Karmadhi

@Preety_India You need to understand it from both points of view. You may hate players but some of them have to be that way. Being a good guy in itself does not work. You need confidence assertiveness dominance charm and charisma and detachment to get girls. These traits if taken too far can corrupt you and turn you into a complete jerk. Especially after you have been heart broken or felt ignored by girls when you were a good guy. You feel this personal vengeance against them for ignoring or rejecting you. I do not support player asshole behavior but you need to see it from both points of view. Guys these days are incentived to act in a way that if taken too far will corrupt you regarding being a good partner for girls. Not all of them can manage to stay in that sweet spot where they are confident charismatic detached assertive while also being kind caring empathetic etc. It requires a combination of the masculine or feminine that is very difficult to do for most guys. Usually they will either be feminine and not get shit, then go 180 change and act purely masculine which creates problems for girls in the long run so yeah.

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@Preety_India Maybe approach a little? I am not saying to literally approach but make it clear that you are interested in a kind honest guy. Just ask them out, they will do the rest do not worry. Personally i am a bit scared to make it clear that i am interested in a girl but if she does make it clear to me first indirectly then it is all good. So give them choosing signals that you are interested and it should be okay.I am sure that there are some kind caring guys that are confident enough to make moves once they know you are interested in them. Otherwise, well you can always do what guys do and hit on them instead of waiting to be hit on. It is unnatural but better than being hurt by the guys that actually approach. It is clearly the lesser evil.

@Preety_India First of all, all the kindness and help you give to others you should do out of yourself not to get anything in return. You make peace with the idea of helping someone a lot and them not doing anything back for you. View helping people like you view giving money to the homeless guy, you help him because you can and you enjoy it, not because you expect the homeless man to do anything for you. Now some more practical advice Friends- personally i am a very intuitive guy so i can tell trustworthy people just by the way they act, facial expressions, gestures etc. Also having a good memory and remembering what people do and say can help as it helps you spot out inconsistencies like lies for eg. Also try to have self respect and boundaries so people wont take advantage of you. Develop yourself to be an interesting, likable and cool person so people wanna be near you. Do not get overly attached to people. Partners- Pick people based on kindness, caring, honesty etc not based on assertiveness, detachment, confidence and charm. If they have the latter qualities that is a bonus but not the core. Aquitancies- No reason to even give a shit about people you are not even close with to be honest.

I would like your guys opinion about something. I live in a Western country and i am very frustrated about the unfairness when it comes to dating between men and woman. I know a lot of girls and guys, all sort of people. When it comes to girls all they have to do is exist, take care of themselves to some extent and they have a lot of guys coming to them. I am not talking about players and assholes, i am taking about caring, honest, smart and interesting people. Meanwhile guys have to do so much shit. They have to take care of themselves physically to some extent, have life ambition, work on their charisma, confidence, assertiveness, detachment etc. Some of these traits are very difficult to develop especially in western society where a lot of these traits are demonized and not taught to young people that much. So a girl just exists and gets good decent guys that would make great partners and treat her well meanwhile guys have to do all that shit to hopefully get a girlfriend after hitting on 50 of them. i know Leo is going to say that the problem for girls is that they get pumped and dumped and treated like shit by players but he is very paradigm locked about this. He always assumes most guys are player pua assholes that treat girls badly. Most guys are decent guys that treat girls well and respect them. The pua assholes are a small minority. So a girl will get a shit load of decent kind caring smart guys that would make great partners and can even be good looking while guys have to do so much shit to hopefully get something after 50 approaches. What do you guys think? Please do not destroy me in your responses but give me your opinion.

@hamedsf Yes life is unfair and it sucks but i am just giving my opinion. If you have any counterarguments to my opinion of men having it unfair let me know