am content with them. So in any social situation other than hiting on a girl in a club/street/park I am content with my social skills. I already have humor in any social setting despite the ones I mentioned. Same with vibing and leading, conversation skills etc. I have no issue doing all of those in most social settings outside cold approach. So it is very specific for me. I guess getting over fear of rejection and developing tough skin would be benefits that carry over. The rest of the stuff you mentioned I already have outside of pickup situations. You can in other ways so I was wondering if pickup is specifically worth it JUST to get some more options.

Thank you for your reply. Just to clarify, when I was younger I had issues to vibe in ANY environement. Through hard work and interacting and meeting hundreds of people and pushing myself hard (also doing some self-help work), I managed to become more emotional and charismatic and confident and playful. However the carry over on cold approach is not the best. Also if a girl from cold approach is open and receptive I can vibe with her quite well when in the past I would not have been able to regardless of how open she was. This is the issue I have with cold approach for me, it does not feel like it develops my social skills much at this point unless its a very specific place to approach. Therefore there is no more carryover. For a guy that is not social or does not have good social skills in GENERAL, then I would see the benefit. For me though it is just about developing it on a SPECIFIC place, I do not see any more carry over in other social places. This therefore really limits my motivation because I do not see how this could make me grow as a person outside getting laid. You often talk about the benefits of pickup outside getting laid. Any advice?

Tips to vibe: -Be present in the moment, not in your head. -Be geniounly curious on the person -Have fun in the interaction, make it enjoyable for you (i mean why you socialize after all) -Be empathetic but also grounded -Get used to the social paradox of desiring something, going for it while at the same time not caring at all whether you get it or not. It feels really weird but it can be done.

Why is that when I cold approach girls my vibing is way worse than when I met them via events or gatherings etc. They are technically all strangers in the end. Is this just fear getting on my way? It is like my social skills on a non cold approach situation are way better. If I had the same vibing and social skills on a cold approach (either day or night) than I do in other situations it would make my dating life so much easier. I have went to many gatherings, events etc, often I did not know anyone or barely anyone and 90% of my interactions were with total strangers. But because it felt to me socially normal and acceptable to talk to people there it was way way easier for me to vibe, be comfortable, fun, flirty etc. However in cold approach it feels very intrusive and as a naturally agreeable person it puts fear in me and really decreases my social skills a lot. Is this normal? Or is there something wrong with me? I ask because I know guys where it makes no difference between the two scenarios and they feel equally comfortable/uncomfortable and their social skills are basically the same. For me it makes a big difference. Only exception from cold approach is if the girl is super receptive and nice then I feel at ease and I go back into my default social skills.

To all you guys here moaning about "I need to be good looking" blla blla This is a blackpiller guy who actually tried to use the app correctly, got platnum and good professional pictures and his results were quite decent. He used to be super against online dating because he got little results with it in the past and was overall quite toxic attitude regarding looks and stuff. Then he tried it correctly and got decent results. And he is not a Chad or anything, I would say decent looking but nothing out of the ordinary. Also he is not gym guy, if he was ripped he would do even better. His body is average. Face slightly above but in his pictures he looks really good. Dude a girl will not fuck you just because you are hot regardless of how you meet. He does have some skill to be able to fuck them, especially if they do a coffee date first. You can easily talk a girl out of liking you if you have no idea what you are doing (trust me I have been there).

If you have 1000 followers under your real name then it means you should not struggle with getting girls. You already are quite experienced dealing with people.

I would not say 25 is too late to start hardcore pickup but it is late to develop social skills. You can develop social skills in other ways like going to events, meetups etc. Pickup from my experience is just about getting laid and it does not relate exactly to overall social skills development. It is extremally narrow and specific. I know guys with vast social circles that do not do much pickup and have great social skills. Pickup is about learning how to attract girls and giving yourself opportunities to practice, not how to develop social skills per say. I have a vast social circle and above average social skills but I struggle to attract girls which is why I say what I say.

You have literally said in posts about "can i get girls younger than me if i am on my 50s" or something that women wont care for your age or looks as long as you are boss. "Women are looking for boss". Then you give us your pakistani short friend as an example of a short guy doing well with girls. When people hear it, they assume they need to be bossy to get girls attracted to them. Maybe that is not what you meant but it is very easy to misinterpret. I am sure that in a relationship that is not the case but initially you yourself have said being boss is very important.

I think he is the short black guy that Leo sometimes gives us as an example of black short guys doing well with girls.

What about all the clips of him being unable to articulate normal sentences and looking like someone with dementia. Would you trust your country to someone that offers a handshake to pure air? There are dozens of clips of him doing such silly stuff, it is not something that happened a few times. Some people say he is not even leading, he is unable to and is just a front person. Even if he is taking all the decisions, having someone in that mental state lead a country to me seems ridiculous.

Most guys do not like to clean or cook. They prefer to outsource that to women and they pay for their meals and drinks, especially if they have money. In general roles are more divided in conservative societies and men prefer that because they get a better deal out of it. In feminist societies women get the better deal. Just selfishness 101.

It boils down to the idea that people do not want to do an insane amount of work for something which is considered a basic need. Basics needs now are so easy to get that people become entitled to them. Also it is getting harder for guys to get laid so when you have this basic need getting harder while the rest of basic needs are getting easier (food, shelter, water etc) the entitlement intensifies. In the past all basics needs were relatively hard while today there is a huge disbalance in difficulty between getting laid and the rest of the basics needs. Because unlike other basics needs getting laid is a zero sum game, the rest are non-zero sum games. I am all for improving yourself but when I hear Leo say you need to do 5000 approaches or otherwise your dating life will suck is extremely demotivating to most guys. Imagine if I told you unless you went to the gym 6 times a week and had perfect diet for 15 years your body will look like shit. Reality is not like this. If you want the dating life of a king then yeah you need to do 5000 approaches (or be famous) and if you want to look like a bodybuilder than yeah you need the 15 years of non stop training, however most people do not care about such insane results. They are happy with decent results. Wanting a non obese feminine girl is the equivalent of wanting not to be fat.